People Are Sharing “Harsh Realities” That No One Wants To Accept, And Here’s 29 Of The Most Insightful Ones
Our perspective on the world is shaped every day by everything we consciously and subconsciously see and experience. Some core ideas form in our minds that are rarely challenged later in life. But they should be. The general idea of 'right and wrong' that we see so often growing up doesn't really continue into the real world. Bad things happen to good people, bad people often face no repercussions for their actions: reality is harsh.
One Reddit user wanted to see what other 'hard to swallow' truths people have already learned. Over 31k people had something to say, sharing things that are difficult to accept, but are the actual reality once you step out of the dream world.
Bored Panda picked out the top raw and honest answers that are better to learn later than never. Scroll down and upvote your favorites, and make sure to share your thoughts; maybe you disagree with some of them? And if we're still missing out on some 'harsh realities', please tell us in the comments below!
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Hard work doesn't always pay off.
It's the avocado toast's fault!!1!1!!! Not the fact that rich people get richer by stealing poor people's money, we totally don't do that!!1!!1!1 /s
Bad things will happen to you for no reason.
Some people just can’t be saved, you could give them every benefit in the world and they still could choose to throw it all away and you can’t do anything about it.
So true, and it's impossible to stop the people that want to help them.
Some parents just don’t love their children.
My mum hates me. Used to brag how she tried to kill me a couple of times when I was a baby/toddler and it always felt like I owed her for not doing it. I don't celebrate my birthday even now cos I know how much my own birth caused her so much pain and hate. I started to heal when I vit her out of my life and this year, I started to learn how to celebrate my birthday. Still feels weird and awkward but I'll get there. And yeh, I don't love her either. And I'm a better parent to my own kids. Even if I am a bit mediocre at it
Your mother is a piece of s**t. Sorry, that's how it is. Disliking a person is one thing, one sometimes can't help it. Bragging with it and torturing that person (yes. That's what she did to you)? Vile. No matter when your birthday actually was - happy birthday to you, how nice to have you with us! May life bring you lots of happy moments! ♥
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Thus the "...no woman is worth anything until they have children/ it's their purpose in life..." b******t that was crammed down a lot of people's throats since they were born. Anybody who believes in that garbage needs to please go off themselves.
As a person who has tried suicide multiple times please don't tell people to "off" themselves it's beyond wrong!! Shame on you and your own ignorance
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Some people didn’t want to be parents. However, sadly, many countries and states deny their citizens reproductive education, contraception, then deny them abortion rights (apparently, religious overbearance (yes, I know, no such word) is all the public needs.
Some people have all those things available and choose to have kids anyway and still neglect and abuse them. It happens a lot where I'm from in the US. They are angry to be parents, have everything available to them to stop having more, and keep making people they refuse to care for. I wish birth control was the answer for this one, but in most cases it's not. Many couples have kids to save relationships, then when it only gets worse, take it out on the child. It's heartbreaking. I wish we did mental evaluations more often and gave out tubal ligations or vasectomies to those proven to be a danger to children.
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Just cause you can doesn't mean you should.... I've known too many people in life that want a baby.... But not a child, not a teen, not an adult....
You mean like those stupid "Instagram Mommies' who all need to be dope-slapped ?
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My parents sure never loved me. On the other side of things.....some children just don't love their parents.
Love and empathy are taught through action. You deserved better.
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And some people that would love to have kids, will never get the chance to have them.
And as one of those people, it is so fu*king hard to see other people treating their kids like c**p or complaining about them. I understand everyone needs to vent and that children aren't easy, but when you hear someone just completely talking sh*t about their kids and failing to treat them decently when you would love to be there even including dealing with the crappier days, it's just heartbreaking and infuriating.
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I'm 40 years old and this is an extremely hard truth that I'm finally starting to accept. No matter how much I have tried, the woman that gave me life really doesn't care anything about me or my feelings unless it benefits her. I have very very recently went no contact because I just can't take the hurt and rejection anymore.
Which is why all people should get to decide if parenthood is for them without forcing them to have children first...
