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Man Wants To Use His Fiancée For Her Finances, She Walks Out After Seeing Through His Intentions
Imagine you’re dating the love of your life, everything feels perfect, and suddenly your dream proposal comes with a side of financial shock therapy.
If you’ve ever wondered how wealth can complicate even the most romantic of relationships, this story might make you reconsider who you really want by your side. Today’s Original Poster (OP) thought she was in a solid relationship, until money entered the chat.
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The author, who inherited millions, kept her lifestyle modest, while her fiancé, who earned a good income, moved into her house and began pushing for a larger home purchase
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When she disclosed her true financial situation, he expected her to cover everything, while she proposed separate finances, proportional contributions, and a prenup
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Tensions escalated when he demanded she buy a house in both their names, even without his contribution, and issued an ultimatum tying it to their engagement
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She refused, ended the engagement, and asked him to move out, believing he valued her money over the relationship
The OP inherited a fortune three years ago, but she didn’t let it define her lifestyle. She works part-time as a teacher, budgets carefully, travels, and even runs a nonprofit. Only her closest family knows the full extent of her wealth. However, she’s disciplined when it comes to her money and lives below her means.
Her fiancé earns a respectable income of about $10,000 per month with $100,000 in savings. However, when he moved into her house, the disparity became glaring. The couple initially agreed on a plan for joint living, but the turning point came when she disclosed her millions in investments and steady monthly income.
Her fiancé was shocked and then insisted she should buy a new house outright and cover everything, while she suggested separate finances, a joint account for shared expenses, and proportional contributions based on income. She also requested a prenup, but that was when things escalated.
Her fiancé argued for equal partnership, meaning she would buy the house in both their names, effectively giving him half of her assets without contributing. Tensions spiraled into days of fights, and eventually, the fiancé issued an ultimatum: either she agreed to his terms or the relationship was over.
She chose to protect her finances, ending the engagement and asking him to move out. He accused her of prioritizing money over love, but she felt he had crossed a boundary by demanding she bankroll their life together.
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Life coach Nancy Levin highlights the importance of establishing financial boundaries in romantic relationships. According to Levin, this includes maintaining privacy and deciding how much financial information to share, setting spending limits, and clearly defining each partner’s roles and responsibilities regarding money.
A form of financial boundaries is a prenup, as the OP suggested. Keystone Law explains that prenuptial agreements are an effective tool for protecting personal and family wealth by clearly defining asset ownership and distribution before marriage.
Prenups ensure that premarital assets especially, such as inheritances, family heirlooms, and business interests, remain with their original owner, while also managing debt responsibilities so one spouse is not burdened by the other’s liabilities. They can outline how assets acquired during the marriage or expected in the future, like trusts or business growth, will be handled.
However, Wealth Counsel highlights certain misconceptions about prenups, including the fact that prenups signal distrust. They explain that they mostly promote open financial planning and transparency between partners. They also provide a structured way to protect assets and prevent contentious disputes over property or finances if the marriage were to end.
Netizens sided with the OP, praising her for protecting her finances and refusing to give in to her fiancé’s ultimatums. They framed his behavior as manipulative and opportunistic, and also pointed out that financial disputes are a major cause of relationship breakdowns and that she avoided long-term regret by setting boundaries.
What do you think about this situation? Do you think the OP overreacted by ending the engagement, or was it justified? We would love to know your thoughts!
Netizens insisted that the author wasn’t wrong and praised her for choosing to protect her finances over her engagement
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Jesse Corder 3 months ago
He may have not started as a gold digger, but then he discovered there was gold to be dug.
Zoe Vokes 2 months ago
He said “he might be vulnerable to financial abųse.” If he thinks OP is the kind of person who would do that then why do you want to marry her? I can’t believe how much money he earns and has saved up and he’s supposedly worried about financial a***e. That is so clearly B.S.
