This post is strictly for guys, and we may just spill a few well-kept secrets, so be warned.
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You might find funny situations, laugh, relate, and in general get a grasp of what it's like to live in this world with chromosome Y. For it is not only women that have issues, men deal with double standards, societal pressures to be masculine and their own daily struggles.
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Resist
Dear men. It is manly to read books. It is manly to wear cute clothes. It is manly to care for your kids. It is manly to relax sometimes. It is manly to do housework. It is manly to love yourself. It is manly to cry, to feel, to BE human. Allow yourself that, please. You have my permission to be human. And if you don’t want it to be manly, it doesn’t have to be. It can be a multitude of things because manliness doesn’t define you. YOU define you. That’s kind of your whole job.
I think you just described manliness...
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The saddest thing about these statements is that being gay or a girl seems to be a bad thing.
I was accused of both as a kid because I loved musical theater and performing in general. The hurt didn't come from thinking these accusations made me less(I know that was the intent though), but rather from people telling me I was something other than I was. It really confused me to get called gay all the time before I even knew my sexuality
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If you can't feel like a man in a ribbon and a pink tutu, you have to work on your self esteem.
True! I was ten when I heard a dad shout at his son for being a girl because he didn't want to dive off the top board. I felt sorry for the boy, but I was angry for me.
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Every day men are told what real men should be. Don't be a real man. Be your OWN man.
mf if someone says I'm girly for doing this or that, I'm just gonna say "yas queen, come join meeee" and move on. the most girly thing I can think of is the people who support toxic masculinity
Saying it’s girly to support toxic masculinity still implies that acting girly is somehow bad or lesser.
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The social pressure on men to tick off a list of definitions of "manly" is such BS. There's no such thing as a man card, and there's no shame in liking (or dislking) anything.
It's funny how we turn the male archetype into such a narrow thing. Like a cliffside trail: either you fall to your death or something drops on your head for even thinking of leaving the path. This is why socials are LOADED with men raging over feminism, raging over trans, etc. Their lives are so narrowly defined, the betrayal is so deep they don't even realize anything but rage. Very sad.
Having to constantly reinforce what society tells you is your place in life,is the sign of a weak and insecure person.
Please resist. Women love men who read books, don't think they have to punch everyone, and have honest emotional responses. Thank you, Hubby. (My rare, wonderful gem of a man who resisted in the macho 1980s.)
I thought that men are gay if they only like to have relationship with men. I don't see what that has to do with books. Does not compute. However this post also confuse me. I always thought am a hetero woman but according to all these biases I should be a gay man as I prefer my partner to read, not be violent, be open about feelings and try some nice clothes. Does it make me than a trans man?
Men who question the masculinity of others are just expressing their own insecurity on that matter.
This is so heartbreaking and beyond frustrating. Men are allowed to feel vulnerable. Men are allowed to express emotions like sadness and grief. Men are allowed to Men are allowed to enjoy artistic pursuits. Men are allowed to dress in a way that makes them feel good and empowered. Men are allowed to use words to end a conflict instead of fight. Men are allowed to do housework and enjoy caring for their children. Men are allowed to be HUMAN BEINGS with emotions.
It wasn't until I was in my late 30s that I started to wear pink. Now it's the best color for me. I feel more confident, I crush it in meetings, I wish I found this sooner. Men, wear pink!
Interesting that it's considered "girly" to read books when women were once burned for even knowing how.
Good on you. You're right and I'm ashamed of women who also add to that pressure. Be you! Many of us are on your side.
John F. Kennedy, who won the Navy and Marine Corps Medal for 'outstanding courage, endurance and leadership contributed to the saving of several lives and...in keeping with the highest traditions of the United States Naval Service' (including swimming for hours while towing a badly burned crewman through the water to an island with a life jacket strap clenched between his teeth, despite his own back injury) as well as the Purple Heart, the American Defense Service Medal, the American Campaign Medal Asiatic–Pacific Campaign Medal (with 3 service stars) and the World War II Victory Medal and became the 35th President of the United States not only LOVED reading books, he wrote them, too. If that's 'gay', then colour me as gay as you can.
I also look askance by the fact that if you're not 'manly' you're 'girly' and, therefore, lesser. All the things he mentioned are not inherently gendered. Especially considering, in light of his language, the English words used are not gendered. Books and a yellow jacket - these are just things. And why is being nervous considered a feminine trait?