As a society we value money/capitalism FAR more than we value children. We pay CEOs MILLIONS to be utter failures and leaches then give them golden parachutes funded by tax payers. Teachers? Child care? Oh no they aren't paid s**t, and often VILIFIED by the right wing for political points with the ignorant and racist. So are we then actually surprised at how many bad parents we have??
And just because you don't love them, doesn't mean you are abusing them. You can be the best parent but still lack that parental instinct/bond.
Most people should not breed. It has to stop being an expectation. And abortion needs to be accessible everywhere. All hospitals and clinics should perform them upon request. Sterilization should be accessible without having to have kids already, a husband’s permission, or age limit over 21. Vasectomies should be normalized.
Seriously some people just have no business in being parents. Gosh this is why we're pushing for accessible birth control and parental preparedness so we can prevent some poor souls being born to unsuitable parents
Neither my mother or my father should have ever been parents. (And yes, I do understand what the alternative would have been.)
Potential parents should be required to get a license. We have to have training, take a test and have insurance in order to drive a car, after all.
I've never liked children and chose to remain childless. I am amazed by the number of people I've come across who scold me for my decision. There would not be so many abused children if people were honest with themselves in the first place.
Just because you can, doesn't mean you should. I see a lot of people that should not have children or pets.
And then there are some people who would love to be a parent but can't or would like their only child to not be so lonely anymore. Yet the parent can't and weren't supposed to have any babies. And the thought of another miscarriage scares them so much so they cry in silence... because their kid would give up all they have, all the toys, video games, everything just for mommy to be able to have 1 more baby so they can have a sibling like everyone else and have fun with their sibling and be best friends. Plain and simple. Don't hate your kids and don't hate your siblings. Some people don't get the chance to have either. (Sorry for the long winded sentences)
People should have to apply and be found fit and suitable to be parents before they can. We license drivers for safety reasons, we should be doing the same foe the most important job in society, raising a child to be healthy and loved
This is why the adoption system is there and why women shouldn't be pressured to be mothers so much. There are people who have children and never wanted them and people who don't have them and want them desperately. Also why is the adoption fee for a kid like 10,000 there shouldn't be a price for love
And there's not enough credit for single father's or father's period. The good ones.
yup this was me. mom was 17. give zero fricks abt me , even as I lay in the nicu, 3 1/2 mo premature. lived with my grandparents till my late 20s. (my aunt got guardianship of me at 20 due to my autism, but I keep living with my them, because granmas dementia got to the point, id help bathe her, and granpa didnt want either of them to goto nursing homes.) so my aunt would come by every few days to check on everything.
So your grandparents were blessed to have YOU! They took care of you when you were little and now you take care of them- that’s wonderful ! 😘
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And in some cases don't even LIKE their children. Or ANY children. Why did you choose to become a parent?
My SO's mother did not and still doesn't love him. It is extremely difficult to understand!
When I was in my mid 20's, my mother told me she didn't love me. We weren't arguing or at odds. I had invited her over to share some exciting news. When I'd finished her response was to say she didn't love me. That was about 40 years ago. Even with therapy, it still cuts like a knife.
No they do not. Then there's (MANY) women having kids to trap a man. Then when he doesn't stay with her, she'll make his life miserable while neglecting & taking away the other parent. Disgusting. Yes it takes 2 to tango, but some women who do this to their own flesh & blood has ZERO business having any children
My adopted sis had a leave it beaver life. Her partner, myself and my partner had the polar opposite. It still blows her mind when something random normality for her is unknown for us
This is q sad one. I was very lucky to have great parents and the pain of losing them has been horrific. But I see some friends of mine and their toxic mothers who manipulate them and control them and ridicule them and some fathers who have seen their kids as an inconvenience or as a p**n to get u der the mothers skin and when they couldn't , they lost interest in a child they claimed to love. Toxic people shouldn't be allowed to have kids. My kids are the reason I breathe every day, without them I'd be nothing. I cant imagine anyone not loving their kiddos
Sometimes being a parent is overwhelming depending on your particular situation, you get so frustrated and can certainly feel like you don’t love your child. But you really do love them and you have to remember you are their parents and not their friend. It’s a hard job and not for sissies. If you really don’t feel like you love your child, reach out for help for all of you, it’s nothing to be ashamed of!
