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Narcissistic Grandma Threatens No Contact, Completely Loses It When Her Daughter Beats Her To It
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Narcissistic Grandma Threatens No Contact, Completely Loses It When Her Daughter Beats Her To It

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It may take years of enduring torment before someone can stand up to a narcissistic parent. The fallout may be ugly when it happens, but setting boundaries is necessary to protect one’s peace. 

This was the exact scenario for a woman who dealt with her overbearing mother her entire life. Things came to a head one day when her mom showed no regard for her young son’s safety. 

She finally snapped, which intensified the rift. But as you will come to read, her reaction was long overdue. 

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    For some people, standing up to an overbearing parent can take a lifetime

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    This woman dealt with her mother, who had no respect for her boundaries and even showed zero regard for her son’s safety

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    She finally reached her breaking point and stood up for herself, which led to more tension and eventual closure for her

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    Emotional manipulation is part of the narcissistic parent’s playbook

    According to the author, her mom threatened to block her for simply standing her ground. Such emotional blackmail is one of the key weapons that a narcissistic parent has in their arsenal. 

    As child and adolescent counseling clinical specialist, Dr. Stephanie Sarkis explains, these people view their children as extensions of themselves and use manipulation to maintain control. 

    “The parent will tell the child, or show through their actions, that the child is a burden and that if they were only a better child, the parent would be happy,” Dr. Sarkis wrote. “The root issue is that the narcissistic parent will never be satisfied.”

    Dr. Sarkis mentioned long-lasting impacts of manipulative parenting, including low self-esteem, mental health issues like anxiety and depression, and difficulty establishing boundaries, to name a few. 

    Moving on from the pain of having an overbearing parent and protecting one’s peace requires addressing emotional manipulation once it happens. According to Very Well Mind, it is important to remember that you’re in control of your choices. 

    You have the right to make the choices that are best for you, without feeling guilty about it. Don’t let guilt or fear drive your decisions,” an excerpt from the article reads. 

    It may have taken a while for the author to realize how unacceptable her mother’s behavior was. Fortunately, she finally decided to distance herself, for the sake of her and her family’s peace of mind. 

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    People in the comments collectively advised her to go no contact, as others shared similar experiences

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    Binky Melnik
    Community Member
    5 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Holy smokes! I thought I’d have a heart attack reading this. Every time she mentioned talking to, calling, or being with her mother, every fiber of my being was screaming “WHY?!” When she said her mother missed her kid being born, I wondered what in cow’s name she was doing WANTING that shrew there. Jesus; people suuure do a number on their kids. I’m scared OP is gonna lose both her kid and partner if she doesn’t cut ties, move away, and make it so her mother can’t ever find her. If ever there were someone who needs to jettison someone from her life, it’s this OP. Does she need to be shaken to understand how better her life will be without that thing in her life bringing them all down and endangering her kid?

    JuJu
    Community Member
    5 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But she doesn't want to cut off a mother from her daughter, have a heart and let her ruin another generati🥳 /s

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    Kate Johnson
    Community Member
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    5 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There's simply no question that this unhinged woman must be entirely cut out of your life forever. She is like black mold. You can't negotiate with it, you just have to eradicated from your home or it will ALWAYS make you sick.

    Heffalump
    Community Member
    5 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is a no-brainer for NC, court enforced. OP doesn't have to worry too much about 'Grandparent's rights', there exists no meaningful relationship between this madwoman and the child, and it's her own daughter who wants her gone.

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    Binky Melnik
    Community Member
    5 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Holy smokes! I thought I’d have a heart attack reading this. Every time she mentioned talking to, calling, or being with her mother, every fiber of my being was screaming “WHY?!” When she said her mother missed her kid being born, I wondered what in cow’s name she was doing WANTING that shrew there. Jesus; people suuure do a number on their kids. I’m scared OP is gonna lose both her kid and partner if she doesn’t cut ties, move away, and make it so her mother can’t ever find her. If ever there were someone who needs to jettison someone from her life, it’s this OP. Does she need to be shaken to understand how better her life will be without that thing in her life bringing them all down and endangering her kid?

    JuJu
    Community Member
    5 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But she doesn't want to cut off a mother from her daughter, have a heart and let her ruin another generati🥳 /s

    Load More Replies...
    Kate Johnson
    Community Member
    Premium
    5 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There's simply no question that this unhinged woman must be entirely cut out of your life forever. She is like black mold. You can't negotiate with it, you just have to eradicated from your home or it will ALWAYS make you sick.

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    Heffalump
    Community Member
    5 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is a no-brainer for NC, court enforced. OP doesn't have to worry too much about 'Grandparent's rights', there exists no meaningful relationship between this madwoman and the child, and it's her own daughter who wants her gone.

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