These days the tolerance of the LGBTQIA community is increasing day by day so more and more people have the resources to figure themselves out. I’d love to listen to your self discovery journey and how the reaction was when you came out. I am figuring myself out so if you can then could you please give me tips on how to figure out my identity?

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Im pretty sure either my mom is a prophet or im just that gay because even in elementary school, she would ask if i had any crushes on girls ( i am afab), i came out to her when i was 12 saying i was pan, but again came out later as Bi, ace, lithoromantic, and non binary. She doesn't really care, and even got me a binder last month tho it was not my size ( too big) as well as a bi flag for Christmas.

As looking for your identity, i recommend checking out Lgbt fandom wiki, it has pages of different identities, as well as the flags, when and who created them, and the like.

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Chinmayee Kalghatgi
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That’s a whole lot of identities. I’m glad you figured it out. Thanks for the advice

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I came out to my parents as omnisexual and they were both really surprised, because they had always thought I was straight. They were/still are kind of confused about what it means but they support me anyway. I have not come out to anyone as nonbinary yet, but I really want to, it's just hard. In terms of tips to figure out your identity, I think it is good to learn a about a lot of identities, so you know some of the possibilities, but really you don't need a label to be who you are. Just try to express yourself however you feel and go with the flow of how you feel.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s good that they support you. Good luck with coming out again as nb. Thanks for the tip

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I started noticing this one girl more often and started feeling really nervous around her—like I would get full on butterflies around her. I told myself it wasn’t a crush, but I ended up accepting it was a crush and that I’m bi. I also do use they/them pronouns sometimes, idk if that really counts as LGBTQ. And unfortunately, I tried coming out, but since I’m Indian and must marry a good Indian boy I got shoved back into the closet.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OH SORRY I FORGOT TO ADD ADVICE. 1. I think someone mentioned this, but it changes, it’s ok if it’s different then what it was a few years ago. 2. Take your time and figure it out. You don’t have to rush and also you can try out different labels, like see which one describes you the best. 3. It’s ok not to know exactly how you feel, some people just leave at queer and that’s perfectly fine.

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