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Alexandra 3 months ago
It's simple. Even if he explains why he did what he did and apologized, it still shows you that he could come up with that ultimatum where other people would not. If you still hesitate, don't get married: just continue the way you do now. Let him tread water for a bit.
Vinnie 3 months ago (edited)
The OP's boyfriend's ultimatum showed him willing to throw out the relationship. People in similar situations have shown that they were willing to bring something to the table (such as hard work, being easy to live with, etc.). One my relatives and one of my in-laws dealt with financial differences by helping the well-off spouse with business. Neither acted as if they had won the lottery and were fighting to claim the money.
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Shelley Colleen 2 months ago
Unless she has literally seen his paystubs and bank statements with her own eyes, I'd bet good money that A) he's lying about his income and B) his so-called "savings" are most likely an account funded by his father. He's almost a decade older than her so he probably saw her as easy prey. I'd guess this whole relationship was based on him knowing she had *some* amount of money but didn't know how much. When he found out the jackpot amount, he schemed a whole way to try to cash in on her.
R Dennis 2 months ago
There's an old saying: "Money makes people funny." I will never understand wanting other people's stuff. When my wife and I got together, we were both broke-broke. Whenever one of us got more, our team was winning. At first, I made 2-3 times what she did. Eventually, she not only caught me, but lapped me! People asked if it was emasculating, I asked why would our team winning emasculate me? If we had to come together at different financial levels, I would not want "her" stuff, I would be interested in "our" stuff. Him pulling a ridiculous ultimatum to get her stuff is a bad sign.
Sabrina 3 months ago
Even with the prenup, should she pass away, will everything she owns be passed to him? I don't want to be negative, but if he is that evil enough to do it like k**l her and make it look like accident instead.
Miriam Insidecor 2 months ago
OP is gullible. She shouldn't even be considering staying with him.
Grumpy old man 2 months ago
Women have done this throughout history! Bill Beliicheks "gf" Kardassians, Anna Nicole. Now that the gender reverses, you see how bad behavior really is. I'm single and un married for legit reasons. Martha Stewart married a rich lawyer, divorced him, took half his money and you know. Is Martha bad? So many Asian women are looking for rich American husbands. Are they bad?
KatSaidWhat 1 month ago
Yeah, not so many Asians wanting today's American dream, lol. One thing social media has done is take the rose tint off a lot of glasses.
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Lily 1 month ago
Everything changes when it comes to money. You have to protect yourself. Can’t even tell you how many women have been swindled. I know of a woman in similar situation and lost over a million dollars that he manipulated her into buying a house, he got it, she lost it. Protect yourself finances, protect yourself. This isn’t about love, this is about them getting their grabby hands on yours.
LongFang 1 month ago
My (now ex) wife new i'd inherit before i did.... Good thing, she cheated & we divorced before the inheritance. Now i know why she said she'd never sign the papers... uh, "lady", maybe that work where you came from, not here... My retirement is insured, my sweet, loving, kind hearted kid's future too. Cheeky little s.....
Kristy Mcren 2 months ago
i honestly had one of these guys…. let’s just say not my problem anymore and soon enough the truth will speak after their marriage
iseefractals 2 months ago
lol. Go on youtube and take a look at the endless stream of young women and their expectations of men to be considered a viable "partner" The height, the body, the bank account, the spending, the travel....and never does it seem to enter into the conversation what is expected of them, or what they "bring to the table" but the expectation is that they're a team and what's his is ours. No one blinks, no one takes issue....and should that relationship end regardless of who is responsible "girl you take him for er'ryting" And any man that calls that out as the entitled, delusion BS it obviously is, is treated like some kind of sexist monster.....but as soon as a woman has the money, suddenly everyone magically understands the same exact point of view to be reasonable.
Jesse Corder 3 months ago
He may have not started as a gold digger, but then he discovered there was gold to be dug.
Zoe Vokes 2 months ago
He said “he might be vulnerable to financial abųse.” If he thinks OP is the kind of person who would do that then why do you want to marry her? I can’t believe how much money he earns and has saved up and he’s supposedly worried about financial a***e. That is so clearly B.S.
