Husband Blows $3,000 At A Friend’s Bachelor Party, Doesn’t See Any Issue With It When Wife Brings It Up

We all do silly things; it’s no big secret. But, when you have a family to consider, it doesn’t hurt to be a tad more mindful of the consequences.

The thing is, the author’s husband, who’s a bit more moneyed than his pals, headed to his BFF’s bachelor party, where he took a whopping $3K out of his and his wife’s joint account. Naturally, the woman wasn’t exactly pumped about it – however, when she questioned her partner, he brushed it off and called her “overly dramatic.”

Woman confronts her husband after learning he spent $3K from their joint account at his pal’s bachelor party

The man brushes it off and calls her “overly dramatic”

“AITA for flipping out at my husband for spending $3K on his best friend’s bachelor party?” – this internet user took to one of Reddit’s most philosophical and thought-provoking communities to ask its members if it was a jerk move to confront her husband who spent a hefty sum, that he took out of their joint account, on his best buddy’s bachelor party. The post garnered nearly 200 upvotes as well as 92 comments discussing the matter.

Now, everybody likes to party every once in a while, and it’s not a question of whether the couple can afford it but more of whether it is acceptable to make such big financial decisions without your partner’s knowledge. 

Bachelor/bachelorette parties are a big deal, of course. And when your closest friend is about to get hitched, it only makes sense to make it all as memorable as possible – however, taking out a couple of thousand dollars without at least a little warning isn’t the fairest way to do it. 

For starters, the woman and her husband are both in their twenties and have a little boy together. The groom (now husband) in question is a longtime best friend of the author’s spouse, and when the bachelor party came up, all he could say was how he wanted to have a “good time.”

The group went shortly after, and according to the woman, they ended up getting a limo, having bottle service at some club, staying at a hotel, etc. She found all of this out when she checked their bank account and saw all the money that was being taken out.

When the post’s creator confronted her husband about the $3K, he told her that it wasn’t a problem and that she was basically being a drama queen as he had a good time without really affecting their finances.

Naturally, the woman was furious, but her main concern was that she was kept in the dark about it.

The altercation prompts her to take online and find out whether she did, in fact, overreact

Did you know that according to a recent survey from Aviva, one of the UK’s leading Insurance, Wealth, and Retirement businesses, with franchises in Ireland and Canada, 26% of couples argue about money at least once a week, and around 5% say they argue about finances every day?

Well, it’s safe to say that there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to managing your finances when in a committed relationship; some couples choose to keep things separate, while others are happy to share and handle everything together. However, it all eventually comes down to trust and communication. 

Money-related bickering hampers many relationships, but it’s vital to be open with your partner and not avoid the topic like the author’s husband did – otherwise, you risk getting yourself in a sticky situation.

What is your take on this situation? Do you think that the original poster did, in fact, overreact? 

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