Grandparent Asks The Net If They Were Too Harsh For Calling Out Their Entitled Granddaughter
No matter how patient and understanding someone is, everyone has a point where they finally snap. This is true even for incredibly loving and supportive family members. There are moments when they feel it’s necessary to pull their grandkids aside to teach them a lesson in humility.
Case in point, one anonymous grandparent shared how they dealt with their granddaughter constantly behaving in an entitled way and hogging the spotlight. However, they were on the fence about whether or not they might have been too harsh. Read on for the full story, as well as the comments shared by the members of the AITA online community.
The reality is that some teenagers want to be in the spotlight at all times, so they make every situation about them
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One anonymous grandparent opened up about how they finally had enough of their entitled granddaughter’s behavior
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The teenager seemed like she didn’t have a sense of other people’s boundaries yet
According to the anonymous internet poster, their granddaughter has an issue with hogging the spotlight. She seems to want everyone’s attention to be on her, not others.
The OP shared that this has led the teenager to cause drama during social events. One negative effect of this is that the granddaughter has very few friends. Another issue is that it’s fracturing the family.
So, the author took it upon themselves to correct the young woman’s behavior after a particularly embarrassing outburst during a family get-together, which was meant to celebrate her younger brother’s achievements.
However, the OP was slightly worried that they might have gone overboard with the chastisement. Most members of the AITA online community thought that the OP did nothing wrong.
Some redditors pointed out that it was a valuable life lesson for the granddaughter. Others were concerned that the teen’s parents might have dropped the ball when raising her.
Unfortunately, the OP’s account was suspended for unknown reasons and we were unable to reach out to them.
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Family members have a responsibility to teach their kids the importance of humility and kindness
As we’ve covered on Bored Panda earlier, it becomes a real problem when somebody’s sense of entitlement starts to have an impact on other people.
If people feel that they’re not respected or treated as equals by someone, they might decide that they no longer want to be in their company. Or, to put it more bluntly, if you make everything about yourself, you might soon find yourself socially isolated.
One way to avoid the problems caused by entitlement is for the parents to focus on instilling values like kindness, generosity, and humility from an early age.
If kids are constantly made to feel special and as though they’re better than everyone else, they might have a hard time being team players and adapting to the ‘real world.’ Like when they go to university or apply for their first job.
According to counselor Hayley Vaughan Smith from TAFF, children look to their parents for guidance.
This means that parents need to evaluate what values they live by every day and how they behave at home and in public. It would be unfair to ask kids to behave differently than the example set at home.
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Most readers thought that the author handled the situation in a positive way
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I was that kid. Combine no social skills with a pathetic need to be liked, and you get an àss. I wish someone would have taken me aside back then.
This is why I have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. I behaved the same exact way when I was a teen. I had no friends but couldn’t understand why. I was severely depressed because of it and often thought about suicide. Many people, including a school counselor, tried to tell my parents my behavior wasn’t normal and was a sign of underlying psychological issues. However, my parents dismissed their concerns and refused to accept something was wrong with me. That was over 25 years ago. I have been in NPD treatment for almost 15 years. I’m a completely different person now. I do have narcissistic moments from time to time, but it’s definitely under control. I harbor a lot of resentment towards my parents. My life could have been so much easier if they had gotten me the help I desperately needed.
That's really awesome to hear. I honestly didn't know there was an effective treatment for that disorder
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What a b***h. The girl sounds so unpleasant to be around, no wonder she doesn’t have any friends. But why was it Grandma correcting her behavior instead of mom or dad? Makes me wonder if maybe they’re the reason she behaves the way she does. If they don’t give her enough attention, then maybe they wouldn’t correct her attention seeking behavior bc they simply don’t care?
She is a 16 year old who has never been corrected for her behavior. She sucks, but I wouldn't call her a b***h... yet. Her parents are definitely a******s though.
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I was that kid. Combine no social skills with a pathetic need to be liked, and you get an àss. I wish someone would have taken me aside back then.
This is why I have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. I behaved the same exact way when I was a teen. I had no friends but couldn’t understand why. I was severely depressed because of it and often thought about suicide. Many people, including a school counselor, tried to tell my parents my behavior wasn’t normal and was a sign of underlying psychological issues. However, my parents dismissed their concerns and refused to accept something was wrong with me. That was over 25 years ago. I have been in NPD treatment for almost 15 years. I’m a completely different person now. I do have narcissistic moments from time to time, but it’s definitely under control. I harbor a lot of resentment towards my parents. My life could have been so much easier if they had gotten me the help I desperately needed.
That's really awesome to hear. I honestly didn't know there was an effective treatment for that disorder
Load More Replies... What a b***h. The girl sounds so unpleasant to be around, no wonder she doesn’t have any friends. But why was it Grandma correcting her behavior instead of mom or dad? Makes me wonder if maybe they’re the reason she behaves the way she does. If they don’t give her enough attention, then maybe they wouldn’t correct her attention seeking behavior bc they simply don’t care?
She is a 16 year old who has never been corrected for her behavior. She sucks, but I wouldn't call her a b***h... yet. Her parents are definitely a******s though.
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