Are you a man? Are you doing something? Then it's in a "manly" way. End of. Anyone who says otherwise needs to be told off.
All of that is so very wrong. I have never felt or said any such thing to a man about anything like that. Also, you should be allowed to cry. It's such a emotional release of pressure like steam being blown out, and there are reasons when you just need to cry.
What does it mean to be a man in today's world? It's a simple question with no simple answer. What is masculinity and what does it mean to men? Many people would say that it means men being aggressive, oppressing women, dropping sexist comments... Very few people actually dig into the topic and think deeply about what masculinity actually is.
A Lot Of Kids I've Seen Act Way Mature Than Actual Adults
Yeah... I'm s**t at handling rejection. I just run away and eat pizza.
Girls Are Always Taught How To Stay Safe, It's Not As Common To Teach Boys, And I Feel Like We Have Lots Of Young Men Here (Xpost Trollxchrosomes
The old "when a girl says no she's *playing* hard to get" toxic mythe.
David D. Gilmore tried to find an answer in his book “Manhood in the Making." He examined cultures around the world and found some universal principles of what it meant to be a man. "Gilmore’s main finding was that no matter what culture or society he surveyed, there were always three clear, distinctive, and universal principles common to all men. They are the basic ingredients of the masculinity cocktail, no matter where you go."
A True Man Stands For Justice
Exactly
I'm straight and I like to do my hair and wear markup. I also look smashing in a black miniskirt. Does that make me gay? No it makes me sexy AF.
Levar Burton Is Such An Awesome Person
The ingredients according to The Authentic Man magazine are:
- Protect your loved ones
- Provide for your family
- Initiate the connections with females/reproduce
Pls Stop
As A Tall Guy Myself, I Want To High-Five This Troll
Lol this man got a business card to tell you just how hard you can go f**k off.
I Like It Here. Keep Smiling Guys
The main reasons for these duties were that men were stronger and more expendable. The Authentic Man online magazine argues that, "The number of women directly correlated with a species’ ability to survive. A single female could carry, bear, and nurture only a limited number of children, whereas a few men were enough to conceive all of them. Put simply, the womb was more valuable than the sperm. Men were the ones who had to engage in dangerous tasks like hunting mammoths or beating up rival tribes."
Meirl
Saw This Post And Thought Of This Sub, If You Want I Can Delete This
For All My Fruity Drink Loving Trolls, Including My Hubby
Times change, but many of these duties are still attributed to men. A lot of boys when growing up were taught to just "suck it up" when dealing with difficult times. It was not acceptable to cry, share emotions or in general be "weak." It is quite sad when you think about it... not to be given the same platform to feel out your emotions as women, but rather try to always "be strong".
Remember This
Same Bro
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The outcome of this was many men being silent when having troubles, not expressing their feelings and trying to always act tough. It is a recipe for disaster with outcomes like mental health issues, bad communication in relationships, depression, etc.
Wholesome Bernie
Support Your Homies, Remember Your Worth
>:-(
Not all bodies can do that, even if you put in the effort.
Luckily, times are changing and with today's fast-moving world, men are finally seen as a whole person, not just the strong ones to always lean on. Men are more open and free to express their fears, desires and bad feelings. We are shifting into a place where vulnerability and authenticity are celebrated, with strength being considered being able to openly communicate what's inside.
It's True
Toxic masculinity hurts everyone, including men. It's called "toxic" for a reason.
Last Week I Asked Her To Marry Me
I love the message that although Thor was going through a ton of grief and guilt, despite the fact that he’d been dealing with depression and subsequently weight gain, he was still worthy.
On A Scale From Y To 10 How Is This Bad?
Hopefully this means better mental health, relationships with family and men being able to show their softer and creative side. Keep scrolling to have a laugh, relate, and get a grasp of what it's like to be a man in today's world. Feel free to upvote your favorite posts.
Boom
Never understood this. I used to sub for an exgf who was a dom at playshows. I'm OK being seen seen in public but NOT OK being recorded and posted on the web. Most places like that make you check your phone at the door these days.
It Ain't Gay
Damn I Really Wonder Why
There's a ute (pick up truck) someone drives around here with a big bumpersticker on the back that says "It ain't weak to speak" and I love it so much.
A Familiar Struggle
Why Is This So Accurate?
Dressing How You Like
I'm An Oblivious Boy
Didnt Know Whether This Belonged Or Not
When Life Starts To Get Better
When Did You Learn To Pilot?
