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Julia Kaye is a 28-year-old cartoonist living in Los Angeles. She's already famous from her webcomic 'Up And Out', but last year a big change came to her life - she became a transgender woman. This was clearly a very hard step to make and Julia went and is still going through many challenges that bring both melancholic and optimistic feelings.
With encouragement from her friends, Julia started to make comics about her transition. The series focuses on her feelings, moments of insecurity or triumph while reaching important personal milestones, such as buying a dress for the first time, learning how to use eyeliner, and talking about her transition to her family and friends.
The artist found this process very therapeutic - "It got me to set aside time at the end of my day to reflect on how I was feeling. And because I was making the comics for myself, I allowed myself to be more honest than I might have been otherwise." Eventually Kaye decided to share the comics publicly, realizing she could give other trans people content that they could directly relate to, and the feeling that they're not alone, as well as give others insight into what it's like to live with gender dysphoria. Check them out!
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Louise Åkesson 8 years ago
I've got tears, thoughts and smiles.. A real empathy booster and an awesome, brave and talented artist.. I adore Julia! Hugs from denmark
StarWars Freak19 3 years ago
Denmark, you say. *laughs evilly in asexual*
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Prince-Nux 8 years ago
That's about the same reaction I had when my sister called me her brother for the first time.
Marie-Eve Barette 8 years ago
I am not trans, nor do I have any trans close ones, but I can totally understand the feelings portraied here. This is great artistry,
Friedlander Rosenzweig 8 years ago
Beautiful to see siblings bonding in such a heartfelt manner.
Billie Atkins 5 years ago
Are you just going to repeat the same comment over and over?
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Caleb He 8 years ago
This is an insult to people who struggle to claim their identity and real mental health patients. I feel personally insulted.
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Alusair Alustriel 8 years ago
Bravo for the family, that's what FAMILY should be like! Full support!
Kate Mears 8 years ago
I'm glad you have them. I started crying reading this and wishing my family was like that.
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Terri Rowland 8 years ago
True friends will always be with you, to them the fact you are trans is no big deal, just part of life 💕
Jennifer Rogers 7 years ago
I hit send at 10 pm. I told a few people it was coming, and asked if they would be supportive to drown out the voices of the less understanding folks on my list. When I woke up, my computer was filled with love. <3 It is always easier than we anticipate. :-)
Marie-Eve Barette 8 years ago
This needs to go super viral : for those who need the courage to tell others who they trully are, and for those who need to understand that times have changed.
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DancingToMyself 8 years ago
I'm also curious about that. Also, I would like to see her, I think she's really beautiful and lady-like. I'm little confused about the man's/lady's rest room and such.
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Donna Mixon 8 years ago
Thank you for NOT being mean about answering people's questions. I know it probably gets old, but even with Bruce Jenner becoming Caitlyn Jenner in the public eye, we all still have questions that are not always easy to ask. Some may come across as rude when they are really just uncomfortably curious. And too many people just get nasty about it. I've had people chew me out because I called someone a "he" when the person was dressed like and left Ike's like a "he". I didn't know the individual personally and I can't stop everyone and ask "what pronoun are you?" That would be onerous and be terribly rude. So, my rule is... If someone looks like and presents themselves as a "he" then he is a "he". Likewise, if someone looks like and presents themselves as a "she" then she is a "she". And if I am mistaken and it is important enough to the stranger, they can politely tell me. It isn't disrespect. It's common sense. Besides...I call everyone "Dude" for simplicity.
Billie Atkins 5 years ago
Provided you ask from a place of genuine respect, asking is totally cool. If people took the time to ask me my pronouns (they/them) instead of assuming stuff about me because of my appearance, I would be really happy. Misgendering, although not always intended, is really destructive to a person, usually causing dysphoria.
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Ariella Healer 8 years ago
My wife and my mother (who's now deceased) were besties. One day after I finished my makeup she said to me, "Wow, you look so much like your mom!" Crying happy/sad tears right now.
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Jessica Clay 8 years ago
Save your vitriolic b******t. No one here cares about your narrow minded opinion. Rejecting a fundamental aspect of one's identity would be to repress who they truly feel they are, day after day, for a lifetime. Gender is about more than private parts, and if you don't know that or can't grasp that then you have no business contributing your opinion.
TheRubyFalcon 8 years ago
Gender is about your mind. That is all that needs to be said. No one sane person cares about lgbt-phobics vitriolic opinions.
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Sally Vogel 8 years ago
Anyone who knows anything about biology, knows that diversity is the name of the game. Sex and sexuality are on a spectrum. If people could see the beauty in diversity, it would make life a lot easier for those whose sex or sexuality deviate from the norm. Same for gender identity.
Blue Cicada 8 years ago
SPECTRUM is such an important word! We like concrete identification, when in reality many aspects of our lives are on a spectrum-& that's ok
Load More Replies... Donna Mixon 8 years ago
I still appreciate how the artist isn't showing anger about people getting it wrong.
Gaige Heiner 7 years ago
because its a dead name and she wouldn't want anyone to use it.
