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Man Gives A Crystal Clear Explanation On Why Men Need Feminism

Man Gives A Crystal Clear Explanation On Why Men Need Feminism

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Sometimes, just saying the word “feminism” can scare a man. But TikTok user @comradekam thinks that shouldn’t be the case.

Instead of avoiding and opposing feminism, he says men should embrace and support it.

In a recent video, Comrade Kam explains that the patriarchy is abusing everyone, including males, so they should also be inclined to take it down. Which is what feminism is all about.

As of today, the recording in which Comrade Kam shares these thoughts already has over 1.2 million views, and many people believe he builds a pretty convincing case. What do you think? Tell us in the comments.

Recently, a TikTok on toxic masculinity went viral

@comradekamMen need feminism ##feminist ##feminism ##feminista ##feministas ##feminismo ##patriarchy ##misogyny ##toxicmasculinity ##bottledupemotions♬ original sound – ☭ Your Local Commie ☭

Image credits: comradekam

Image credits: comradekam

As we pointed out in our article on men’s and women’s rights, even though men dominate key institutions such as government, politics, management, trade unions, churches, they still endure considerable marginalization as evidenced in higher rates of suicide, psychiatric illness, and alcoholism than women.

Toxic masculinity, something many call a byproduct of our society, requires men to suppress emotions or mask distress. It champions a rugged appearance and promotes violence as an indicator of power. It’s been called the result of teaching boys that they can’t express emotion openly, that they have to be “tough” all the time, and that anything other than that makes them “feminine”—weak.

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According to the American Psychological Association (APA), these cultural lessons have been linked to “aggression and violence,” leaving boys and men at “disproportionate risk for school discipline, academic challenges and health disparities,” including cardiovascular problems and substance abuse.

And a man used it to explain why men need feminism

Image credits: comradekam

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“Men are overrepresented in prisons, are more likely than women to commit violent crimes, and are at greatest risk of being a victim of violent crime,” the American Psychological Association (APA) added.

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Pamela Sue Anderson, who was an American philosopher specializing in philosophy of religion, feminist philosophy, and continental philosophy, said a major obstacle inherent in patriarchy remains its barely perceptible reality for all of those women and men whose lives have been decisively ordered by the rule of the father.

One thing men definitely can learn from feminism is standing up for themselves. How far they want to go is up to them.

Here’s what people said after watching his video

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jlkooiker avatar
lenka
Community Member
2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When women's health is raised the retort is often "what about men's suicide rates". Well, I am glad you bought that up.... imagine a world in which men were not bearing the burden of being a "real man" and were able to express thier emotions and tap into support networks. They might be free to, gee, I don't know... thrive? Feminists have been saying this and advocating for men for years, its just that many men dont listen until another man says it.

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Roland
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2 years ago

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And for the record. There are in this country I live no feminists who are actually a benefit for anyone but themselves.

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Ozacoter
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wonder once more where are the misogyns that roam BP and complain loudy when we have posts about women saying "when will they do posts about men?". Suddenly when there are positive posts about mens problems they are nowhere to be seen. Almost as if they didnt truly cared for other men in the first place and were using their problems to silence women...

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Dale
Community Member
2 years ago (edited)

This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

But let's be honest this post isnt about men, it's about why men should support feminists who in turn support men.....

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Natalie Kudryashova
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is an important topic. I’ve met so many men, and some women, who think that feminism is basically a female version of patriarchy.

stephyg1980 avatar
Ms.GB
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If a man never cries or shows his feelings that is a red flag for me, it makes me think that he doesn't have emotional intelligence and when that type of growth is stunted it usually comes out as coldness or violence.