Yet they keep having kids anyways. Then no one will step up and protect neglected and abused kids and wonder why there are so many psychpaths doing harm, filling up prisons and corrupting governments. Remove infants from abusive parents, place them with parents who want nothing more than to love them, and watch things like good communities, functioning governments, and world peace finally happen.
My mother didn't want kids. She loves me, and will always let me know that she is proud of me. But it wasn't what she wanted, and when I was younger, that really hurt me.
This has always been a problem. As long as the government pays more welfare to people with more kids, this will never end. Then we have overpopulated jails and prisons. Some of these freedoms we have are being raped and pillaged by usually the poor pathetic worthless lazy people. This country needs a huge overhaul and the people need to make the rules. Not the rich
I work in a dental office. My BIGGEST peeve is when parents blame the kid for cavities/not brushing/etc. Like, who's the adult here? Why are you mad at the kid because YOU failed to parent them 🤔?
Actually, sometimes it's the "child". My oldest has tested us since she was 12. She's now 43, and still the same.
Mine says she does, but I think she just wants the image of being a good mother; because her mother sucked so much. She DOES treat my sister well....
As someone who grew up with a horrible excuse of a mother I can confirm this is a fact unfortunately
I tell my son I love him every time we end a call (we live in different countries) or after ending a messenger conversation, he says it back and we both mean it. My ex, who I endured for 16 years, spoiled her son financially, always gave in (because he wouldn't accept no for an answer and would terrorize her as long as it took to say yes), never parented but expected me to do so and when I did and jr. didn't want to listen, I was told by both I was not his mother... but I was expected to fix all and every problem and accommodate (she was a narcissist and jr. is a sociopath) The one thing that I never heard her say to her own son was I love you, not once in ask those 16 years! Neither did his father by the way. She even moved after we broke up without letting him know... They are just all sad s@cks and l can honestly say I don't regret not ever seeing them again. That kid however never even had a chance growing up to maybe become even half a decent person, simply because if his parents
This one I will never understand. Children are precious. Even if they do make you want to tear your hair out.
Doesn't take any effort or talent to get pregnant. Takes a boatload of work, patience, love and effort to be a mother or parent.
I always thought in the south your mother never liked you and you don't ever mention it.
We take a test to be able to legally drive a car, but no such requirement exists to raise a child... This one gets to me.
Just read this gastly story about a stepmom who subjected her son to torture, starved him to death and fed his body to the pigs for no reason other than she can. Some people should not be allowed to have kids.
Yup; that, or they may love their children but have little to no capability to be parents.
I can't imagine carrying a child in my body for months and not feeling connected to them. I love my kid so much. This fact makes me so sad.
just sad, kids adore and look up to their parents. way to screw up your kids
This is a sad fact and why I never became a parent. I am not willing to pour myself into a small Hitler for the rest of my life. So if your like me, just don't procreate for the sake of it! Kids are humans too and deserve love. If your not willing, just don't!
My father never really loved anyone at all. Damaged his entire family in different ways, but for me it was me ending up married to a woman like him. Only things she ever loved were cats.
Did we have the same dad? My sister ended up just like him in her own marriage, thankfully her husband got smart and left her. I ended up alone so I wouldn't repeat my history. I hope you are healing from your father and wife.
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My Dad didn't know how to show love as he never had any. My Mum was simply too lazy and self obsessed to be bothered.
SOME OF US GET TIRED OF BEING THE ONLY PARENT TO 40 year old special needs
Your government does NOT have your best interest at heart.
Some people just don't get a happy ending, some people never find happiness or satisfaction. People tell you that there is light at the end of the tunnel but for some people there isn't, they never get to see any light, just darkness.
And for some of us, the light is like a cat laser pointer, enough to distract us and give us hope, but ultimately not much.
Beauty matters in how people treat people.
I read some statistics saying that attractive criminals tend to receive shorter sentences than unattractive ones. Messed up.
That it’s more likely to succeed if born rich than if you born talented
I would prefer to be born talented and succeed at becoming rich, than be born rich and succeed at staying rich.
