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40 Times A Great Date Took A Major And Unpredicted Turn For The Worse, As Shared Online
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Probably most of you remember your first date in your childhood - that feeling of slight nervousness, asking your parents for permission, getting ready and not knowing what to expect. These dates feel like the most important thing! Then you grow a little bit older. In this digital age, it’s common to meet people online - you communicate, get to know each other better and then decide to finally meet for a date. However, for this one you are even more nervous - you are not sure how that person looks in real life, how they act, if you will like each other or if you just wasted your time. However, when we are adults, we become more picky about our potential partners. There are quite a few qualities or values that are important to us and that we expect our partners to have. Needless to say, finding significant others is complicated, thus not all dates can go as smoothly as expected.
Speaking about that, one Reddit user started a thread asking people online to share times when a date was going well, but other people managed to ruin it. So, here you can find 41 of the weirdest, funniest, cringiest and most uncomfortable stories shared online.
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#1
I went on a date with a guy who owned a local trendy business. It kind of made him a bit of local celebrity. I am an introvert, I don't like attention and prefer to pretend that I am invisible when out in public. We were on our second date at a restaurant, not super fancy but certainly a little romantic date type place. During our dinner, no less than 5 randoms stopped by our table to talk to him. They were all customers and he was trying to balance being an attentive date without totally alienating customers. It was super awkward. He was aware that I was an introvert and was apologetic about it. He suggested that we wrap up dinner, hit up a store to grab some drinks and dessert and go to the beach - a good way to be around less people. In the shop we stopped at, 2 more people came up to him to chat and then at the beach another person stopped and this one actually tried to sit down and join us. At this point, I decided this guy wasn't for me. I really liked him as a person but I couldn't deal with all the attention he attracted. Some how he convinced me to go on a third date which I am glad he did. It's been 20 plus years that we've been together. He's helped me come out of my shell a little and I've taught him the delights of being an introvert and taking some completely people-free weekends. He is my person and I love him more than anything.
ValdaDeDieu 2 years ago (edited)
This was similar to a plot of an episode on Drop Dead Diva.
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Fish Fingers 2 years ago
My wife is an absolute legend. She can get on with ANYBODY! We'll go out for a drink and she'll immediately wander off then come back and say 'Oh this is Jamie, he just got out of prison for attempted murder', or 'Oh my god, this is Maria and she likes dogs!'. It's all one and the same to her. As a quiet guy, I have considered this her superpower for over twenty years.
Mouse 2 years ago
My brain read that your wife could get it on with anybody & I expected a very different ending.
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Steve Eaton 2 years ago (edited)
Found future frau at church. Happily married 53+ yrs. Awesome relationship. 3 successful kids, 4 sweetie gkids....2 girls, two boys. Aged 18 mo to 13 yrs. A 5th due in oct. SO EXCITED!
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#2
This wasn't a date going well and then being ruined, so much as he f****d it from the start and kept f*****g it all the way through.
I had been friends with a guy from school for a couple of years. We both clearly liked each other and things gradually progressed to flirtation.
When we were both 16, he finally asked me to go bowling with him because he knew through our previous friendship that I'd had this idea in my head that a bowling date was the perfect first date and he wanted to impress me. Problem was that we didn't live near a bowling alley, neither of us had a car, I didn't live near any public transport links, but he did have a bus stop near his house. We agreed I would walk to meet him at the bus stop and figure it out from there.
I start the mile long walk and within ten minutes, the heavens open. I texted him that I was going to keep walking because I was already soaked to my skin so what did it matter at this point, and I was so excited for our date. No reply. I finally get to the bus stop and he's not there. I call him to ask what's going on. He tells me he doesn't want to walk to the bus stop in the rain so thinks we should give the bowling alley a miss... wtf? I had just walked A MILE in the rain to meet him and he had to walk like maybe 3 minutes from his house and he couldn't be bothered.... like, r u okay?
He then proceeds to invite me to his house instead. I don't know what possessed me, but I said okay. I guess I had just known this guy so long and had so been looking forward to this date that I just wanted to let the weirdness slide. But wait, I don't actually know how to get to his house. Again, he doesn't want to get wet, so naturally he doesn't come and meet me. He just talks me through the most vague directions, while I continue to get soaked. For some reason, I perservere.
After another 25 minutes of aimless wandering in the rain, I finally arrive at his parents' house, ring the doorbell... and a random man answers the door. I am freaking out that I've got the wrong house. Nope, it's his uncle. Because, lo and behold, his entire extended family of about 25 people, who I have never met, are round for dinner, and this 16-year-old moron doesn't think to wait at the door for me to avoid this exact scenario, or even mention this at any point or give me any opportunity to prepare myself. So here I am looking like I've been dunked in a swimming pool, mascara down my face, pink dip dye ends running down my top, and no date to be found.
Eventually he appears, leads me off into another room where he plants us on the sofa with no plan, just a plate of dry leftover poppadoms between us, and a parade of extended relatives popping in at regular intervals to size me up. We chat for a few hours between visitors, I call my mum to come get me, and he tries to kiss me at the door. My very first kiss ever, and he went in full tongues. Traumatising.
Anyway, it's been 10 years and I married him 3 weeks ago. And yes, this did come up in the speeches.
JuniorCJ82 2 years ago
Scheherazade is a better love story than Twilight.
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Heather Resatz 2 years ago
All the best to you both .. great story. He's a very lucky guy you were willing to overlook all those challenges
Karen Philpott 2 years ago
I hope he's been a lot better at communication and care for you, and that continues.
Bored Panda contacted Hayley Quinn, who is a dating coach, and she kindly agreed to share her insights and tips for and about first dates.
To begin with, key principles for making a great first impression, according to Hayley, are to be both interested and interesting. “Get the balance wrong and you could appear under confident, or arrogant. Be cautious of asking too many questions of your date without first sharing the same level of information yourself.”
#3
It was a first date in a little restaurant. She was a bit late and had 2 shopping bags, even though we were going to the film after dinner, but ok, it was a Saturday afternoon, so, lots of shopping. The meal was nice, conversation was interesting, she looked cute.
And then the police arrived and arrested her because she was shoplifting and security cameras had caught her.
Bob Brooce 2 years ago
If only she hadn't told everybody at the stores where she was going next.
Oddly Me 2 years ago
Unless the restaurant is real close to the store(s), I can't see this happening.
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#4
I was out with a guy having a lovely time and he made a comment about a copper bangle bracelet I was wearing. I told him that it was really special to me, I got it during my semester abroad in South Africa from a local. It was a solid copper band but in the middle there was copper wire woven around. He asked to take a closer look so I took it off and handed it to him. He then snapped it in half thinking the copper wire was a spring. I was visibly upset and he said that it was a sign that I needed to move on from my trip and stop living in the past (?!!?). I never spoke to him again
Dina Anastasakos 2 years ago
Glaring red flag right there. Zero accountability and gaslighting cause nothing is his fault....wow. Sorry about your bracelet tho.Hope you can fix it.
Kimberly Wiltshire 2 years ago
Jeezus..he didnt accidently do that. Well that bracelet probably saved you.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
Right??? I would have definitely caught a few felony charges
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James Howell 2 years ago
Passive aggressive to say the least. I have a rumbling in my gut that is saying, NARCISSIST!!!!!
Anyone-for-tea? 2 years ago
I was hoping it would have a happy ending like the first two and go in to say, he was so apologetic, he went and got it fixed at a local jeweller, but he flew to me South Africa to buy a new one for our first anniversary.
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Eledore Massis 2 years ago
The past is all we know, the presents is all that is, and the future together will never arrive "Jerk".
However if you ask too many questions in a row you will sound more like a gushing fan than somebody who is interesting in their own right. “It's also hard to trust someone who is very closed up, and hard to be attracted to someone who isn't able to talk passionately about their own lives, so remember to share authentically about who you are,” Hayley shares.
So if you are also taking time to listen to the other person, you will come across as trustworthy, not arrogant, by talking about yourself.
#5
It was me. We were having a great time, we had a couple of cocktails and we were laughing constantly and flirting. I dont think I've ever hit it off so well with anyone. I'd not long come back from Afghanistan, she asked about the temperature out there. 2 minutes later I was crying my eyes out and all my s**t that I'd bottled up was coming out. She got all the details that she never asked for and it was awkward to the point where she couldn't leave as I kept talking and crying, for 1.5 hours. 1 hour of hilarious drinks, 1.5 hours of crying and talking about dead children.
