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In-Laws Refuse Daughter’s Gift Disneyland Passes, Agree To Go There With Son Instead
Two women in a tense moment, one comforting the other upset about a family separate drive to Disneyland plan.

In-Laws Refuse Daughter’s Gift Disneyland Passes, Agree To Go There With Son Instead

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Many people want to get along with their in-laws, but gosh darn it, can it be challenging sometimes. It gets even worse when they send you incredibly mixed signals about (not) wanting to spend time with you.

Case in point, u/Efficient-System-438 asked the internet if she was overreacting to a bizarre situation developing in her family. She shared how her in-laws refused her and her wife’s Disneyland passes as a gift, only to accept the same gift from their son and his wife. Not only that, but after inviting the author and her wife on the trip, they went on to exclude them from their travel plans.

Weird? Very! Scroll down for the full story and to see what the net had to say. Meanwhile, Bored Panda has reached out to the author for comment, and we’ll update the article as soon as we hear back from her.

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    Two women smiling inside a car, one holding car keys, reflecting a family separate drive to Disneyland experience.

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    Image credits: EyeEm / freepik (not the actual photo)

    A woman shared how she and her wife were left out of her family’s vacation plans. Here’s the bizarre situation in full

    Family separate drive to Disneyland causing holiday transportation issues and planning challenges between in-laws.

    Family separate drive to Disneyland with brother-in-law, girlfriend, and mother-in-law on a planned trip together.

    Family preparing for a separate drive to Disneyland, discussing car maintenance and travel arrangements for the trip.

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    Family enjoying separate drive at Disneyland parade with Mickey Mouse and other characters entertaining the crowd.

    Image credits: John Tekeridis / pexels (not the actual photo)

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    Text describing a family separate drive to Disneyland, with in-laws traveling in a different car than the narrator and spouse.

    Family separate drive to Disneyland causing frustration over travel arrangements and trip expenses.

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    Two women, one upset and the other comforting her, illustrating family separate drive Disneyland challenges and emotions.

    Image credits: drobotdean / freepik (not the actual photo)

    Text message describing family conflict over a separate drive to Disneyland planned without including some family members.

    Image credits: Efficient-System-438

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    In this case, the parents might have a favorite child (their son), or they’re trying to avoid spending time with their daughter’s spouse

    Three family members warmly embracing and smiling, preparing for a separate drive to Disneyland together.

    Image credits: freepik (not the actual photo)

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    The situation is beyond weird. Though we don’t know the exact motivations for the in-laws’ strange behavior, from our perspective, there are two possible theories.

    The first possibility is that, like most parents, they are playing favorites and prefer spending time with their son instead of their daughter. This is, of course, an uncomfortable realization for anyone. But the reality is that this sort of favoritism is very common.

    Based on recent research, parents tend to prefer their children who are responsible and organized because they’re easier to manage and respond more positively.

    While the ‘golden child’ tends to lead a better life, their slightly less-loved siblings fare worse. According to the American Psychological Association, kids who get less favored treatment have more strained family relationships and poorer mental health.

    The second possibility is that the in-laws might have issues spending time with their daughter’s wife, the author of the online post. Maybe there are tensions within that relationship that we don’t know about. Or it could be that the in-laws downright don’t like her as an individual, or think that she’s a bad match for their daughter as a spouse.

    It’s best to address these issues early on, instead of leaving them to fester

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    Two women having a serious conversation at home, illustrating family separate drive Disneyland challenges and emotions.

    Image credits: bokodi / freepik (not the actual photo)

    Whatever the case might be, it’s an unfriendly move to accept a gift from one person when you refused it from someone else. It’s also less than friendly to invite someone to a family trip, only to cut them out of the travel arrangements.

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    Generally, people don’t like confrontation, but it can be healthy when done right. Directly asking someone what’s going on or explaining to them how their behavior makes you feel is better (and infinitely harder) than trying to guess their motivations.

    You don’t have to be aggressive. If you stay calm and semi-friendly, you reduce the risk of the other person getting overly defensive or lashing out at you.

    That being said, don’t be too vague or wishy-washy either. Address the problem. Set out your expectations. Explain your boundaries. And then follow through with any consequences that you had mentioned if your boundaries are trampled again in the future.

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    Alternatively, if you feel that your relatives are constantly disrespecting you and your spouse, you should pause and think about your relationship with them. How important is the relationship to you exactly?

    No matter what happens with your in-laws, you and your partner should put each other first

    Two women sitting indoors, one resting her head on the other's shoulder, capturing family separate drive Disneyland moment.

    Image credits: EyeEm / freepik (not the actual photo)

    If you’re feeling constantly drained and frustrated after being around these people, it might be best to step back and reduce the amount of time and effort you put into this relationship.

    Go to fewer dinners and trips together, don’t be super flexible when they suggest popping in over at your place, and see how you feel. It might even make your relatives change their behavior a bit if they take the hint that they’re pushing you away.

