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“She Couldn’t Handle Living With Me Anymore”: Daughter Runs Away Because Of Dad
“She Couldn’t Handle Living With Me Anymore”: Daughter Runs Away Because Of Dad
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“She Couldn’t Handle Living With Me Anymore”: Daughter Runs Away Because Of Dad

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Having children and raising them can be quite expensive even if you’re thrifty. It can be a real shock for new parents. But that’s the reality of the situation. You have to come to terms with the fact that your expenses will skyrocket in areas you might not even have considered.

One anonymous dad got dragged online after sharing how he wanted to cut costs and bought one of his daughters cheap shampoo and conditioner. In response, she ran away from home. Scroll down to read the full story, a very important update, as well as to see what the internet had to say about the dad’s actions.

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    One dad angered the internet after sharing how he ‘punished’ his daughter by buying her cheap hair products

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    It can be very expensive to raise kids in this day and age

    The story runs deeper than just expensive versus cheap shampoo and conditioner. The author of the post spilled the tea that he had doubts that his middle daughter was even his because she had a different type of hair, for which she needed special hair products.

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    The dad admitted that he had trouble bonding with his daughter. He may have subconsciously tried to ‘punish’ her by buying her cheaper products.

    Alternatively, he felt that she was using the products ‘too quickly’ but didn’t do enough research to check whether his gut feeling was true or not. While it’s important not to waste resources of money, it’s also vital not to be too cheap with hair products or cosmetics, so that you don’t damage your hair or skin.

    The vast majority of the readers were shocked by the dad’s behavior. They criticized him for his approach to parenting. Meanwhile, many internet users called him out for not taking a few minutes out of his day to learn about curly hair.

    Unfortunately, the author’s account was suspended, so we were unable to reach out to him for further comments and updates.

    The reality is that raising kids will require a lot of money. According to Investopedia, based on the data from the Brookings Institution think tank, the average middle-income family with two kids will spend $310,605 to raise a child from when they were born in 2015 till when they’re 17 years old in 2032.

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    Most readers were shocked by the dad’s behavior. Here’s their take on the situation

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    However, a few people had different opinions from the majority

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    The dad later shared an update about how his daughter ran away from home to get away from him

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    Your expenses as a family will depend a lot on your lifestyle and where you live

    The costs of raising a child can vary wildly depending on where the family lives, their home type, their lifestyle, their financial goals and thriftiness, dietary preferences, childcare situation, etc.

    The biggest expense when raising kids is, unsurprisingly, housing (and definitely not shampoo and conditioner). Housing is estimated to eat up around a third of the family’s income. It includes everything from the mortgage or rent to utilities, taxes, insurance, repairs, maintenance, and household goods.

    In the meantime, food is going to cost an average of a quarter of the family’s budget. Naturally, there will be variations in this cost depending on where you live and what your diet is like.

    Someone on a thrifty food spending plan can be expected to pay an average of $975.30 per month, based on the data from October 2023. A low-cost food plan will set you back $1,059.90 per month. A moderate plan is around $1,313.60 per month. And a liberal spending plan costs around $1,585.81 per month.

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    Next, there are childcare costs to consider. These can range from 7% to 23% of the family’s annual income. Some other less obvious expenses include transportation, healthcare, insurance, clothing, family trips, hobbies, and extracurricular activities.

    However, Investopedia notes that these calculations don’t include the costs of college education. So, that $310k+ in expenses can balloon even further.

    The average annual cost for a year of in-state college at a public institution in 2023-2024 was $24,030, including tuition, fees, and room and board. Meanwhile, the average cost was $56,190 per year in a private college.

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    Jonas Grinevičius

    Jonas Grinevičius

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    Storytelling, journalism, and art are a core part of who I am. I've been writing and drawing ever since I could walk—there is nothing else I'd rather do. My formal education, however, is focused on politics, philosophy, and economics because I've always been curious about the gap between the ideal and the real.At work, I'm a Senior Writer and I cover a broad range of topics that I'm passionate about: from psychology and changes in work culture to healthy living, relationships, and design.In my spare time, I'm an avid hiker and reader, enjoy writing short stories, and love to doodle.I thrive when I'm outdoors, going on small adventures in nature. However, you can also find me enjoying a big mug of coffee with a good book (or ten) and entertaining friends with fantasy tabletop games and sci-fi movies.

