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Bride Thinks Anxiety Is A Joke, Bans Bestie’s Meds And Ends Up Single And Friendless In One Day
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Weddings are usually all about love, questionable dance moves, and tiny starters that never make anyone full. But, if we’re being honest, sometimes they can bring out the absolute weirdest in people. Give someone a bouquet and a fancy white dress, and suddenly they’re calling the shots like it’s a royal decree.
Some folks cry tears of joy at weddings, others turn into bridezillas (or groomzillas), and occasionally, someone’s marriage implodes before the ink on the certificate even dries.
One Redditor went from being the bride’s best friend and speech-giver to being labeled a homewrecker, just for needing her anxiety medication.
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One woman ditches her best friend’s wedding and causes her divorce after the bride bans her anxiety meds from the reception, triggering a panic attack
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The woman suffers from severe anxiety and relies on prescription meds to get through the day, but her friend bans all pills from the wedding, including her meds
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The bride confronts the woman about bringing her pills to the wedding, but she tells her she won’t be able to give her speech without them
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The woman has a panic attack at the wedding as the bride calls her name to give the speech
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The woman ditches the wedding and later tells the groom everything that happened, knowing his sister has anxiety too, causing him to ask for a divorce
The OP (original poster) has severe anxiety and relies on medication to keep panic attacks at bay. Knowing this, she planned on bringing her prescription meds to her best friend’s wedding, because standing up in front of a crowd to give a speech isn’t exactly a walk in the park when your brain is running a 24/7 anxiety marathon.
But then, the bride, Kate, declared that there would be no pills at the wedding. Now, most rational people would assume that this meant illegal substances, not life-saving prescription meds. The OP thought nothing of it, until Kate personally confronted her at the wedding and told her that her prescribed anxiety meds were also banned. Her logic? “I thought you would suck it up for me.”
Sure, mental health works exactly like that. Newsflash, it doesn’t, Kate. So, the OP, faced with the impossible choice of risking a panic attack or obeying the absurd wedding rule, agreed to ditch her meds but warned Kate that she wouldn’t be able to give the speech. The bride, visibly upset, walked away. Crisis averted, right? Wrong.
A little while later, as the speeches were about to begin, Kate still called her friend’s name. A very panicked OP bolted to the nearest bathroom and locked herself in a stall. While guests toasted and clapped, she was busy gasping for air in the worst panic attack of her life. Eventually, she took her meds and calmed herself down enough to make the three-hour drive home.
The OP remembered that the groom has a sister who also struggles with mental health. So, she sent him a text explaining exactly what had happened. The next afternoon, the OP’s phone started blowing up. Kate’s family called her a jerk for abandoning the bride when she needed her most, and Kate herself texted later that night, accusing the OP of always wanting the groom. Why? Because he had just asked for a divorce.
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Turns out, Kate’s “no pills” policy backfired spectacularly, and her now-ex-husband was not cool with the way she had treated his childhood best friend. The OP, in one last mic-drop moment, responded with, “I just showed him who you really were.” And that was the end of that friendship. Honestly, good for her. True friends don’t dismiss your medical needs or put their own desires above your well-being.
To find out more about this story, Bored Panda reached out to the poster for some comments. She told us that her friend had a strong dislike for illegal substances due to her family’s history with addiction, but she had always known about the poster’s anxiety and use of prescribed medication. Before the wedding, this had never been an issue, and the bride had never brought it up.
We asked the poster if she talked to the bride at all after the wedding. She shared that the wedding was the last time they interacted. “I haven’t talked to her in 2 years. The groom had a few more conversations with her to sort things out,” she shared.
We wanted to know if the bride ever did the same thing to the groom’s sister—who also suffers from anxiety—that she did to the poster. According to the poster, things never reached that point with the groom’s sister. Since she only takes her medication at night, she didn’t have it with her during the wedding, so a similar situation was avoided.
We asked the poster if she had ever received an apology or any kind of acknowledgment from her ex-friend about how she handled things. She noted that, according to the groom, the bride never mentions her in conversation, so the poster has decided to let it go and move on from the situation. However, she and the groom actually became closer after everything happened, since both of them experienced a major loss that night.
We wanted to know if, looking back now, does the poster regret sending that message to the groom. “I believe it was the right thing to do in the long run. Kate has her own demons to work through,” the poster shared.
What do you think of this story? Was the poster wrong to tell her friend’s husband what happened? Drop your thoughts and comments below!
Netizens side with the woman, saying she is not a jerk for leaving the wedding and telling the groom the truth about what happened
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Vinnie 8 months ago (edited)
"AH for abandoning Kate when she needed you the most" - it's a f#cking wedding, not a rescue operation on the high seas! $hit happens, but the bride FAFO. Looks like the groom is the one who got rescued. It's possible that the bride behaved the same way with the groom's sister (who also has anxiety) and he saw a pattern of jealousy, paranoia, lack of kindness, selfishness, etc.
