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Woman Adores Her Engagement Ring, Changes Her Mind After Finding Out How Much It Cost
Proposing to the love of your life can be both thrilling and nerve-wracking. People often spend days if not months into finding the perfect ring to symbolize their future together. And while it’s great to find “the one,” sometimes mistakes happen.
For instance, a woman shared her frustration online after her boyfriend proposed with a cheap engagement ring from Temu, leaving her questioning whether he was testing her or simply being cheap. Keep reading to uncover the details of this proposal fail, Pandas.
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Finding the perfect ring for a proposal can be quite the challenge
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One woman shared her concerns online after her boyfriend proposed with a $38 Temu ring
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The author also shared insights into their relationship, revealing more details about her boyfriend and the dynamic between them
Finding the right ring for your partner can be quite expensive
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When you’re ready to take your relationship to the next level, planning that unforgettable proposal is a big deal. To make the moment truly special, picking out the perfect engagement ring is a must.
However, splurging on a dazzling diamond can be a major expense. According to The Knot’s 2023 Jewelry and Engagement Study, the average cost of an engagement ring hovers around $5,500.
But that doesn’t mean you need to break the bank to find something that’s both beautiful and meaningful. Nearly half of those surveyed spend between $1,000 and $4,000 on their rings, and a surprising 9% manage to find lovely options for under $1,000.
Whether you’re dreaming of a simple band or a sparkling rock, the key is to set a budget that fits your financial situation. Shannon Delany-Ron, CMO for online diamond retailer James Allen, advises establishing a budget first. “This will guide all your decisions moving forward. It’s important to know how much you’re willing to spend,” she says.
“From there, think about your priorities. Are you aiming for a high-quality diamond? Will you sacrifice some quality for a larger stone? Are you opting for a minimalist band or something more elaborate?”
Understanding the 4Cs —cut, color, clarity, and carat of a diamond —can also help you make smart choices. For instance, the cut of a diamond can impact its sparkle, while the color grade, ranging from D (colorless) to Z, affects its value.
If a person puts in the effort, they can find the perfect ring without breaking the bank
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If you are on a tight budget, you could consider alternatives. For instance, lab-grown diamonds are trending in 2024. They offer a more affordable option, typically 50% to 70% less than natural diamonds. Moissanite, another lab-created gem that sparkles brilliantly, is also a good option when you can’t spend big bucks.
Ultimately, the goal is to find a ring that symbolizes your love and commitment. In this particular incident, the author’s boyfriend chose a ring that seemed less than thoughtful. Additionally, he didn’t even bother to address her concerns. Would you accept such a ring, or would you have reservations? Share your thoughts on this proposal dilemma.
Many people were less than impressed with the woman’s boyfriend choice of ring 
A few felt the author was being unfair for disliking the ring only after finding out its price
The woman also expressed her concerns about the ring’s quality to her boyfriend
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The author eventually tried to de-escalate the situation, only to become more frustrated with her boyfriend’s attitude
What do you think ?
Joelle Jansen 1 year ago
The fact that this dude is essentially like "I don't want to talk about this anymore, so the problem is now over" is a red flag to me.
A S Mora 1 year ago
Yeah, that's the kind of c**p my mom pulls on my poor dad, and that fool bought his own wedding band (told him not to marry that cow).
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TribbleThinking 1 year ago
It's not the $38. It's the $38 from Temu. If MrTribble got me a $10 ring from a flea market stall because he genuinely loved it, I'd be thrilled. Getting it from Temu says "It may poison you, I don't care, it will probably not last, I don't care", and most importantly, "I see you're upset and want reassurance, I don't care". So, he's telling you the terms on which he has graciously offered his hand in marriage. And THAT'S THE MESSAGE he's delivered, which is why he's so content with himself.
Cronecast AtTheRisingMoon 1 year ago
Plus, there's just this gigantic gap between insisting that someone prove they love you with some big, showy purchase and getting quite literally the cheapest hunk of junk he can get his hands on and then blaming her for feeling completely and obviously treated as having no true worth. That "our doordash cost more" was like a gut punch for how it must have felt to her. So, pretty clearly she shouldn't marry a guy who can't see that rejecting possibly poisonous junk is actually rational and a good boundary. Plus, it's going to look like cloudy, cheap trash after two weeks of normal hand washing. And "buy your own ring" really should lead to "I will, from my own apartment where I will be celebrating being single" because he's mad at her when he's behaving poorly. I know couples who got engaged with gumball machine rings because that was what they could afford. But that isn't what happened here. He tried to pretend it was a normal, higher quality ring. Huge red flag.