Load More Replies... Aeryl Bailey 8 years ago
I agree gender is in the mind and no one should suppress how they feel but absolutely everyone is entitled to their opinion
J Carr 8 years ago
They can have an opinion but nobody is requested to listen to it
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Kai the guy 4 years ago
JUST SHUT THE HELL UP TRANSPHOBES!!!! (lol, also, u can change your birth certificate Big john! You may be big john, but your heart is still tiny)
Weeping Willowz (WeepingWillowz) 8 years ago
I know this. I'm not an aunt, but I have to younger cousins and one of them doesn't know there's such thing as a female pronoun. He calls my mum "uncle Jenni" and when he talks about me in third person, it's "he and his and him" not "she and her"
floof lover 8 years ago
The artist looks so annoyed when correcting the kids. Why not, "Remember, it's Aunt Julie now. What do you want to do?" They're kids, they're going to get it wrong. There's no reason to be short with them.
Billie Atkins 5 years ago
It's just that you have to correct them, or else they won't feel it's important.
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Norski Ollson 4 years ago
Lovely cartoons... the feelings are real ! I feel the same way...wish I had accepted my inner desires when I was young.
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Marie-Eve Barette 8 years ago
This series is giving me back some faith in humanity. Thank you.
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Sunzilla 8 years ago
Just smile and nod. People can be offending over all sorts of things without even realising. It really has nothing to do with you and is all about them...
Prince-Nux 8 years ago
Have you ever been misgendered? I'm asking because it does seem like your comment is coming from a good place, but it's not that easy. When I get called a girl, it's like being punched in the gut. I can't smile and nod my way out of that and not feel horribly dysphoric.
Load More Replies... Kim Lorton 8 years ago
Trust your true friends! They will have your back. And for the people who still feel the need to s**t all over your life? Well, let your friends know.! I think they got that taken care of! Let them help, and dish it right back to the jealous bitches!
Teddy Ward 8 years ago
Loved the part about the 'friend' who claimed to be supportive but hasn't come around yet. I know it's tempting to wait on them, counting everyday. But I had so many people like that who never came around & f**k them. They will never see the beautiful women you always were & are meant to be. And on the flip side; I've had friends come around who took awhile.
Raisin Robsi 7 years ago
This is a perfect example of why the "they can do whatever they want" attitude isn't exactly progressive. It ignores people's identities and struggles, rather than acknowledging them/supporting them.
Donna Mixon 8 years ago
Sweetie, some Drag queens look more like women than those born as women. Hell...RuPaul has a mess of 'me on TV every season. And I am mesmerized by them. (Fascinated...obsessed...etc...especially by Peppermint this last season!)
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Hiruya 8 years ago
Yes. She is not the only one who fights with that problem
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Tanya Randstoft 8 years ago
SO on point! I ask my male colleagues to do it now, they are more than happy to :)
Eric Bagai 7 years ago
Yep, weakness is a real thing, especially for a 77yo MTF cross dresser.
Iapetos 8 years ago
Does testosterone really have such a positive effect on body strength? Doesn't it merely depend on your muscles?
Ariella Healer 8 years ago
It definitely has an effect. I was on spironolactone for almost six months to suppress T before I had an orchiectomy (testicles removed) one-and-a-half months ago. Before I started on the spiro, my T level was 735! T level is now just below 20 and estradiol (I'm on estrogen) is a little over 65. First time I noticed the difference was when I tried to open a new jar of pickles I'd just bought and had to use the biggest, baddest jar opener we own. Before I'd just pop it open, no problem. Any heavy lifting is now more difficult. I can't toss a 50-lb bag of cat litter into the shopping cart like I once could. I'd done my homework and knew what to expect, but thought it would be more gradual. Nope. At least not in my case.
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Raven Black 8 years ago
I don't get this one? Maybe it's just my structure but I was born female and identify as genderfluid and do lift those even without testosterone. It's less to do with your chemicals and more to do with your amount of exercise. If you stop lifting and go lazy, of course things you used to lift feel heavier because you just stopped. O.o
Tegan Churchill 8 years ago
Testosterone gives you a certain amount of muscle "for free". It's likely she didn't lift before and had no issue lifting things like water jugs but lost that muscle after being on HRT for a little while.
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Natalia Sanchez 8 years ago
This happens to every girl in the world. Even the pretty ones. Welcome to our world of innecesary insecurities!
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Amber Ice 8 years ago
Then it's not sadly, coz she wants to be a real woman and apparently already is ;)
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Chris Beres 8 years ago
Welcome to the female side of gender stereotypes and beauty standards! It is a sucky feeling to be sure, but know that you're in good company. 😂💜
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Random Panda 8 years ago
Julia, I love your comics! As a transman, I can absolutely relate to them. Although I'm on hormones for years and haven't been misgendered in a long time, I still get exactly this feeling sometimes when I have a bad day. Toilets (especially without stalls...), pat-downs... it still makes me feel uncomfortable. Thank you for illustrating our daily struggles so that others can understand better how simple things in life are sometimes a big obstacle for us. You are absolutely gorgeous! :)
Shinomi Chan 8 years ago
Aw, c'mon there's nothing to be nervous about, if they say something mean to you just remember: They're small minded, and will never understand true beauty.
