Woman Shows How Sexist School Dress Codes Are On TikTok, Where She Acts As The Hero All Girls Need
InterviewSuper strict school dress codes that unfairly target girls are BS—that’s the message that 22-year-old actress and screenwriter Nicole Ciravolo sent her fans by posting a series of viral TikToks. Ciravolo called out the sexism present in schools where girls are sent to the principal’s office and chastised for ‘violating’ the rules by wearing tank tops and other ‘inappropriate’ clothes.
But what if things were different? What if there was somebody to stand up for you? Well, that’s exactly what Ciravolo showed in her videos as she took on the role of a school secretary: how people should use their common sense to react to dress code ‘violations.’ Scroll down and have a look for yourselves, dear Pandas. Be sure to share your thoughts in the comments below and read on for Bored Panda’s interview with the actress.
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Actress Nicole Ciravolo went viral after posting a series of videos on TikTok about how unfair and sexist school dress codes are
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Here’s her first video where she pretends to be a school secretary and shows how people should react to double standards for girls
@nicoleciravolo##POV: you get sent to the principles office for dress code but the secretary does! not! f*ck! around!♬ original sound – nicoleciravolo
“I was mostly inspired by the treatment I received as a high school student from faculty when it came to dress code,” Ciravolo told us what pushed her to make the viral TikToks. “I often felt shamed by female faculty and sexualized by male faculty. I wanted to create a character that I wish I’d had in school because I never felt like anyone was in my corner—and that’s what Ms. Connie has become. I never in a million years would have expected it to blow up like it did, but I’m not surprised that many people relate to wishing there was someone in power on their side in school.”
She continues to spread the message in part 2 of her video right here
@nicoleciravolopart two of… ##POV: you get sent to the principal’s office and realize the secretary does! not! f*ck! around!♬ original sound – nicoleciravolo
In the actress’s opinion, school dress codes are enforced “for the benefit of faculty,” not students. “They often have elements of racism and sexism disguised as ‘professional’ (i.e. sagging pants or no bra straps showing). In my own experience, skirt/shorts length or bra straps don’t distract other students but instead the teachers. It’s sickening to think back to being a 15-year-old minor and getting sent to the office by a man in his sixties because my shorts made him uncomfortable. Those types of people should not be teaching minors.”
The actress finishes her lesson about how to fight sexism in schools with her third video
@nicoleciravolo##POV part 3 — I think we’re gonna make this into a series!! 🥳 but… she needs a name! I’m thinking Linda but would luv to hear ur suggestions 🥰♬ original sound – nicoleciravolo
Ciravolo also told us a bit more about herself. “I’ve been in acting classes since I was in second grade. Though I loved the Disney channel like any other 8-year-old, it was really sneaking into my parents’ room to watch SNL that drew me to it: I so desperately wanted to make people laugh for a living, and that hasn’t changed!”
People absolutely loved her videos and they were viewed tens of millions of times altogether. That’s how you know that the topic resonated with them and that a lot of people find the issue important and worth talking about.
Around 55 percent of US public high schools have dress codes and plenty of people believe that they’re outdated, that they reinforce gender stereotypes, and that they’re sexist against girls.
One of the most commonly known problems is that girls get called out for wearing ‘revealing’ clothes that ‘distract the boys in the class’ but a lot of people believe that there’s no place for such views in 2020. This can not only lead to girls being shamed in front of the entire classroom but it also means that some girls have to skip classes because they’re forced to explain what they did ‘wrong.’
“These rules aren’t neutral: many target girls, and especially black girls, by regulating skirt length and headwraps. And the rules aren’t applied equally, either. Students report that black girls, and especially curvier students, are disproportionately targeted,” a report by the National Women’s Law Center called out dress codes in schools.
Ciravolo is an actress who “accidentally stumbled into ASMR.” According to her IMDb page, she is known for her roles in the 2018 movie Melrose, as well as the 2001 film Love, Sex & Murder. She currently studies theatre at Sarah Lawrence College in New York and plans to graduate in 2021. We just hope that she’ll find the time to make great TikTok videos in between her studies in the meantime.
People supported the actress’ message and shared their own experiences with strict dress codes
Honestly, the real issue are the boys who are distracted by a girl's shoulder.
/sarcasm/ Exactly! I for one am completely unable to control myself when I see a girl's clavicle!
Load More Replies...If a school needs a dresscode "to protect the children", I always wonder what lurks in that school that the children need to be protected from.
"protect the children" is always code for controlling the bodies of everyone who isn't a cis hetero white guy
Load More Replies...Glad we never had a “dress code“ for school. That seems to be an American thing. We just wore whatever we liked and none of the teachers thought it was any of their business to tell us what to wear.
I went to high school from 1978-81. The hippies, etc., had already fought the good fight. For those few years, we wore shirts with marijuana leaves, bad words, spaghetti straps and tube tops with no bra (not me - too big), low rise pants, etc. We also went to school with no A/C. They started tightening up after my sister went to high school right after me. However, I did get pulled out of lunch to discuss my tank top with wide shoulder straps & a bra. But I was 36C, so that was slutty.
Load More Replies...If you find a harmless tank top disturbing, then why the hell are you teaching?