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Biljana Malesevic
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Feminism benefits men in many way. Also, it's much better for man to be with woman who choses to be with him and wants to be with him, than with woman who must stay with him because otherwise, she will literally starve. When we are equal we have less fears, we are less oppressed and we are happier. We can contribute to relationship in many ways from both sides and that's a good thing. People confuse feminism with some minor groups of first world women who openly hate men. That's not it, it shouldn't be. Feminism is not about hate, it's about free will and equal rights. It's about treating women as humans not objects that serve men. And it's good for men too, I have met so many men who like smart women who challenge them and make them better persons.

misstiwari92 avatar
BetterBitterButter
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Men need feminism too. Because the toxicity of patriarchy hurts them too. Because just like society should not restrict and set unrealistic rules to be followed by women, society should not do the same with men. Because there is no one way to be a he/she/they. Because there is just one life and it would be really pathetic if one cannot be their true self and remain suffocated by the wrong/narrow definitions and expectations. Because every life is precious and needs to be treated that way.

jerry-mathers-73 avatar
Jerry Mathers
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it's the label that's tripping up the guys. They need to term it Equalatist or something of that nature. They still need to keep (and implement more) programs that help level the playing field for women, mind you. But I think you'd get a better image out of that. Make the slogan something like " all humans, regardless of any physical difference, have the basic human right to be treated with respect, dignity, and compassion". Then the chuckleheads would have to loudly squawk "I'm not a Equalatist, I'm a boy!!!" It gives a more accurate picture of both what feminism is and what those who oppose it stand for.

andreavilarmelego avatar
Ozacoter
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sadly the misogyns have taken the name "egalitarian" for themselves. They pretend that they want equality when they want to keep the opressive current and past norms

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I I
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

s**t i have male friends i have openly cried with , death of a friend was the last time , time before that my mate had his first kid , we cried like babies , call me gay or a girl all you like , i'll cry some more for you

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Rosidah Yahya
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

so many truth, but how many men willing to listen and change? The world probably need 50 more years... pray for the next generation ?

nikkiowens avatar
Nikki Owens
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd like to know who turned "patriarchy", i.e. governance by fathers, into a bad word. Patriarchy is just an organic form of human social organization. It can be healthy & efficacious, or it can be unhealthy & dysfunctional. So who turned "patriarchy" into a dirty word?

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LivingTheDream
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In my experience, it depends on what type of feminism. I grew up being raised by very independent women and was taught to open doors, protect and cherish them. That being said, I was also taught to expect a woman to be able to hold her own. A partner, not a child or victim. Lately, it seems the most vocal "Feminists" are just man-haters who think all men are abusive pricks that screw anything that moves. Patriarchy has become a word associated with hate. I have two daughters that are strong independent women and I laugh when boys are dumfounded that they take no s**t and get kicked to the curb. They also are kind, loving and respectful and would never yell and scream at a stranger simply because he was born with a penis.

abualhaijamohammad199 avatar
Jared West
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Us males do support feminism, but we only support feminists that want equality to all genders, not the feminists who hate on men. I follow the religion of Islam. My prophet is Muhammad ibn Abdullah (peace and blessings be upon him), while my holy book is the Quran. The prophet (pbbuh) preached equality to all people, regardless of gender, wealth, health, age, or race. So does the Quran. (The name "Muhammad" is not pronounced Moe-hawm-med. It's Muh-ham-muhd. Muslim is not Muzz-lim. It's Muss-lim. Quran isn't Core-ran. It's Quh-rahn.)

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elStiJneriNO
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

wow, this guy explained it for the first time on a coherent way!!! this!!! we do all need feminisme

abualhaijamohammad199 avatar
Jared West
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who the f**k downvoted my comment?! Is it a crime to mention your religion in your comments?

stijn_vlas avatar
elStiJneriNO
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

it's not a crime to downvote people either. it's a sign of disagreement (downvoting this for the f**k )

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spinningBOX VR Studios
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

it seems like we enjoy putting labels on anything. i don't know who this guy is learning patriarchy from, because i never heard anything about men shouldn't show emotions or be vulnerable.

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DaRe JoJo
Community Member
2 years ago

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I think the whole "don't cry" ethos isn't really "don't cry EVER" it's "don't cry over little stuff and don't cry often". To the extent boys are taught to never emote, that's wrong. But on the other side of that is a real and good lesson that "if a family member or friend dies and you cry, that's fine. if you spill your milk and you cry, that's not fine. Have your emotions, sure. But in the heat of the moment don't let your emotions cloud your judgment or stop you from doing what needs to be done." These lessons are gender-neutral BTW. The same rules stated above apply to women too. It's really about being a stable adult who feels emotions but isn't dominated by them. Somewhere along the line this nuanced lesson became understood as "men no cry ever. men no show emotion. emotion for women and emotion bad!"