Prince-Nux 8 years ago
There are so many things to be nervous about when using public restrooms. I usually use the women's, even though I'm a transman, out of fear of being beaten up in the men's room.
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OMG i feel that im pre everything (ftm) and i used my schools boys restroom oNcE and i was so nervous and scared to leave that i almost cried my panic made me think id have to live in the stall forever lmao
Lilly Friedman 8 years ago
I'm so sorry that this fear still exists. I wish that you could feel free to be seen in the women's bathroom.
Friedlander Rosenzweig 8 years ago
I'm so sorry. With today's nasty political climate and the a******s in Washington making it worse every day, I can't even imagine how transpersons might feel and the obstacles they may face. My heart breaks to think how difficult it is to have to just go to the bathroom (as if it were "just" going to the bathroom)!
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Marie-Eve Barette 8 years ago
There is an universal truth in this. Too often, we develop anxiety about something, only to realize that we worried for nothing. Story of my life...
Elizabeth Molloy 8 years ago
But this is exactly what you ARE doing, for everyone else out there who is trans and wrestling with what to do about it. You are an excellent role model for all those people!
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Daria B 8 years ago
At least, if you dress like a woman, no one will really notice anything, as female toilettes have better privacy than males', so don't be afraid, girl. Just go and do your business.
Wanda Queen 8 years ago
Your daughter has most likely already BEEN in the bathroom with a trans woman. Get over it.
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Natalia Sanchez 8 years ago
Uhm regarding this matter, as a girl I wouldnt mind. In female public restrooms there is only stalls and we don't get to see each others genitals, as men do.
Trisha Dragon 8 years ago
Its not much better for lesbians on the butch end of the spectrum. The rise of the public "Family" restroom has made my life significantly better. I want to know what the hell these bathroom nazis are doing in the bathroom thats so damn top secret and important. I'm in there offloading liquids. If there is a man in the stall next door to me the process remains the same. Unless there is some definitive scientific evidence that a penis owner will suddenly be overcome by the urge to rape everybody once the womens restroom threshold is crossed let people potty in peace ffs. Side note: Ever notice how many of the hateful old biddies raging over this bathroom issue have mustaches that rival Freddy Mercury? Smidge hypocritical if you ask me. Grumpy old fossils don't meet their own idiotic standards.
Bob 2.0 8 years ago
Yeah, the whole thing is based on idiotic old ideas of "MEN ARE PERVERTS AND CANT CONTROL THEMSELVES, OH NOOOO".
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Maggie Grover Bacher 8 years ago
trust me. if you look like a woman, use the women's bathroom.
Ariella Healer 8 years ago
Yep! I've been using the ladies' bathroom exclusively since I came out and started presenting as female full time over two years ago. I live in Texas, BTW, work for a state agency that's a short walk from the state Capitol, and have never been challenged one time on my use of the ladies' room. I may have been assigned male at birth but I've always known I'm female and as of this past January ALL of my legal documents reflect that. Finally feeling normal.
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Amélie Déry 7 years ago
I’m please to say that in Quebec City, a lot of place have mixed bathrooms! It’s solve a lot of trouble! Sometimes it’s close bathrooms without signs or a common bathroom with common sinks but the cubicles are all closed up, no gender distinction, you pick whichever you want. :)
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Chris Beres 8 years ago
😱💜 this is great, just changing "when you were a guy", to "when I thought you were a guy" makes the phrase change from underhandedly transphobic, to a way of showing validation while discussing something from before being out. What an amazing friend!
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Kuraija Meni 8 years ago
They shouldn't exist, but they DO exist and as such have a right to continue to exist (i.e. not be killed or forcefully brainwashed) and have all human right that come with existing, including expressing their opinion, raising their kids as they wish to and fighting for things they value. I'm conflicted about this.
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darknessIsMyOutfit 8 years ago
And they're the ones you were going to end up jobless and on the streets doing drugs. you're going to be successful and strong and we'll meet somebody that will make you happy and you can look back on your high school days laughing all the way to the bank.
Load More Replies... Marie-Eve Barette 8 years ago
Don't be mad at them, or scared of them, and don't change the way you view yourself because of them. Don't waste your precious time. They just don't get it. Keep spreading awareness like you do, and hopefully, their kids will know better. And PLEASE, GO ON EXISTING! We need you...
Master Markus 8 years ago
I used to think like that about people who were getting all mad at gay people existing, or science-deniers and all that as well as the transphobia, but then I learned, definitively, that they have no logical reason for their dislike and are therefore "the problem", not people like me. Essentially, I let my ego benefit me for a change in order to put those people down by treating myself as superior to them.
floating_delight 8 years ago
Oh the hell you should young lady! You're an amazingly talented artist, I admire your courage, strength and the unbroken, sweet outlook you have on your own life and on those around you, even the ones that hurt you by being careless or actually malicious. You go girl, I'm a huge fan already.
Anna Mundi 8 years ago
You think of them, and their message, the same way you'd think of a rabies virus, or a mosquito-born illness...it exists in the world but it's bad for you and has no positive function. They are the psychic equivalent of malaria.