Sleepy Panda 2 years ago
ptsd can be a son of a bįtch. I hope you’re getting the help you need and deserve.
Jeremy James 2 years ago
I was really hoping that this was going to be one of these stories that end with, "Surprise! We're celebrating our 10th wedding anniversary next month." OP felt a connection and opened up in a moment of vulnerability. That's a green flag if you ask me.
SincerelyMeesh 2 years ago
This happened to my fiance at our friend's birthday. He got a drink at the bar and it reminded him of this guy he served with. Then he remembered the kid had unalived himself when they got home. He had a bit of a melt down at the bar and started obsessively fixing his outfit, like he was preparing for parade. We went outside so I could smoke and he could calm down. A random guy asked if fiance was in the military cause of how his sleeves were rolled. RG was army. They bonded and began bs'ing. I could see fiance physically relax and even smiled. Thanks RG. good guy.
Karen Philpott 2 years ago
I hope both of you are alright as it'd be hard on her when she wasn't expecting it, and hard on you for what you had went through.
Mark Fuller 2 years ago
That's a really unfortunate post to read. My heart goes out to you. And I'm glad you found some peace. But for what little it's worth, you're not alone in bottling lots of emotional stuff up and having a verbal vomit on someone who will listen...
#6
He started telling me about how its normal for men to sleep with another woman when they are not sexually satisfied in a relationship without it being considered cheating.
Yes, he did say it doesnt work the same way for unsatisfied women :)
DennyS (denzoren) 2 years ago
They never say it works the same way for women, it's always a one way street when you hear these scenarios.
ConstantlyJon 2 years ago
I'd say he was cheating by going on that date if I could ever believe another person would actually be with him in the first place.
Never Snarky 2 years ago
A guy told me that it wasn't cheating if it was consensual. We are both married. What b******t.
RandomEpiBioPerson 2 years ago
Open relationships, swinging, etc., can be perfectly fine and great relationships, but it should go both ways, not just be one-sided.
Speaking about personal topics, conversations about the future and when it’s the right time to touch on them, the dating coach says that while it’s nice to share openly on your dates, it’s also important to remember that what you share should be related to how well you know somebody. “First dates are about getting to know someone new, and having fun, that's it!”
Thus serious topics such as about commitment or previous partners should be left for later until you have had more time to develop trust in the person that you are seeing. “No one wants to feel like they're being sized up for a relationship before you've got to know them.”
#7
Went on a date with a girl and we were hanging out at my place when she saw a spider. I went “Hang on, please don’t squish it. I’ll just get a piece of paper and put it outside.”
From the kitchen I hear a thump and she stomped it, and then laughed when I got upset. Asked her to leave pretty soon after that and there was no second date.
If she had instinctively squished it, then I would be more understanding. But she did it after I specifically asked her not to and was so spiteful about it.
ConstantlyJon 2 years ago
I'm all for stomping on spiders, honestly. I'm not a "just put it outside" kind of person when it comes to insects. But also, if someone specifically asks you not to do something and then you get enjoyment out of doing it anyway, you're a psychopath.
Lucille 2 2 years ago (edited)
Y’all :( it’s a living creature, don’t just stomp on poor little critters unless you can’t possibly think of a single better solution. (Being too lazy or too grossed out to scoop it up in a cup so you’ve decided it obviously deserves to die is not a better solution) sorry please don’t hate me D: I’m allergic too but a cup and a piece of paper and 60 seconds to scoop it up and toss it outside isn’t a huge ask, no?
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detective miller's hat 2 years ago
I don't even take them outside at this point, they just live with me now.
María Hermida 2 years ago
I hate spiders. And I'm afraid of them. Having said this, I could never trust a person who enjoys killing a living creature who has done no harm to you. If you need to kill it, kill it, but do not enjoy it, even if it's a spider.
Lucille 2 2 years ago (edited)
Exactly, it’s a living creature :( just because it’s tiny doesn’t mean it’s insignificant. If you wouldn’t just straight up kill a bird for accidentally getting into your house through an open window, please don’t kill spiders for the same crime. Call me and I’ll come save y’all from the scary spider! (My cats hunt and eat all my spihders so maybe I’m coming from a place of privilege hahaha)
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The only ones allowed to squish spiders in my flat are my cats, if I get to the spider first then it gets relocated.
Pandapoo 2 years ago
Roommate got up during the night to use the bathroom. He’s a put-it-outside kind of guy (I am with certain kinds of bugs and lizards). He saw something with glowing eyes in the hallway and he just nudged it with his foot and it fluttered away. Next morning, me: “What? You didn’t kill it? “. Next day I see what looks like a dead moth in a room off the hall. Picked it up and tossed it in the toilet. Its eyes were glowing! Flush! Looked it up and found out it was a click beetle. A day or two later, saw what I thought was a small twig. Just in case, I picked it up with some tissue and that possessed thing started jerking its head back and clicking! I ran to the bathroom and…you know the rest. I didn’t sleep well for a few nights. Sorry Pandas. The door was closer, so if I wasn’t so weirded out I could have tossed it outside.
Talitha Jansen 2 years ago
So you kill it because you can't be bothered to put it out the door. They're living creatures, like you. Your fear doesn't justify the kill.
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LittleWombat 2 years ago
She asks me to kill the spider. Instead, I get the most peaceful weapons I can find. I take a cup and a napkin. I catch the spider, put it outside and allow it to walk away. If I am ever caught in the wrong place at the wrong time, just being alive and not bothering anyone, I hope I am greeted with the same kind of mercy. Mercy, poem by Rudy Francisco
Dick Fint 2 years ago
I would have done the same thing. I live in SW FL, and I've come to realize over the years that spiders, snakes, and certain other critters that "civilized" people hate are actually are helpers. Snake under your trailer? He keeps the mice from getting in. Spiders on your porch? Eating all kinds of stuff that don't make it thru your open doors. I tell ladies now that I have pet snakes and spiders if they express a desire to view my abode. Saves a great deal of time & money.
Persephone 2 years ago
Yeah that's upsetting! I try to remove spiders or leave them be. I will say tho, I do yell "die f****r!" At centipedes.... I really hate those things and they are so stinking fast! Sorry, I do curse mosquitoes and flies as well.
Never Snarky 2 years ago
Yeah, centipedes die because I've never been able to catch one, and I've tried. I just can't stand the thought of them climbing on me. Everything else I do my best to relocate or just leave be. I can't tell you how many stink bugs I've tossed outside.
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“Dinosaurs never existed. Fossils are the devils way of testing our faith” - check please.
LovingKnuckle 2 years ago
Yeah I think when little kids get cancer is more of a test of our faith than fûcking fossils
Spocks's Mom 2 years ago
Seventh Day Adventist? My in-laws are sevens and I have heard interesting things.
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Michael Largey 2 years ago
Satan has a far more devious way of testing our faith- he calls it religion.
#9
As soon as he found out I was Latina (apparently I didn't look nor sound like whatever Latino stereotype he had in his head), said "Latina!? CALIENTE!!!!", and quickly started making sexual remarks and talking about how he loves Latinas 'cuz they're so hot and spicy and sexual...
Nope'd the f**k out immediately.
Spocks's Mom 2 years ago
So he finds out she's Latina and all respect goes out the window? Ffs.
AndThenICommented 2 years ago
Can attest. Also - have a friend (White California girl) who always makes micro aggressive comments when I talk about my family: “oh, I keep forgetting that you’re Latina. Well, I lived in SoCal and you’re not really Latina. You don’t act like it all!” ….. 🤨
TiNaBoNiNa 2 years ago
This person is not your "friend." Don't tolerate someone insulting you or your culture. She obviously has drunk the stereotype Kool-Aid. Let her know those type of comments are not acceptable. If she apologizes and does better, great. If not, then surround yourself with people who don't peg people into stereotype categories.
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CrowOfHearts 2 years ago
Ugh, its so gross when people do sh!t like that. Coming from someone who's asian, these people are gross T-T
Pittsburgh rare 2 years ago
I heard that in the way some anglos say it and l cringed visibly 🤣
So you may be wondering when it’s the right time to make sure that person is looking at you seriously and wants the same as you. Hayley says to focus on how you are connecting first, then somewhere in the early dating stages, if you have established you like each other, you can have a conversation about commitment.
“For some people it will feel natural to do this on date 3, for others after 3 months; Again it's a balance of not asking on a first date, and not waiting so long that you wind up in a situationship,” she emphasizes.
#10
"do you like to read?"
