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Woman Cheats On Spouse And Gets Canceled By Friends, Another Couple Nearly Splits Over This
Woman Cheats On Spouse And Gets Canceled By Friends, Another Couple Nearly Splits Over This
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Woman Cheats On Spouse And Gets Canceled By Friends, Another Couple Nearly Splits Over This

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Breakups are usually very painful, and only time heals the wounds, and then shows whether this situation was a win-win for the ex-partners, or whether both of them only lost because they decided to go on different paths in life.

However, in the story that we’ll tell you today, from the user u/BothTreacle4727, the couple found themselves on the verge of a breakup after six years of a fairly cloudless, let’s face it, relationship, due to someone else’s breakup. More precisely, because of the separation of best friends – and different attitudes to this problem.

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    The author of the post and his girlfriend had been dating for 6 years and wanted to tie the knot soon

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    The couple were part of a group of pretty close friends, where there was another couple as well

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    Their relationship seemed ‘picture perfect’ but it turned out that the wife had repeatedly cheated on her spouse

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    All the friends canceled the ex-wife on the spot – but the author’s girlfriend was the only one who bonded even more strongly with her

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    The author decided to talk with his partner about it – but the convo grew into a fight where the guy verbally destroyed the woman

    The problem, however, is as old as time – the Original Poster (OP) says that he and his maybe-now-ex have been dating for 6 years, and were about to get married when this situation happened. The author and his GF had a mutual circle of friends, and this company included “Jerry” and “Sandy”. ‘Included’ – because they had recently separated after three years of marriage and six years of previous relationships. A ‘picture perfect relationship,’ as the author himself notes.

    As it turned out later, even before marriage, Sandy had a long-term affair, and recently cheated on her husband again. At first, Jerry decided not to wash the dirty laundry in public, but then he changed his mind and told all his friends about everything. There followed an almost unanimous cancellation of Sandy, with the exception, as it turned out, of the author’s GF.

    Moreover, as the author found out later, in the time that passed after Jerry and Sandy filed for divorce, she and Sandy had become even closer… and the OP considered this a real betrayal of her deceived husband. Well, the guy decided to discuss what happened with his partner – but did so in the most inappropriate manner.

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    Yes, the original poster started berating his SO right off the bat – and when she responded by saying that Jerry himself, by his behavior, prompted Sandy to cheat on him, the man lost his temper completely. What followed was a series of digs not appropriate for a conversation between a loving couple, but rather for a rap battle. The OP verbally destroyed his girlfriend, calling her, among other things, ‘gross’ and ‘disgusting,’ and adding that the woman’s late mother would have been disappointed with her for such behavior.

    Why the man was so confident in the reaction of the deceased woman, history is actually silent, but the OP, in the heat of the quarrel, also angrily added that his girlfriend seemingly has no values as a human, and now he’s not at all surprised why she couldn’t make it in medical school.

    That’s it, this was the last straw – and since then the man and woman have not communicated, and most of their acquaintances say that he clearly overreacted. The guy’s own mother was even more categorical – she said that his relationship is probably over.

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    “It’s actually a very strange case, with many unknowns, as they say,” says Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and certified NLP specialist, to whom Bored Panda reached out for a comment here. “Of course, cheating is a betrayal, but we don’t really know what the circumstances were for this couple. Moreover, the narrator himself says that their relationship was ‘picture perfect’ – and even their close friends didn’t know all the secrets.”

    “Next, all the friends en masse cut all ties with the ex-wife without figuring out what exactly happened there – and what caused this betrayal. Perhaps, and this is just one of the probabilities, the author’s girlfriend was the only person from the whole group who bothered to listen to the other side…”

    “However, be that as it may, the man definitely overreacted here. In the end, any person has the right to have their own opinion – even if it seems fundamentally wrong to others. And to insult her for expressing this opinion, citing such ‘arguments’ as deceased parents, getting personal – this is completely unacceptable. It is quite likely that the author, as they say, crossed the Rubicon, and here, too, everything is just over,” Irina concludes.