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Shauday Smith 8 years ago
people like to say that external validation shouldn't mean anything... but it soooo does for everyone. Of course i want other people to like me, and not put me down, or invalidate my experiences because they haven't had to deal with them. The downer to being a social species... but also an upper when you gain a support network that can help keep you up when others get ya down.
Mangoes'nRum 8 years ago
External validation is important only when you feel unsure of yourself. Over time, your self-confidence will increase. You can then judge, hate/ be afraid of the haters. Or you could understand that those who hate you for being true to yourself lead a blinkered, fettered life. They have not known the joy of freely expressing their thoughts and desires, for a variety of reasons. When you realise this, their negativity will no longer hurt because you will feel sorry for their lack of experience. It is a constant battle to maintain that outlook, especially since judging and hating/ being afraid of them comes so much easier. You'll get there. Your support from friends and family will serve to shore up your faith in yourself.
Mangoes'nRum 8 years ago
This is not an absolute. I just ran out of space to type out the entire thing. There's a lot of little caveats and special considerations to this train of thought.
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Zenozenobee 8 years ago
You know, sometimes people are just tired or distracted ;) I've been called "Mr" by a cashier last week and I am a cis woman, I have long hair and currently huge tits thanks to breastfeeding. These kind of professions see a lot of people a day and repeating the same sentences again and again.... They are likely to make mistakes, you know, just like the kids that call the teacher "Mum" ;p Yet, I understand it can hurt your feelings. You don't need to grow a thicker skin for that (I'm affraid you're armor will have better use), you just have to realise you're a beautiful woman and that those kind of error are just scatterbrain mistakes.
Polleekin 8 years ago
I work retail and this is why I don't say "sir" or ma'am. When I see so many people a day it's hard not to go into autopilot eventually.
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Jennifer Hunter 8 years ago
My 3 year old daughter was called "he" and "him" 4 times yesterday at an amusement park. She was dressed in pink and has a shaggy bob haircut with wispy curls at the ends. People sometimes just don't pay attention.
Diana CrunChewy Watson 8 years ago
I'm called sir sometimes, too. I understand why Transgender people are hyper sensitive to it, but it happens to all of us.
Donna Mixon 8 years ago
Every single time my husband goes thru a drive-theu he is called "Ma'am". Don't take them so seriously. Often it is just them being distracted.
Shawn Ruester 8 years ago
I've been called Mam a bunch of times in stores when sales people walk up behind me and I am a Guy I just have long naturally curly hair. So people I just get amused when I correct them and they get REALLY embarrassed, however this tends to be the reason I only use terms like Thank You and Have a nice day without a gender attached to it.
Brianna Bastian 8 years ago
could have just been a brain fart, like have you every been talking and messed up words? Some times peoples minds are in other places and words just don't come out right.
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darknessIsMyOutfit 8 years ago
She is a real girl and always has been even when her parts were (or are) wrong. Science decides gender when your born. Personal feelings decide gender when you grow up.
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Marzo Florida 8 years ago
I have to admit. Its a little hard for me to accept transgenders or, their lifestyle choices. But one things for sure: judging isnt an option. They are people, and not creatures like some people treat them as. Im glad Julie has loving friends in her life :)
Gin Moarley 8 years ago
it's not a 'lifestyle choice' its a properly recognised medical condition. My trans friends are the strongest people i know. You're on the right path, think about the things you're saying in future.
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Alex Newell 8 years ago
Weren't you "Julie" in another comic? Or just a nickname perhaps. That name would be harder to mishear.
River Smith 8 years ago
her legal name is julia. that's what you have to use at an airport
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JackTheSmol 8 years ago
God I know that feeling. I told the people at Starbucks that my name is Jack and they wrote Jacklyn on my cup.
Reyna Brooks 8 years ago
Stay strong! Don't let stupid people bring you down because they can't see your courage and value. *hugs*
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Raluca Ral 8 years ago
Welcome to the world of tall and insecure girls. This thing was so normal for me but i went over it.
DancingToMyself 8 years ago
Oh, my best friend is a beautiful "giant" woman, and she is a force of nature. It's all about you and your behavior.
Marzo Florida 8 years ago
"All I wanna do🎵 is see you turn into🎵a Giant Woman!"🎵
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Lori Berryman 8 years ago
Grass is greener, I'm 5'3 and always gazed up in admiration at all the tall girls!
Master Markus 8 years ago
I'm a trans man and super short. What's helped me be alright with this is that I've seen cis men who were shorter than me (and this is now counting little people).
Rafaella Bueno 8 years ago
I'll never have a petite figure or big boobs either, and I'll always be mistaken for a guy occasionally when my hair is shorter and my top baggier. That shouldn't make me or anyone else less of a woman... took me only 27 years to start feeling that way, though.
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Paula Bogomolova 8 years ago
I can never get it right. I struggle to the point that I get two different thick lines and get irritated
Bryna Darling 8 years ago
Ha ha! I've been putting on eyeliner for 35+ years and still can't get it right! Thank goodness for cotton swabs!