Dusty's mom 8 months ago
I've taken prescription anti-anxiety meds for years. If I forget a day I don't feel different. But OP could have built up extra anxiety just worrying about bridezilla's stupidity. No one has the right to tell you that you can't take prescription medication. Bridezilla in not a medical professional.
Ms.GB 8 months ago
Yeah I don't take anxiety meds or anything but I think a lot of people have anxiety going to a wedding or a big important event, I know I do! I can't imagine how bad that would be for someone who has to take daily medication for anxiety.
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Janelle Collard 8 months ago
I highly doubt *this* was the reason the groom "Noped!" right out of that marriage.
B.Nelson 8 months ago
There is a different between anti anxiety meds and anti panic attack meds. The anti anxiety ones build up in the system. The anti panic attack meds only last for 2-6 hours. You are suppose to take them 30 mins before a stressful event or before you do something you know will trigger your panic response.
UpupaEpops 8 months ago (edited)
There are anti-panic attack meds?! And I was left to handle daily panic attacks that nearly drove me to s*****e for funsies?! FFS. Can't believe I needed to come to Bored Panda for medical advice. 😭 Thank you so much, Nelson for bringing this to my attention. I can't stress enough just how much you have changed my whole life for the better.
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Tyke 8 months ago
So... if someone was asthmatic and had an attack were they supposed to just die because the bride doesn't want "d***s" at her wedding? Groom had a VERY lucky escape
BrownEyedPanda 8 months ago
Precisely! I use asthma medication so I'm not hacking my brains out for hours at a time. I take medicine for rheumatoid arthritis so I don't turn into the Tin Man after a good spring rain. I take high blood pressure medicine to keep my hypertension in check. I dare ANYONE to tell me I can't have my medications with me, especially my inhaler. Shìt would get real in a nanosecond.
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Btsquestrian 8 months ago
A lot of people in the comments section are conflating SSRIs and beta blockers with prescription benzos.
Bad Alchemy 8 months ago
The bride, the bride's family, and the groom all sound very immature. It's probably for the best that the marriage was most probably annulled. They weren't ready. And the lovely friend who needed her medication deserves some grace and someone telling her that IT'S IMPORANT TO STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. This includes jettisoning crappy make-believe friends. So no, NTA.
Angie Falzarano 5 months ago
Nta. I have severely stress and anxiety. And I take meds for it. I couldn't tell you how many times people tried to tell me I dont need them. Or if excerised more I wouldn't need them if I read my Bible more if I prayed more all that type of bs people thinking would fix it. Its a chemical imbalance in the brain. My severe stress and anxiety caused me in oct to have a stress related heart attack no not a panic attack but a scad (spontaneous coronary artery dissection). You are better off with her out of your life. And I do think that letting the groom know was extreme but you were protecting someone else that is important in his life from this horrible woman. I probably done the same. My question is who the hell bans needed prescription meds from a wedding? It isn't like you were selling them. It is a needed med. Glad you are still friends with the groom you probably saved him from a lot of heartache.
Callie Ge 7 months ago
I would have made a speech but not the one she was expecting, I would have told the entire reception what a heartless, stuck up Bridezilla she was, expecting you to skip prescribed medication, because it was her wedding day, WTAF. So people, remember , when youre with this Bridezilla , leave your doctor prescribed medication because in her opinion , all d***s are bad d***s even when prescribed by a doctor. I would have told her to stick it where the sun don’t shine.
Jon Steensen 7 months ago (edited)
It sounds like Kate has a lot to learn and a lot of selfreflection to do. When you don't like other to know what you did, that is usually a good indicator that you shouldn't have done it. Kate screwed up, Kate got to face the consequences of her delousions, and had to deal with the fall out. I really have a hard time finding any kind of sympathy for Kate. OP shouldn't have accepted being bullied like that and told the Bride that what she wanted wasn't a realistic option, and have demanded that she either made an exception from her stupid rule, or simply have left at that moment. Not distinguishing between hard d***s and prescribed medication is beyond stupid. That being said, OP shouldn't have agreed to give a speech in the fist place, and driving herself home probably wasn't the best idea either.
Binky Melnik 8 months ago
I’ve taken meds for anxiety before, and this is the first I’ve heard of them “building up in my system.” I’m in the came who wonders why she didn’t simply take her meds and keep her mouth shut, but then there are some awfully dim and clueless people out there, so I spose I ought not be wondering. 🤷🏻♀️
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Vinnie 8 months ago (edited)
"AH for abandoning Kate when she needed you the most" - it's a f#cking wedding, not a rescue operation on the high seas! $hit happens, but the bride FAFO. Looks like the groom is the one who got rescued. It's possible that the bride behaved the same way with the groom's sister (who also has anxiety) and he saw a pattern of jealousy, paranoia, lack of kindness, selfishness, etc.
