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Jealous BF Berates GF For Being Nice To A Stranger, She Dumps Him And His Apologies Don’t Work
Trust is one of the many cornerstones of a healthy relationship, and that goes without saying. Lacking even just a small bit of it can ruin the couple in more ways than one, which can eventually lead to their end.
This is what happened to two teenagers when the boy went on a jealous rage-texting rant against his girlfriend’s harmless interaction on a train. After tolerating his insults at first, she eventually decided she wanted out.
The boy then did a complete 180 through a lengthy apology, but the damage had been done.
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A teenage couple broke up over text after the boy flew into a jealous rage
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The girl provided some context by explaining her side of the story
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Ultimately, she was left in disbelief at what happened
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Jealousy in a relationship may be a sign of an important issue that needs addressing
Many people may argue that there is a “healthy” amount of jealousy that a person can show. Some may even believe that it is an expression of love, which most experts have deemed to be an outright myth.
But according to relationship counselor and Relate’s head of clinical practice, Ammanda Major, any time that green-eyed monster rears its ugly head, it may mean that there are unresolved issues within the relationship.
“Jealousy is a symptom of something deeper,” Major told Cosmopolitan, disputing the belief that jealousy is a sign of a protective partner.
Major further explained that jealousy can slowly but surely destroy a relationship. This especially happens when one partner begins walking on eggshells and becomes apprehensive about spending time with other people.
Toxic jealousy is a major red flag in relationships, one that should make a person rethink their decision to stay or leave. One of the signs is jealousy that results in angry outbursts.
“Feeling a rush of anxiety as you anticipate their reaction is your body’s way of telling you that you don’t feel safe or secure with this person,” Sacramento-based marriage and family therapist Dr. Vernessa Roberts-Govan told SELF, emphasizing the importance of listening to that gut instinct.
The boy’s actions showed how much trust and respect he had for his girlfriend, which isn’t very promising. He may have apologized, but it was already too late. It could be a learning experience for him.
As for the girl, it was a sound decision to walk away from a potentially lengthy and toxic relationship. At her age, having to endure such mistreatment would not be healthy for her.
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🇺🇦 🇵🇸 TribbleThinking 4 months ago
Wow. Calling it right like that at 16? This girl is going to ace it in life. I was 44 before I was as fast as she is. Good for you, young 'un.
Julie S 4 months ago
I had to double check this was a teenager she sounded so mature I really thought it was a much older woman.
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kissmychakram 4 months ago
I'm an old fàrt, all I could see at first was that the text conversation was taking place at 4:30 in the morning!! That's too early/late for a sensible conversation. It was probably a school night too. My lawn, feel free to get off it.
Remi (He/Him) 4 months ago
That ex bf is a walking red flag who's probably only gonna get worse and land in jail for domestic violence or something. Btw one little point: The random dude who kept staring might not even have been interested, but keeping an eye on the location of his heavy bag which was under her seat.
ElfVibratorGlitter 4 months ago
That was 100% what I thought. If I tuck my luggage in with a stranger.... I'm going to be watching my luggage/stranger.
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StarCrossedFriday 4 months ago (edited)
Hopefully he’ll learn from this, and avoid thinking his next girlfriend is his property somehow. I’ll give him some props for realising he sounded insane, and that it was a toxic form of jealousy, but…I wouldn’t expect her to just go ‘oh, suddenly it all makes sense’ and take him back. Too little, too late.
Funhog 4 months ago
I doubt that he realizes what he did.. seems to me that a friend (likely a female friend) told him what to write in order to win OP back. His text at 16:21 reads like someone else wrote it for him -- totally different tone, focus, and grammar.
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RomanceRadish 4 months ago
Women just cannot win. Be friendly, be criticized. Be unfriendly, be criticized.
CP 4 months ago (edited)
That 20 year old will hopefully learn, but if a person thinks every man has that mindset, it makes me think they have the same mindset. Does the BF think every woman that smiles at him wants to sleep with him?
General Anaesthesia 4 months ago (edited)
The gaslighting starts young in this child. It's all _her_ fault.
ElfVibratorGlitter 4 months ago
Guy was staring at a teen who had his suitcase... Okay?! Little boys reaction was not in proportion to what happened. OP was spot on.
Enlee Jones 4 months ago (edited)
"I'm scared of losing you" = I will be a jealous, controlling d0uchebag and mercilessly insult you for some stupid little thing until you get fed up and leave and then I will cry like a little b!tch because you left and learn what the concept of what FAFO means the hard way.
Apatheist Account2 4 months ago
Boy has first girlfriend and is insecure about their relationship when older guys are around. Not the first, won't be the last.
*raspberry sound 3 months ago
Get you a man who doesn't have to control a woman to feel like a man. You are not responsible for his insecurities, he is.
Kate Johnson 4 months ago
A*****e POS like this guy always apologize profusely, only to do the same thing tomorrow. This is a dump the chump situation for sure!
tori Ohno 4 months ago
I dated someone like that back in the 90s. One time we were driving back from the mall in heavy traffic and someone honked at another car (we had a red light) and he freaked out on me. "Who was that! Why would someone honk at you wh@re!" Nope. I'm outta here you jerk. Not only jealous, but name calling?