Sometimes, YOU are the problem in a relationship. And if people keep on leaving you, it may well be your fault. Even if you don’t feel like it is.
I work with a guy who’s been married and divorced 3 times. Spend an hour or so around him and there are many clues as to why but I don’t think he has ever considered himself to be the common factor in his failed relationships. He’s currently working on wife number 4 but I don’t hold out much hope for this marriage either.
The world goes on after you die.
"One generation passes away and another generation comes; but the earth is forever." (Ecclesiastes 1:4)
There is no karma. Bad things happen to good people. Bad people do bad things that never catch up to them. Good people do good things that screw them over in the long run. It’s all random.
Us 1st world citizens have it much better than we think we have it.
I know I was lucky.......born white in the UK gave me so many advantages . I do try to appreciate it.
First impressions are a very f*****g big deal.
On average you judge someone you meet for the first time in about 15 seconds. You are rarely wrong.
Not everyone is going to like you, no matter how hard you try.
Umm… am I crazy? Why are there two double posts with the exact same comments—
Money and good looks matter
Rich people: "money doesn't matter" | Poor people: OK then, if it doesn't matter can you give some of it to us? | Rich people: Nooooo this is not how you do it!!1!1!
We're not all special.
Some of us will not find love.
We're not all equal.
You will likely be lost to history. In just a few centuries, nobody will remember or even knew you existed. Sad, I know, but you just have to accept it.
Mistakes do define you. The little ones don’t, but if you make a big mistake, it will alter your life to an extent. Saying that they don’t matter is a lie that will prevent you from diagnosing life problems later down the line.
You don’t always keep the good friends you meet. But that doesn’t mean you can’t make more later on down the road!
You’re the bad guy in someone’s story, so many of your enemies will never admit to doing anything wrong, but the thing is neither will you in some situations.
People justify their own behaviour to themselves. That’s why so many people can’t apologise and double down on the s****y things they do.
Because people tend to find 'reasons' and excuses for their behavior.
All human beings are capable of being viciously immoral. There’s a point where we can be forced or force ourselves to become completely animalistic. We can perpetrate murder and genocide, as just one example, and if justified to ourselves correctly, we will feel no remorse. We like to think that the only people capable of such horror are a minority but the truth is that we are all capable of it given the right circumstances.
Dehumanizing someone, considering them an animal, a rabid animal, is how humans justify killing them—-and spinning it that “the rabid animal” actually deserved to be put down. It’s totally f****d up, but it’s what we do. Soldiers in a war are sent there to kill as many of the enemy as possible. That enemy is vilified by being portrayed as less than human, as vicious animals, as deserving to be killed—-and people applaud them for killing more of the enemy than the enemy kills them. I know it’s a way to dissociate, to justify going against everything we’re taught about not killing people so we don’t go insane from committing an act that society would otherwise consider aberrant. But maybe by not dehumanizing others, by retaining the context that we’re all humans and shouldn’t be committing acts of violence against each other, maybe we might finally leave our worst tendencies behind us, and finally take the next evolutionary step—-one that the knuckledraggers continually keep pulling us back from—-by becoming a truly elevated species that doesn’t give in to our more animalistic tendencies. (Hey, I can dream, can’t I?)
People refuse to accept that this IS the reality. Lots of time and money is spent cushioning that blow.
We live here. We live now.
Best get used to it.
Pain is inescapable. Not even acknowledging that pain is inevitable and preparing for it ahead of time can lessen it.
You will be taken by surprise, you will be hurt, you will not enjoy it, you will not be able to numb it, and there is nothing you can do except take it on the chin.
Very few people truly accept their mortality, and most of the time when it truly sinks in, people get scared and want to avoid it.
People can just simply fall out of love with you for no reason.
You fretting about whether it's you or something else or the investment is basically you giving them the reasons to strengthen the reason why they stopped loving you. When they could very much not have a reason at all, feelings and priorities can change.
People like to be lied to. They don’t like finding out they’ve been lied to
I do not like to be lied to! I CAN (for emphasis) handle the truth. Whatever you do, don’t lie to me. Whoever has lied to me will find out how much I don’t like it.
