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Puberty is both a fun and draining life stage we all get to experience. While it’s fun to grow up, it also comes with various, let’s say, side effects like weight gain. And while that’s usually a completely normal thing to happen, it doesn’t mean that everyone in a child’s life will take it lightly. After all, you are probably aware of the weight stigma in our society, aren’t you?
In today’s story, a 13-year-old girl started gaining weight, possibly due to the aforementioned puberty along with the struggles she had at school. Yet, her dad didn’t let it slip and decided to make a rather nasty comment, which not only devastated the girl but also enraged her mom.
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One day, during a family dinner, a girl got up from her seat to get a plate from a high counter, and when she couldn’t reach it, she asked for help
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Instead of helping her, her dad decided to make a comment about how she was getting fat, thus shorter
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This upset the girl and enraged her mother, as she couldn’t believe her husband would spill such hurtful nonsense
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Then, when a fight between them turned out to be fruitless, she turned to complain about it to people online
One day, when the OP and her family were eating dinner, her 13-year-old daughter got up from the table to go get a plate. Since the plate was placed on one of the top cabinets, the girl couldn’t reach it. The average 13-year-old girl is, quite obviously, not that tall, so it’s no wonder she needed help getting something from high up.
So, the girl asked for help. Instead of providing it, her dad decided to do something rather sinister—fat shame her. He said, “Well, you couldn’t reach the cabinet because you’re fat!”
That stunned both the daughter and her mom. For the girl, it was the fact that her dad so openly shamed her for her appearance. For the mom, it was the way he said it so carelessly.
The thing is, the mom also noticed her daughter’s weight gain but never made any straightforward fat-shaming comments like that. Ultimately, the girl might simply be going through puberty, which is normal at her age—13 years old. For some, this important development stage manifests in natural weight gain. Plus, the mom mentioned that the weight gain in this case might be due to the issues she’s having at school.
Yet, the first phrase wasn’t even the whole extent of his fat-shaming agenda. When asked to explain his comment, he added, “The fatter you are the shorter you get!” along with openly telling her to worry about her weight “before it’s too late.”
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This enraged the girl’s mom—how could he say such things to their daughter’s face, seeing how upset it made her? In fact, the girl rushed out before finishing her dinner, which he assumed meant she took his advice about cutting down on food. Diabolical, isn’t it?
After this, the couple had a huge fight over it. The woman accused the man of being insensitive, while he accused her of overly coddling the girl. The whole thing ended in even more tears and no less anger than it had initially. In fact, the anger levels likely increased.
Essentially, the woman couldn’t wrap her head around the fact that her husband would so brazenly put their daughter down, knowing that it might hurt her self-esteem big time. After all, teenagers are already known for having poor self-esteem—and it is also known that their parents’ words can make it even worse. So, basically, the plot of this exact situation.
People online had pretty similar views on this whole thing to the girl’s mom. They pointed out that the way the man acted was how various eating disorders start. And these are despicable mental illnesses that can even threaten a person’s life. So, that was not a good choice of action from Dad’s side.
Even if it doesn’t stir up an ED in the girl, it will definitely stay with her as a negative core memory of her dad’s harsh words. And that’s something no girl deserves to have as a memory.
They understood where she was coming from and shamed the man for being such a jerk
What do you think ?
Richelle Funk 7 months ago
My grandma told me I was fat when I was 8. I still remember it vividly at age 36. It does irreparable damage.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 7 months ago
I remember my mother screaming at me that I wasn't allowed to eat anything except a single piece of plain white bread or one spoon of plain macaroni noodles (ironically not low-calorie foods, but I don't think she understood that and thought that since they were "plain" foods they were low-calorie.) I was 7 and she had pushed me into an acting career that I didn't want to do (she wanted me to "make lots of money" as a child star.) I'm 43 now and I still remember every time she called me fat. She still tells me I'm fat to this day. Hilariously, she's obese.
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Luke Branwen 7 months ago
That's why I always cringe at people saying "today's society is glorifying obesity" or some BS like that. I can assure you that the society still hates fat people so much it's unreal.
Ellinor 7 months ago (edited)
The dad is the AH. She couldn't reach the cabinet because she's 13 so she is short. What he said to her will just be adding on the social pressure this poor girl already face at school, but as it's coming from a parent then she will have an ever harder time getting over it. And by the way, if he truly think that weight makes you shorter then he is an even bigger idiot.
Sera 7 months ago
I would have smacked this man the moment the words came out of his stupid mouth and left the table to contact a lawyer. There’s no coming back from this; he’s ruined his relationship with his daughter forever.
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Tyke 7 months ago
She's 13... does he realise how many hormones are raging around that girl and that it's a perfectly common age to gain some weight...
Earonn - 7 months ago
As if this type of s**t-men would ever know what's going on in women's bodies....
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Nona Jaynes 7 months ago
I'm nearly 50 years old, and I have a crystal-clear memory of my father calling me Thunder Thighs when I was 12.
