My mom decided that it was okay to come over every single day on her lunch break because she has a house key. The problem is she never asked me. I get off early on Wednesdays and on Fridays. Most of the time I like being alone. Also, she talks constantly. She would talk to a wall if she was alone and she probably does.
One time I checked the cameras while I was at work and she was talking to my dog about her day at work and what she was making for dinner. Also, my dog is on a strict diet for his allergies and she gives him tons of treats and cheese. I've asked her to stop so many times but she does it anyway. It makes me angry beyond belief. I'm a VERY quiet person and don't like talking and when I'm doing stuff around the house she yells to me from the other side of the house and expects me to yell back and answer her.
The other issue I have is that when she comes over she tells me to clean something every time. The dishes or do my laundry and she asks why I haven't done it yet. It's an invasion of my and my husband's privacy because he's home early on Fridays too and he just wants to decompress when he comes home. A few times she has said, “Oh I'm sorry to bother you guys I forgot your husband gets home early.” It's been that way for a year now. Also when she isn't talking and asking questions she is humming. It's not even a song. It's just an out-of-tune hum. I've asked her a few times to stop but she doesn't realize she's doing it. If I'm eating or watching TV or looking at my phone she sits next to me and stares. I love my mom but AITA for not wanting her to come here every day?
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Sound like your ma is really lonely! Probably depressed.
I would suggest a sit-down, ask her if she's happy. Happy at work, happy at home, happy in general.
She probably need some sort of therapy. So let her know you'll support her but you cannot be a crutch.
I suggest setting some boundaries and make them clear. Don't come on a Friday, Only 2-3 days a week, Don't feed the dog... If she breaks the rules, the key get taken away.
I noted that you never mentioned your father, so I'm going to assume he's departed in one way or another.