Here's one...not everyone's opinion is valid. Credibility and experience on the topic matter. Look if you're not a medical professional i really don't care to hear your medical advice. If you don't know anything about truck tires please don't recommend me tires.
Here is one: If you post a factual statement on Bored Panda, people will down vote it because it contradicts their illusion.
Well, there's plenty of things that some people take as factual - part of their religion or belief system - that someone else will vehemently contradict and claim their reality is, in fact, an illusion. And so on and so on.
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There are two kinds of people in the world, no matter who you are, what you believe or not, or where you live. Nice people and a******s. Sometimes a******s can be nice, and sometimes nice people can be a******s, but you’re pretty much one or the other—-however, it’s NOT for you to decide. Other people are the ones who get to decide your designation. So you may think you’re a good person, but in reality you’re an a*****e. Or vice-versa. All you can do is try to be better, if you want to. Whether you succeed or not is something you can’t really predict with certainty.
I use not all nice people are good and not all good people are nice. In fact I know more nice a******s than I do just a******s or good a******s. Nice is a shell, good is a core. I much rather deal with a "rude" good a*****e than a bubbly nice selfish person.
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Agree, these are really just poor takes is sad some people actually believe this =:I
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Being in denial about something is not going to make your life easier. For example both my partner and I are disabled but I have accepted it and he hasn't. I get the help I need when I asked for it I get access to better services because I accept being disabled. He refuses to admit that he's disabled but at the same time he doesn't see me as being weak for accepting it. It's just a weird little quirk in his personality.
I was just like him once! I thought "well I'm not paralyzed so I don't *need* a wheelchair! that's unnecessary!" but then I thought about it harder and realized "oh right, standing for more than 20 minutes can knock me out from the pain for days... maybe I should ask my doctor about getting a wheelchair" and now look at me, happy and living my best life with my wheelchair
Load More Replies... Wow, most of these come across as a jerk trying to explain away and justify why they're a complete jerk. "I'm a horrible person because everyone else is a horrible person and you're simply too stupid to realize it yet or you'd be horrible too!" is an awful way to live. I know how awful SOME people are and I CHOOSE to not punish everyone else for it. I go out of my way to treat others the way I would like to be treated, not necessarily how they actually wind up treating me. Toxic pessimism saves just as many people as toxic optimism; no one.
I try and lead every interaction with kindness. I'm also disabled and have a pretty terrible life. And I think every one of these is true. People don't have to be jerks to acknowledge that life can be extremely hard and sometimes very unfair. It's just reality.
Load More Replies... My grandfather always told me, "there's only two things you can take to your grave. One is your name the second, your reputation. Better make damn sure they are good ones!" He's right! I take that to heart
Harsh reality: TRUMP F*****G LOST! And saying "TRUMP WON" after calling us "snowflakes" for saying he wasn't our president makes you a hypocrite!
one for parents: your kid is their own person and will follow their own path in life. even it it upsets you. deal with it. im not sorry for leaving the church
Regardless what path they take remember you're still responsible on guiding them on the right path. =:P
Load More Replies... Sometimes I think they should post some of these "harsh realities of life" on school walls and talk about them with the students. Many schools mean well (i think) by trying to teach kids to be fair, kind etc. The reality is that life isn't fair and probably never will be. Maybe it would be better to teach them how to deal with that reality instead.
I agree, I would call it to be resilient, but also the message of you can do what you want to if you try hard enough is wrong also stop sending kids to University unless is is totally needed!!!
Load More Replies... Everyone has privilege it's just shows in different situations. Johari window When and where you are born is one of the most significant factors in your life. It shapes your reality more than anything. More often than not children are messed up because their parents dropped the ball not because of society. Parents make kids, kids grow up and change parts of society and than have kids who go on to do the same thing. Systems aren't evil, people are just not as good (in the perfection sense) as we think. Those systems AND people are why you have the outlooks you have. Humans are emotional storytellers above everything. Pulling yourself by your bootstraps is an impossible task, literally what it means. People will twist things to fit their narrative despite being factually wrong. And a s**t ton more things.