Dorothy Davila 8 years ago
I've been trying for almost twenty years and I can barely do that. Good job!
Emmer 8 years ago
Wait what does this have to do with being trans? xD It's unbelievably hard to do eyeliner whatever gender
darknessIsMyOutfit 8 years ago
Gel liners the ones that look like pens but wind from the bottom. No pencils no liquid its essentially eye pastel crayon.
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Logan Jackson 3 years ago
They're probably just trying to be nice and upset you 😔 I've seen it in person
cr0w_is_vibin 3 years ago
A compliment is a compliment. Why can't you be positive?
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Tanya Randstoft 8 years ago
Spent a Saturday night at a police station once, about a year and half into my transition... The officer refused to accept that my drivers license was mine...
Dhanya Munro 8 years ago
I am sorry you had to go through that..must have been tough.
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Ariella Healer 8 years ago
I was washing up in the ladies' room last week and the lady using the sink next to me turned to me and said, "I just love your hair!" The effects of HRT are starting to show. Even at age 66. It's amazing,exciting, and wonderful!
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Alex Zion 8 years ago
But it is an issue that affects trans people significantly more than cis people. Trans women are pushed into making themselves look traditionally feminine, trans men are pushed into making themselves look traditionally masculine and non-binary people are pushed into choosing one or the other or looking androgynous - even if none of that is right for them. Because if we don't, we get misgendered constantly, we get even more weird looks, we're taken even less seriously, and we can even be denied healthcare and mistreated by 'professionals'. And all of it can be very painful and demotivating. It's an everyday thing that is utterly exhausting. We have to choose between being true to ourselves or having hope that at least some people will gender us correctly. It's like we come out twice; once as trans and then again with our true style, personality, etc. There may well be things similar to this that many cis people experience, but it won't be exactly the same as what we experience.
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Shawn Ruester 8 years ago
I know many women that wear and buy guy cloths so I'd say wearing them occasionally would still be acceptable unless it makes you feel awkward then do what you need to do.
Divertissement Z 8 years ago
It is always OK to go out without makeup on or without some non-fancy clothes on. You are an individual before your gender identity <3
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Naima Ivansdóttir 8 years ago
of course not! there's plenty of women with deep voices. think of cher! wonderful voice and nobody would question her femininity for that! :)
Larry Jakubecz 8 years ago
Well, typically, a female deep voice won't be taken for a male's-- it's a whole different tonal range that most people can pick up on. I don't think it's the quality of voice that sells femininity, though, as much as how a trans woman carries herself-- which comes from within, of course.
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Mandy Ward 8 years ago
The number of times I've been mistaken for a boy / man because I have a big skeletal structure and a deeper voice than "normal" for a Cis Woman. It shouldn't stop you feeling like the woman that you are.
Astrid S.H. 8 years ago
Same here! Lost count and really don't care anymore.
Load More Replies... DancingToMyself 8 years ago
I've always loved to hear woman with deep awesome voice. It's sexy!
Anna Mundi 8 years ago
Actually...sometimes that does happen.We're more tolerant of deviating from gender norms that we were when I was a young woman, but not by much.
Andrzej Raczynski 8 years ago
different people find different voices grating/irritating, I personally prefer the normal to deep range, over the high pitched squeaky voices. deeper sounds sultry, squeaky sounds childish/immature.
Jessica Drosinou 7 years ago
I have a deep voice and was bullied for it during my school years. I still occasionally feel hyper aware and self conscious of it. I got called a guy a few times. Im 5'2" with huge boobs but apparently people are stupid and offensive. Shocking right? My point is the pitch or tone of your voice has no bearing on your femininity honey. F**k em. Xxxx
Nicole 7 years ago
I have a deep voice and people question my femininity all the time! :/ I guess it depends on where you're from, and how people around you think about femininity. I can be standing at my work, and if I don't raise my pitch I either get accused of being angry and rude, or people ask me if I used to be a guy. :( It's exhausting and a bit hurtful to be honest.
Nicole 7 years ago
I have a deep voice and people question my femininity all the time. :/ I guess it depends on where you're from and how people around you think. I can be standing at my work, and if I don't raise my pitch I either get accused of being angry and rude, or people ask me if I used to be a guy. It's exhausting and a bit hurtful.
Kristina Nicole 7 years ago
Chica I was born a woman and have a deep gravelly voice don't sorry about it you're a super hot sexy woman with a deep SULTRY woman's voice! 😉
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Gillian Brent 8 years ago
That man in the mirror? He's someone long ago, actually envious of where you are now.
Vaida Kuodytė 8 years ago
Not as bad as seeing a blobfish in the mirror, when every day is a bad day. :(
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floating_delight 8 years ago
To me that sounds like catcalls, and we all know that only real hotties get those ;)
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Catarina Anderson 8 years ago
I have that too, I'm very masculine and I'm confused about my gender, but the fact that I'm so masculine and then i go out with man's clothes, the size of my boobs are so big, everyone looks at me. And sometimes some come talk to me like: "Why don't you wear clothes that match your boobs size?" and I'm just like: "I don't want to ;/" grr, I'm so happy that in a year i'm decreasing my boobs, but it takes to much time
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Ged Maybury 8 years ago
She must have a magic skirt! http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/MagicSkirt
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Sheila Stamey 8 years ago
Sweetie, unfortunately, we girls have this talent for being our own worst critic.
