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Man Sends Distracting Wife To The Back Seat Before Something Tragic Happens, She Says It’s Humiliating
Road traffic crashes account for more than a million fatalities globally each year, so responsible driving is paramount. When you get into your car, your goal should be to get to your destination safely. You can love your family with all of your heart, but it doesn’t mean that they’re perfect or beyond criticism. If they behave in dangerous ways while you’re in the driver’s seat, you have to ensure everyone’s safety.
That’s what recently happened to one man, who asked his wife, who reacts in very distracting ways, to ride in the back of the car, which she found humiliating. He then turned to the AITA online community to find out if he did, in fact, make a mistake by doing this. You’ll find the full story and the internet’s reactions below. And remember, always drive safely!
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When you’re behind the wheel, it’s absolutely vital that you can focus on the road. However, some passengers can make this incredibly difficult
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A man asked the internet if he was a jerk for asking his wife to sit in the back of the car after her distracting behavior put them in danger
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Road safety is no joke. Over a million people lose their lives, and tens of millions are injured, every year in road traffic crashes
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It’s vital to stress just how massive an issue road safety is. It might sound harsh, but it’s common sense that you cannot and should not distract the driver.
Sometimes, we’re not aware of how our actions impact others. But if we continue behaving in risky ways even after being warned multiple times, the responsibility lies with us to own up to our mistakes and grow as individuals.
It’s important to remember that we sometimes have to (temporarily!) put our personal feelings aside for the sake of bigger priorities like safety. Something else to keep in mind is that when your partner enforces healthy boundaries, it doesn’t mean that they don’t love you. It simply means that they are setting out very clear expectations for communication, respect, and their needs. Boundaries tend to lead to more authenticity rather than less.
The World Health Organization estimates that around 1.19 million people lose their lives every year as a result of road traffic crashes. Furthermore, between 20 million and 50 million more people suffer non-fatal injuries, including disabilities.
Road traffic injuries are the leading loss of life for children as well as young adults, aged 5 to 29. However, most (two-thirds) road traffic fatalities happen among working-aged individuals, aged 18 to 59.
The vast majority (92%) of the world’s road fatalities happen in low- and middle-income countries.
Meanwhile, more than half of all road traffic fatalities occur among vulnerable road users, such as pedestrians, cyclists, and motorcyclists.
The effects of road accidents extend beyond the horrendous loss of life, too, and impact the economic welfare of people, their families, and entire nations. According to the WHO, these crashes cost most countries 3% of their gross domestic product due to lost productivity from injuries or disabilities.
Even small distractions, like talking to passengers or thinking about non-driving-related things, can lead to mistakes on the road
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As per the World Health Organization, transport systems have to be both responsive to the needs of users and forgiving of human error.
If the goal is to ensure a safe transport system for all road users, the main things to focus on are safe roads and roadsides, safe speeds, safe vehicles, and safe road users.
As AANT notes, backseat drivers, who judge and comment on your behavior while you’re behind the wheel, can be both a curse and, sometimes, even a blessing.
On the one hand, excessive comments about your driving can be both annoying and distracting and might make you second-guess yourself.
On the other hand, these backseat drivers can “act as a second set of eyes and spot hazards on the road.”
Whatever their intentions might be, you, as the driver, should remind all of your passengers that you’re in charge of everyone’s safety.
“Simply ask yourself if their opinion is helping prevent a potentially dangerous situation or causing it. If their comments are valid – like perhaps you took a turn too fast – consider taking their feedback on board,” AANT suggests.
That being said, it’s still best to avoid distracting your driver. Even the smallest lapses in concentration can lead to devastating results. Recent research by RAC revealed that 63% of drivers admitted to making mistakes on the road when they were distracted by internal or external factors.
Of these drivers, 43% said that talking to passengers led them to make mistakes. And 37% noted that just thinking of something other than driving led to errors. These mistakes included things like speeding, ending up in the wrong lane, missing a junction, or nearly colliding with another car, pedestrian, or cyclist.
What do you think, Pandas? Was the driver right to ask his wife to ride in the back so that he would be less distracted? How would you have handled the situation? What can your passengers do to support you as the driver, instead of distracting you? Let us know in the comments below. And, once again, stay safe on the road.
Later, the author shared more context about the situation in the comments
Most readers thought the driver did the right thing, and that everyone’s safety was the top priority
That being said, not everyone was on the same page. Some folks thought that the driver could have handled things differently
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KatSaidThat 1 day ago
NTA - she will cause an accident one day. She needs some sort of therapy, just not sure what though.
Nicole Weymann 1 day ago
If she thinks that his driving style is the problem rather than her behaviour she'll never consent to therapy. The only alternative I can think of outside of travelling separately or knocking her out one way or another would be a sleepmask and headphones with music or audiobooks. Maybe make a point of standing near her doing chores or something and near-panicking for show whenever she lifts a plate, because she might drop it. I understand that a driver pretty much has their passengers' lives in his hands, so more potential for catastrophes than washing the dishes, but that should be MORE of an incentive not to distract them. (As for the ársehats who wrote "just ignore her": I envy people who can switch off their surroundings like that. I can't. OP's wife would have had my final warning on our third trip at the latest)
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Apatheist 1 day ago
As any driver will tell you, whatever the relationship is otherwise, when you're in the car, the driver's requirements are paramount, not any passenger's. The driver is *in charge* and must be relaxed and alert at all times, and focussed on the road. At most a passenger can provide directions while reading a map.
KatSaidThat 1 day ago
NTA - she will cause an accident one day. She needs some sort of therapy, just not sure what though.
Nicole Weymann 1 day ago
If she thinks that his driving style is the problem rather than her behaviour she'll never consent to therapy. The only alternative I can think of outside of travelling separately or knocking her out one way or another would be a sleepmask and headphones with music or audiobooks. Maybe make a point of standing near her doing chores or something and near-panicking for show whenever she lifts a plate, because she might drop it. I understand that a driver pretty much has their passengers' lives in his hands, so more potential for catastrophes than washing the dishes, but that should be MORE of an incentive not to distract them. (As for the ársehats who wrote "just ignore her": I envy people who can switch off their surroundings like that. I can't. OP's wife would have had my final warning on our third trip at the latest)
Load More Replies... Apatheist 1 day ago
As any driver will tell you, whatever the relationship is otherwise, when you're in the car, the driver's requirements are paramount, not any passenger's. The driver is *in charge* and must be relaxed and alert at all times, and focussed on the road. At most a passenger can provide directions while reading a map.
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