Teen Has To Shout About Her Period After Dad Keeps Hushing Down Her Requests To Go To Bathroom
Being a teenage girl comes with enough challenges. You certainly don’t need your parents questioning your every move, especially when it comes to personal hygiene matters. After all, your body is changing in profound ways that could be deeply embarrassing if not handled with tact.
For one teen, she was forced to loudly bring up her ‘time of the month’ in public after her dad refused to let her go to the bathroom. Shocked, her father quickly changed his mind and escorted her to the loo and back without a word. She turned to Reddit to tell her story.
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Teen bodies change on a dime, as this dad found out in a rather unsettling way
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The family was attending an awards ceremony on a ship, so the dad told his kids to go to the bathroom before the event started since they might get lost if they went alone later
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Before the ceremony, but while they were already seated, his teen daughter told him she needed the bathroom urgently, but he refused to let her go
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Eventually the teen blurted out that she was on her period, which saw the dad swiftly change his tune and escort her to the ship’s bathroom and back without a word
OP begins her story by telling the community that, when she was a teen, her dad took the family to an awards ceremony for one of his fellow sailors that was hosted on a ship. Before the event, her dad told her and her siblings to use the bathroom, since they’d likely get lost if they were to use it during the ceremony.
She adds that she grew up with severe ADHD and would sometimes forget to use the bathroom before it was too late, but that that wasn’t an issue once she reached her teens.
Well, after everyone was seated, but before the ceremony officially started, OP suddenly realized it was that time of the month. She whispered to her dad that she needed to use the bathroom, which infuriated him. Not allowing her to even stand up, he told her she could wait until it was over.
Panicking, OP implored him to let her go, but this only made matters worse. At this point, OP stopped whispering and loudly begged her dad to trust her on this, which caused somewhat of a scene.
Unmoved, her father again denied her request, after which she was forced to blurt out, “I just started my period and need to go to the bathroom before I get blood everywhere!”
According to OP, the second the word “period” came out of her mouth, her dad shot up, led her out of the room, and escorted her to and from the bathroom without saying another word.
Dealing with an adolescent daughter can be a challenging time for both parents, but especially for dads who have to assume the sometimes entirely new roles of advisor and sounding board, rather than just protector and fixer.
If you’re a teen daughter, this is probably something you can relate to when it comes to your relationship with your dad.
So, just how can dads ensure they remain close to their daughters as they go from tween to young adult? We went looking for answers.
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In his article for Priority Physicians, Dr. Derrick Williams, a father of four daughters aged 12-18 writes that, as your daughter turns 12 or 13 (sometimes even younger), things are already shifting inside her body – she’s going through a complex mix of physical, physiological, hormonal, emotional, and cognitive changes.
Closely linked with hormonally driven changes is a psychological phenomenon that child development specialists have termed ‘separation and individuation’. Simply put, when kids enter their teens, they typically start pulling away from their parents. Simultaneously, they begin to identify and connect more strongly with their friends.
In her article for the Child Mind Institute, Rae Jacobson writes that, as young girls grow into young women, it can be tough for dads to figure out just where, and how, they fit in.
Says clinical psychologist Jerry Bubrick, “As parents, our roles change over time. When our daughters are young, our job is to protect them physically and emotionally, but as they get older we have to take on more of a consulting role.”
Jacobson puts forward 10 tips to help dads (and daughters) navigate the inevitable changes that come with adolescence.
A few of these include being a good listener, discussing (not dictating) rules, being generous with praise, letting your daughter take the lead when it comes to quality time, and modeling healthy relationships, especially with your wife.
It seems OP’s dad has some catching up to do in terms of getting to grips with his daughter’s stage of life. Hopefully this incident was a wake-up call for him.
What would you have done if you’d found yourself in OP’s shoes? Could she have handled the situation any better, or did her dad get what he deserved? Let us know your opinion in the comments!
Some readers in the comments shared their experiences of just how confusing a ship’s layout can be, while others congratulated the teen for standing up for herself
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I am not a dad yet, but by the second time my daughter says she NEEDS to go. I will figure it out... EVEN if that is not it... I will be like "Must be the burrito enacting a generational hatred fuelled revenge!!!" Also, what is with the freezing up part??? Legit question... Do they not teach about anatomy? That is like basic human anatomy we learn when we are 14 or something... There is no shame in it... Nothing remotely justifying his reaction... Single moms and dads have to handle these things all the time. Be it "The over eager soldier standing at attention in the morning" and "Having a negligent discharge in nightly drills" for guys. Or "The emergency liquidation and rearming of the depots" and "Retrofitting the Armour to maintain the ship's pressure-tight seal" for gals. ps: The last part was just an excuse to come up with military based euphemisms XD
What an interesting way to rephrase normal body functions! I like it! 👍
Load More Replies...good lord, people are criticizing a 14 year old kid for not anticpating the EXACT degree of unreasonablness her dad was going to choose to display. They want her to be more discreet by going straight to announcing her period instead of just mentioning that she needed. Because of course it's the 14 year old's fault that her idiot dad refuses to honor biological needs. Real "you shouldn't have mad him mad, you know how he is, no wonder he hit you" energy
Never underestimate how much hate certain people harbor for women, and then double that when they're teens.
Load More Replies...To the people saying "You should have just said it was your period in the first place." Most girls are aggressively socialised to be "Discrete" about their periods.