"Not really"
"What kind of music do you like"
"I don't really listen to music"
"Do you like TV or movies"
"No"
There was no second date
Holy Shimmering Sheeps541t 2 years ago
I used to think I was odd because I got on well with my mother in law, we both had the same taste in books and would discuss them and recommend them to each other. So, she passed as all things do and I was talking to one of my best friends who's mother in law had passed too, he said he'd miss their discussions about books and all of the authors she turned him onto. And wouldn't you know it, we all had the same taste so now me and him trade authors and discuss books.
Darryl Martin 2 years ago
My Dad noticed and encouraged my love of reading from a very young age. He loved it too, we would talk for hours about the latest books we had read. When he died all I cared about getting was his enormous library. Nobody else in my family was really interested in reading so I got them all. They're by far my most cherished possessions. I hope to pass them on to my son when I go as he has also caught the reading bug.
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Gen X Feral (try/me) 2 years ago
I'm gonna hazard a guess and say video games
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Deborah B 2 years ago
This is why you lead with "What do you like to do?" Maybe they paint, or game, or design tattoos, or they make eddible sugar sculptures, or they're building a 1:12 scale model of Gondor in their basement. Find what they're passionate about, and you could find a fascinating individual you can connect with.
Robin Roper 2 years ago
- "So tell me, what do you find intellectually stimulating?" - "Intella what?"
Enuya 2 years ago
Come on, there are more things to be interested in than just books, music and movies. Maybe they're into paper crafts? Maybe they love hiking or recognize any edible or usable plant in the area? Maybe every day they religiously write in their bullet journal? Spend hours playing on their pan flute? Knitting? Cooking? Learning ancient greek? There are myriads of hobbies and interests which AREN'T connected to boks, music and movies. Also, you can enjoy movies/music in general, without having favourite titles or genre, i.e. I *love* music, but while I have tons of favourite songs, I practically don't have favourite artists.
Angel Stage 2 years ago
I had a date that was almost exactly like this. I finally said "What do you like to do?" He just shrugged. No second date there either.
#11
Literally went on a date last night and was going really well until dessert when he said “god, I can’t wait to put kids in you.”.
We hadn’t even talked about kids at that point.
Heather Resatz 2 years ago
Some cave men think we can't resist a man who wants to procreate with us .. from my experience? These guys are fantasizing and trying to lock in a 'mate' with offspring .. and they are quick to ditch once actual small people arrive and they have to deal with their egos .. jeez. Run.
Eledore Massis 2 years ago
You don't talk about sex during food. You don't talk about fetishes/kinks until after the first sex(y) encounter. You don't talk about kids unless you are having the "we serious relationship" talk..
RandomEpiBioPerson 2 years ago
Honestly, I wouldn't agree with the waiting to discuss fetishes/kinks until after having sex for the first time, because I think that disgusting at least a couple minor things can help with the first interaction, and at least give some better of an idea of you two will be sexually compatible, even before reaching that point. That's just me though. I understand that some people get really uncomfortable talking about things like sex.
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greasy jungle 2 years ago (edited)
Put kids in you? Does he think you’re some sort of windowless van?
#12
The date started normal and fine, I was visiting town and wanted to have some fun and found him on tinder. He was taking me to a bunch of different bars in the area that he liked. Then randomly halfway through, while walking to another bar, he does a 180 and randomly starts giving me s**t and being snarky at me because “you women hate short guys like us.” ???? What???? He was short, yes. But I hadn’t said anything? I didn’t draw any attention to something that didn’t seem to matter. And I was ON the date! I chose to go out with him! We were having fun! It’s not like he’d tried anything and I turned him down, so I’m to this day baffled as to what made him snap. Was he expecting me to randomly throw myself at him at some point? Was I supposed to try to cut the date short and insist on f*****g right then and there or what?? I just stood there while he gave me, the woman who gave him a chance, s**t for all the s**t he felt other women gave him. And then I tearfully said “I thought we were having fun, but thanks for making me feel like s**t” and I *literally* ran away leaving him standing in the street and blocked him like the madman he was. I feel bad for him, but not enough to accept abuse when I did nothing to deserve it. Ask me why I only dated tall, confident men after that.
Aboredpanda 2 years ago (edited)
He self sabotaged a great date, due to his negative thoughs about himself. Honestly it's a bad idea being with someone who has such low self-confidence in the first place, it can be really toxic. He helped her dodge a bullet, and maybe it taught him a lesson and helped him out, too?
Paul Navarrete 2 years ago
The Sad Boy Brigade probably gave him a playbook that told him that he should be sleeping with her by that point in the date. And if the blind leaders don't know what they are talking about, the blind follower can only assume there was something wrong with her.
SadieCat17 2 years ago
And now he's going to use that date as an example of how women hate short guys and he's being "discriminated" against because of it. Even though he was being a total a*s and she didn't care about height. And then he's going to tell all his friends online and another innocent short guy is going to get ideas about how no one will love him because he's short. The natural parasitic life cycle of an incel.
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Trish 2 years ago
When I was in my early 20's, I dated a guy for 4 months before he decided he had an issue with me being 5'9" (he was 5'5"). I never had an issue with it, never understood the obsession with height. I was fully grown when me met, obviously, so wth? We ended up breaking up because he started getting physically violent.
Lola Granola 2 years ago
Yeah, could've done without that final sentence. Went from a story I could sympathize with to her sounding almost as shallow as he made her out to be.
Kristen Bagan 2 years ago
Makes one wonder... Three sides to every story, right?
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Mikey Kliss 2 years ago
I'm shortish (5'7") but i have honestly never cared if the woman was taller then me or not. My mom is taller then my dad. Though I'm my moms height and my dad is the same height as my wife so I guess we ended up switching that dynamic after all
SkyBlueandBlack 2 years ago
Did he by any chance also have a really loud car or a lifted pickup?
And finally, how to handle the situation if there is no chemistry or connection during the first date? The dating coach shares to first remember to choose a ‘low-commitment’ first date to start with. “It's a lot easier to leave a round of drinks at a bar, or a coffee date, than walk out on a 3-course meal. So keep your first dates short and sweet.”
“If there's no connection you then have a choice to either enjoy the chat for what it is (most people can tell us something interesting and new) or walk away by saying politely, but truthfully, ‘I appreciate you meeting me, but I want to be open that I don't feel we have that connection... and I'm guessing you feel the same.’
“The only exception to this is if you feel unsafe; in this case you can ‘ask for Angela’ at a bar (UK) or ‘an angel shot’ (USA) which alerts a member of staff to the fact you feel unsafe and may need help exiting a date,” Hayley shares.
#13
Our *first* date was amazing. I still reminisce about how incredible that night was and how incredible I thought my life was about to become.
But the afternoon before what was supposed to be our second date, I got a voicemail, "I know you went out with my fiancee last night. I'm not mad at you. I'm sure you didn't know I existed. But I do, and I'd appreciate it if you stopped seeing her."
Welp.
Con O Cuinn 2 years ago
Either way, not a situation you wanna be involved with
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Michael Largey 2 years ago
It's the caller who obviously should stop going out with the fiancee.
Lise Brouillette 2 years ago
And what's HE doing with a louse like that, being content with warding off rivals with a stick? SMH
#14
Not me but a friend of mine. This was when we were around 22, 23 years old. She had a first date with a guy. They were meeting at a restaurant for dinner. She gets there and sees not only him but 2 other people at the table. Turns out he invited his parents to their date! So she, of course, excused herself to go to the bathroom and then just bounced. Talk about awkward. I have never laughed so hard as when she recounted her evening.
Trish 2 years ago
I would have stayed, just for the goldmine of stories that evening would provide.
Lucille 2 2 years ago
I would have stayed and become the weirdest most feral version of myself just for funsies.
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Hobby Hopper 2 years ago
I grew up in a conservative religious tradition. I once went on a date where her little brother was there, because her parents insisted a third party was present. Believe it or not, there are parts of that former life I miss (the community, etc.), but there are other aspects of it I'm so glad to have left behind.
ILoveMySon 2 years ago
My mother had to take my aunt on her dates in the early 60's. 😬
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Gen X Feral (try/me) 2 years ago
I'd of stayed for the free food lol If I have to suffer through this weirdness you can at least feed me
So folks, do you have some stories of dates that went sideways? Maybe you have some tips that may be useful to others? Share them in the comments!