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    Jonas Grinevičius

    Jonas Grinevičius

    Writer, Senior Writer

    Storytelling, journalism, and art are a core part of who I am. I've been writing and drawing ever since I could walk—there is nothing else I'd rather do. My formal education, however, is focused on politics, philosophy, and economics because I've always been curious about the gap between the ideal and the real.At work, I'm a Senior Writer and I cover a broad range of topics that I'm passionate about: from psychology and changes in work culture to healthy living, relationships, and design.In my spare time, I'm an avid hiker and reader, enjoy writing short stories, and love to doodle.I thrive when I'm outdoors, going on small adventures in nature. However, you can also find me enjoying a big mug of coffee with a good book (or ten) and entertaining friends with fantasy tabletop games and sci-fi movies.

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    Diolla
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The conditioner thing is just a symptom of the problems in this family. The girl was already planning to run away and sister helped her. That is a serious indication of problems in the family. Also OP casually mentions that wife asked him to leave but they decided he could stay. There is MUCH more to this than discussion over a bottle of conditioner which he could afford to buy. I wonder what OP is not telling us.

    Historyharlot93
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    His older daughter helped her sister run away with a very clever and thought out escape plan. My heart goes out to her and youngest sister still trapped at home.

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    IRwuzzle
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, now we know it wasn't just about the hair. I hope the aunt is a lot more loving than her parents.

    Temple
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Right? And the way his wife just suggests that he leaves their home is just evidence that the hair issue is a symptom of a much larger problem.

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    Jill Rhodry
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow, just wow! - in ten years time he'll be back complaining she's gone NC and he just can't understand why when he's soooo close to his other kids.

    HTakeover
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    10 years? I'd say a few months. Likely she's already LC and he'll probably consider it a blessing early on.

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    Orysha
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tell me I abuse my daughters without saying I'm an abuser. The best plans for these girls is to get this man out of their lives as quick as possible. There were so many red flags in his post (and the update made it worse) that I can only see everything red now.

    Marianne
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow, that escalated quickly. I have a feeling that OP was giving us a very limited view of what happened in his family.

    arthbach
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wish this child very best wishes living with her aunt. She deserves to be happy, and away from her awful father.

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Definitely OP is the biggest asswipe ever. As a parent with a child that went from wavy-straight to very wavy-curly hair, and very, very fine and full hair, it is not the same upkeep to maintain as straight hair. If it's not maintained properly, it can become more than just an aesthetic issue. The hair can become very frizzy, dry, painful and difficult to brush or comb, and it looks like the parents aren't taking care of the child, which may result in teachers and doctors bringing up their concerns about how you're caring for your child. Been there. It isn't easy if you don't know what you're doing. The daughter knows what she found works. She's 14, not 16 or an adult, her parents are not poor and can provide the hair care products she NEEDS. Her dad really needs to get over himself and his obsession about aesthetics, and genetics, that don't follow his rigid expectations. He has all the means to bond with his daughter and he will not do it. Pathetic.

    V
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ee gads. My kid has curly hair that skipped a generation, and my mum is no longer with us and I am NC with the rest of the family so we are having to learn everything from the beginning. We have had some hair care fails! But we are trying.

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    Jan
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was picked out as the scapegoat for my family by my father who made it clear all my life that he did not like me. When he told me to my face that I was always hard to love I finally got it and stopped trying to get his approval. I wish I could say that I cut off all contact but I was out of the house by then and just went gray rock with the family. Watch out here. When the abuser loses one target they will look around for another one. This girl will never forget the damage done to her.

