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Dad Wants Nothing To Do With His Kids After They Go To The Police And CPS With False Allegations
Sad dad sitting on bed in white shirt, reflecting on how his life fell apart after accusations from his own kids.

Dad Wants Nothing To Do With His Kids After They Go To The Police And CPS With False Allegations

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Not all marriages are created equal. Some end up being the fairy tale that many people envision. On the opposite end of the spectrum is a match made in hell, which needs no further explanation. 

The involvement of children makes the situation more excruciating to endure, as this man had experienced. After going through a messy episode with his ex-wife and two kids, he had no choice but to distance himself from all of them. 

Scroll through for this rollercoaster for a story, which can be quite a read. 

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    A man may have gone through the worst episode of his life, thanks to his ex-wife and children

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    As he shared in a lengthy post online, it began with his young daughter, who made false accusations against him

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    The family drama that nearly ruined him forced the author to want nothing to do with his family

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    Family estrangements are often drawn out and triggered by a “final straw”

    It’s never easy for anyone to cut ties with a family member, regardless of how toxic the relationship can get. Based on his account, the man appears to be a dedicated father who was forced to make a drastic decision for his own sake. 

    As Rutgers University professor Dr. Kristina Scharp tells the American Psychological Association, family estrangement is often triggered by a “final straw” moment.

    In the same interview, clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten described the final straw moment as an “emphatic rupture.” It’s the realization that the problematic situation may never be resolved because of the belief that the person may never change. 

    In the story’s case, that moment could be when the children repeatedly made false yet serious allegations against their father, which apparently happened for two straight years. 

    What makes the situation more challenging for the author is the blame and shame he may endure for deciding to distance himself from his family. 

    “Parents who have initiated estrangement have very few [people] they can talk to who will show compassion and understanding,” University of West England lecturer Dr. Lucy Blake told the BBC in a 2022 interview. 

    Estrangements aren’t always final, and reconciliation is deemed common among parents and children in conflict. However, trying to mend things may not work, especially if the relationship has done more harm than good. 

    “People should not be made to feel guilty or ashamed because it is critical for their mental health to exclude a family member from their life,” Cornell University professor Dr. Karl Pillemer said in the same APA interview. 

    After what he went through, keeping distance may be the best solution for the author. If he is open to reconciliation, he can entertain the idea as his children grow older and become more aware of the damage their actions have caused.

    The man provided more information in the comments

    A few people sided with him, as some shared their advice

    The man provided an update

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    Here, he clarified some details from his initial post

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    He also expressed sadness at how things turned out, with the holidays coming up

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    Once again, he answered reader questions to add more details

    People didn’t hold back with their reactions

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    The man provided a second update

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    He had been exhausted physically, emotionally and mentally, and understandably so

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    People in the comments were kind of enough to show sympathy and offer advice

    The author shared a third update

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    He shared a more promising turn of events, stating he began seeing someone new

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    The new relationship appeared to be the his sole source of happiness through the difficult time

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    He also went on to clarify more details from his previous posts

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    He then revealed that his mental health took a nosedive

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    He ended the post by expressing sheer frustration

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    Tbe author provided more details by answering reader questions

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    In came update number four

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    As he shared, the problem seemed to be worsening each time

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    He provided more information in the comments

    Some commenters had strong reactions, as a few remained invested in the story

    The man provided a fifth and final update

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    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If any of this is true that little girl has some serious mental health issues and/or someone is or has been hurting her in the worst possible way.

    Seadog
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    2 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Clearly mom is poisoning them against their father. Happens more often then not. And if one isn't turning them against the other, they're one or both using the child/children as a p**n against the other. Often one has discipline while the other lets them do as they please. I see it all the time. Some people have no business with children. Those children often grow up to be a walking train wreck. They have zero respect for others or themselves.

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    UnclePanda
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    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It was like the end of Ferris Bueler's day off.

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    Katharina Sei.
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    2 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If the story is true, it raises a few questions. When a 9-year-old and a 7-year-old make such accusations, it means there is something going on. It is possible that they were incited by their mother or acquaintances. It is possible that the father is hiding something. (Perhaps he is quite gruff and strict in his manner but does not realize it himself? Perhaps he has a personality disorder?) It is possible that the children have consumed media that has led them to this. It's quite possible that it's a combination of all of these factors and more. That's why I think a thorough psychiatric evaluation of the children and adults would be necessary. It would be important to clarify why the children made such accusations. Why was the ex put out on the street with the children? (Did I overlook that?) I mean, hardly anyone would do something like that without good reason, right? And what is going on in the family that they don't talk to each other? Questions upon questions.

    Bewitched One
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    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I honestly got nervous for the guy when I read he has sleepwalking habits…

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    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If any of this is true that little girl has some serious mental health issues and/or someone is or has been hurting her in the worst possible way.

    Seadog
    Community Member
    2 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Clearly mom is poisoning them against their father. Happens more often then not. And if one isn't turning them against the other, they're one or both using the child/children as a p**n against the other. Often one has discipline while the other lets them do as they please. I see it all the time. Some people have no business with children. Those children often grow up to be a walking train wreck. They have zero respect for others or themselves.

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    UnclePanda
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    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It was like the end of Ferris Bueler's day off.

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    Katharina Sei.
    Community Member
    2 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If the story is true, it raises a few questions. When a 9-year-old and a 7-year-old make such accusations, it means there is something going on. It is possible that they were incited by their mother or acquaintances. It is possible that the father is hiding something. (Perhaps he is quite gruff and strict in his manner but does not realize it himself? Perhaps he has a personality disorder?) It is possible that the children have consumed media that has led them to this. It's quite possible that it's a combination of all of these factors and more. That's why I think a thorough psychiatric evaluation of the children and adults would be necessary. It would be important to clarify why the children made such accusations. Why was the ex put out on the street with the children? (Did I overlook that?) I mean, hardly anyone would do something like that without good reason, right? And what is going on in the family that they don't talk to each other? Questions upon questions.

    Bewitched One
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    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I honestly got nervous for the guy when I read he has sleepwalking habits…

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