Grenelda Thurber 4 months ago
Beware of irrationally jealous or possessive men. Of the two I've known well, one cheated on *me*, the other burst into tears when he found out I wasn't a virgin (I was 20).
Stannous Flouride 4 months ago (edited)
I don't think I've ever been in a relationship with a woman who I haven't looked at and thought, "Someone that good-looking is going out with ME?" Every one, has of course been stared at or flirted with but if they're going home with me I just count my blessings. I would never even _think_ of acting like this twatwaffle.
JayWantsACat 4 months ago
THIS is why it's important for women (and girls) to speak out. OP knew her value and what she should be willing to put up with. And at only 16! I feel like either she has great parents, relatives, and/or friends to be able to standup for herself directly and eloquently. And the more stories like this of women and girls standing up for themselves, the more they will stand up for themselves.
🇺🇦 🇵🇸 TribbleThinking 4 months ago
Wow. Calling it right like that at 16? This girl is going to ace it in life. I was 44 before I was as fast as she is. Good for you, young 'un.
Julie S 4 months ago
I had to double check this was a teenager she sounded so mature I really thought it was a much older woman.
Load More Replies... kissmychakram 4 months ago
I'm an old fàrt, all I could see at first was that the text conversation was taking place at 4:30 in the morning!! That's too early/late for a sensible conversation. It was probably a school night too. My lawn, feel free to get off it.
Remi (He/Him) 4 months ago
That ex bf is a walking red flag who's probably only gonna get worse and land in jail for domestic violence or something. Btw one little point: The random dude who kept staring might not even have been interested, but keeping an eye on the location of his heavy bag which was under her seat.
ElfVibratorGlitter 4 months ago
That was 100% what I thought. If I tuck my luggage in with a stranger.... I'm going to be watching my luggage/stranger.
Load More Replies... StarCrossedFriday 4 months ago (edited)
Hopefully he’ll learn from this, and avoid thinking his next girlfriend is his property somehow. I’ll give him some props for realising he sounded insane, and that it was a toxic form of jealousy, but…I wouldn’t expect her to just go ‘oh, suddenly it all makes sense’ and take him back. Too little, too late.
Funhog 4 months ago
I doubt that he realizes what he did.. seems to me that a friend (likely a female friend) told him what to write in order to win OP back. His text at 16:21 reads like someone else wrote it for him -- totally different tone, focus, and grammar.
Load More Replies... RomanceRadish 4 months ago
Women just cannot win. Be friendly, be criticized. Be unfriendly, be criticized.
CP 4 months ago (edited)
That 20 year old will hopefully learn, but if a person thinks every man has that mindset, it makes me think they have the same mindset. Does the BF think every woman that smiles at him wants to sleep with him?
General Anaesthesia 4 months ago (edited)
The gaslighting starts young in this child. It's all _her_ fault.
ElfVibratorGlitter 4 months ago
Guy was staring at a teen who had his suitcase... Okay?! Little boys reaction was not in proportion to what happened. OP was spot on.
Enlee Jones 4 months ago (edited)
"I'm scared of losing you" = I will be a jealous, controlling d0uchebag and mercilessly insult you for some stupid little thing until you get fed up and leave and then I will cry like a little b!tch because you left and learn what the concept of what FAFO means the hard way.
Apatheist Account2 4 months ago
Boy has first girlfriend and is insecure about their relationship when older guys are around. Not the first, won't be the last.
*raspberry sound 3 months ago
Get you a man who doesn't have to control a woman to feel like a man. You are not responsible for his insecurities, he is.
Kate Johnson 4 months ago
A*****e POS like this guy always apologize profusely, only to do the same thing tomorrow. This is a dump the chump situation for sure!
tori Ohno 4 months ago
I dated someone like that back in the 90s. One time we were driving back from the mall in heavy traffic and someone honked at another car (we had a red light) and he freaked out on me. "Who was that! Why would someone honk at you wh@re!" Nope. I'm outta here you jerk. Not only jealous, but name calling?
Grenelda Thurber 4 months ago
Beware of irrationally jealous or possessive men. Of the two I've known well, one cheated on *me*, the other burst into tears when he found out I wasn't a virgin (I was 20).
Stannous Flouride 4 months ago (edited)
I don't think I've ever been in a relationship with a woman who I haven't looked at and thought, "Someone that good-looking is going out with ME?" Every one, has of course been stared at or flirted with but if they're going home with me I just count my blessings. I would never even _think_ of acting like this twatwaffle.
JayWantsACat 4 months ago
THIS is why it's important for women (and girls) to speak out. OP knew her value and what she should be willing to put up with. And at only 16! I feel like either she has great parents, relatives, and/or friends to be able to standup for herself directly and eloquently. And the more stories like this of women and girls standing up for themselves, the more they will stand up for themselves.
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