Tanya Randstoft 8 years ago
I take most compliments as backhanded dark sarcastic insult... I see what I look like in the mirror.
Master Markus 8 years ago
Something that I've learned by being paranoid is that nobody pays as much attention to your flaws as you do.
Debi Gallagher 8 years ago
Do you really think you are the only one who only sees flaws!! Stop being so self absorbed! I have been a woman since birth for some 56 years now, have been called beautiful and gorgeous my whole life and have always seen ugly, fat and flawed my whole life. Get over yourself! And now I am older and looking older it is worse, so if you're looking for a reprieve from this flawed situation, boy orgirl, don't hold your breath!!
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nuttyballoon 8 years ago
You've discovered one of the unfortunate truths of female life. Welcome to the new normal!
Friedlander Rosenzweig 8 years ago
You will never have a reason to be invisible again. You will take your fabulous self and let people see that the cocoon has finally emerged into the beautiful butterfly!
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Ged Maybury 8 years ago
I'm really happy with my tiny feet. At the op-shops, I ALWAYS find my next pair in the women's section, & love them! (64yo male (with inclination to cross-dress) famous for his pink-themed cosplay).
Davorka Banović 8 years ago
cool! As someone who's watched all seasons of Rupaul's drag race (with my bf no less and we had favourites and everything) I found tons of those performers really amusing and genuine in what they do, learned many of them had faced horrible judgment if not worse from people so I applaud you both for the courage and the spirit AND the artistic expression! :)
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Katy Meyrick 8 years ago
People with tiny feet can't find shoes either. Most stores nowadays like only medium feet! But there's always one store in town with what you need!
Kristina Neeley 8 years ago
sz 11, wide foot here too. Struggle is real! Love of converse is even more real. <3 their sizing
Teddy Ward 8 years ago
My feet are too small for most men's shoes but too big for most women's shoes (mens 7)
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Teddy Ward 8 years ago
It's so odd how people (includong me at times) add needless gender markers into our passing comments to strangers. Never realized this as much until I started transitioning.
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Diane Serpa 8 years ago
I wish these weren't posted out of order with her transition timeline.
OdangaUsagi 8 years ago
You can click on "Julia Kaye" and it'll go to her website.
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Sunzilla 8 years ago
I also wear men's socks. They are thicker and longer... a bit big for my feet, but I don't care. They happen to be cheaper too...
Joanna K. 8 years ago
And men's razors are sharper than ladies' ones. If you want your skin smooth then get them instead of Venus or any other brand. Just be cautious as they are really sharp. I always steal my boyfriend's razors.
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Shinomi Chan 8 years ago
I don't know why that'd be embarrassing for a girl in any case, I'm a girl, I wear men's socks, hoodies even T-shirts, they're WAY MORE comfortable than women's clothes which are usually either too small, too open from the back and front or just too tight.
Brianna Bastian 8 years ago
i think its more that she was thought to have been a man for so long and any connection with being a man makes her uncomfortable
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Raluca Ral 8 years ago
I also wear mens socks. Its fine. My feet are a bit too big for womens and no one bats an eye. You dont need to worry about it.
Alusair Alustriel 8 years ago
I often snatch my fiancee's socks, cause I'm 38 and he is 41-42 - they are a bit loose, but comfty. And I also have some men socks of 38 size in my drawers, so don't worry about that one at all!
Sheila Stamey 8 years ago
I have a size 11 foot and weight problems, I also have orthopedic issues due to a genetic problem . I feel judge every time I have to use a wheelchair or electric cart at a store. Fuggedaboutit!
Daria B 8 years ago
It's hard, but just act natural. Girls even buy underwear for their boyfriends/husbands.
Naima Ivansdóttir 8 years ago
i buy men's socks, i find them more comfortable
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Sarah Laurent 8 years ago
But... you're a woman ! That's why :D Every woman thinks like that, lol ! <3
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Erika Jones 8 years ago
This also happens to women who change their last name when they get married - takes forever to change everything over - seems like an endless process.
Aunt Messy 8 years ago
It took forever when I got married, too. There are so many things that you have to change - and it's never-ending. It took over a year before I got it all done.
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Nadine Lujan 8 years ago
Unfortunately it comes with being a woman in our society :) sad, but women do have a hard time accepting compliments. And when we do - we are considered conceited (who does she think she is? She ain't all that). You are gorgeous!
Aislinn Lujan 6 years ago
Are you a Lujan? Where is your family from? I used to be a Lujan!
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Caroo Barbieri 8 years ago
I swear to God that if the post did not say you were trans I did not notice. I'm telling you, you're beautiful as a woman. Very very prety :D
Rafaella Bueno 8 years ago
While that is very, very true, I can get why she'd feel like it's even worse for her... when people know you're different somehow, they tend to feel the need to go out of their way to make you feel better about yourself, so it can definitely feel much faker.