#15
Oh my I have a story for this one, first date got dinner and everything was going amazing, so we decided to go for a walk on the trails, and this boy though it was a smart idea to climb a tree! Guess what happened next, he’s ten feet in the air and he’s climbing a dead tree after I told him it was a dumb idea. Next thing I know the branch breaks and there puke and blood everywhere. I ended up going to ER with him after calling 911 and even met his mom! He ended up with a concussion and five stitches in his head, but he’s okey now. Him and I are great friends now.
SkyBlueandBlack 2 years ago
Lol my best friend in high school said the same thing. With her, though, they'd gone to a playground and she fell off a swing or something. Emergency dental surgery makes a memorable first date, even for people who weren't there!
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Michael Largey 2 years ago (edited)
I've been on dates where climbing a tree was the strong suggestion of the other party.
#16
I had some odd dates after I got divorced and was trying to meet new people.
So when meeting someone for the first time I would always invite them to do something kind of noncommittal like getting coffee so I could end things early and leave if they get weird. The girl shows up and has her two young children with her that I didn't know about. That wasn't a problem for me and she was super nice so we talked for about twenty minutes outside the coffee shop and I suggested we do something more kid friendly like getting ice cream and everyone loved the idea.
So we googled a nearby place and went there instead, kids were happy and we had some really good conversation for about an hour. I asked if she would be interested in dinner and she said yes but it would have to be several hours later and she might still have the kids, her sitter had bailed last minute. We met later that night and she had the kids again and we ate at a low end steak house, we got along great and the conversation was good! But she got sloppy drunk off the three drinks she ordered with dinner and then drove her kids home after (I did offer to pay for her to get a ride home) and that just killed any interest I had.
Michelle C 2 years ago
Yes and calling the cops for drunk driving and child endangerment would have been wise, too!
Kiss Army 2 years ago
On a side note, I am surprised BP allowed his interest to be killed and not just unalived... LOL!
Lizzie Lola 2 years ago
I'd have been sus after she brought the unmentioned kids. Sitters dip, it happens. Having been a single mom back when most people had pagers and cell phones were bricks, you can find a way to communicate.
Andre Blue 2 years ago
Look, I absolutely get this but... what the heck is happening to y'all after three drinks? Is that a typical amount of booze to make a person sloppy fall-down nasty drunk? Because I have never witnessed three drinks mess a person up like that unless they were on some meds with bad interactions. We're they Long Islands or something?
Anon822209 2 years ago
It depends on the drinks and the person. A lot of drinks can be stronger than you think. Rum drinks come to mind because they're usually mixed with fruit juice. It covers the taste of the booze and you don't realize it till it's too late. That said, IMO she shouldn't have had more than one when she had her kids, and she never should have driven.
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Maggie Mae 2 years ago
I would also Have Called the COPS who then Would have REMOVED her CHILDREN from Her NON CARE!! I Hope They Survived her!!
Manuela Benoit 2 years ago
I don't think he blew it really.. He could have been more insisting that she did not drive. She blew it big time but I would have told her I was calling the cops if she insisted on driving in her condition.
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#17
she got jealous because I was nice to the waitress.
Panda Kicki 2 years ago
To little info here. The date could have been creepy flirting or just natural polite, impossible to know.
Goat express 2 years ago
She wanted you to be mean to the waitress? I don't get people. Also, the flights in the picture look delicious.
Michelle C 2 years ago
Kindness to service staff in any capacity is key for me. Good for him!!
Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
I had a really abusive ex. He beat the sh*t out of me for being nice to the bag boy at the grocery store. He was probably 15? I was polite and smiled at him, so obviously I was fu*cking him. A FIFTEEN YEAR OLD.
Maggie Mae 2 years ago
That Warned You exactly how she would React to every FEMALE you ever Were POLITE TO!! She has PROBLEMS and Not just Jealousy!!
Blair Doak 2 years ago
Red Flag. I went with a girl for 3 years that would flip out if I did that and she was physically abusive.
#18
Ordered a pint of beer, it was really good. Got halfway through waiting for the date to show up. She sat down, chatted and said "this isn't what I was expecting" then got up and left. Ruined my beer.
My dating pictures were accurate, so not sure what happened.
Eledore Massis 2 years ago
Is this the ideal life? Not this is reality. She was expecting a landslide, but his pictures where a reality. Open your eyes look at the guy and see: he is just a poor buy, who just wants some company. But she is easy come, easy go, end of date, she is gone.
iluvanimals 2 years ago
Who knows, but maybe it didn't have to do with you personally? Maybe a first date after a breakup or married, normally into bad boys or a different kind of guy or some other person issue of hers. I hope knowing there are other possible reasons that are not personal makes it easier on you since I could see this making someone doubt themselves.
Veronica Michelle 2 years ago
I don’t see the problem with her on this. Sounds like he wasn’t what she was looking for, so she didn’t waste her time. Shrug.
Russell Tilling 2 years ago
She was a very poor communicator and an unsympathetic person, so better off not with her imho.
#19
After a nice dinner, we were waiting in line to go see a movie when he started making some super racist comments about a group of black teens ahead of us.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
One time I was out with a guy that loudly said "ew" every time an interracial couple walked by. That was it for me.
Andy Frobig 2 years ago
I'd like to think I'd never make it to the dating stage with someone like that, but then I never make it to the dating stage in general
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Ronald 1 year ago
I had a cute, tiny-in proportion dwarf woman as a side chick. Excellent in bed, great personality and had her own house! We went to a supermarket, I was proud of her appearance. I had her wearing a beautiful dress that accentuated her figure. At the store a black man saw her and said, "I see a Goddess has come to Earth!" She responded, "Get away N****R!!" I answered, "If you say anything like that ever again, I will give you a true beating on the spot. HE will watch. Than I leave you there to find your way home!!"
#20
He showed up remarkably, extravagantly, supernaturally high.
Pascal’s Swagger 2 years ago
Oh, I went on a date where the dude left multiple times to go smoke weed in the parking lot. And we were at a bar.
SheamusFanFrom1987 2 years ago
I'm pretty sure he didn't drive because he wouldn't be allowed on the high, high, highway. Or would he... XP
#21
Made a weird sexual joke when we were buying food/snacks. He said something like ‘I’ll give you a snack later’ and started laughing to himself quite loud and other people heard the whole thing too. It made me super uncomfortable because I’m not into stuff like this, or moving fast in relationships and I lost all interest in him.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
Ewww my worst date started sending me D**k pics when he went to the rest room. I was so mortified and grossed out I just hauled a*s. Men- ladies do NOT WANT PHOTOS OF YOUR W**G. In any circumstance. I don't know one woman who ever appreciated that.
Saturn The Furry S/T 2 years ago
Even if it was party size, who would want that. 🤢🤮
Load More Replies... Robin Roper 2 years ago
"You do know this is our first date, and making any sexual comment means it will be the only date. If you wish, we can end it now."
A B C the Third 2 years ago
The only one who is allowed and even necessitated to do that is Quagmire. Everyone else, biiiiig nope.
Blair Doak 2 years ago
I've known some guys like that and they never have lasting relationships.
Dina Anastasakos 2 years ago
I don't know the cause but it seems to me that people don't know how to behave anymore in polite society. Like how is his comment even remotely acceptable in public? Not even nice to say in private either.
#22
I went on a blind date who had “just gotten out of a bad relationship.”
When she first showed up she looked really rattled. Beautiful, but rattled. Asked if she was ok and she said she was fine. A tall guy passed too close by her chair and she practically jumped out of her skin.
Finally admitted she had been “dating” her cousin.
Yes, her cousin.
They were “really into” each other but she finally called it off because she knew it was wrong. He wasn’t happy (it didn’t seem like she was either). It was a shame because she was gorgeous but her mind was a million miles away the whole time.
I went to drop her off in front of her apartment complex and there was a a tall, good looking guy leaning against a car out front. She gasped and said “that’s him!”
I asked if she’d be ok or if she wanted me to walk her in or take her somewhere else. She said she was fine but I might want to leave ASAP. She then proceeded to practically leap into his arms as he strode towards us. As I drove off I saw her get into his Tesla.
PlatinumThe8-BitCat 2 years ago
I know in some places if you’re very far cousins, I don’t know the actual name for it, that it’s legal to be in a relationship
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David 2 years ago
I'm not a fan of incest but 'cousin' is rather vaguely defined and the common ancestor is at least two generations above you. Thus the genes are diluted some which is why over half of US states allow cousins to get married. It's a flag, but to me the bigger red flag is dating the guy and then jumping into the arms of the other guy. Also the paranoia over tall men. Seems like there is something more to the story than just "I dated my cousin"
Fat Harry 2 years ago
First cousins marrying is legal in the UK. I mean, our royal family would have died out ages ago if it weren't.
