Retired Mom Refuses To Babysit Daughter’s Newborn For Free, Daughter Turns To The Internet For Support But Gets A Reality Check Instead
A 29-year-old woman and a mom to a newborn turned to the AITA community on Reddit for a moral judgment.
“I asked my mom to help me take care of my newborn so I could go back to work once my leave is up,” the Redditor who goes by the nickname erika_urrrika explained. She also added that her mom, who is 64, has been “a homemaker/stay-at-home-mom since 1992, and hasn’t been part of the workforce since then.”
The author saw it as a perfect plan since she had financial problems, including debts waiting to be covered as well as saving for a more spacious apartment for when the baby grows.
However, to the Redditor’s surprise, the mom refused to help her with raising her baby and now the author wonders if it’s too big of a thing to expect from her mom.
A 29-year-old woman asks if she was wrong to expect her homemaker mom to look after her newborn baby because she needs to get back to work
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Many people thought that the author was wrong to expect her mom to look after her baby
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Well, if the mom living 15 minutes away has been there just once in 5 years they most likely haven't the warmest relationship.
So she didn't discuss her plans with her mother before she had a child, and just assumed that her mom will just happily accept all unpaid childcare duties? The sheer audacity of this woman.
And she and her mom don't seem all that close either. She lives 15 minutes away and has come to your house once in 5 years? And I'm sure she knew you were pregnant and, by the sounds of it, Mom never offered future sitting services in those 9 months. I think the OP is possibly dilutional.
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How do you not plan childcare before you have the baby? Either you pay someone, or you or your partner stays home with the baby. If she's the high wage earner, then she and her partner need to work out whether it's more cost-effective for him to stay at home with the baby, or for them to pay for daycare.
The time just flew by, they didn't have time to plan! /s
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Well, if the mom living 15 minutes away has been there just once in 5 years they most likely haven't the warmest relationship.
So she didn't discuss her plans with her mother before she had a child, and just assumed that her mom will just happily accept all unpaid childcare duties? The sheer audacity of this woman.
And she and her mom don't seem all that close either. She lives 15 minutes away and has come to your house once in 5 years? And I'm sure she knew you were pregnant and, by the sounds of it, Mom never offered future sitting services in those 9 months. I think the OP is possibly dilutional.
Load More Replies... How do you not plan childcare before you have the baby? Either you pay someone, or you or your partner stays home with the baby. If she's the high wage earner, then she and her partner need to work out whether it's more cost-effective for him to stay at home with the baby, or for them to pay for daycare.
The time just flew by, they didn't have time to plan! /s
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