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    According to the Laurel Therapy Collective, one of the most important things for you and your partner’s romantic relationship is that you prioritize each other, no matter any disagreements with each other’s in-laws.

    “Be each other’s advocates and support systems. When addressing issues with in-laws, present a united front. This sends a clear message that you both value your relationship and will work together to resolve conflicts. It also sets a boundary with your parents that your spouse can’t set alone.”

    What are your thoughts, Pandas? What would you have done if you found yourself in the post author’s shoes, dealing with all this Disneyland drama? Do you get along with your in-laws? If so, what’s your secret? Let us know in the comments below.

    The author interacted with some of her readers as the story started going viral

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    Reddit conversation about family dynamics highlighting the challenges of a family separate drive to Disneyland.

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    Here’s the advice and insights that some internet users shared with the frustrated woman

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    Comment discussing the idea of a family separate drive at Disneyland and the freedom to explore independently.

    Text conversation about a family planning a separate drive to Disneyland for their visit.

    Comment suggesting to have a serious talk with wife for a reality check in a family separate drive Disneyland discussion.

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    User comment about family conflicts with separate drive to Disneyland, expressing frustration and advice to address the issue directly.

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    Comment discussing a family separate drive to Disneyland, mentioning a wife joining a trip meant for brother and parents.

    Comment explaining family separate drive to Disneyland due to wife's uninvited trip invitation and arranged own transportation.

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    Screenshot of a forum post advising against asking why family chose to separate drive at Disneyland and suggesting to spend time elsewhere.

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    Comment warning against being treated as an afterthought, advising not to go and avoid family separate drive Disneyland issues.

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    Comment about family separate drive Disneyland, advising letting spouse go alone to enjoy time without kids.

    Comment discussing family dynamics about separate drive Disneyland plans and reluctance to join without enthusiasm.

    Comment advising a family separate drive Disneyland trip to focus on couple time and avoid family drama.

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    Comment suggesting a couple visit Disney World for quality time, related to family separate drive Disneyland discussion.

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    Comment discussing feelings of hurt and favoritism when a family plans separate drive to Disneyland, suggesting changes in trip plans.

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    Jonas Grinevičius

    Jonas Grinevičius

    Writer, Senior Writer

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    Storytelling, journalism, and art are a core part of who I am. I've been writing and drawing ever since I could walk—there is nothing else I'd rather do. My formal education, however, is focused on politics, philosophy, and economics because I've always been curious about the gap between the ideal and the real. At work, I'm a Senior Writer and I cover a broad range of topics that I'm passionate about: from psychology and changes in work culture to healthy living, relationships, and design. In my spare time, I'm an avid hiker and reader, enjoy writing short stories, and love to doodle. I thrive when I'm outdoors, going on small adventures in nature. However, you can also find me enjoying a big mug of coffee with a good book (or ten) and entertaining friends with fantasy tabletop games and sci-fi movies.

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    Jonas Grinevičius

    Jonas Grinevičius

    Writer, Senior Writer

    Storytelling, journalism, and art are a core part of who I am. I've been writing and drawing ever since I could walk—there is nothing else I'd rather do. My formal education, however, is focused on politics, philosophy, and economics because I've always been curious about the gap between the ideal and the real. At work, I'm a Senior Writer and I cover a broad range of topics that I'm passionate about: from psychology and changes in work culture to healthy living, relationships, and design. In my spare time, I'm an avid hiker and reader, enjoy writing short stories, and love to doodle. I thrive when I'm outdoors, going on small adventures in nature. However, you can also find me enjoying a big mug of coffee with a good book (or ten) and entertaining friends with fantasy tabletop games and sci-fi movies.

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    Kate Johnson
    Community Member
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    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd go, make absolutely no effort whatsoever to meet up with them at all, and just do the trip as if it was our solo trip all along. In the future, I'd just avoid wifey's family and let her go beg for crumbs off their table on her own. Don't chase after dead things. You now know where you stand so you can quit making any effort to engage with her family entirely.

    moggiemoo
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Chalk this one up to experience and never engage with them again. Let the daughter go on her own to anything they arrange. Why waste time on them?

    Bec
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Either don't go or go but do your own thing, but that will depend on what op's wife wants, and why isn't she in the loop with her family's plans? You can't control how people behave but you can control your actions - best 'revenge' is to have fun without them.

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    Kate Johnson
    Community Member
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    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd go, make absolutely no effort whatsoever to meet up with them at all, and just do the trip as if it was our solo trip all along. In the future, I'd just avoid wifey's family and let her go beg for crumbs off their table on her own. Don't chase after dead things. You now know where you stand so you can quit making any effort to engage with her family entirely.

    moggiemoo
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Chalk this one up to experience and never engage with them again. Let the daughter go on her own to anything they arrange. Why waste time on them?

    Bec
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Either don't go or go but do your own thing, but that will depend on what op's wife wants, and why isn't she in the loop with her family's plans? You can't control how people behave but you can control your actions - best 'revenge' is to have fun without them.

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