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Tanya Randstoft 8 years ago
Walking past a shop-facade can be hard those days... Now, 20+ laser treatments in, I'm finally all but free from dark facial hair...
Joanna K. 8 years ago
Some girl have facial hair even though they were born with XX chromosomes, so don't be so judgemental about yourself. It's just a minor flaw! Be strong, girl!
Bryna Darling 8 years ago
...and if we weren't when we were younger, things start happening as we get toward menopause! Darn stray eyebrows...on my chin...
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my BFF is a cis woman and she can grow one hell of a beard! No worries you're still beautiful NO ONE is going to look 100% like they want 100% of the time
Donna Mixon 8 years ago
Babe... I'm over 50 and a "cis"-woman. I have more of a beard than my 31 year old son. It's a struggle every day.
Elizabeth Molloy 8 years ago
Thank dog for tweezers! I have a moustache which I have to keep plucked!
Nora H. 8 years ago
It's for removing facial hair, getting rid of it for good so you never have to shave again - ever.
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Donna Mixon 8 years ago
I hate shaving. I hate those depilatories, too. Honestly, I wish laser wasn't so damn expensive and painful.
Diana Lucas 8 years ago
The Gillette company started this whole 'shave your legs and armpits' thing after WWII in order to sell more razors. Women were encouraged to do it through ads so a company could make higher profits. As a woman, I'm appalled that women ever fell for this nonsense in the first place.
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Maïté Dupont 7 years ago
That means you really are a woman, because all of us feel insecure (woman's beauty standards are so unreal and depressing for each of us).. Just never forget to love yourself for who you are ! You are so strong and brave, keep going forward girl !
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Catarina Anderson 8 years ago
Omg, what it's like to talk to a therapist? I never talked to one, i feel like they are just like everyone, they point their finger to their head and they say: "Your problem is you, not your body". Idk, does a therapist at least hear us and confort? They seem like they are there to say: "You are transgender" or "You are not transgender" , I don't want to talk to someone and say: "I'm 100% sure is this what i want" so they let me be who I'm. If I say: "I'm not really sure, this is so confusing", it looks like they will say: "SO YOU ARE CONFUSED, YOU ARE NOT TRANSGENDER, OUR SECTION IS OVER, NEXT"
Natalia E. Tamayo 8 years ago
OMG you are overthinking to much!! a good therapist will never think or say all those things, a therapy that makes to help you to accept yourself as you are. This is what he does with each of his patients, it is his duty. However, you can try, you dont lose anything trying :) wish you luck
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Machelle Thompson 8 years ago
I'm a therapist. There are lists and references you can get to make sure you get a counselor who is aware and supportive of sexual minorities allowing each person to explore fully who they are now and truly hope to be without judgement. Ask around.
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Donna Mixon 8 years ago
I wish it weren't so painful and expensive. Because this 51-yo Grandma beard is killing me.
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Taryn Wallace 8 years ago
As someone who had a close friend transition it was a little hard switching pronouns and I felt horrible but eventually we got there.
Teddy Ward 8 years ago
It's been two years & a couple of my friends still do it.. I have a sneaky suspicion that they aren't trying... I feel like that's paranoid though
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Jessica Slater 8 years ago
I just started my transition five months ago, and it feels like it's barely moving at all...your comics are enormously helpful and reassuring to me...oh, and inspiring!
Donna Mixon 8 years ago
I am the youngest of five and the only girl. I have my dad's hands, hips, shoulders, and gut. It sucks but I have a wonderful husband and children who love me. You have a great family who loves you for you. Everyone else can go suck it.
Susan Gardner 8 years ago
OMG I just looked you up on Google images and you are FREAKING GORGEOUS
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Taryn Wallace 8 years ago
You are beautiful and not "for a trans lady" you are a beautiful woman who looks, feels, and IS a gorgeous strong woman!!!
Donna Mixon 8 years ago
Honey, I've hated being in photos all my life. It's part of being a woman. Welcome to our tribe.
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Diane Serpa 8 years ago
I wonder if younger people worry about this more than older people or the other way around.
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Susie Saint Charles 8 years ago
Laura Jane / Against Me! makes EVERYTHING feel less broken....
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Donna Mixon 8 years ago
Women shave their faces, too. Selma Hayek. The chick who just married Joe Manegiello...from Modern Family (can't remember her name). Beautiful women. So don't be ashamed. Plenty of women have facial hair. Screw people who care.
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floating_delight 8 years ago
even though your comics are black and white, from where I sit, it seems like you can see all shades of all colours, and you are amazing at showing it to others as well. thank you for your amazing rainbow of positive thoughts and emotions. we all got a lot to learn from you.
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Teddy Ward 8 years ago
Never thoight I would cole out to my extended family (very VERY Catholic) but when I did they all said "oh Teddy, we already fogured that out!" It was surprising, in a good way.
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RainbowMocha 8 years ago
You are beautiful, with and without makeup. Gender is about how you feel, not about how you look, even though it's not wrong to be self-conscious. My sister recently got a super short haircut and people always mistake her for a boy, but she is proud of how she looks and always makes sure to correct them.