Load More Replies... Alexandra 3 months ago
It's simple. Even if he explains why he did what he did and apologized, it still shows you that he could come up with that ultimatum where other people would not. If you still hesitate, don't get married: just continue the way you do now. Let him tread water for a bit.
Vinnie 3 months ago (edited)
The OP's boyfriend's ultimatum showed him willing to throw out the relationship. People in similar situations have shown that they were willing to bring something to the table (such as hard work, being easy to live with, etc.). One my relatives and one of my in-laws dealt with financial differences by helping the well-off spouse with business. Neither acted as if they had won the lottery and were fighting to claim the money.
Load More Replies... Shelley Colleen 2 months ago
Unless she has literally seen his paystubs and bank statements with her own eyes, I'd bet good money that A) he's lying about his income and B) his so-called "savings" are most likely an account funded by his father. He's almost a decade older than her so he probably saw her as easy prey. I'd guess this whole relationship was based on him knowing she had *some* amount of money but didn't know how much. When he found out the jackpot amount, he schemed a whole way to try to cash in on her.
R Dennis 2 months ago
There's an old saying: "Money makes people funny." I will never understand wanting other people's stuff. When my wife and I got together, we were both broke-broke. Whenever one of us got more, our team was winning. At first, I made 2-3 times what she did. Eventually, she not only caught me, but lapped me! People asked if it was emasculating, I asked why would our team winning emasculate me? If we had to come together at different financial levels, I would not want "her" stuff, I would be interested in "our" stuff. Him pulling a ridiculous ultimatum to get her stuff is a bad sign.
Sabrina 3 months ago
Even with the prenup, should she pass away, will everything she owns be passed to him? I don't want to be negative, but if he is that evil enough to do it like k**l her and make it look like accident instead.
Miriam Insidecor 2 months ago
OP is gullible. She shouldn't even be considering staying with him.
Grumpy old man 2 months ago
Women have done this throughout history! Bill Beliicheks "gf" Kardassians, Anna Nicole. Now that the gender reverses, you see how bad behavior really is. I'm single and un married for legit reasons. Martha Stewart married a rich lawyer, divorced him, took half his money and you know. Is Martha bad? So many Asian women are looking for rich American husbands. Are they bad?
KatSaidWhat 1 month ago
Yeah, not so many Asians wanting today's American dream, lol. One thing social media has done is take the rose tint off a lot of glasses.
Load More Replies... Lily 1 month ago
Everything changes when it comes to money. You have to protect yourself. Can’t even tell you how many women have been swindled. I know of a woman in similar situation and lost over a million dollars that he manipulated her into buying a house, he got it, she lost it. Protect yourself finances, protect yourself. This isn’t about love, this is about them getting their grabby hands on yours.
LongFang 1 month ago
My (now ex) wife new i'd inherit before i did.... Good thing, she cheated & we divorced before the inheritance. Now i know why she said she'd never sign the papers... uh, "lady", maybe that work where you came from, not here... My retirement is insured, my sweet, loving, kind hearted kid's future too. Cheeky little s.....
Kristy Mcren 2 months ago
i honestly had one of these guys…. let’s just say not my problem anymore and soon enough the truth will speak after their marriage
iseefractals 2 months ago
lol. Go on youtube and take a look at the endless stream of young women and their expectations of men to be considered a viable "partner" The height, the body, the bank account, the spending, the travel....and never does it seem to enter into the conversation what is expected of them, or what they "bring to the table" but the expectation is that they're a team and what's his is ours. No one blinks, no one takes issue....and should that relationship end regardless of who is responsible "girl you take him for er'ryting" And any man that calls that out as the entitled, delusion BS it obviously is, is treated like some kind of sexist monster.....but as soon as a woman has the money, suddenly everyone magically understands the same exact point of view to be reasonable.
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