I'm very sorry Leo I hadn't realized that boobs were spilling out of shoulders and collar bones
Load More Replies...My sister and I were early bloomers and were in bras already by the 4th grade, so it was hard to hide our curves. When were in high school the dress code was that shorts for girls had to come to the knee,which is almost an impossibility. Because of this my sister were pants all year long all throughout high school. I, on the other hand, did my best to find shorts that were long enough because I was not about to burn up in this Texas heat. In college, no one said anything about the way people dressed because we were seen as adults. I do believe that if what a person is wearing is distracting others then it's the distracted person's problem and the person wearing the outfit shouldn't be punished because someone is gawking at them.
You make a very interesting observation, we are no longer sexually distracting when we are seen as adults, when we are children on the other hand...My sister was also told in the 2nd grade she needed to wear a bra or she couldn't come to school. I am 31 and I stopped wearing bras years ago, no one even notices.
Load More Replies...i always thought it was interesting that it seemed the male teachers were the ones who sent girls out for inappropriate clothes when the boys seems oblivious to what they were wearing. seemed like they were the 'danger' that the girls needed to be protected from and not the boys.
...... and I'm sure that children do not suffer.
Load More Replies...I’m glad most schools implement uniforms now. It helps prevent this kind of thing and bullying. I was bullied for my clothing choices as a child and if we all had to wear the same thing that wouldn’t have happened.
Yes and no. Can still have a sexist uniform code too, such as girls can only wear skirts and boys can only wear shorts/pants which is just unnecessary.
Load More Replies...Dress codes need to be clearly defined. Otherwise it would be the personal taste of teachers, which might be very sexist.
The problem is that they are clearly defined, but different expectations are set for boys and girls, and girls are held responsible for the thoughts of whomever is looking at them.
Load More Replies...I went to high school with dress code but as I was very large busted, I only wore very conservative clothing. But everyday I entered into my chemistry class, the teacher, (male), would sit at a table by the door and check off our attendance as we passed the desk. Except for when I passed the desk, he brought out a HUGE magnifying glass and would use it to stare at my chest. This happened every day. This was before students were aware we could report teachers for their conduct. Truly made me hate that class. Plus then the boys thought they could get away with inappropriate things.
Honestly, the real issue are the boys who are distracted by a girl's shoulder.
/sarcasm/ Exactly! I for one am completely unable to control myself when I see a girl's clavicle!
Load More Replies...If a school needs a dresscode "to protect the children", I always wonder what lurks in that school that the children need to be protected from.
"protect the children" is always code for controlling the bodies of everyone who isn't a cis hetero white guy
Load More Replies...Glad we never had a “dress code“ for school. That seems to be an American thing. We just wore whatever we liked and none of the teachers thought it was any of their business to tell us what to wear.
I went to high school from 1978-81. The hippies, etc., had already fought the good fight. For those few years, we wore shirts with marijuana leaves, bad words, spaghetti straps and tube tops with no bra (not me - too big), low rise pants, etc. We also went to school with no A/C. They started tightening up after my sister went to high school right after me. However, I did get pulled out of lunch to discuss my tank top with wide shoulder straps & a bra. But I was 36C, so that was slutty.
Load More Replies...If you find a harmless tank top disturbing, then why the hell are you teaching?
I'm very sorry Leo I hadn't realized that boobs were spilling out of shoulders and collar bones
Load More Replies...My sister and I were early bloomers and were in bras already by the 4th grade, so it was hard to hide our curves. When were in high school the dress code was that shorts for girls had to come to the knee,which is almost an impossibility. Because of this my sister were pants all year long all throughout high school. I, on the other hand, did my best to find shorts that were long enough because I was not about to burn up in this Texas heat. In college, no one said anything about the way people dressed because we were seen as adults. I do believe that if what a person is wearing is distracting others then it's the distracted person's problem and the person wearing the outfit shouldn't be punished because someone is gawking at them.
You make a very interesting observation, we are no longer sexually distracting when we are seen as adults, when we are children on the other hand...My sister was also told in the 2nd grade she needed to wear a bra or she couldn't come to school. I am 31 and I stopped wearing bras years ago, no one even notices.
Load More Replies...i always thought it was interesting that it seemed the male teachers were the ones who sent girls out for inappropriate clothes when the boys seems oblivious to what they were wearing. seemed like they were the 'danger' that the girls needed to be protected from and not the boys.
...... and I'm sure that children do not suffer.
Load More Replies...I’m glad most schools implement uniforms now. It helps prevent this kind of thing and bullying. I was bullied for my clothing choices as a child and if we all had to wear the same thing that wouldn’t have happened.
Yes and no. Can still have a sexist uniform code too, such as girls can only wear skirts and boys can only wear shorts/pants which is just unnecessary.
Load More Replies...Dress codes need to be clearly defined. Otherwise it would be the personal taste of teachers, which might be very sexist.
The problem is that they are clearly defined, but different expectations are set for boys and girls, and girls are held responsible for the thoughts of whomever is looking at them.
Load More Replies...I went to high school with dress code but as I was very large busted, I only wore very conservative clothing. But everyday I entered into my chemistry class, the teacher, (male), would sit at a table by the door and check off our attendance as we passed the desk. Except for when I passed the desk, he brought out a HUGE magnifying glass and would use it to stare at my chest. This happened every day. This was before students were aware we could report teachers for their conduct. Truly made me hate that class. Plus then the boys thought they could get away with inappropriate things.

























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