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Falafal salad 1 year ago (edited)
There was a documentary I watched recently that ran tests on jewellery sold on temu, and they often contained illegally high levels of lead that is dangerous to human health. So I would be returning the ring.
Binky Melnik 1 year ago
I saw that. All the things she used to determine the metal content are on my shopping list now! Was shocked that a few were genuine (good) metals; the mixing things up made me think I won’t buy jewelry from Temu. My sister has Temu jewelry she looooves but aren’t worn daily so they’ll likely wear out MUCH more slowly. That sounds like a good deal to me, having jewelry you love that you think is gorgeous and that you spent so very little on … until the coating rubs off, your skin turns black or green where it’s in contact with the metal, and the stone is cloudy, but if they’re selling good(-ish) stuff AND junk, I’m not interested in taking the risk that I’ll get lead (or gallium arsenide) (the GA was a joke! It’s too expensive for Temu to use it 🤣). (Jewelry-making is my hobby anyway, so I can make lotsa stuff rather than buying it.) I’m all for cheap but MEANINGFUL jewelry, and that includes engagement rings. If it was $10 but you searched like crazy for the perfect ring, then YAHOO!
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SirWriteALot 1 year ago
A $20 ring from a beach vendor while on vacation would be more romantic than temu wannabe-fancy c**p. I get the feeling this guy has no sense of quality AND has limited empathy. Things that one can work with ... but "buy your own ring" is downright nasty.
StarCrossedFriday 1 year ago (edited)
I hate the insinuation that she only cares that it’s not “valuable” enough. I mean, no, the ring doesn’t have to cost tens of thousands - I saw mine in the window of a jewellery store in town and it was something like €138 - but there’s a difference between that and a piece of junk that will likely break within a year, especially when there’s no financial reason for it. As for telling her she can ‘buy her own ring and pay for it [her]self’ and his dismissal of her issues with it, he’s not exactly showing her how much he values her or her feelings. I’d be worried about marrying someone like this too.
UpupaEpops 1 year ago
The cheek on the guy. Yeah I want to get married but it's either scrap metal or you get your own ring. Like, f**k off.
Alexandra 1 year ago
People seem to forget that buying from Temu means that you support the use of forced labour from the Uyghur minority under terrible working conditions. The same goes for Shein. Also, Temu products are more often than not hazardous to your health. Why buy the woman you profess to love a ring that might be poisonous and that's made by someone in fear of their life? Also, him dictating that the problem is over is a red flag the size of China.She did well not to marry this man.
Matthew Barabas 1 year ago
i disagree that buying something from a company = automatic support for the atrocities they may or may not even do. id be more inclined to blame the government for these conditions, not the companies.
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Cam 1 year ago
Even putting aside the whole thing that it's from Temu, I think what actually hurts isn't the low cost. It's the fact that he tried to cover it up. He got a 40$ ring, and tried to pass it off as something much more valuable. I think the part that actually hurts is that he lied. And each time he was pressed on his lie, he fled the conversation. Trust takes a lot of time to be built, and a moment to be broken. And his avoidance is rapidly breaking that trust even more. That's what's hurting her, not the value of the ring.
Royal Stray 1 year ago
The problem isn't the price it's that he got it from Temu, he didn't even pop down to his local jeweler and get one for the same price or spent time picking something out that he though she would like. He got one with high ratings of Temu. Like at that point just don't get a ring and propose anyway.
Joelle Jansen 1 year ago
The fact that this dude is essentially like "I don't want to talk about this anymore, so the problem is now over" is a red flag to me.
A S Mora 1 year ago
Yeah, that's the kind of c**p my mom pulls on my poor dad, and that fool bought his own wedding band (told him not to marry that cow).
Load More Replies... TribbleThinking 1 year ago
It's not the $38. It's the $38 from Temu. If MrTribble got me a $10 ring from a flea market stall because he genuinely loved it, I'd be thrilled. Getting it from Temu says "It may poison you, I don't care, it will probably not last, I don't care", and most importantly, "I see you're upset and want reassurance, I don't care". So, he's telling you the terms on which he has graciously offered his hand in marriage. And THAT'S THE MESSAGE he's delivered, which is why he's so content with himself.
