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Male Relatives And Friends Ruin Guy’s Marriage Just To Get With His Ex-Wife, Get Cut From His Life
Betrayal and manipulation can take a while to recover from. It carries an unbearable type of pain that may leave the person enraged and sick to their stomach for a long time.
The heartbreak doubles if the treachery and deceit come from a close friend or family member. The man in today’s story unfortunately experienced it from his father, brothers, and people he called his friends, which ultimately ruined his marriage.
He is now left to pick up the pieces as he also recovers from an ugly encounter that turned physical.
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The pain of betrayal and manipulation is much worse when it comes from friends or family
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A man experienced this ordeal from his brothers, a few friends, and most shockingly, his own father
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The manipulation was severe enough to ruin his marriage
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He later revealed that a physical confrontation with his family and friends ensued
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Despite the ugly episode, he is still determined to fix things with his former spouse
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Emotional manipulation from someone close can be subtle
The author’s account is quite unfortunate, especially since it was people he trusted who drove him to act unreasonably and sabotage his marriage bit by bit.
According to philosophy professor Dr. Berit Brogaard, emotional manipulation can be subtle. One of its manifestations can come in the form of compliments with a barb.
“After you run a 5K, they tell you, ‘Nice job—for someone who’s not exactly a natural runner,’ Dr. Brogaard wrote, noting that since these praises arrive tangled with a jab, the slight tends to hold more weight than the actual achievement.
In the author’s case, he claimed that his family and friends “purposely made him feel paranoid,” saying his wife wouldn’t be with him if “it wasn’t for the money.”
According to Medical News Today, familial manipulation may happen due to a few factors, including insecure attachments, a history of dysfunctionality in previous generations, and personality disorders, among others.
In turn, the person on the receiving end of such mistreatment may fall into depression, go through bouts of anxiety, and experience guilt, self-blame, and shattered self-esteem.
Dr. Brogaard adds that familial manipulation can also erode a person’s sense of safety, which is why she recommends seeking some form of therapy.
“If you see one of these patterns in your relationship, reach out for professional support: your well‑being and self‑trust depend on reclaiming your voice,” she noted.
The author did mention going through therapy, but it was unfortunate that the situation escalated into physical violence. He did, however, cut ties with his father, brothers, and friends, which was the healthy thing to do.
The author provided more information in the comments
Readers had varying reactions
The author shared an update, revealing that he got a chance to talk to his ex-wife
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He ended his second post on a sad note
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The author provided more information about the new developments
People in the comments were more empathetic, save for a few who rubbed in his mistake
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LakotaWolf (she/her) 4 hours ago
When you hurt someone, the onus is on you to apologize and make amends and attempt to make them as whole as possible. You should offer your apology, but know that the other person does NOT owe you forgiveness. You have to accept that. You can't skip sincerely apologizing just because of that, either :p
Squirrelly Panda 2 hours ago
Exactly, Lakota. I tend to preach forgiveness, because by forgiving, you are healing yourself of the hurt done to you, NOT opening yourself up to more hurt. My husband was badly hurt by his mom and went no contact with her. I was so happy when I realized he had started to forgive her. He was very relieved when he understood that I wanted him to both fully forgive her and never see her again so she could never hurt him again. And when you hurt someone, you should, at minimum, give a sincere apology. At best, you make the whole again as well. Either way, you accept their decision on if you are in their life or not.
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Kate Johnson 4 hours ago
Hopefully he gets himself together and stays away from his family. Of course she would never want him back.
Janelle Collard 5 hours ago
Dude listened to his toxic relatives + friends. Did NOT discuss anything with his wife after one of the men's 💩talking sessions. He deserves to *not* get her back + I'm glad she told him that. Good for him for apologizing + explaining what happened.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 4 hours ago
When you hurt someone, the onus is on you to apologize and make amends and attempt to make them as whole as possible. You should offer your apology, but know that the other person does NOT owe you forgiveness. You have to accept that. You can't skip sincerely apologizing just because of that, either :p
Squirrelly Panda 2 hours ago
Exactly, Lakota. I tend to preach forgiveness, because by forgiving, you are healing yourself of the hurt done to you, NOT opening yourself up to more hurt. My husband was badly hurt by his mom and went no contact with her. I was so happy when I realized he had started to forgive her. He was very relieved when he understood that I wanted him to both fully forgive her and never see her again so she could never hurt him again. And when you hurt someone, you should, at minimum, give a sincere apology. At best, you make the whole again as well. Either way, you accept their decision on if you are in their life or not.
Load More Replies... Kate Johnson 4 hours ago
Hopefully he gets himself together and stays away from his family. Of course she would never want him back.
Janelle Collard 5 hours ago
Dude listened to his toxic relatives + friends. Did NOT discuss anything with his wife after one of the men's 💩talking sessions. He deserves to *not* get her back + I'm glad she told him that. Good for him for apologizing + explaining what happened.
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