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Broke College Student Gets Coerced To Give $300 Towards Pastor’s Gift, Makes The Church Regret It
Broke College Student Gets Coerced To Give $300 Towards Pastor’s Gift, Makes The Church Regret It
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Broke College Student Gets Coerced To Give $300 Towards Pastor’s Gift, Makes The Church Regret It

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There’s a line between devoting yourself and being exploited, and you don’t always notice — at least not immediately — if you cross it.

Reddit user Eveofmilady realized this in college. The student belonged to a church that presented itself as a sanctuary of faith, and as an active member of the media team, she thought she was contributing to a higher purpose.

But the pastor’s greed pushed her to the edge, demanding not just her time and dedication but even her last dollars. Luckily, as Eveofmilady explained in her post on the subreddit ‘Malicious Compliance,’ when his minions started going after her livelihood, she began to see what was happening.

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    This woman’s church even tried to extort her

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    It’s not easy leaving a cult

    We sometimes judge those who become involved in a cult, almost as if their involvement and the subsequent repercussions are entirely their own fault.

    But it’s important to approach this topic with empathy, recognizing that individuals may find themselves drawn to such groups for a variety of complex reasons.

    For example, California Institute of Technology psychologist Jon-Patrik Pedersen, in attempting to explain why people are drawn to cults, has argued that it’s our desire for comfort in the face of fear and uncertainty, that leads us to seek outlets that can soothe our anxieties. Something a “broke college kid with a minimum wage part-time job” might have plenty of.

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    In and of itself, the urge to quiet internal demons is not a negative trait. On the contrary, it’s an effective adaptation that allows us to cope with the stressors, big and small, that regularly bombard us.

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    So the fact that Eveofmilady had ended up in such a place shouldn’t be used against her. Plus, it probably wasn’t easy to leave, either.

    Psychiatrist Mark Banschick has pointed out that cult leaders employ mind- and behavioral-control techniques focused on severing followers’ connections to the outside world.

    These methods can deepen members’ existing emotional insecurities while encouraging them to become completely reliant on their cult for all their emotional and even physical needs. The resulting isolation can become so overwhelming and feel so insurmountable that followers attach themselves to their “saviors.”

    Luckily, this story has a happy ending.

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    So people were glad to learn that the original poster (OP) got out

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    Id row
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Cults love dumb people they can take advantage of. OP should have known better to begin with. Organized religion is just another word for cult, it should all be abolished. You want to pray? Do it in your own home. Whatever your deity of choice is, they can hear you from there and it's free. Organized religion is the biggest malicious scam in human history.

    Kerri Russ
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly... I was brainwashed by my religious parents and it took years to break free of the backwards thinking they forced on me. Religions are for controlling the masses by damning them and begging for money. That's all they are good for. Wanna have faith, have faith. But organized religion will destroy this world.

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    Kay Kelly
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Religion is the root of all evil.

    Brian Leahy
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Religion's worst feature: it can be (and often is) used to justify cruel and irrational behavior.

    DarkViolet
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People who exploit others for their own gain are referred to in the Bible as Pharasees. Jesus went off on them, calling them out on their shady practices. These people are not above taking money from anyone: widows, low-income, even children. OP handled her situation like a boss. If more parishioners would call out this form of extortion, more of those money houses posing as houses of worship would close. They are a cancer in the body of Christ and a blot on the true Church.

    David
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You know using that terminology is quite antisemitic as the Pharisee movement is what today we call Orthodox Jews. In fact the Romans spoke highly of the Pharisee leadership for their honest in business and finance (see Pliny, Philo, etc). The reason the early church writings, written years after Jesus by people who never met him, speak so damning of the Pharisees comes from the 2nd Century Jewish revolt against Rome, and the early Christians were split on supporting it. Its a complex history, but the Pharisee's never went away, still exist, and that term used that way is very antisemitic.

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    Joi Cain
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The happiest part of this story for me that she became agnostic.

    Marinasongs1432
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Before any of you pull the oh this is all Christians claim, not all pastors are like this. People who act like this are taunting the Christian name. Please don’t generalize this.

    Kerri Russ
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Due to my religious history, I've been around dozens of pastors... 90% of them are as described in this article. Manipulative, greedy, etc. They may be good orators, but they are horrible human beings, caring only for the trappings of their office.

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    margaret carradus
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You can follow Christ or any other religious vigour without ever setting foot in a religious building. After all, Himself was actually against organised religion per se.

    Anna Harding
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had a tenant who was trying to clean up her debt after a divorce and wanted to buy her own condo. Her church scammed her out of all her money she had from the sale of her house. She ended up renting and move to low-income assisted apartments.

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    Id row
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Cults love dumb people they can take advantage of. OP should have known better to begin with. Organized religion is just another word for cult, it should all be abolished. You want to pray? Do it in your own home. Whatever your deity of choice is, they can hear you from there and it's free. Organized religion is the biggest malicious scam in human history.

    Kerri Russ
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly... I was brainwashed by my religious parents and it took years to break free of the backwards thinking they forced on me. Religions are for controlling the masses by damning them and begging for money. That's all they are good for. Wanna have faith, have faith. But organized religion will destroy this world.

    Load More Replies...
    Kay Kelly
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Religion is the root of all evil.

    Brian Leahy
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Religion's worst feature: it can be (and often is) used to justify cruel and irrational behavior.

    DarkViolet
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People who exploit others for their own gain are referred to in the Bible as Pharasees. Jesus went off on them, calling them out on their shady practices. These people are not above taking money from anyone: widows, low-income, even children. OP handled her situation like a boss. If more parishioners would call out this form of extortion, more of those money houses posing as houses of worship would close. They are a cancer in the body of Christ and a blot on the true Church.

    David
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You know using that terminology is quite antisemitic as the Pharisee movement is what today we call Orthodox Jews. In fact the Romans spoke highly of the Pharisee leadership for their honest in business and finance (see Pliny, Philo, etc). The reason the early church writings, written years after Jesus by people who never met him, speak so damning of the Pharisees comes from the 2nd Century Jewish revolt against Rome, and the early Christians were split on supporting it. Its a complex history, but the Pharisee's never went away, still exist, and that term used that way is very antisemitic.

    Load More Replies...
    Joi Cain
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The happiest part of this story for me that she became agnostic.

    Marinasongs1432
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Before any of you pull the oh this is all Christians claim, not all pastors are like this. People who act like this are taunting the Christian name. Please don’t generalize this.

    Kerri Russ
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Due to my religious history, I've been around dozens of pastors... 90% of them are as described in this article. Manipulative, greedy, etc. They may be good orators, but they are horrible human beings, caring only for the trappings of their office.

    Load More Replies...
    margaret carradus
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You can follow Christ or any other religious vigour without ever setting foot in a religious building. After all, Himself was actually against organised religion per se.

    Anna Harding
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had a tenant who was trying to clean up her debt after a divorce and wanted to buy her own condo. Her church scammed her out of all her money she had from the sale of her house. She ended up renting and move to low-income assisted apartments.

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