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Truth Monster
Community Member
2 years ago

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Its more important to be an actual liberal than a feminist. Advocating for rights is great, but if its not rooted in the idea of individualism, self-determinism and equal treatment under the law then you are just as bad or worse as the patriarchy, because you are merely changing one form of oppression for another.

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Brett Connor
Community Member
2 years ago

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This is entirely based on your astrology sign. Has nothing to do with Feminism or any other mental health issue similar to it. I'm a Pisces male and I do cry when watching some movies or something affects me in a touching way.

notyouagain1986 avatar
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JaniceHurlburt
Community Member
2 years ago

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Google paid for all online work from home from $ 16,000 to $ 32,000 a month. The younger brother was out of work for three months and a month ago her check was $ 32475, working at home for 4 hours a day, and earning could be even bigger….................................................So I started........☛ W­W­W.P­A­Y­B­U­Z­Z­1.C­O­M

jlkooiker avatar
lenka
Community Member
2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When women's health is raised the retort is often "what about men's suicide rates". Well, I am glad you bought that up.... imagine a world in which men were not bearing the burden of being a "real man" and were able to express thier emotions and tap into support networks. They might be free to, gee, I don't know... thrive? Feminists have been saying this and advocating for men for years, its just that many men dont listen until another man says it.

rolandkreslin avatar
Roland
Community Member
2 years ago

This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

And for the record. There are in this country I live no feminists who are actually a benefit for anyone but themselves.

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andreavilarmelego avatar
Ozacoter
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wonder once more where are the misogyns that roam BP and complain loudy when we have posts about women saying "when will they do posts about men?". Suddenly when there are positive posts about mens problems they are nowhere to be seen. Almost as if they didnt truly cared for other men in the first place and were using their problems to silence women...

daleeason9137 avatar
Dale
Community Member
2 years ago (edited)

This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

But let's be honest this post isnt about men, it's about why men should support feminists who in turn support men.....

Load More Replies...
nat17yes avatar
Natalie Kudryashova
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is an important topic. I’ve met so many men, and some women, who think that feminism is basically a female version of patriarchy.

stephyg1980 avatar
Ms.GB
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If a man never cries or shows his feelings that is a red flag for me, it makes me think that he doesn't have emotional intelligence and when that type of growth is stunted it usually comes out as coldness or violence.

biljanamalesevic avatar
Biljana Malesevic
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Feminism benefits men in many way. Also, it's much better for man to be with woman who choses to be with him and wants to be with him, than with woman who must stay with him because otherwise, she will literally starve. When we are equal we have less fears, we are less oppressed and we are happier. We can contribute to relationship in many ways from both sides and that's a good thing. People confuse feminism with some minor groups of first world women who openly hate men. That's not it, it shouldn't be. Feminism is not about hate, it's about free will and equal rights. It's about treating women as humans not objects that serve men. And it's good for men too, I have met so many men who like smart women who challenge them and make them better persons.

misstiwari92 avatar
BetterBitterButter
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Men need feminism too. Because the toxicity of patriarchy hurts them too. Because just like society should not restrict and set unrealistic rules to be followed by women, society should not do the same with men. Because there is no one way to be a he/she/they. Because there is just one life and it would be really pathetic if one cannot be their true self and remain suffocated by the wrong/narrow definitions and expectations. Because every life is precious and needs to be treated that way.

jerry-mathers-73 avatar
Jerry Mathers
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it's the label that's tripping up the guys. They need to term it Equalatist or something of that nature. They still need to keep (and implement more) programs that help level the playing field for women, mind you. But I think you'd get a better image out of that. Make the slogan something like " all humans, regardless of any physical difference, have the basic human right to be treated with respect, dignity, and compassion". Then the chuckleheads would have to loudly squawk "I'm not a Equalatist, I'm a boy!!!" It gives a more accurate picture of both what feminism is and what those who oppose it stand for.

andreavilarmelego avatar
Ozacoter
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sadly the misogyns have taken the name "egalitarian" for themselves. They pretend that they want equality when they want to keep the opressive current and past norms