Tabitha 7 months ago (edited)
64 here. My father (a real piece of work—-scratch that, he was a piece of s**t) used to tell me I had a big a*s. Then a kid at school called me fat. I was 14. All I was doing was growing up. You grow in all kinds of directions when you go from being a child to teenager to adult, ffs. If you don’t, then you need to see a specialist about it. Basically I have spent the equivalent of your entire life worried about my weight and crying at every ounce I gained—-even though we naturally fluctuate, gaining and losing a couple pounds in the course of a day, plus women gain water weight around that time of the month. Imagine all those decades of anxiety at perfectly natural, normal, and small weight gains. All because of comments some a*****e made that they immediately forgot. For them it was Tuesday. For me it’s been 50 years.
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A S Mora 7 months ago
My parents fat shamed me my whole life and thought it was a me-problem for being too sensitive. Obviously thinness doesn't equate health because my anorexic chain-smoking mother's diabetes is out of control which was only discovered after she drunkenly broke her hip. If that man doesn't take some serious accountability that little girl is just going to wait on bated breath till she gets to push the button on the cremation machine.
Janelle Collard 7 months ago (edited)
Hope OP told POS dad that she'll be losing 160 lbs of ugly dead weight cuz she was divorcing his a**. 😁 "Don't F*** with my kid."
Val 7 months ago
When I was 16, I weighed maybe 110 pounds. My dad took a gallon of milk out of the fridge one day and said, "Look, Val. This is 5 lbs. You just need to lose this much weight." Annnnd there started my bulimia. Whatever I ate-bam, throw it up. Whatever I drank-bam, throw it up. I still think about this, over 25 years later.
SkyyCaramba 7 months ago
why the F**K would anyone say s**t like that to their kid??!!!
Load More Replies... Disgruntled Pelican 7 months ago
My mom told me I needed to lose weight before my cousins wedding...when I was 10...That was the day I started hating myself and I haven't had a positive thought about my looks in the 22 years since.
The_Nicest_Misanthrope 7 months ago
Your daughter will have that burned into her memory for life now. What a total a*****e.
Squirrelly Panda 7 months ago
That dad is a cruel idiot. Not only is he "taking care of his daughter" straight to anorexia or bulimia, he might be "taking care of her" straight to a coffin. Also, you don't get shorter by getting fat. I actually gained almost an inch of height when I went from merely fat to morbidly obese.
KatSaidWhat 7 months ago (edited)
Wonder what he will say when she is still unable to reach a plate but is bulimic. ETC c**t.
VogueGal 7 months ago
What kind of parenting is this, dad is massive AH. I’m not condoning the obesity these days (i.e., “body positivity” when the rute just plain fat and obese), but she’s 13yo, and there is other much less destructive way to teach about children the dangerous of being overweight. If that was my husband, he’ll be sleeping in the shed.
nicholas nolan 7 months ago
My friend, "body positivity" is about not shaming fat people and making it harder for them to actually lose weight. It is not about saying that obesety is healthy. You're buying into an awful, awful narrative.
Load More Replies... RedMarbles 7 months ago
Congratulations dad, your kid's developing brain has now learned that she is fat and her father, who she needs for physical, mental and emotional survival, has contempt for her because of it. And it may never unlearn that, whatever her weight is.
Tiffany 7 months ago (edited)
I was obese as a kid. I was severely ridiculed and criticized. I lost the weight as an adult taking care of myself but I'm still stuck there in my brain. My therapist has worked with me for years trying to help me love myself more. I struggled with eating disorders at a younger age up until even now. My therapist says your weight doesn't have anything to do with your worth and what people say and think, it's their problem not yours. Somebody's weight is also no one else's business. What her Dad said to her was hurtful and cruel.. enough to feel worthless. You know what it's like being an adult with no self worth? It also sucks obsessing over weight constantly... non stop...forever.
Mark Childers 7 months ago
Father of the year, here. Wow. He may have just cost his relationship with his daughter.
Bamamom2boys 7 months ago
I'm 52 years old and I still remember every time my father or grandmother said something about my weight as a teenager. For the record, I was never fat as a teenager.
Earonn - 7 months ago
Ah, another piece of s**t who uses people's weight - and here even his own daughter's - to bully them to feel better about his own, useless self. I hope next time they eat together, OP reproaches him for whatever he eats and reminds him that this type of food makes his impotence worse.
JuniorCJ82 7 months ago
This is 2 years old. Please tell me she divorced this absolute shitbag.
nicholas nolan 7 months ago
Good Lord, just put her on a fast track to an eating disorder, why don't you? NOTE: Yes, I know that this isn't a certainty she'll develope an eating disorder from this, but it certainly won't help!
weatherwitch 7 months ago
One very likely hormonal from puberty. Two. Bloody disgraceful attitude from him 🤬
Nils Skirnir 7 months ago
Compared to the father who made a mistake about a bear sighting and a leukemic daughter, and was brutally attacked, this guy is plain evil.
nicholas nolan 7 months ago
My dude, if you think shaming a fat person is healpful, I don't know what to tell you. Stay away from children.