Brandon Parisien 2 years ago
It's actually legal in America too....however I'm wondering if this was an abusive relationship.
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Max Fox 2 years ago
I would like to point out that dating and marrying cousins is pretty common across the world. In most places in the world, including the USA, most people stay in the area in which they were born. While the USA, being a country of immigrants, usually has a larger choice of people who are not related, even in a relatively small town, for most of the world, this means that their entire dating pool is related to some extent.
MakeupMama68 2 years ago
In my family cousins are pretty much raised like siblings… I can’t even imagine dating one of mine… way too weird. We all grew up together.
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Russell Tilling 2 years ago
Not a crime and unlikely any progeny would have any abnormalities apparently. Que sera sera?
Robin Roper 2 years ago
Many cultures and countries do not consider relationships between cousins to be incest. Continued intermarriage within a family can cause big genetic problems but not if it's a one-off. It certainly wouldn't be for me because, yuck, and even though I like my cousins, I don't like them that much.
WildHoneyPie 2 years ago
Okay but can we just talk about that picture? What a cute idea for a cookie!
#23
Went on a date with a gorgeous girl from college. We had similar tastes in music and I asked her about her Skrewdriver T shirt she was wearing and she went on to brag about the band's white supremacist theme.
Holy Shimmering Sheeps541t 2 years ago
As soon as I saw Skrewdriver I moped, didn't bother reading the rest.
Daft Mosquito 2 years ago
I thought it says here *similar tastes in music*, so why is it a surprise?
over it already 2 years ago
Yeah, but in high school I was into rap, so my mom came home with an album from some Christian rapper she "heard about." Similar does not equal the same when you're talking music.
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iluvanimals 2 years ago
Let's say one person said they love opera, but the 2nd person said they liked an opera that was racist. Just because the first person loved opera, doesn't mean they love racist operas (since they're against racist views).
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I wish this would be made up. Had an amazing date. Went to his place. Dude had a car bed. And a small heart shaped bed "for the ladies". ............
Fenchurch 2 years ago
Did he have a suspiciously youthful outlook on life, work for a toy manufacturer and wanted to track down an obscure fairground machine?
Francine Oglethorpe 2 years ago
Ummm that's awesome. I had sharing a bed....was there a third bed for merging...
Jacqui Dunn 2 years ago
So you get the heart-shaped one? Separate beds, because it's a first date?
#25
I was on a date with a newly divorced woman. We were having a nice dinner and getting to know each other before it turned awkward. She didn't tell me she had kids until we were eating dinner, and she began moving things way too fast, talking about me meeting her kids right away, moving in together, etc. This was **on our first date**, and I didn't want to be anybody's step parent, much less get U-Hauly so quickly.
We finished our dinner and parted ways amicably after a heart to heart, and there were no hard feelings. She was simply getting carried away with the excitement of being single and going out with new people. She agreed that she needed to let the ink dry on her divorce a little longer and take her time before introducing new people to her children, and we fell out of contact soon after.
ConstantlyJon 2 years ago
this kind of stuff is why you end up with so many f****d up step-parent situations. adults who don't think about how dating after divorce impacts their kids end up putting them in a really awkward situation. glad OP saw how crazy it is to jump the gun with all of that, but it happens all the time.
María Hermida 2 years ago
Not only that, they bring a virtual stranger to the kids' lives without knowing anything about him/her. Could this person be a child abuser/a violent alcoholic/a control freak/etc? Yes, you do have the right to rebuild your life, but once you have kids, their safety should be your main concern.
Load More Replies... Trish 2 years ago
I went on a date with a recently divorced man. We went for coffee, and he was nice, but I could tell it would go nowhere. Afterward, I told him it was nice meeting and talking to him, but I didn't want to waste his time. His response? " Oh no, we're going to get married." So uncomfortable.
Dan St John 2 years ago
I dated a woman with 2 boys in my mid 30's. We hit it off well and I helped her two boys build box car racers for boy scouts. I was over one day when the boys were being overly loud and rambunctious and I casually asked if they could maybe tone it down a bit. She heard me ask and came storming into the room and declared that I didn't have the right to punish her kids. I told her she was absolutely correct, and I would never do it again. I got up, grabbed my coat and walked out the door. Problem solved..
SadieCat17 2 years ago
Or @Eledore Massis, maybe she was escaping an abusive relationship and wasn't doing well mentally and missed that human connection? Or maybe she got pregnant and the dude ditched her? Give people the benefit of doubt before judging them so harshly.
Okokok! 2 years ago
oh mei, similar situation I was in recently (just started dating after longer "hiatus" from meeting crazy ladies hehe) - she was nice and so, a real cool person, but after meeting once she pushed topics like that, too. Bit too fast, bit too early, for my taste (me having 2 sons which I "protect" from meeting some woman I might currently date until the point where it'll get serious into a relationship). Now dating an awesome lady, giving each other the time we need to get to know each other properly and kinda hoping this will turn into something serious...
Maggie Mae 2 years ago
Well You let Her Down Gently!! I Hope she Listened to Your Advice & didn't RUSH into another MArrige as That is Often Where Daughters get RAPED from Second Partners!! Feeling it is Their RIGHT to Initiate Girls into Becoming a Woman Who Cares if You are ONLY FIVE!!!
Great Aunt Kate 2 years ago
Seems like you handled the awkwardness well and probably helped her as well, congrats
#26
Not me but a date I witnessed working at a restaurant. This young guy and a girl showed up, they’re chatting, laughing, seemed to be having a good time. Then he got very clearly drunk and started blatantly hitting on me right in front of her. Every time I walked by the table he called me over calling me “Scarlett Johansson” and tried starting a conversation. I wasn’t even their waitress. The poor girl was literally sinking down in her seat looking miserable. I stopped trying to be polite, ignored him and gave her looks trying with all my might to psychically tell her “GET OUT.”
#27
I was the one who ruined, but:
The date went really well, we went to a bar, talked a lot, she actually invited me to her place, that was not far away from the bar. As I walked thro the door she asked what movie I would like to see, and I remembered that i had not seen the Prestige. However the movie was so interested that tipsy me started rejecting her advances due to the fact that "I would miss the good part"...
TLDR: I dont like prestige
Ian Shaw 2 years ago
Expecting someone drunk to think logically? Come on, now🤦🏻♂️
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DennyS (denzoren) 2 years ago
I wouldn't lie, if I was enjoying the movie I'd probably not notice the advances either.
Courtney Christelle 2 years ago
A boyfriend and I once did it doggy style facing the tv. We didn’t want to miss the premiere.
JesseyM 2 years ago
Hahaha!! Sounds like something my husband and I would do!!!
Load More Replies... ConstantlyJon 2 years ago
Great movie! Would definitely be difficult to follow with someone trying to, uhm, distract you.
LovingKnuckle 2 years ago
She literally invited the dude to Netflix and chill. Get with it man!
#28
We had dinner and all was going well, and we were wandering down the dark sidewalk engaged in conversation, when she walked straight into a signpost that neither of us noticed. I let out one nervous laugh before I could stop it, and she accused me of engineering the event for my amusement.
DennyS (denzoren) 2 years ago
Oh wow, if you did engineer that, that's messed up, if not, that's a strange accusation.
WindySwede 2 years ago
"Well I do work as a city planner and placed this sign here on a design in 1998. It's been a long wait..." /s
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A B C the Third 2 years ago
Back in the day when I was in primary school, my best friend and I walked to our village's corner shop. He walked infront of me, backwards, talking to me. At some point, riiiiight when he turned back around (and took some extra momentum with that), THUMP! his forehead hit a lamppost. Next thing he knew was sitting on his butt, rubbing his head and looking at me like "what the fúck just happened?" - I could not just not laugh.
Michael Largey 2 years ago
I generally enjoyed going out with people who were successful planners.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
You AHOLE!!! How DARE you let your date walk into a signpost??? YOU SHOULD HAVE BEEN PAYING ATTENTION!!! (clearly sarcasm)
Robin Roper 2 years ago
That's some superpower - to see into the future, influence a town/municipality to place a sign just so that at somepoint in the future, you would have a first date with someone who would agree to take a walk with you when it's a little dark, just so you could manipulate that person to walk into that sign. I'm impressed!
Eledore Massis 2 years ago
Sorry I don't do damsel in destress scenarios. So you want a cold pack on that before you give me the cold treatment?