Nothing pisses me off more than men acting like idiots about periods. Copped it from my old man, often. Getting screamed at by him if he came home from work and I was at home absent from school (sick with period pain, in the literal sense; doubled over, vomiting etc) getting screamed at and called filthy names for ONCE forgetting a pad WRAPPER in the bathroom after a shower at age 13, almost in tears with period pain but still having to help him do stuff like lift, carry, and stack firewood and so on and on. Oh and being called a dirty lazy pig by my older brother (by nine years) once when I was 12 and accidentally bled on my sheets (he saw the stain when I was rushing them to the washing machine)
I'm so sorry that your dad was such an a$$hat. Some of what you mentioned is just normal period stuff that happens, bled on sheets, forgot about putting the wrapper in the trash. But it's so much worse with your other symptoms. Period or not it hurts my heart that a parent can see you in so much pain and have no sympathy or empathy for their kid. Much less yelling and forced labor. It wasn't your fault and you didn't deserve that.
Load More Replies...Boy, sure am glad I live in the US where men who have zero knowledge about women's bodies aren't making decisions about them! /s
I live in the U.S. and got into an argument with some seniors at my school about abortion and eventually I asked them if they knew anything about women's biology and they said they didn't.
Load More Replies...I think the real point is that when someone says they NEED to use the bathroom, you don't argue, you get the the he11 out of the way and let them go. What is with control freaks trying to dictate when other people have bodily functions.
In my book, the best way to end yourself is to come between me and the ladies' room. That tells me that you're in a hurry to meet God. I have no choice but to personally arrange the meeting.
Load More Replies...He couldn't trust her when she insisted that she needed to go. Also, he might be military, but he's still a weak shyte if the mention of periods gets him like that. Boy, you f****d, your wife gave birth, you can endure the thought of periods. I have it up to here with men who claim to be tough but p**s themselves over normal bodily functions.
Couldn’t she just hold it in? /s Stories like OP’s make me glad my dad was a doctor. He taught me about periods as much as my mum did.
“you Had me in the First sentence. Not Gonna Lie” Glad that your dad stared his knowledge and empowered you.
Load More Replies...No parent should ever dismiss an offspring's need for the bathroom. They know what is needed.
I am not a dad yet, but by the second time my daughter says she NEEDS to go. I will figure it out... EVEN if that is not it... I will be like "Must be the burrito enacting a generational hatred fuelled revenge!!!" Also, what is with the freezing up part??? Legit question... Do they not teach about anatomy? That is like basic human anatomy we learn when we are 14 or something... There is no shame in it... Nothing remotely justifying his reaction... Single moms and dads have to handle these things all the time. Be it "The over eager soldier standing at attention in the morning" and "Having a negligent discharge in nightly drills" for guys. Or "The emergency liquidation and rearming of the depots" and "Retrofitting the Armour to maintain the ship's pressure-tight seal" for gals. ps: The last part was just an excuse to come up with military based euphemisms XD
What an interesting way to rephrase normal body functions! I like it! 👍
Load More Replies...good lord, people are criticizing a 14 year old kid for not anticpating the EXACT degree of unreasonablness her dad was going to choose to display. They want her to be more discreet by going straight to announcing her period instead of just mentioning that she needed. Because of course it's the 14 year old's fault that her idiot dad refuses to honor biological needs. Real "you shouldn't have mad him mad, you know how he is, no wonder he hit you" energy
Never underestimate how much hate certain people harbor for women, and then double that when they're teens.
Load More Replies...To the people saying "You should have just said it was your period in the first place." Most girls are aggressively socialised to be "Discrete" about their periods.
Nothing pisses me off more than men acting like idiots about periods. Copped it from my old man, often. Getting screamed at by him if he came home from work and I was at home absent from school (sick with period pain, in the literal sense; doubled over, vomiting etc) getting screamed at and called filthy names for ONCE forgetting a pad WRAPPER in the bathroom after a shower at age 13, almost in tears with period pain but still having to help him do stuff like lift, carry, and stack firewood and so on and on. Oh and being called a dirty lazy pig by my older brother (by nine years) once when I was 12 and accidentally bled on my sheets (he saw the stain when I was rushing them to the washing machine)
I'm so sorry that your dad was such an a$$hat. Some of what you mentioned is just normal period stuff that happens, bled on sheets, forgot about putting the wrapper in the trash. But it's so much worse with your other symptoms. Period or not it hurts my heart that a parent can see you in so much pain and have no sympathy or empathy for their kid. Much less yelling and forced labor. It wasn't your fault and you didn't deserve that.
Load More Replies...Boy, sure am glad I live in the US where men who have zero knowledge about women's bodies aren't making decisions about them! /s
I live in the U.S. and got into an argument with some seniors at my school about abortion and eventually I asked them if they knew anything about women's biology and they said they didn't.
Load More Replies...I think the real point is that when someone says they NEED to use the bathroom, you don't argue, you get the the he11 out of the way and let them go. What is with control freaks trying to dictate when other people have bodily functions.
In my book, the best way to end yourself is to come between me and the ladies' room. That tells me that you're in a hurry to meet God. I have no choice but to personally arrange the meeting.
Load More Replies...He couldn't trust her when she insisted that she needed to go. Also, he might be military, but he's still a weak shyte if the mention of periods gets him like that. Boy, you f****d, your wife gave birth, you can endure the thought of periods. I have it up to here with men who claim to be tough but p**s themselves over normal bodily functions.
Couldn’t she just hold it in? /s Stories like OP’s make me glad my dad was a doctor. He taught me about periods as much as my mum did.
“you Had me in the First sentence. Not Gonna Lie” Glad that your dad stared his knowledge and empowered you.
Load More Replies...No parent should ever dismiss an offspring's need for the bathroom. They know what is needed.






















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