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“Am I The Jerk For Refusing To Help My Brother After His Wife Blabbed About My Financial Gain?”
You know how people say, “Give them an inch, and they’ll take a mile?” Some folks treat kindness like it’s a bottomless well, the kind you can dip into whenever you need a splash of cash or goodwill. Turns out, even wells can run dry.
One Redditor recently shared how hitting the jackpot wasn’t just private jets and diamond-studded coffee cups. Instead, it became a mix of broken trust and family drama, all thanks to his brother’s wife, who just couldn’t keep her mouth shut about the fortune.
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One guy won a life-changing amount of money in the lottery, but instead of enjoying his freedom, he was dodging calls from people he didn’t know, asking for cash
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The man gives his brother and his wife almost half a million dollars to buy a house and asks them to keep it a secret, but the wife blabs about it for clout
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After being bombarded by demands for money from people he doesn’t even know, he cuts his brother and his wife off for talking about his winnings
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When the man’s brother falls ill, the family asks him to pay their debts, but he refuses, saying the wife should get a job and not expect him to save them once again
Our lucky OP (original poster) struck gold (or rather, lottery numbers), winning a life-changing amount of money. Determined to keep things low-key, he only told his immediate family and made it clear that discretion was the name of the game. The plan was simple: share the wealth quietly and help loved ones without turning his life into a charity hotline.
First on the list? His brother, Chris, and sister-in-law, Alice. The OP generously handed them $420,000 to buy their dream home. Yep, nearly half a mil. But there was one unbreakable rule: don’t tell a soul. Sounds too easy to mess up, doesn’t it? Well, not for Alice, who just couldn’t resist the temptation of clout.
She spilled the beans faster than you can say “jackpot,” and suddenly, the OP’s generosity became the talk of the town. And when the town starts talking, they also start asking. Requests poured in from distant relatives, vague acquaintances, and people who’d never even seen the guy at a family barbecue. “I’m a friend of your sister’s hairstylist’s cousin – can you pay for my destination wedding?” You get the picture.
The OP was over it. He cut Chris and Alice off completely, shutting the door to any further handouts. But, as with most of our Reddit stories, the drama didn’t end there.
Years later, life decided it was time for yet another test. Chris, one of the OP’s brothers, fell seriously ill and became bedridden, leaving Alice to handle 4 kids and a pile of bills. Another sibling reached out, begging the OP to step in and save the day. His response? A polite but firm “no.” Our OP wasn’t about to reopen Pandora’s wallet.
Oh, and did I mention Alice still refused to work? Yup. Despite their financial struggles, she clung to her stay-at-home-mom status, fully expecting the OP to swoop in and play savior. Let’s not forget she didn’t even thank him for the original gift. Is this just next-level entitlement, or are some people actually that clueless?
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The sad part is that it’s not uncommon for kind-hearted people to get exploited. When someone betrays your trust, it can be really hard to forgive. And the sting that comes with betrayal—especially when it’s from someone very close to you—hurts really bad. The consequences? Strained relationships, hurt feelings, and a newfound reluctance to trust other people.
And rebuilding that trust is about as easy as assembling Swedish furniture without the instructions. The pros say rebuilding trust is possible but takes a lot of honesty, consistency, a ton of patience, and, of course—forgiveness. Let’s be real, though. Most of us would rather move on than play emotional Jenga with someone who had already dropped the ball. And our OP sure doesn’t want to be the fool twice.
It might be ironic, but winning the lottery isn’t all champagne and caviar. It can actually be a tricky psychological challenge. Experts call it “sudden wealth syndrome,” and it’s as overwhelming as it sounds. When you’re going from budgeting for groceries to being hit up for handouts, all in a matter of days, it can cause an identity crisis.
And the pressure to help everyone while trying to manage your own life can lead to stress, burnout, and even isolation. Well, I guess while wealth might solve a lot of problems, it sure creates its own unique set of headaches.
So, what do you think? Would you have stepped in to help or let them clean up their own mess? Let us know in the comments!
Netizens say the man is not a jerk for refusing to give more money to his brother and sister-in-law, as he didn’t even get a thank you for helping them buy a house
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Janelle Collard 11 months ago
"This is why we can't have nice things." Alice f**ked up the lives of her family cuz she needed to have "clout." Now she can take her clout and sell her house. :)
Shannon Donnelly 11 months ago
Alice and Chris aren't broke. She's choosing not to work while living in a $2.1 million home. I live in Northern NJ where housing costs are some of the most absurd in the country. No one needs a $2.1 million house. She needs to sell the house, pay their bills, and get a job. Like everyone else.
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HTakeover 11 months ago (edited)
OP did so much right, like setting up the trust. If you come into that kind of money, first thing you do even BEFORE telling anyone outside of your household (and sometimes before household) is work with a big name financial advisor. Set up a trust, set up your investments so interest/dividends pays you, set aside X amount of the initial for fun money, set up basic rules for how much & what kinds of help to give people. Then you direct everyone to the advisor to be gatekeeper.
Petra Peitsch 11 months ago
It's a really fcked up thing, that in the USA the lottery-winners are exposed to public. In european countries winners are anonymus.
Roberta Surprenant 11 months ago
OP was exposed by his SIL, not the government or lottery department.
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Janelle Collard 11 months ago
"This is why we can't have nice things." Alice f**ked up the lives of her family cuz she needed to have "clout." Now she can take her clout and sell her house. :)
Shannon Donnelly 11 months ago
Alice and Chris aren't broke. She's choosing not to work while living in a $2.1 million home. I live in Northern NJ where housing costs are some of the most absurd in the country. No one needs a $2.1 million house. She needs to sell the house, pay their bills, and get a job. Like everyone else.
Load More Replies... HTakeover 11 months ago (edited)
OP did so much right, like setting up the trust. If you come into that kind of money, first thing you do even BEFORE telling anyone outside of your household (and sometimes before household) is work with a big name financial advisor. Set up a trust, set up your investments so interest/dividends pays you, set aside X amount of the initial for fun money, set up basic rules for how much & what kinds of help to give people. Then you direct everyone to the advisor to be gatekeeper.
Petra Peitsch 11 months ago
It's a really fcked up thing, that in the USA the lottery-winners are exposed to public. In european countries winners are anonymus.
Roberta Surprenant 11 months ago
OP was exposed by his SIL, not the government or lottery department.
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