    Becca not Becky
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No teenager would run away from a good home over hair, so there are definitely other things going on that OP didn't mention. I'm glad the girl's auntie is there for her.

    Royal Stray
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It probably has to do with the "didn't think she was mine" bit. I bet you he still treats her differently and quite poorly, he probably still looks at her and gets reminded of his insecurities and tries to deal with her as little as possible. Not to mention that he never mentions trying to catch up on lost time with her.

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    MsLou
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Since this was two years ago, I wanted to see if there were other updates to this story but his account was suspended...

    Janelle Collard
    Community Member
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Gee, I can't imagine why. ;) /s

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    Diolla
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The conditioner thing is just a symptom of the problems in this family. The girl was already planning to run away and sister helped her. That is a serious indication of problems in the family. Also OP casually mentions that wife asked him to leave but they decided he could stay. There is MUCH more to this than discussion over a bottle of conditioner which he could afford to buy. I wonder what OP is not telling us.

    Historyharlot93
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    His older daughter helped her sister run away with a very clever and thought out escape plan. My heart goes out to her and youngest sister still trapped at home.

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    IRwuzzle
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, now we know it wasn't just about the hair. I hope the aunt is a lot more loving than her parents.

    Temple
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Right? And the way his wife just suggests that he leaves their home is just evidence that the hair issue is a symptom of a much larger problem.

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    Jill Rhodry
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow, just wow! - in ten years time he'll be back complaining she's gone NC and he just can't understand why when he's soooo close to his other kids.

    HTakeover
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    10 years? I'd say a few months. Likely she's already LC and he'll probably consider it a blessing early on.

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    Orysha
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tell me I abuse my daughters without saying I'm an abuser. The best plans for these girls is to get this man out of their lives as quick as possible. There were so many red flags in his post (and the update made it worse) that I can only see everything red now.

    Marianne
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow, that escalated quickly. I have a feeling that OP was giving us a very limited view of what happened in his family.

    arthbach
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wish this child very best wishes living with her aunt. She deserves to be happy, and away from her awful father.

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Definitely OP is the biggest asswipe ever. As a parent with a child that went from wavy-straight to very wavy-curly hair, and very, very fine and full hair, it is not the same upkeep to maintain as straight hair. If it's not maintained properly, it can become more than just an aesthetic issue. The hair can become very frizzy, dry, painful and difficult to brush or comb, and it looks like the parents aren't taking care of the child, which may result in teachers and doctors bringing up their concerns about how you're caring for your child. Been there. It isn't easy if you don't know what you're doing. The daughter knows what she found works. She's 14, not 16 or an adult, her parents are not poor and can provide the hair care products she NEEDS. Her dad really needs to get over himself and his obsession about aesthetics, and genetics, that don't follow his rigid expectations. He has all the means to bond with his daughter and he will not do it. Pathetic.

    V
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ee gads. My kid has curly hair that skipped a generation, and my mum is no longer with us and I am NC with the rest of the family so we are having to learn everything from the beginning. We have had some hair care fails! But we are trying.

    Load More Replies...
    Jan
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was picked out as the scapegoat for my family by my father who made it clear all my life that he did not like me. When he told me to my face that I was always hard to love I finally got it and stopped trying to get his approval. I wish I could say that I cut off all contact but I was out of the house by then and just went gray rock with the family. Watch out here. When the abuser loses one target they will look around for another one. This girl will never forget the damage done to her.

    Becca not Becky
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No teenager would run away from a good home over hair, so there are definitely other things going on that OP didn't mention. I'm glad the girl's auntie is there for her.

    Royal Stray
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It probably has to do with the "didn't think she was mine" bit. I bet you he still treats her differently and quite poorly, he probably still looks at her and gets reminded of his insecurities and tries to deal with her as little as possible. Not to mention that he never mentions trying to catch up on lost time with her.

    Load More Replies...
    MsLou
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Since this was two years ago, I wanted to see if there were other updates to this story but his account was suspended...

    Janelle Collard
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Gee, I can't imagine why. ;) /s

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