Rafaella Bueno 8 years ago
We tend to see photos of women, videos of women and even meet women themselves only with makeup on, so I think it's normal that most girls will "look like men" without it.
Larry Jakubecz 8 years ago
I like how subtlely you convey male and female in your face with such few lines.:)
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Oliver Gloxin 8 years ago
Looking at you because you are beautiful maybe? It does happen to beautiful women!
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Teddy Ward 8 years ago
It's hard, you're not lying for him though. You're saving yourself the mental energy of explaining to every person who asks.
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Amaranthim Talon 8 years ago
Why not just create a new FB with the information that you transitioned. That way it isn't as if you are lying to anyone, especially yourself, yet you have moved on from your prior existence. Who you were is not any less real. You have changed into another phase of who you truly are.
Warren Cancilla 8 years ago
My method would be to talk about the old me in the third person, because he's not me.
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Sofia Noemi Rodriguez 7 years ago
I’m confused whenever he’s mentioned and idk if it’s because the comics are out of order or if it’s never quite explained
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Christopher Maiytt 8 years ago
I have a trans woman friend who has experienced this. After a lot of reflection, she realized that there isn't just one kind of female- she didn't have to apply to the stereotype. Beyond that, she felt she didn't even need to limit herself to being "female" at all. That's the whole point of transitioning. You're finding yourself, so it's ok if it's not exactly how you imagined it before you started.
Alejandro Coronado 7 years ago
Was a very lovely and funny way to tell us your story. You are a very cute and gifted woman.
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On The Contrary 8 years ago
Hey, anybody else get the impression that Jasminka has a bunch of alternate accounts that she uses to upvote/downvote things multiple times?
Shana 8 years ago
Was reading through these comics, especially the ones where you see yourself as a man in the mirror (or where other people call you sir etc) and I started wondering what you looked like, so I looked at your instagram for a pic. If I hadn't seen these comics, I wouldn't have known you're a transgender :) You're a pretty cute woman. (PS: I love your hair.)
Bridget Smith 8 years ago
Right?? I went and looked through her Instagram pics after reading your comment and I CANNOT believe she gets called sir looking like that!! Maybe she's got a lower voice? I dunno. But she looks feminine, natural, and lovely.
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Blair Culp 8 years ago
You are a gorgeous young woman. Julia, you are brave beyond description and an inspiration to trans people. Not to mention... you're an amazing artist.
darknessIsMyOutfit 8 years ago
To all who feel uncomfortable in the skin they were given, be who you want to be and don't let the narrow minded a*s holes get you down. It shouldn't matter what you were born as, it matters who you are. If you're a good person that also feels good inside and out, you're all you need to be. Much love!
Kathryn Smith 8 years ago
Tettsui Sevens, with you, I'm less worried about your skin than your mind, which is hateful and prejudiced and ignorant. You should fix that, before you find out how terrible it is.
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Amanda 8 years ago
I wish there wasn't, but unfortunately it it happens on every post which is really sad.
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Jocelyn Perez 8 years ago
YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL , AND DONT LET ANYONE TELL YOU OTHER WISE. TEAM JULIA!!!
Emma Lee Smith 8 years ago
This brought me to tears and melted my heart. It's given me motivation to get to my weight goal. Thank you so much I LOVE YOU!!!!
On The Contrary 8 years ago
Hey, anybody else get the impression that Jasminka has a bunch of alternate accounts that she uses to upvote/downvote things multiple times?
Shana 8 years ago
Was reading through these comics, especially the ones where you see yourself as a man in the mirror (or where other people call you sir etc) and I started wondering what you looked like, so I looked at your instagram for a pic. If I hadn't seen these comics, I wouldn't have known you're a transgender :) You're a pretty cute woman. (PS: I love your hair.)
Bridget Smith 8 years ago
Right?? I went and looked through her Instagram pics after reading your comment and I CANNOT believe she gets called sir looking like that!! Maybe she's got a lower voice? I dunno. But she looks feminine, natural, and lovely.
Load More Replies... Blair Culp 8 years ago
You are a gorgeous young woman. Julia, you are brave beyond description and an inspiration to trans people. Not to mention... you're an amazing artist.
darknessIsMyOutfit 8 years ago
To all who feel uncomfortable in the skin they were given, be who you want to be and don't let the narrow minded a*s holes get you down. It shouldn't matter what you were born as, it matters who you are. If you're a good person that also feels good inside and out, you're all you need to be. Much love!
Kathryn Smith 8 years ago
Tettsui Sevens, with you, I'm less worried about your skin than your mind, which is hateful and prejudiced and ignorant. You should fix that, before you find out how terrible it is.
Load More Replies... Amanda 8 years ago
I wish there wasn't, but unfortunately it it happens on every post which is really sad.
Load More Replies... Jocelyn Perez 8 years ago
YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL , AND DONT LET ANYONE TELL YOU OTHER WISE. TEAM JULIA!!!
Emma Lee Smith 8 years ago
This brought me to tears and melted my heart. It's given me motivation to get to my weight goal. Thank you so much I LOVE YOU!!!!
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