Someone Asks People What They Think Is Easier If You’re Unattractive, And Here Are 23 Eye-Opening Answers

Also since many don’t really consider you a woman (because for many shallow men woman= hot woman) they tend to be more open with you. I have lost respect for a couple of ex male friends for how disgustingly they judged women. Like calling them orcs if they aren’t super hot. they are average guys that feel that deserve a Victoria secret model. Same wi5 one of my female classmates at college that judged men really harshly (but not insulting them at least) while she was also unattractive.

I try to be a nice courteous person regardless of looks, people are people living their own lives and I treat them as such

Seen this my whole life. Too true

Just tell them outright what you think and know of them - especially if they're with a group of the same kind!

Personally it's quite the opposite for me. I am not saying I am attractive or anything. But growing up androgynous has, more often than not, mean I have to work harder. In academics people think I don't know my sh!t. In sports, they say I won't cut it just by looking at me. Then when I get into working life, I don't look "stable" and "matured" enough and has been denied opportunities despite being the most qualified.

I have been both... good looking when I was young, but I am old now. On my niece's birthday card (she is a stunning young woman) I wrote "Youth and beauty are fleeting, so savor it. Old and homely lasts a lot longer" and every woman in the room agreed with me. Once you reach a certain age, or weight, you become invisible, people don't notice you anymore. It's strangely liberating in a way.

Yes. I used to work for the postal service, and applied for an acting supervisor position. When I got it, comments went around that I must have slept with my shift manager. Sure. Never mind that I have a college degree with a minor in business management. And my stats (pieces per man hour and such) were always the highest of any supervisor.

I believe a lot has to do with the profession or career you are in.

Why are so many comments directed at women? This, as ABHINC stated, its about unattracted PEOPLE.

I am fairly attractive (quite stereotypical - blonde, blue eyes, hourglass body shape - I didn't ask for this, it is just how my genes worked). I just got to the point where people try to grope me in the train stations, cat call, bother me at the gym (for example are you looking for fun? do you want to do the downward dog with me, finding my insta and sending d**k pics..), I was sexually harassed in so many situations that I just started to wear baggy clothes, it does the trick. I look grumpy most of the time, because I just want to be, I am not looking for casual sex or anything. I live with my boyfriend and I am very happy. I wear my boyfriends clothes most of the time and I don't go out with dress unless I am with him.

Introverted me loves being alone

Subtitle: Why I Think We Should Keep Wearing Masks

That's also easier when you're a man, regardless of looks.

But sometimes you're being left alone a little too much, as if you're invisible...

Just to be clear - the picture here is of a woman who is not old and not unattractive!

That’s why you should develop your mind and your sense of humor as well as your appearance when you’re young. Make it a lifelong pursuit, and you won’t have that difficulty coping with youth and beauty going out the window. Because you’ve already spent a good amount of time developing your intrinsic qualities, you don’t have to try and catch up to the rest of us when the mask of beauty fades away.

I have more confidence in myself now I am in my 50's (56) than I ever had as a younger woman

Um getting old is hard for some whether you are attractive or not

An attractive appearance has many advantages. Unfortunately, many beauties forget that this is only a starting advantage that is usually relatively short-lived and can turn into the opposite if they don't also develop inner values.

This is a difficult one - but if anyone's partners are easily jealous or uneasy with you being friends with "attractive" people, they may need therapy to work through it.

I dunno...if they're only with their girlfriend because she's pretty and they're spending time with you because they genuinely enjoy your company jealousy will still be had.

Dream on. My only non-gay guy friend, whom I visited every five years, dumped me after 25 years because he didn't ''want to make his wife jealous''. Actually, he was having a hot affair with a very attractive woman.

I've always wondered about this. Why people aren't "allowed" to have friends of genders not their own because the partner might get jealous. That sounds like a personal problem on the partner's part and I don't know why anyone would want to be in a relationship with someone like that, but...welp.

This is complete tosh. How you act towards a significant other is way more telling than your looks... You could be a complete mud duck, and still hit on the person I'm with and you WILL hear about it.

Not a baiting question, and please try not to get ugly about male vs. female. Just curious what you think... it seems to me that it is easier/faster for an unattractive male to find a quality relationship than it is for an unattractive female. IF you agree with this, do you think it's because women DO look for more substance deeper than surface level from an early part of the dating process? Do you think it's because men are raised with more confidence regarding pursuit, and persistence through rejection? (If you don't agree, of course feel free to also respond, but again please can we be kind about the discussion?)