Load More Replies...
ii_3 avatar
I I
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

s**t i have male friends i have openly cried with , death of a friend was the last time , time before that my mate had his first kid , we cried like babies , call me gay or a girl all you like , i'll cry some more for you

rosidah_yahya avatar
Rosidah Yahya
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

so many truth, but how many men willing to listen and change? The world probably need 50 more years... pray for the next generation ?

nikkiowens avatar
Nikki Owens
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd like to know who turned "patriarchy", i.e. governance by fathers, into a bad word. Patriarchy is just an organic form of human social organization. It can be healthy & efficacious, or it can be unhealthy & dysfunctional. So who turned "patriarchy" into a dirty word?

scotrutherford avatar
LivingTheDream
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In my experience, it depends on what type of feminism. I grew up being raised by very independent women and was taught to open doors, protect and cherish them. That being said, I was also taught to expect a woman to be able to hold her own. A partner, not a child or victim. Lately, it seems the most vocal "Feminists" are just man-haters who think all men are abusive pricks that screw anything that moves. Patriarchy has become a word associated with hate. I have two daughters that are strong independent women and I laugh when boys are dumfounded that they take no s**t and get kicked to the curb. They also are kind, loving and respectful and would never yell and scream at a stranger simply because he was born with a penis.

abualhaijamohammad199 avatar
Jared West
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Us males do support feminism, but we only support feminists that want equality to all genders, not the feminists who hate on men. I follow the religion of Islam. My prophet is Muhammad ibn Abdullah (peace and blessings be upon him), while my holy book is the Quran. The prophet (pbbuh) preached equality to all people, regardless of gender, wealth, health, age, or race. So does the Quran. (The name "Muhammad" is not pronounced Moe-hawm-med. It's Muh-ham-muhd. Muslim is not Muzz-lim. It's Muss-lim. Quran isn't Core-ran. It's Quh-rahn.)

stijn_vlas avatar
elStiJneriNO
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

wow, this guy explained it for the first time on a coherent way!!! this!!! we do all need feminisme

abualhaijamohammad199 avatar
Jared West
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who the f**k downvoted my comment?! Is it a crime to mention your religion in your comments?

stijn_vlas avatar
elStiJneriNO
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

it's not a crime to downvote people either. it's a sign of disagreement (downvoting this for the f**k )

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spinningboxvrstudios avatar
spinningBOX VR Studios
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

it seems like we enjoy putting labels on anything. i don't know who this guy is learning patriarchy from, because i never heard anything about men shouldn't show emotions or be vulnerable.

andreavilarmelego avatar
darejojo avatar
DaRe JoJo
Community Member
2 years ago

This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

I think the whole "don't cry" ethos isn't really "don't cry EVER" it's "don't cry over little stuff and don't cry often". To the extent boys are taught to never emote, that's wrong. But on the other side of that is a real and good lesson that "if a family member or friend dies and you cry, that's fine. if you spill your milk and you cry, that's not fine. Have your emotions, sure. But in the heat of the moment don't let your emotions cloud your judgment or stop you from doing what needs to be done." These lessons are gender-neutral BTW. The same rules stated above apply to women too. It's really about being a stable adult who feels emotions but isn't dominated by them. Somewhere along the line this nuanced lesson became understood as "men no cry ever. men no show emotion. emotion for women and emotion bad!"

truthmonster00 avatar
Truth Monster
Community Member
2 years ago

This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

Its more important to be an actual liberal than a feminist. Advocating for rights is great, but if its not rooted in the idea of individualism, self-determinism and equal treatment under the law then you are just as bad or worse as the patriarchy, because you are merely changing one form of oppression for another.

brettconnor avatar
Brett Connor
Community Member
2 years ago

This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

This is entirely based on your astrology sign. Has nothing to do with Feminism or any other mental health issue similar to it. I'm a Pisces male and I do cry when watching some movies or something affects me in a touching way.

notyouagain1986 avatar
japawas905 avatar
JaniceHurlburt
Community Member
2 years ago

This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

Google paid for all online work from home from $ 16,000 to $ 32,000 a month. The younger brother was out of work for three months and a month ago her check was $ 32475, working at home for 4 hours a day, and earning could be even bigger….................................................So I started........☛ W­W­W.P­A­Y­B­U­Z­Z­1.C­O­M

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