That is accurate to an extent. However, I posit, that after an indeterminate age point (mostly 20-25 in my opinion of generality, though everyone is an individual) who you are as a person is your own fault. If, after some number of years you can't/won't/don't sit down and figure out the difference between reality as you have lived it vs what you were taught to believe YOU have failed yourself.
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Not sure why this was downvoted. It's a pro-active, responsible and very adult attitude to have. In no way does it harm anyone to express it. I wonder if sometimes people just want to ban anyone they don't agree with.
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Nothing like starting out the New Year being depressed over all the c**p I read on this post. However, I did find out I'm not as fu**ed up as I thought. Some people have some awful stuff going on. I'm fortunate.
Great minds don't think anything alike. People who aren't willing to change themselves are lying about wanting world peace. "Girl, you are beautiful both inside AND out!" That second part probably isn't true. The splitting and crossing of the red sea, according to the guy who wrote about it, happened at night. It's the people AND it's the guns.
Half of us are below average, just on different subjects. (Maybe a Will Rogers quote.)
WOW!! I sure as the world don't ever want to meet the horrendously negative person or people who wrote this swill! Just reading the first few bits is so depressing, one is far better off just shutting the whole post down. Plain and simply creepy.
I heard a woman assume a man at a checkout must smell really bad because he was over weight....he wasn't obese just had a belly. And she was all over it giving out how gross he was and must smell of sweat cause he must never move off his couch only to get food. Amazing how looks are super important and mainly by people who post stuff on social media about depression or "be kind" .. practice what you preach please
I posit, that after an indeterminate age point (mostly 20-25 in my opinion of generality, though everyone is an individual) who you are as a person is your own fault. If, after some number of years you can't/won't/don't sit down and figure out the difference between reality as you have lived it vs what you were taught to believe YOU have failed yourself. Not everything is your parents fault.
You're more likely to be a Bond villain than a Batman. You would not "do more for the world" if you were rich. You would be just as crappy as the majority of the 1%ers. Wealth makes people selfish and there's science on that. As someone who did holiday parties for companies where tips were normal, blue collar office parties tipped, and often well, almost all the time, where the parties for the rich folks *never* tipped. Not even once.
Also if you're begging a terminally ill loved one to continue invasive treatment instead of supporting what their choices are you are literally hurting them, not helping them. Bonus, they may feel like a failure for dying in their last moments on earth. The reason our culture thinks this is okay is that the western medical model encourages life preservation at all costs, figuratively and literally. Healthcare in the US is about money, not health, and this has infiltrated the way we think about treatments, to the detriment of our well-being.
Load More Replies... This are all just poor takes on reality sadly. Don't read this, like always this are just excuses people use to justify why they are miserable. Times use to be much, much worse, we are living in the best times in the history of the world. Stop focusing so much on the negative or that is all you're going to see. All this makes up such a small percentage of the world yet we blow it up bigger then it really is. Not trying to undermine some of the hardships out there just stating there is so much more good out there. That's the true harsh reality =:3
This one concerns and disgusts me - Think about how Genghis is looked upon in our history books. A man who conquered so many lands, impressively in his abilities. Ignoring the millions that died and suffered horribly at his hands. Now look at the modern day monster who have committed the same crimes. In centuries to come, how do you think they will ultimately be reviewed. Humanities ability to change focus on atrocities is sickening, but ultimately inevitable.
I'm confused on this one. I don't know anyone who thinks he was a saint. They acknowledge him as a important and impressive leader. He did drastically change world events for all to come. These current people arent any of those. They aren't seen as impressive or really that impactful on the grand scale. Yes they've changed world events but compared to past emperors, kings, and leaders morden day people barely make a dent. It's much easier to be that influential with smaller world numbers. Yes groups of people will always ignore the red flags but most people don't.
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If it was that bad here people should think about there life choices or maybe have the common since to make it right it’s hard but it improves society kind of like the opposite of the way society is moving it only gets worse as more time comes so it’s now or never anyone can help make the world a better place in case anyone wants to help the world this would be a good place to start
That's a choice and your opinion. You sound miserable regardless....