I’ve always lived under the philosophy of ‘if they don’t like the real you when you reveal it in meeting them, they wouldn’t like the real you when you reveal it after being friends for a while’. It’s worth just being yourself as and when you meet someone, rather than waste the energy on someone who eventually won’t like you.
How Dare You, Sir!
Well I'm rubbish at tinkering so I don't even know what that means.
Sometimes That’s How It Is
This would be me but I look like beef stroganoff so... Edit: Seems a lot of you actually really like beef stroganoff! I'm flattered!!
He Be Spittin Straight Facts Doe, I Know This Was Made With Mematic
"5'10"? Good Enough Lol" - My Body
5'2.5" 😭😭😭 my mom keeps telling me im gonna grow more but its been that way for like 3 years now 💀💀💀 thats ok tho i like being short it gives more gremlin energy >:3
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Right, bois, bros, men, listen to me right now. After reading this, you will get up and you will get a drink of water. This is non-negotiable. I will mangle your pre-frontal cortexes. While you’re up, find a mirror and appreciate yourself. I must say, your eyes are beautiful. That is not a lie, and not a general term directed to all the men reading this. That compliment is directed to you and you alone. Accept it. Now take a moment to contemplate the fall of humanity before returning to what you were doing before. Thank you. And to my grls, sis, women, give your bois a compliment. It doesn’t have to be anything drastic.
Nicest post I‘ve seen on BP in many months! Thank you! 🙏🏻❤️
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I just want to say one of the bravest and hardest things to do is ask for help, so if you're a man reading this feeling like you can't ask for help - you need to know that. you need to know it's so hard, but worth it. Society is BS. Get the help you need, live a better life. Take care!
Funny and accurate. I'm very happy in my skin and font give a c**p about what people think of me...says bloke not in a relationship. Ah, the irony
Males of the human species, if you need a cry? I got two shoulders, no waiting, and no judging. You need an honorary sis, auntie, whatever, I got you. Your role is what you decide, not what some sociologist or magazine does. Or a neighbor or relative, for that matter. You don't need to be lonely while not alone in the world.
Fellas, I hope you start complementing each other. Ladies, express appreciation for your dudes. I complement my hubby and other guys and I know well, but rarely male strangers specifically because I don't want them to think I'm interested just because they have a cool shirt or nice hair. Then comes the potential rejection which can sometimes go sideways, so there's an element of fear. It's not that I don't want to tell you your eyes are really pretty, it's just that I have weighed the potential consequences.
If you respond to this I will give you a personalized compliment, but I’m not giving them for free. In return you have to try to have a good day.
Right, bois, bros, men, listen to me right now. After reading this, you will get up and you will get a drink of water. This is non-negotiable. I will mangle your pre-frontal cortexes. While you’re up, find a mirror and appreciate yourself. I must say, your eyes are beautiful. That is not a lie, and not a general term directed to all the men reading this. That compliment is directed to you and you alone. Accept it. Now take a moment to contemplate the fall of humanity before returning to what you were doing before. Thank you. And to my grls, sis, women, give your bois a compliment. It doesn’t have to be anything drastic.
Nicest post I‘ve seen on BP in many months! Thank you! 🙏🏻❤️
Load More Replies... I just want to say one of the bravest and hardest things to do is ask for help, so if you're a man reading this feeling like you can't ask for help - you need to know that. you need to know it's so hard, but worth it. Society is BS. Get the help you need, live a better life. Take care!
Funny and accurate. I'm very happy in my skin and font give a c**p about what people think of me...says bloke not in a relationship. Ah, the irony
Males of the human species, if you need a cry? I got two shoulders, no waiting, and no judging. You need an honorary sis, auntie, whatever, I got you. Your role is what you decide, not what some sociologist or magazine does. Or a neighbor or relative, for that matter. You don't need to be lonely while not alone in the world.
Fellas, I hope you start complementing each other. Ladies, express appreciation for your dudes. I complement my hubby and other guys and I know well, but rarely male strangers specifically because I don't want them to think I'm interested just because they have a cool shirt or nice hair. Then comes the potential rejection which can sometimes go sideways, so there's an element of fear. It's not that I don't want to tell you your eyes are really pretty, it's just that I have weighed the potential consequences.
If you respond to this I will give you a personalized compliment, but I’m not giving them for free. In return you have to try to have a good day.