Annita Stephanou 2 years ago
If it happened to me, I'd be the first one to laugh. (It did and I did, more than once)
#29
Met on a dating app in college during the last week before winter break. We realized we lived close to each other back home so we met in a nearby downtown area to get coffee. After the coffee we decided to take a walk around the city. Being winter, it was a snowy day with ice on the ground. At some point during our walk I made a joke and she playfully pushed my arm. Unfortunately, I happened to be standing on a sheet of black ice at the time. I slipped and tore both my ACL and MCL and ended up spending the next 6 months on crutches. It wasn’t really her fault of course, but that definitely ruined the date.
Mikey Kliss 2 years ago
Before I started dating my wife. we were hanging out with mutual friends and it was winter. She started slipping so I went to grab her. I believe she regained her footing about a second before i was holding her in an awkward way. She still brings it up at times
#30
I was having a great time and then my date didn’t show up.
WindySwede 2 years ago
I got a new app idea: an app where you set up a date, but the date is imaginary. But you have a reason to go somewhere and also can spend the evening there whithoute anyone. Don't know how couples could be dragged out though..
Load More Replies... Max Fox 2 years ago
It sounded like the OP was having a great time without the other person, so I do not understand how the fact that the other person didn't show up ruined it.
Pandapoo 2 years ago
Probably just disappointment. Talking to others at a bar and enjoying themselves until their date arrived and then, they didn’t.
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#31
We were on a date having a good time (at least I thought so) until one of her friends showed up and invited her to a band playing across the street. She said that sounds awesome and left. No apology, invitation, reschedule, nothing. I get if you weren't enjoying the date but some common courtesy woulda been nice.
Fenchurch 2 years ago
Yeah a friend suddenly showing up to date, means she put out a rescue me signal. Strongly suspect this guy was being scary
Lola Granola 2 years ago
I had to do this back in my single days - guy was getting really pushy and frankly creepy. I texted my friend from the ladies room and he showed up about half an hour later pretending to be my over-protective brother. My date left in a huff and thankfully never called again.
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Deborah B 2 years ago
Dude... she texted a friend and asked them to come rescue her. You were having a good time, but she was feeling unsafe, so unsafe that she couldn't even get up, make an excuse and walk out alone. You need to take a good long look at your behaviour, talk to some woman friends or relatives about how you come accross (if you have any) and possibly see a therapist.
Max Fox 2 years ago
It's worthwhile checking out the discussion on the original thread from Reddit.
Nancy Marine 2 years ago
It's not loading for me. What was in the original Reddit post?
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DennyS (denzoren) 2 years ago
Oh, that's not very nice. Glad it happened early though, wouldn't want that to go on and then find out when you're already invested in the connection.
#32
Went on a nice date with a girl. In the morning when I was driving her back we were talking about how far she lived and she mentioned that it didn’t matter she would drive even if she was drunk. I asked why she would do that and she says she used to do it in Idaho all the time so she expects to get a dui at some point. Like what
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
Yeah end it there. Or you will end up with the baggage of many fines and dating someone who is in jail followed by not having a driver's license. Not cool
Courtney Christelle 2 years ago
Lack of awareness, accountability, recklessness- so many red flags to choose from.
Julia Mckinney 2 years ago
Good way for her to kill someone, especially in Idaho or Eastern Washington.
Jared Robinson 2 years ago
I'd say 80% of the people who drink think it's just fine to drive if not more
hwatinternation 2 years ago
I really don't think that's close to being true, Jared.
Load More Replies... Eledore Massis 2 years ago
Cars and guns: Speed, mass and people doing stupid stuff is all it takes to kill anyone (yourself or others).
StarlightPanda! 2 years ago
Definitely need to stay away from selfish people who don't care of they put other's lives in danger.
#33
Like the first 80% of it was a nice/awkward but cute first date. Then at the end she pulled out her phone and started fighting with people on Twitter and narrating all of it. It was a long drive back.
Steve 2 years ago
Went on a first date and she was on her phone the whole time texting. We ordered dinner and the food came, and I figured she'd stop texting and we could have a conversation where she would speak more than yes or no. Nope, on her phone all through dinner. I excused myself and went and found the waitress and she had seen how she was on the phone too. Paid for my portion and then left the restaurant. She never noticed I was gone for almost 20 minutes when she texted me to see where I was.
iluvanimals 2 years ago
I have been reading BP for a long time now, it was different back then. There were more creative articles regarding many people with cool skills, paintings, sculptures, pictures, etc. I, like others, used to love seeing the comments. So many funny, witty, knowledgeable comments made. Rarely there was a rude comment, rarely any fighting. It's a bummer.
RedMarbles 2 years ago
Same. I miss those days. It used to be heavy on the art and humor, but has since tapped into the rage-industrial complex (which I understand gets a lot of clicks), with all the posts in the vein of "these entitled people will really p**s you off." I wish not everything would change at the chance to make a bit more money, especially if it's something good and unique, like the old Bored Panda was. In spite of the decline in the numbers of good quality commenters and the rise in numbers of trolls, it's still got a lot of good commenters left and I'm still here for now, if a bit sad.
Load More Replies... Eledore Massis 2 years ago
You don't fight online, you extend one another. Aka have fun of the funny stuff. make fun of stupid stuff and talk stupid of the funny stuff. But don't talk stupid of the stupid stuff/people.
greasy jungle 2 years ago
I can’t tell if you’re being serious or not. I’m going to assume this is a joke. Haha good one, Gastón. I will tell my family this at supper.
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#34
He started loudly talking about his kinks. In public.
Eledore Massis 2 years ago
You don't talk about sex during food. You don't talk about fetishes/kinks until after the first sex(y) encounter. You don't talk about kids unless you are having the "we serious relationship" talk.
DennyS (denzoren) 2 years ago
Was his kink talking about kinks loudly in public? Only then would it make sense. Lol
Hobby Hopper 2 years ago
"I'm going to come over there with an egg beater And a live chicken, and some peach preserves..."
Super Beast 2 years ago
sexual stuff that arent accepted to be 'normal'. like choking, spanking, fetishes...
Load More Replies... Michael Martinez 2 years ago (edited)
Let me guess. OP was talking about how much she loved 50 Shades of Grey?
Super Beast 2 years ago
i left a date with someone for not wanting to talk about kinks because the only reason we got together was our shared interest in BDSM. i wanted to find out if our kinks were compatible, she wanted to go on more dates. girl, hell no.
#35
I'll start off by saying that I was on a date with a guy who was very handsome, smart, funny, and respectful.
Our coffee date was going well, we were laughing and everything...
Until his ex showed up.
He saw her and started getting paranoid.
Kept saying "We gotta get out of here. We gotta get out of here"
And was just freaking out.
Of course we left, but never went out with him again.
CrowOfHearts 2 years ago
Tbh if they had a bad breakup or something that's understandable, maybe not that level of paranoia but I certainly wouldn't wan to run into an ex
Penelope Davis 2 years ago
How do you know it was downvoted? Maybe only a few people upvoted. Honestly, I have no idea how to see the downvotes and upvotes. If there is a way, this post is valid. Will you tell me how to see how many downvotes there are?
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Ronald 1 year ago
I had worse. I met a wife at a supermarket, 10 am. I propositioned her and we went to her home close by. We were in bed for three hours, I used three condoms... Around the time we were done her husband appeared, home early from work. He was a construction worker, very strong and 5 inches taller than I am. He was angry, I am nude. I jumped up, assumed a fighting stance. "I warn you!! I am a United States Marine! I will hurt you IF you dare to throw a punch. Wanna go to work tomorrow?" He backed off. I took my clothes and left, naked. Dressed outside in February. Very cold. They were screaming inside the house.
Jacqui Dunn 2 years ago
Maybe she wasn't his ex? Maybe she was his current partner, or his current partner's sister?
ShaZam Beaubien 2 years ago
Psycho ex ... Run away before she starts showing up to your work and boiling your rabbit.
#36
I got her all the way back to my bed where she mocked then she laughed her a*s off at my choice of decor said the mood was gone. Then she left
moon bug 2 years ago
According to the op: “The two deal breakers were a taxidermy blowfish and pizzeria sign filled with LED lights”. Lol
ShaZam Beaubien 2 years ago
Futon bed with Spiderman sheets, bean bag chair, and a Neon Bud-Light sign ... with a lava lamp on a box ... just guessing
#37
I met a single mom at Denny's and we were getting along pretty good and talking about our families and stuff. I mentioned that I don't get along with my dad because he's a narcissist and she said "so is my ex" and immediately started crying. For the rest of the date I was her psychologist.