Dusty's mom 8 months ago
I've taken prescription anti-anxiety meds for years. If I forget a day I don't feel different. But OP could have built up extra anxiety just worrying about bridezilla's stupidity. No one has the right to tell you that you can't take prescription medication. Bridezilla in not a medical professional.
Ms.GB 8 months ago
Yeah I don't take anxiety meds or anything but I think a lot of people have anxiety going to a wedding or a big important event, I know I do! I can't imagine how bad that would be for someone who has to take daily medication for anxiety.
Load More Replies... Janelle Collard 8 months ago
I highly doubt *this* was the reason the groom "Noped!" right out of that marriage.
B.Nelson 8 months ago
There is a different between anti anxiety meds and anti panic attack meds. The anti anxiety ones build up in the system. The anti panic attack meds only last for 2-6 hours. You are suppose to take them 30 mins before a stressful event or before you do something you know will trigger your panic response.
UpupaEpops 8 months ago (edited)
There are anti-panic attack meds?! And I was left to handle daily panic attacks that nearly drove me to s*****e for funsies?! FFS. Can't believe I needed to come to Bored Panda for medical advice. 😭 Thank you so much, Nelson for bringing this to my attention. I can't stress enough just how much you have changed my whole life for the better.
Load More Replies... Tyke 8 months ago
So... if someone was asthmatic and had an attack were they supposed to just die because the bride doesn't want "d***s" at her wedding? Groom had a VERY lucky escape
BrownEyedPanda 8 months ago
Precisely! I use asthma medication so I'm not hacking my brains out for hours at a time. I take medicine for rheumatoid arthritis so I don't turn into the Tin Man after a good spring rain. I take high blood pressure medicine to keep my hypertension in check. I dare ANYONE to tell me I can't have my medications with me, especially my inhaler. Shìt would get real in a nanosecond.
Load More Replies... Btsquestrian 8 months ago
A lot of people in the comments section are conflating SSRIs and beta blockers with prescription benzos.
Bad Alchemy 8 months ago
The bride, the bride's family, and the groom all sound very immature. It's probably for the best that the marriage was most probably annulled. They weren't ready. And the lovely friend who needed her medication deserves some grace and someone telling her that IT'S IMPORANT TO STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. This includes jettisoning crappy make-believe friends. So no, NTA.
Angie Falzarano 5 months ago
Nta. I have severely stress and anxiety. And I take meds for it. I couldn't tell you how many times people tried to tell me I dont need them. Or if excerised more I wouldn't need them if I read my Bible more if I prayed more all that type of bs people thinking would fix it. Its a chemical imbalance in the brain. My severe stress and anxiety caused me in oct to have a stress related heart attack no not a panic attack but a scad (spontaneous coronary artery dissection). You are better off with her out of your life. And I do think that letting the groom know was extreme but you were protecting someone else that is important in his life from this horrible woman. I probably done the same. My question is who the hell bans needed prescription meds from a wedding? It isn't like you were selling them. It is a needed med. Glad you are still friends with the groom you probably saved him from a lot of heartache.
Callie Ge 7 months ago
I would have made a speech but not the one she was expecting, I would have told the entire reception what a heartless, stuck up Bridezilla she was, expecting you to skip prescribed medication, because it was her wedding day, WTAF. So people, remember , when youre with this Bridezilla , leave your doctor prescribed medication because in her opinion , all d***s are bad d***s even when prescribed by a doctor. I would have told her to stick it where the sun don’t shine.
Jon Steensen 7 months ago (edited)
It sounds like Kate has a lot to learn and a lot of selfreflection to do. When you don't like other to know what you did, that is usually a good indicator that you shouldn't have done it. Kate screwed up, Kate got to face the consequences of her delousions, and had to deal with the fall out. I really have a hard time finding any kind of sympathy for Kate. OP shouldn't have accepted being bullied like that and told the Bride that what she wanted wasn't a realistic option, and have demanded that she either made an exception from her stupid rule, or simply have left at that moment. Not distinguishing between hard d***s and prescribed medication is beyond stupid. That being said, OP shouldn't have agreed to give a speech in the fist place, and driving herself home probably wasn't the best idea either.
Binky Melnik 8 months ago
I’ve taken meds for anxiety before, and this is the first I’ve heard of them “building up in my system.” I’m in the came who wonders why she didn’t simply take her meds and keep her mouth shut, but then there are some awfully dim and clueless people out there, so I spose I ought not be wondering. 🤷🏻♀️
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