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    The opinions of the majority of commenters to the original post are also almost unanimous – the author destroyed these relations with his own hands, going absolutely nuclear in a quite an ordinary quarrel. “You don’t agree with her moral value, though, so you weren’t compatible anyways,” one of the people aptly wrote in the comments.

    Moreover, some commenters are pretty much sure that everything was wrong in the OP’s relationship with his probably-now-ex a long time ago – otherwise why did such a fiery reaction take place? “How long have you hated your girl?” another commenter questioned. “To bring up her dead mom… you must have already had some serious resentment towards her.” So what do you actually think about this all? Please feel free to express your viewpoints in the comments below.

    People in the comments are almost sure the man overreacted here, and even ruined his relationship on his own

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    Oleg Tarasenko

    Oleg Tarasenko

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    After many years of working as sports journalist and trivia game author and host in Ukraine I joined Bored Panda as a content creator. I do love writing stories and I sincerely believe - there's no dull plots at all. Like a great Italian composer Joaquino Rossini once told: "Give me a police protocol - and I'll make an opera out of it!"

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    Oleg Tarasenko

    Oleg Tarasenko

    Writer, BoredPanda staff

    After many years of working as sports journalist and trivia game author and host in Ukraine I joined Bored Panda as a content creator. I do love writing stories and I sincerely believe - there's no dull plots at all. Like a great Italian composer Joaquino Rossini once told: "Give me a police protocol - and I'll make an opera out of it!"

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    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you are willing to say her dead mother would be ashamed of her and she has no value as a human, she should leave you. This was not just an overraction but you said the most devastating thing you could think of because you don't like her choice in friends. Her friendships are not for your approval, and your behaviour was appalling. She's better off without you, OP.

    Papa
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't disagree, but the girlfriend saying the friend who had been cheated on should just get over it and it was probably his fault anyway wasn't okay either. To be clear, I'm not at all excusing OP's behavior.

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    Libstak
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He used her dead mother AND that she didn't make it in medical school, he was already thinking very badly of her and this was the trigger he had been waiting for to unleash it all. Relationship is toast and his ex and his bff's ex are now bffs for sure.

    Terry Tobias
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He was definitely already thinking badly of her. I actually had a visceral reaction to his outburst. Who knows what really happened in that other couple's relationship, and why the OP's girlfriend said what she did, but his reaction was extreme and a definite red flag!

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    Joey Jo Jo Shabadoo
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is a nuclear reaction. "You are a failure in every way and you make your dead mom sad since you stayed friends with someone who cheated on another friend." Either the comment above is right and the OP has been hating his gf for awhile, or seeing his friend get cheated on flared up this guy's misogyny.

    KatSaidWhat
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And just like that, you are single. You also showed your true colours. I too have remained friends with the cheater in a relationship where I was actually even better friends with his gf at the time. Except we were all mature adults about it and their relationship was theirs. Didn't condone his actions, did sh1t on him about it ONCE and then we all moved on and they respected my mutual friendships. Because that is how you adult.

    Alexandra
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No, that is how YOU adult. Everybody 'adults' (terrible word, by the way) in their own, unique, way and you are certainly not the benchmark. Someone who cheats is not someone who simply cheats: it's someone who's dishonest and deceitful and this carries over into other areas of life. 'We all moved on' is just a way of skirting around what this person has done. Don't forget, this person is capable of causing harm to someone on purpose and willingly. I would not want to be friends with someone like that.

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    What am I doing here
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's called "outrageous overshadowing". Where the response is worse than the offence.

    Happy_Pandalover
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree to most of the comments. I don't think anyone has the right to judge her for her decision to remain her friendship with Sandy. The way she defended the cheating part was totally off though. But him leashing out on her after this is just as low or even lower.

    Fox with a Dragon Tattoo
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow. Sounds like his marriage wouldn't last either, what a childish and totally unhinged reaction.

    Dainty72
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She was wrong, but low blows just because she stayed friends with someone who hurt your friend. Wow

    lenka
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your behavior is controlling, abusive and toxic. I hope she finds a man who will love and support her properly.