Ronald 1 year ago
I had a large woman with E cups. I charmed her. I was 19, she was 29. We went to her apartment and she began to cry after 6 minutes of sex. "All you guys want is to JERK OFF in my body." Very strange as I had no way to leave. In morning, we washed dressed and went to work in the same building and never spoke again
Maggie Mae 2 years ago
Don't Date after an Immediate Lousy Break Up!! HONESTLY get your S**t together First & Deal with your Kids too!!
Butty Buttons 2 years ago
Trying to work out the relevance of her being a single mom and failing here
Ken Beattie 2 years ago
Facts? Background? Being a single mom suggests the ex is more of an a*****e because he's not only caused her grief he's likely caused grief for the kid(s).
Load More Replies... #38
In my case, "the other person" was a third party.
Went out for drinks, had great conversation, went out to a late night sub place for some food afterward, still having a good time and getting flirtatious.
Drunk dude walks past the table, stops, looks at her and says "damn girl let me get your number", then turns to me and "oh s**t my bad bro, this your girl?"
Like... what the *f**k* do I even say?
If I say no, it's like I'm denying her. If I say yes, well it's not true.
I didn't know how to handle it and I said "we just met". He walked on and said "my bad, my bad bro don't f**k me up"
Conversation went cold and she wanted to go home, refused my offer to walk her to her car.
I texted her the next day and said I had a good time, sorry about the awkward ending.. said I'd like to maybe grab a coffee sometime, she replied "sure", I said "cool, I'll hit you up sometime", she said "cool" and that was that. Her previous texts were wordy. I could take a hint.
ConstantlyJon 2 years ago
my best guess is she found the drunk guy's advances rude and she wanted OP to stick up for her better? Like, maybe he was really obnoxious and forward as drunk men are wont to do, and she felt like she was in danger or threatened? In that case, "we just met" doesn't exactly cut it, and doesn't necessarily communicate "cut it out" like maybe she wanted OP to do.
Manuela Benoit 2 years ago
If I was the girl, I would have thanked you profusely and if you asked me out again I would have said yes enthusiastically.
Courtney Christelle 2 years ago (edited)
A guy would never have to worry about that with me cause nothing pisses me off more than insulting a woman but apologizing to her male companion. I would’ve ripped into that guy so fast.
Krizzy Wilde 2 years ago
He didn't but that was how she probably felt at the time
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Ronald 1 year ago
I went to my favourite New Wave Club in Manhattan, 1981. I met a model-type and was dancing with her. A man wanted to dance with her. I gently pushed him away. The next time I refused him he blindsided me on my left. I spun around and Gave him an uppercut to his jaw and a round-house kick to his middle. He fell backwards and I pounced upon him and punching HARD into his face. I was promptly removed by two bouncers. A few weeks later I returned to see a band there. The bouncer told me I had broken his nose, slammed out front teeth and a few on his left, broke his jaw and eye socket, cracked his cheekbone. The man was transported to hospital by ambulance, 4 days to discharge. Lesson: Do not start a fight you cannot finish
Nightshade1972 2 years ago
Not saying this *is* what happened, because I don't think so, but maybe she thought that OP should've said, "Heck yes, this is my GF," and was insulted when OP didn't. Maybe the guy was actually a platonic friend of hers, and she set this up to see if OP would "defend" her against a creep, and when all he said was, "We just met," that "wasn't good enough" for the girl, so she gave him the cold shoulder after that. No great loss...
#39
My little bro said he was on a date and it was going extremely well. Plans for a second date were made, hands were held, really went smoothly. At the end of the night he said it looked like she was waiting for a kiss so he went for it and she freaked out. Said she wanted the kiss but it was sexual assault going for it without asking first and she ghosted him.
Agron54 2 years ago
A lot to unpack on this one. This is what happens when men are relentlessly villainized and women are constantly told they are prey.
David 2 years ago
When I was young, non-verbal communication was a thing. These days I would almost want signed paperwork before doing anything even remotely sexual with a woman.
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XanthippeⓐWulf🇨🇦️️🇬🇧 2 years ago
This is...OK, you have to understand that whether you realize it or not, body autonomy for women is a relatively new thing, and now in some places it is being taken away or never existed. Imagine not having control of your own body, or being told to "suck it up toots!" after some old creep grabs your a*s and this was highly accepted as appropriate for AGES. The OP did say his little brother, so depending on how young this girl is, she may still be navigating her way through what she feels is/isn't acceptable for her. Yeah, the reaction was probably a bit severe but maybe permission is what she needs to feel comfortable. We don't know her life🤷♀️
Kristen Bagan 2 years ago
Agree. And there's nothing wrong with a quick and gentle, "is this ok?" before making contact. Verbal consent should def be normalized. It doesn't have to be awkward with a contract.
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Kallen Kneeland 2 years ago
In response to Agron54, DanielG, and Beachbum: . . . or . . . he's the guy who thought "going for it" meant jumping into their first kiss "all tongues" like on an earlier example in this thread. I understand where you're coming from guys, but there's a fine line between being honestly romantic on a first date and being aggressively sexual. And some guys sincerely don't know the difference. I had a date with a guy once (long ago in the late '70s) that seemed to be going well to the point where he was in my dorm room and we both wanted to make out. Until after a first kind of wet & sloppy (ugh) kiss, he started LAPPING MY FACE like a dog, both sides from jaw to temple. It was so gross I wasn't even able to be polite about it and just told him to leave. Never spoke to him again, but it comes up in my nightmares now and then even 40 yrs later.
Jude Corrigan 2 years ago
And now it will be part of all of our nightmares too.😂😂
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zak 2 years ago
One of the best first kisses I ever had was when I walked her to her door at the end of the night, and when I started to ask "so, is it OK if I ki-" and *she* kissed *me* before I even finished the question, and we stood there kissing for a couple minutes. Her taking that initiative was insanely attractive. 10/10
Nina 2 years ago
Indeed, that's actually making it all the better. Consent is sexy
Load More Replies... Katja Katze 2 years ago
It's simple: Ask before you kiss someone. Start slowly, carefully and without a tongue. Don't hold the other person. Give her the opportunity to withdraw. Accept a “no” and also a withdrawal. This applies to all genders.
StarlightPanda! 2 years ago
While he probably should have asked first, it was messed up for her to tell him that. Sexual assault is a serious crime.
Nightshade1972 2 years ago
Could be that she grew up in a very repressive environment, where her "religion" taught her that anything even remotely s*xual, like kissing, is "dirty." She wanted the kiss, but felt guilty for wanting it, so she blamed her date for "s*xual assault" and bolted.
#40
After dinner, we went to a bar. Everything seemed to be going well. We had a good conversation and we made out. The bar was getting packed for some reason so we decided to go back to my place. I told her I needed to go to the restroom first. She said she would wait for me outside. When I was finished, I went outside and saw her jumping into the back of a pickup with a bunch of people and leaving. She later texted me saying she bumped into her best friend and they were going to a party but they didn’t want to go along. I never saw after that.
Michelle C 2 years ago
What is with all these folks being so rude, save the guy who got the concussion and the couple in #1? Dang!!
ShaZam Beaubien 2 years ago
I still trying to get over the statement we made out .. at a bar ...
Ken Beattie 2 years ago
I assume it means "a little kissing" not "we slobbered all over each other and groped like horny teenagers". As for her bailing, I'm not sure whether this was another "escape plan" type deal where the friend was "conveniently" there to pick her up. The fact that they got to "making out" and she'd agreed to go home with him sounds like she was at least a little into him.
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#41
I asked out a Korean exchange student my first week of college. I had never actually did the full forward "You want to go out" thing before, and she was gorgeous (way out of my league). My jaw dropped when she accepted.
Two days later I picked her up at her dorm in my fairly new Mustang. She seemed quiet, and I thought it was just shyness. We're on the highway doing 55 when she suddenly rolled down the window and VOMITED ALL OVER THE OUTSIDE OF THE CAR. Like...a lot. I think she ate a gallon of vegetable soup before the date or something.
I took her back to her dorm, she ran out of the car and I was left to clean things up. I took the car to a car wash and it actually faded the paint.
This was before cell phones, so I tried finding her to talk to her after that...I never saw her again. That was back in 1990, and to this day I have no idea what happened.
Manuela Benoit 2 years ago
That is sad. Yes stomach acid is very strong and can dissolve finished of cars.
What do you think ?
