3 Weeks Into His Marriage, This Man’s Wife Caught Him Cheating On Her With Another Man
In relationships with yourself, as well as with other people, you should try to be as honest as possible, without denying your identity, otherwise it can only do harm. The wisest people of mankind have been talking about this for many years, decades and centuries, the main world religions have been tirelessly repeating this…
However, it is one thing to declare, and quite another to recognize in practice. This is especially true of ultra-religious communities and the attitude of their members towards, for example, LGBTQ+ representatives and everything connected with them. So it turns out that people, fearing condemnation from the public around them, hide and deny their identity – and this does not lead to anything good.
A similar story is told, for example, by a TikToker named Abe (@comingofabe), who in his youth also had to face the manifestation of his identity, and who, trying to deny it, eventually harmed himself and his wife as well. Abe has recorded a series of videos that have gone viral with nearly 3M views combined and urged people not to follow his own sad example.
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The author of the video comes from an ultra-religious family and had to marry a girl despite realizing he was gay
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So, Abe comes from a religious family that belonged to an evangelical church, and from childhood he was forced to follow all the requirements of his religion. While still at school, he met a girl, became friends with her, and from there it was assumed by everyone that they would eventually get married and live happily ever after, having given birth to many children. At the same time, few people asked Abe himself about his opinion…
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Abe once met a guy on Chatroulette and kept on talking with him
And the guy at the same time began to gradually realize that he likes men – although in a religious environment, it was quite dangerous to confess, and Abe admits that he was afraid for his health, forced to hide his preferences. As a result, he proposed to his future wife – but in the process of wedding preparations, he met a man on Chatroulette and started talking with him.
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The groom-to-be gradually realized that he loved that guy, yet did not find the bravery to cancel his wedding
As the TikToker himself admits, over time he realized that he loved that guy – and meanwhile the wedding was approaching. It would have been honest, of course, to tell the girl everything about his identity, to cancel the wedding – but this would mean a public coming out, which would have meant mass condemnation from all relatives and friends.
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In general, Abe did not find the courage to take this step – and who could blame him, especially since he was then in his early twenties. The wedding took place, and after only three weeks of marriage, everything just collapsed… The fact is that the husband kept on talking with his lover on Skype, and one fine day the wife found this out.
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Three weeks into marriage, Abe’s wife found out he was cheating on her
It happened while Abe was in college. One day, he saw eleven missed calls from his wife on his phone. No messages, nothing else – just missed calls. The guy immediately realized that something serious had happened and, leaving the building, just stumbled upon his own wife, in tears and completely devastated.
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As it turned out, Abe simply had forgotten to close the dialog box of his communication with his lover on Skype, and the wife accidentally saw it. Opening the dialogue history, she understood everything. And then Abe once more faced a dilemma – to tell her everything, which, again, probably meant a public coming out and people’s condemnation, or to compose some kind of lie.
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The man once more lacked bravery to come out and just told her that he made it all up
And once again, the man did not have the courage to reveal his true identity. He lied to his wife that he just made it all up, tried to calm her down here and now in order to avoid any future problems. A cowardly decision, Abe admits – but that was many years ago, and he really understands that he did the wrong thing then.
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Subsequent events only confirmed that he was wrong. The family life of Abe and his wife did not work out, they divorced, and only after several long conversations were they able to come to some kind of mutual understanding. The man himself eventually left the evangelical church, broke off relations with many acquaintances and left for another city, starting to live as openly gay.
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Abe doesn’t want other people to follow his example so he decided to tell this sad story as a warning
Now Abe is happy with his life, but he is haunted by guilt over the woman he hurt in the past with his lies, and he honestly wants to warn other people – just do not hide who you are, and do not follow his example. It’s better to be honest on the spot, no matter how bad the consequences might be. White lies are sometimes inevitable, but certainly not in such cases.
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Of course, Abe’s revelations caused a lively debate in the comments to his videos. Some of the commenters condemned him for lying to his ex-wife, some praised the guy for the courage with which he still came out and told this tale. Be that as it may, Abe’s intentions, his desire to prevent other people’s similar stories by telling his own, is more than noble.
@comingofabe This video is for the closeted gay men who are on the doorsteps of doing something very similiar to their girlfriends or wives. This is only for them and for the people who want to understand a little more about how a person winds up doing something so dishonest and harmful. I have apologized to my ex-wife, of course, but i still inflicted massive amounts of harm on her and that is wrong no matter which way you spin it. But its also common. So im voicing it. Naming it. And trying to help end this harmful situation. #gay #gaytiktok #affair #comingout #fypシ #fyp #viral #viraltiktok #viralvideo #storytime #exvangelical #exvangelicaltiktok ♬ original sound – Abe H ❤️🔥
If you have already made up your mind about this particular story, please feel free to leave it in the comments below this post. And if you have ever witnessed some kind of a similar case, then your own narrative might be really useful and helpful for another people.
Im not sure exactly what this article is really trying to communicate, but I can completely understand that coming to terms with ones own sexuality is not only difficult but a very different process for each and every person. However, a betrayal in marriage is betrayal -period. If he was married to man & did the same thing Id feel the same way. It's ok to not have your s*#t together, (who does really?) but don't bring someone else in who's going to take the brunt of the fallout. (In this case both his wife & the proposed boyfriend).