    Ginger Winters
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She'd probably wind up cheating on him and then blaming him based off her reactions

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    Sunny Day
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP thought Jerry & Sandy had a "picture perfect marriage", which means he has no clue what their marriage was really like. He's taking Jerry's side because they've been friends forever and "she cheated". But while HE has no interest in hearing Sandy's side, his GF has, and decided Sandy wasn't a monster. So,byes, OP overreacted, and yes, he now has no girlfriend. Sometimes it's hard to remember that when a couple breaks up, there are no winners.

    Ginger Winters
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    His girlfriend actually blamed Jerry and said he probably caused her to cheat so probably a good thing they broke up if that's her view on relationships

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    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you are willing to say her dead mother would be ashamed of her and she has no value as a human, she should leave you. This was not just an overraction but you said the most devastating thing you could think of because you don't like her choice in friends. Her friendships are not for your approval, and your behaviour was appalling. She's better off without you, OP.

    Papa
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't disagree, but the girlfriend saying the friend who had been cheated on should just get over it and it was probably his fault anyway wasn't okay either. To be clear, I'm not at all excusing OP's behavior.

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    Libstak
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He used her dead mother AND that she didn't make it in medical school, he was already thinking very badly of her and this was the trigger he had been waiting for to unleash it all. Relationship is toast and his ex and his bff's ex are now bffs for sure.

    Terry Tobias
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He was definitely already thinking badly of her. I actually had a visceral reaction to his outburst. Who knows what really happened in that other couple's relationship, and why the OP's girlfriend said what she did, but his reaction was extreme and a definite red flag!

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    Joey Jo Jo Shabadoo
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is a nuclear reaction. "You are a failure in every way and you make your dead mom sad since you stayed friends with someone who cheated on another friend." Either the comment above is right and the OP has been hating his gf for awhile, or seeing his friend get cheated on flared up this guy's misogyny.

    KatSaidWhat
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And just like that, you are single. You also showed your true colours. I too have remained friends with the cheater in a relationship where I was actually even better friends with his gf at the time. Except we were all mature adults about it and their relationship was theirs. Didn't condone his actions, did sh1t on him about it ONCE and then we all moved on and they respected my mutual friendships. Because that is how you adult.

    Alexandra
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No, that is how YOU adult. Everybody 'adults' (terrible word, by the way) in their own, unique, way and you are certainly not the benchmark. Someone who cheats is not someone who simply cheats: it's someone who's dishonest and deceitful and this carries over into other areas of life. 'We all moved on' is just a way of skirting around what this person has done. Don't forget, this person is capable of causing harm to someone on purpose and willingly. I would not want to be friends with someone like that.

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    What am I doing here
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's called "outrageous overshadowing". Where the response is worse than the offence.

    Happy_Pandalover
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree to most of the comments. I don't think anyone has the right to judge her for her decision to remain her friendship with Sandy. The way she defended the cheating part was totally off though. But him leashing out on her after this is just as low or even lower.

    Fox with a Dragon Tattoo
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow. Sounds like his marriage wouldn't last either, what a childish and totally unhinged reaction.

    Dainty72
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She was wrong, but low blows just because she stayed friends with someone who hurt your friend. Wow

    lenka
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your behavior is controlling, abusive and toxic. I hope she finds a man who will love and support her properly.

    Ginger Winters
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She'd probably wind up cheating on him and then blaming him based off her reactions

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    Sunny Day
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP thought Jerry & Sandy had a "picture perfect marriage", which means he has no clue what their marriage was really like. He's taking Jerry's side because they've been friends forever and "she cheated". But while HE has no interest in hearing Sandy's side, his GF has, and decided Sandy wasn't a monster. So,byes, OP overreacted, and yes, he now has no girlfriend. Sometimes it's hard to remember that when a couple breaks up, there are no winners.

    Ginger Winters
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    His girlfriend actually blamed Jerry and said he probably caused her to cheat so probably a good thing they broke up if that's her view on relationships

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