Cronecast AtTheRisingMoon 1 year ago
Plus, there's just this gigantic gap between insisting that someone prove they love you with some big, showy purchase and getting quite literally the cheapest hunk of junk he can get his hands on and then blaming her for feeling completely and obviously treated as having no true worth. That "our doordash cost more" was like a gut punch for how it must have felt to her. So, pretty clearly she shouldn't marry a guy who can't see that rejecting possibly poisonous junk is actually rational and a good boundary. Plus, it's going to look like cloudy, cheap trash after two weeks of normal hand washing. And "buy your own ring" really should lead to "I will, from my own apartment where I will be celebrating being single" because he's mad at her when he's behaving poorly. I know couples who got engaged with gumball machine rings because that was what they could afford. But that isn't what happened here. He tried to pretend it was a normal, higher quality ring. Huge red flag.
Load More Replies... Falafal salad 1 year ago (edited)
There was a documentary I watched recently that ran tests on jewellery sold on temu, and they often contained illegally high levels of lead that is dangerous to human health. So I would be returning the ring.
Binky Melnik 1 year ago
I saw that. All the things she used to determine the metal content are on my shopping list now! Was shocked that a few were genuine (good) metals; the mixing things up made me think I won’t buy jewelry from Temu. My sister has Temu jewelry she looooves but aren’t worn daily so they’ll likely wear out MUCH more slowly. That sounds like a good deal to me, having jewelry you love that you think is gorgeous and that you spent so very little on … until the coating rubs off, your skin turns black or green where it’s in contact with the metal, and the stone is cloudy, but if they’re selling good(-ish) stuff AND junk, I’m not interested in taking the risk that I’ll get lead (or gallium arsenide) (the GA was a joke! It’s too expensive for Temu to use it 🤣). (Jewelry-making is my hobby anyway, so I can make lotsa stuff rather than buying it.) I’m all for cheap but MEANINGFUL jewelry, and that includes engagement rings. If it was $10 but you searched like crazy for the perfect ring, then YAHOO!
Load More Replies... SirWriteALot 1 year ago
A $20 ring from a beach vendor while on vacation would be more romantic than temu wannabe-fancy c**p. I get the feeling this guy has no sense of quality AND has limited empathy. Things that one can work with ... but "buy your own ring" is downright nasty.
StarCrossedFriday 1 year ago (edited)
I hate the insinuation that she only cares that it’s not “valuable” enough. I mean, no, the ring doesn’t have to cost tens of thousands - I saw mine in the window of a jewellery store in town and it was something like €138 - but there’s a difference between that and a piece of junk that will likely break within a year, especially when there’s no financial reason for it. As for telling her she can ‘buy her own ring and pay for it [her]self’ and his dismissal of her issues with it, he’s not exactly showing her how much he values her or her feelings. I’d be worried about marrying someone like this too.
UpupaEpops 1 year ago
The cheek on the guy. Yeah I want to get married but it's either scrap metal or you get your own ring. Like, f**k off.
Alexandra 1 year ago
People seem to forget that buying from Temu means that you support the use of forced labour from the Uyghur minority under terrible working conditions. The same goes for Shein. Also, Temu products are more often than not hazardous to your health. Why buy the woman you profess to love a ring that might be poisonous and that's made by someone in fear of their life? Also, him dictating that the problem is over is a red flag the size of China.She did well not to marry this man.
Matthew Barabas 1 year ago
i disagree that buying something from a company = automatic support for the atrocities they may or may not even do. id be more inclined to blame the government for these conditions, not the companies.
Load More Replies... Cam 1 year ago
Even putting aside the whole thing that it's from Temu, I think what actually hurts isn't the low cost. It's the fact that he tried to cover it up. He got a 40$ ring, and tried to pass it off as something much more valuable. I think the part that actually hurts is that he lied. And each time he was pressed on his lie, he fled the conversation. Trust takes a lot of time to be built, and a moment to be broken. And his avoidance is rapidly breaking that trust even more. That's what's hurting her, not the value of the ring.
Royal Stray 1 year ago
The problem isn't the price it's that he got it from Temu, he didn't even pop down to his local jeweler and get one for the same price or spent time picking something out that he though she would like. He got one with high ratings of Temu. Like at that point just don't get a ring and propose anyway.
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