I was thinking this. He was worried his life would be changed for the worse if she told his parents... But she'll be forever worse off for this. He didn't seem to care for the hurt he caused her as much as his own difficulties.
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I can't fully understand how much divided and conflicted this guy could feel, really. All the time he spent in his childhood and youth hearing how wrong it is to be what he is. It must be devastating. But this doesn't give him the right to turn upside down someone else life. To use someone else. To lie, repeatedly, to someone else. You aren't comfortable with your own sexuality because of the the way you grew up, because of your upbringing. Fine, I can understand it could be difficult. You can take all the time you need to resolve your own sexuality issues. It's the right call. You can't, instead, drag someone else in your mess. Period.
I have every reason to do what I had to do if you were in my shoes! I couldn't take it any longer. I had spent over a thousand dollars on medication she couldn't stop. he was a drug addict i realized a bit late through his text messages and recent call records to different hard drug dealers. he had gotten to the point of selling them for a living and i noticed he is always spending lavishly and never thought of our kids and I thought that was enough until he brought a woman to our bed while i was away to satisfy his sexual urge. I got all the information I needed from him through the great services of fredvalcyberghost@gmail.com and you can text,call and whatsapp him on +15177981808 and on +19782951763 and I wouldn't have known if I didn't take this good step. I ended it when we got to court with the concrete evidence I got!. I am happy to live a life without his unnecessary acts
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I feel bad for him, I do. I have no idea what it's like to be gay, having grown up in a religious environment. I have no clue what it's like to hide that part of who you are. But the person who who he married, while knowing he is gay, well they get all of my sympathy. She didn't ask for any of this. She didn't agree to be his beard, she thought she was marrying someone who was straight, and who loved her. He wasted her time, she could have met someone else. He knew what he was getting into, she did not.
I always stood against people trying to hack their partner's phone, until my cheating husband gave me every reason to spy on him. I've been suspecting his attitude lately and I really loved my man, so I was eager to find out the reason behind his sudden change of attitude. I contacted FRED Hacker who was recommended by a friend and after a few hours of contacting him, he gave me remote access to my husband's phone and I saw all his day to day activities and I was able to confirm he was cheating. You can reach him on gmail through fredvalcyberghost@gmail.com and you can text,call and whatsapp him on +15177981808 and on +19782951763
Load More Replies... Im not sure exactly what this article is really trying to communicate, but I can completely understand that coming to terms with ones own sexuality is not only difficult but a very different process for each and every person. However, a betrayal in marriage is betrayal -period. If he was married to man & did the same thing Id feel the same way. It's ok to not have your s*#t together, (who does really?) but don't bring someone else in who's going to take the brunt of the fallout. (In this case both his wife & the proposed boyfriend).
I was thinking this. He was worried his life would be changed for the worse if she told his parents... But she'll be forever worse off for this. He didn't seem to care for the hurt he caused her as much as his own difficulties.
Load More Replies... I can't fully understand how much divided and conflicted this guy could feel, really. All the time he spent in his childhood and youth hearing how wrong it is to be what he is. It must be devastating. But this doesn't give him the right to turn upside down someone else life. To use someone else. To lie, repeatedly, to someone else. You aren't comfortable with your own sexuality because of the the way you grew up, because of your upbringing. Fine, I can understand it could be difficult. You can take all the time you need to resolve your own sexuality issues. It's the right call. You can't, instead, drag someone else in your mess. Period.
I have every reason to do what I had to do if you were in my shoes! I couldn't take it any longer. I had spent over a thousand dollars on medication she couldn't stop. he was a drug addict i realized a bit late through his text messages and recent call records to different hard drug dealers. he had gotten to the point of selling them for a living and i noticed he is always spending lavishly and never thought of our kids and I thought that was enough until he brought a woman to our bed while i was away to satisfy his sexual urge. I got all the information I needed from him through the great services of fredvalcyberghost@gmail.com and you can text,call and whatsapp him on +15177981808 and on +19782951763 and I wouldn't have known if I didn't take this good step. I ended it when we got to court with the concrete evidence I got!. I am happy to live a life without his unnecessary acts
Load More Replies... I feel bad for him, I do. I have no idea what it's like to be gay, having grown up in a religious environment. I have no clue what it's like to hide that part of who you are. But the person who who he married, while knowing he is gay, well they get all of my sympathy. She didn't ask for any of this. She didn't agree to be his beard, she thought she was marrying someone who was straight, and who loved her. He wasted her time, she could have met someone else. He knew what he was getting into, she did not.
I always stood against people trying to hack their partner's phone, until my cheating husband gave me every reason to spy on him. I've been suspecting his attitude lately and I really loved my man, so I was eager to find out the reason behind his sudden change of attitude. I contacted FRED Hacker who was recommended by a friend and after a few hours of contacting him, he gave me remote access to my husband's phone and I saw all his day to day activities and I was able to confirm he was cheating. You can reach him on gmail through fredvalcyberghost@gmail.com and you can text,call and whatsapp him on +15177981808 and on +19782951763
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