Rick Seiden 2 years ago (edited)
My wife would say that this one guy took her to a really bad movie where they were the only ones in the theater (Captain Ron) and then to a restaurant where he ordered a really weird dinner. I would say that the movie was really bad, but the dish couldn't have been that bad since she married me after I ordered it.
Lupita Nyong'heaux 2 years ago
i beg your pardon, sir. captain ron is AWESOME.
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Kyle D 2 years ago (edited)
I had a 1st date that I didn't know was supposed to be a 1st date. I was asked if I wanted to go see Spider-Man 3. I said sure, & we arrived at the theater and I went to pay for my ticket. He said he'd pay, I said, thanks still oblivious this was a date. We sat down, the movie started, and all of a sudden arms enveloped me. I sat there stunned for a few minutes and managed to unwind the entanglement and sat so far away in my seat, I might as well have gotten out of it and sat in the empty seat beside me. Needless to say it was a quiet ride home. He asked, if he minded if he stopped to get himself some food. I said, no of course not. He took me home, I said thanks & goodbye & I never spoke to or saw him again. I do wish we had discussed the awkwardness so I could have explained to him I didn't actually realize it was [A] a date and [B] he though it was THAT kind of date. I never expressed that kind of interest in him and if he did, I missed his interest in me.
A B C the Third 2 years ago
For a second I read "40 times a Great Dane took..." and insta-clicked. :D
Eledore Massis 2 years ago
First date? Woke up drunk in a already closed pub/bar. She was the only other "awake/stable" person at that time. We stumbled together three buildings forward to get breakfast. Chatted from like 7am to noon. Later had more dates, to bad she moved with parents way-way away. .. Never found another girl that likes dark-dark humor since then.
Gen X Feral (try/me) 2 years ago
The world is a small place thanks to the net, maybe you can find her again 🥰
Load More Replies... Whitefox 2 years ago
I dunno that I'd even call it a date but, I met up with a guy thinking we'd play some pool and have a drink. I picked him up and we got to the pool hall and before we even started playing, I hadn't even racked the balls, he states that he has a micro-peen and just wants to go home. I was dumbstruck and just drove him home wondering wtf? To this day it still confounds me.
DeoManus Argentem 2 years ago
This was a third or fourth date, but still: we went to an upscale martini lounge/restaurant. The waitress took our drink orders, and my date then went to the ladies room. It was just before Halloween, so all the waitresses wore short hot pink wigs. The waitress was delivering our drinks, and I casually joked, "I love your hair! Are all you girls sisters?" And just as my date was returning to our table the waitress starting giggling while patting her wig, and then my forearm, "Oh this isn't my real hair color!" My date snapped at her, something like, "Why are you talking to him?!" I don't know if it was a cultural thing (she was Czech, I American (this was in the US)), but it felt inappropriate and rude so things kinda fizzled out after that.
Red Reilly 2 years ago
I went on a date with this guy, it was going well until it became very clear that he asked me out me so he could hang out with my group of friends who were having a moment in London as the cool group. And I was the weak link to get in apparently :(
Der Kommissar 2 years ago
First date. She was 43 (but didn't tell me). I was 37. Both divorced. She asked me when we were getting married.
LovingKnuckle 2 years ago (edited)
I met a woman once at a friends birthday party. Gorgeous. Used to be a Miami dolphins and Miami heat cheerleader. Went on a first date to a wine bar. It was a little awkward and she was quiet, but it was the first one so had a second one. Was at Mexican restaurant and it was one of those places that always wants to make the guacamole by the table. I told them no a couple times and then on the third I caved and asked if she wanted some, she said sure. The conversation, or lack there of, was brutal. It was like pulling teeth getting her to talk. I was commenting on the gôddamn paint in the place. Guacamole comes. I taste and say wow this is really good. She says “I don’t like guacamole but I thought you wanted it so I said sure”. M***a f**kà. If you ever had it at one of these places they serve it in a damn punch bowl and it’s 18 bucks. I did the “oh wow look at the time” and got out of there. Went to see a movie with my roommate who I later dated, married and divorced. But we’re still close friends. Damn that woman was hot. Latina too but had the personality of a sore dîck.
Gen X Feral (try/me) 2 years ago
Bringing up her race like that definitely has me thinking it was a you problem, not a her problem.
Load More Replies... Rick Seiden 2 years ago (edited)
My wife would say that this one guy took her to a really bad movie where they were the only ones in the theater (Captain Ron) and then to a restaurant where he ordered a really weird dinner. I would say that the movie was really bad, but the dish couldn't have been that bad since she married me after I ordered it.
Lupita Nyong'heaux 2 years ago
i beg your pardon, sir. captain ron is AWESOME.
Load More Replies... Kyle D 2 years ago (edited)
I had a 1st date that I didn't know was supposed to be a 1st date. I was asked if I wanted to go see Spider-Man 3. I said sure, & we arrived at the theater and I went to pay for my ticket. He said he'd pay, I said, thanks still oblivious this was a date. We sat down, the movie started, and all of a sudden arms enveloped me. I sat there stunned for a few minutes and managed to unwind the entanglement and sat so far away in my seat, I might as well have gotten out of it and sat in the empty seat beside me. Needless to say it was a quiet ride home. He asked, if he minded if he stopped to get himself some food. I said, no of course not. He took me home, I said thanks & goodbye & I never spoke to or saw him again. I do wish we had discussed the awkwardness so I could have explained to him I didn't actually realize it was [A] a date and [B] he though it was THAT kind of date. I never expressed that kind of interest in him and if he did, I missed his interest in me.
A B C the Third 2 years ago
For a second I read "40 times a Great Dane took..." and insta-clicked. :D
Eledore Massis 2 years ago
First date? Woke up drunk in a already closed pub/bar. She was the only other "awake/stable" person at that time. We stumbled together three buildings forward to get breakfast. Chatted from like 7am to noon. Later had more dates, to bad she moved with parents way-way away. .. Never found another girl that likes dark-dark humor since then.
Gen X Feral (try/me) 2 years ago
The world is a small place thanks to the net, maybe you can find her again 🥰
Load More Replies... Whitefox 2 years ago
I dunno that I'd even call it a date but, I met up with a guy thinking we'd play some pool and have a drink. I picked him up and we got to the pool hall and before we even started playing, I hadn't even racked the balls, he states that he has a micro-peen and just wants to go home. I was dumbstruck and just drove him home wondering wtf? To this day it still confounds me.
DeoManus Argentem 2 years ago
This was a third or fourth date, but still: we went to an upscale martini lounge/restaurant. The waitress took our drink orders, and my date then went to the ladies room. It was just before Halloween, so all the waitresses wore short hot pink wigs. The waitress was delivering our drinks, and I casually joked, "I love your hair! Are all you girls sisters?" And just as my date was returning to our table the waitress starting giggling while patting her wig, and then my forearm, "Oh this isn't my real hair color!" My date snapped at her, something like, "Why are you talking to him?!" I don't know if it was a cultural thing (she was Czech, I American (this was in the US)), but it felt inappropriate and rude so things kinda fizzled out after that.
Red Reilly 2 years ago
I went on a date with this guy, it was going well until it became very clear that he asked me out me so he could hang out with my group of friends who were having a moment in London as the cool group. And I was the weak link to get in apparently :(
Der Kommissar 2 years ago
First date. She was 43 (but didn't tell me). I was 37. Both divorced. She asked me when we were getting married.
LovingKnuckle 2 years ago (edited)
I met a woman once at a friends birthday party. Gorgeous. Used to be a Miami dolphins and Miami heat cheerleader. Went on a first date to a wine bar. It was a little awkward and she was quiet, but it was the first one so had a second one. Was at Mexican restaurant and it was one of those places that always wants to make the guacamole by the table. I told them no a couple times and then on the third I caved and asked if she wanted some, she said sure. The conversation, or lack there of, was brutal. It was like pulling teeth getting her to talk. I was commenting on the gôddamn paint in the place. Guacamole comes. I taste and say wow this is really good. She says “I don’t like guacamole but I thought you wanted it so I said sure”. M***a f**kà. If you ever had it at one of these places they serve it in a damn punch bowl and it’s 18 bucks. I did the “oh wow look at the time” and got out of there. Went to see a movie with my roommate who I later dated, married and divorced. But we’re still close friends. Damn that woman was hot. Latina too but had the personality of a sore dîck.
Gen X Feral (try/me) 2 years ago
Bringing up her race like that definitely has me thinking it was a you problem, not a her problem.
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