Load More Replies... Here's one...not everyone's opinion is valid. Credibility and experience on the topic matter. Look if you're not a medical professional i really don't care to hear your medical advice. If you don't know anything about truck tires please don't recommend me tires.
Here is one: If you post a factual statement on Bored Panda, people will down vote it because it contradicts their illusion.
Well, there's plenty of things that some people take as factual - part of their religion or belief system - that someone else will vehemently contradict and claim their reality is, in fact, an illusion. And so on and so on.
Load More Replies... There are two kinds of people in the world, no matter who you are, what you believe or not, or where you live. Nice people and a******s. Sometimes a******s can be nice, and sometimes nice people can be a******s, but you’re pretty much one or the other—-however, it’s NOT for you to decide. Other people are the ones who get to decide your designation. So you may think you’re a good person, but in reality you’re an a*****e. Or vice-versa. All you can do is try to be better, if you want to. Whether you succeed or not is something you can’t really predict with certainty.
I use not all nice people are good and not all good people are nice. In fact I know more nice a******s than I do just a******s or good a******s. Nice is a shell, good is a core. I much rather deal with a "rude" good a*****e than a bubbly nice selfish person.
Load More Replies... Agree, these are really just poor takes is sad some people actually believe this =:I
Load More Replies... Being in denial about something is not going to make your life easier. For example both my partner and I are disabled but I have accepted it and he hasn't. I get the help I need when I asked for it I get access to better services because I accept being disabled. He refuses to admit that he's disabled but at the same time he doesn't see me as being weak for accepting it. It's just a weird little quirk in his personality.
I was just like him once! I thought "well I'm not paralyzed so I don't *need* a wheelchair! that's unnecessary!" but then I thought about it harder and realized "oh right, standing for more than 20 minutes can knock me out from the pain for days... maybe I should ask my doctor about getting a wheelchair" and now look at me, happy and living my best life with my wheelchair
Load More Replies... Wow, most of these come across as a jerk trying to explain away and justify why they're a complete jerk. "I'm a horrible person because everyone else is a horrible person and you're simply too stupid to realize it yet or you'd be horrible too!" is an awful way to live. I know how awful SOME people are and I CHOOSE to not punish everyone else for it. I go out of my way to treat others the way I would like to be treated, not necessarily how they actually wind up treating me. Toxic pessimism saves just as many people as toxic optimism; no one.
I try and lead every interaction with kindness. I'm also disabled and have a pretty terrible life. And I think every one of these is true. People don't have to be jerks to acknowledge that life can be extremely hard and sometimes very unfair. It's just reality.
Load More Replies... My grandfather always told me, "there's only two things you can take to your grave. One is your name the second, your reputation. Better make damn sure they are good ones!" He's right! I take that to heart
Harsh reality: TRUMP F*****G LOST! And saying "TRUMP WON" after calling us "snowflakes" for saying he wasn't our president makes you a hypocrite!
one for parents: your kid is their own person and will follow their own path in life. even it it upsets you. deal with it. im not sorry for leaving the church
Regardless what path they take remember you're still responsible on guiding them on the right path. =:P
Load More Replies... Sometimes I think they should post some of these "harsh realities of life" on school walls and talk about them with the students. Many schools mean well (i think) by trying to teach kids to be fair, kind etc. The reality is that life isn't fair and probably never will be. Maybe it would be better to teach them how to deal with that reality instead.
I agree, I would call it to be resilient, but also the message of you can do what you want to if you try hard enough is wrong also stop sending kids to University unless is is totally needed!!!
Load More Replies... Everyone has privilege it's just shows in different situations. Johari window When and where you are born is one of the most significant factors in your life. It shapes your reality more than anything. More often than not children are messed up because their parents dropped the ball not because of society. Parents make kids, kids grow up and change parts of society and than have kids who go on to do the same thing. Systems aren't evil, people are just not as good (in the perfection sense) as we think. Those systems AND people are why you have the outlooks you have. Humans are emotional storytellers above everything. Pulling yourself by your bootstraps is an impossible task, literally what it means. People will twist things to fit their narrative despite being factually wrong. And a s**t ton more things.
That is accurate to an extent. However, I posit, that after an indeterminate age point (mostly 20-25 in my opinion of generality, though everyone is an individual) who you are as a person is your own fault. If, after some number of years you can't/won't/don't sit down and figure out the difference between reality as you have lived it vs what you were taught to believe YOU have failed yourself.
Load More Replies... Not sure why this was downvoted. It's a pro-active, responsible and very adult attitude to have. In no way does it harm anyone to express it. I wonder if sometimes people just want to ban anyone they don't agree with.
Load More Replies... Nothing like starting out the New Year being depressed over all the c**p I read on this post. However, I did find out I'm not as fu**ed up as I thought. Some people have some awful stuff going on. I'm fortunate.
Great minds don't think anything alike. People who aren't willing to change themselves are lying about wanting world peace. "Girl, you are beautiful both inside AND out!" That second part probably isn't true. The splitting and crossing of the red sea, according to the guy who wrote about it, happened at night. It's the people AND it's the guns.
Half of us are below average, just on different subjects. (Maybe a Will Rogers quote.)
WOW!! I sure as the world don't ever want to meet the horrendously negative person or people who wrote this swill! Just reading the first few bits is so depressing, one is far better off just shutting the whole post down. Plain and simply creepy.
I heard a woman assume a man at a checkout must smell really bad because he was over weight....he wasn't obese just had a belly. And she was all over it giving out how gross he was and must smell of sweat cause he must never move off his couch only to get food. Amazing how looks are super important and mainly by people who post stuff on social media about depression or "be kind" .. practice what you preach please
I posit, that after an indeterminate age point (mostly 20-25 in my opinion of generality, though everyone is an individual) who you are as a person is your own fault. If, after some number of years you can't/won't/don't sit down and figure out the difference between reality as you have lived it vs what you were taught to believe YOU have failed yourself. Not everything is your parents fault.
You're more likely to be a Bond villain than a Batman. You would not "do more for the world" if you were rich. You would be just as crappy as the majority of the 1%ers. Wealth makes people selfish and there's science on that. As someone who did holiday parties for companies where tips were normal, blue collar office parties tipped, and often well, almost all the time, where the parties for the rich folks *never* tipped. Not even once.
Also if you're begging a terminally ill loved one to continue invasive treatment instead of supporting what their choices are you are literally hurting them, not helping them. Bonus, they may feel like a failure for dying in their last moments on earth. The reason our culture thinks this is okay is that the western medical model encourages life preservation at all costs, figuratively and literally. Healthcare in the US is about money, not health, and this has infiltrated the way we think about treatments, to the detriment of our well-being.
Load More Replies... This are all just poor takes on reality sadly. Don't read this, like always this are just excuses people use to justify why they are miserable. Times use to be much, much worse, we are living in the best times in the history of the world. Stop focusing so much on the negative or that is all you're going to see. All this makes up such a small percentage of the world yet we blow it up bigger then it really is. Not trying to undermine some of the hardships out there just stating there is so much more good out there. That's the true harsh reality =:3
This one concerns and disgusts me - Think about how Genghis is looked upon in our history books. A man who conquered so many lands, impressively in his abilities. Ignoring the millions that died and suffered horribly at his hands. Now look at the modern day monster who have committed the same crimes. In centuries to come, how do you think they will ultimately be reviewed. Humanities ability to change focus on atrocities is sickening, but ultimately inevitable.
I'm confused on this one. I don't know anyone who thinks he was a saint. They acknowledge him as a important and impressive leader. He did drastically change world events for all to come. These current people arent any of those. They aren't seen as impressive or really that impactful on the grand scale. Yes they've changed world events but compared to past emperors, kings, and leaders morden day people barely make a dent. It's much easier to be that influential with smaller world numbers. Yes groups of people will always ignore the red flags but most people don't.
Load More Replies... If it was that bad here people should think about there life choices or maybe have the common since to make it right it’s hard but it improves society kind of like the opposite of the way society is moving it only gets worse as more time comes so it’s now or never anyone can help make the world a better place in case anyone wants to help the world this would be a good place to start
That's a choice and your opinion. You sound miserable regardless....
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