Load More Replies... Richelle Funk 7 months ago
My grandma told me I was fat when I was 8. I still remember it vividly at age 36. It does irreparable damage.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 7 months ago
I remember my mother screaming at me that I wasn't allowed to eat anything except a single piece of plain white bread or one spoon of plain macaroni noodles (ironically not low-calorie foods, but I don't think she understood that and thought that since they were "plain" foods they were low-calorie.) I was 7 and she had pushed me into an acting career that I didn't want to do (she wanted me to "make lots of money" as a child star.) I'm 43 now and I still remember every time she called me fat. She still tells me I'm fat to this day. Hilariously, she's obese.
Load More Replies... Luke Branwen 7 months ago
That's why I always cringe at people saying "today's society is glorifying obesity" or some BS like that. I can assure you that the society still hates fat people so much it's unreal.
Ellinor 7 months ago (edited)
The dad is the AH. She couldn't reach the cabinet because she's 13 so she is short. What he said to her will just be adding on the social pressure this poor girl already face at school, but as it's coming from a parent then she will have an ever harder time getting over it. And by the way, if he truly think that weight makes you shorter then he is an even bigger idiot.
Sera 7 months ago
I would have smacked this man the moment the words came out of his stupid mouth and left the table to contact a lawyer. There’s no coming back from this; he’s ruined his relationship with his daughter forever.
Load More Replies... Tyke 7 months ago
She's 13... does he realise how many hormones are raging around that girl and that it's a perfectly common age to gain some weight...
Earonn - 7 months ago
As if this type of s**t-men would ever know what's going on in women's bodies....
Load More Replies... Nona Jaynes 7 months ago
I'm nearly 50 years old, and I have a crystal-clear memory of my father calling me Thunder Thighs when I was 12.
Tabitha 7 months ago (edited)
64 here. My father (a real piece of work—-scratch that, he was a piece of s**t) used to tell me I had a big a*s. Then a kid at school called me fat. I was 14. All I was doing was growing up. You grow in all kinds of directions when you go from being a child to teenager to adult, ffs. If you don’t, then you need to see a specialist about it. Basically I have spent the equivalent of your entire life worried about my weight and crying at every ounce I gained—-even though we naturally fluctuate, gaining and losing a couple pounds in the course of a day, plus women gain water weight around that time of the month. Imagine all those decades of anxiety at perfectly natural, normal, and small weight gains. All because of comments some a*****e made that they immediately forgot. For them it was Tuesday. For me it’s been 50 years.
Load More Replies... A S Mora 7 months ago
My parents fat shamed me my whole life and thought it was a me-problem for being too sensitive. Obviously thinness doesn't equate health because my anorexic chain-smoking mother's diabetes is out of control which was only discovered after she drunkenly broke her hip. If that man doesn't take some serious accountability that little girl is just going to wait on bated breath till she gets to push the button on the cremation machine.
Janelle Collard 7 months ago (edited)
Hope OP told POS dad that she'll be losing 160 lbs of ugly dead weight cuz she was divorcing his a**. 😁 "Don't F*** with my kid."
Val 7 months ago
When I was 16, I weighed maybe 110 pounds. My dad took a gallon of milk out of the fridge one day and said, "Look, Val. This is 5 lbs. You just need to lose this much weight." Annnnd there started my bulimia. Whatever I ate-bam, throw it up. Whatever I drank-bam, throw it up. I still think about this, over 25 years later.
SkyyCaramba 7 months ago
why the F**K would anyone say s**t like that to their kid??!!!
Load More Replies... Disgruntled Pelican 7 months ago
My mom told me I needed to lose weight before my cousins wedding...when I was 10...That was the day I started hating myself and I haven't had a positive thought about my looks in the 22 years since.
The_Nicest_Misanthrope 7 months ago
Your daughter will have that burned into her memory for life now. What a total a*****e.
Squirrelly Panda 7 months ago
That dad is a cruel idiot. Not only is he "taking care of his daughter" straight to anorexia or bulimia, he might be "taking care of her" straight to a coffin. Also, you don't get shorter by getting fat. I actually gained almost an inch of height when I went from merely fat to morbidly obese.
KatSaidWhat 7 months ago (edited)
Wonder what he will say when she is still unable to reach a plate but is bulimic. ETC c**t.
VogueGal 7 months ago
What kind of parenting is this, dad is massive AH. I’m not condoning the obesity these days (i.e., “body positivity” when the rute just plain fat and obese), but she’s 13yo, and there is other much less destructive way to teach about children the dangerous of being overweight. If that was my husband, he’ll be sleeping in the shed.
nicholas nolan 7 months ago
My friend, "body positivity" is about not shaming fat people and making it harder for them to actually lose weight. It is not about saying that obesety is healthy. You're buying into an awful, awful narrative.
Load More Replies... RedMarbles 7 months ago
Congratulations dad, your kid's developing brain has now learned that she is fat and her father, who she needs for physical, mental and emotional survival, has contempt for her because of it. And it may never unlearn that, whatever her weight is.
Tiffany 7 months ago (edited)
I was obese as a kid. I was severely ridiculed and criticized. I lost the weight as an adult taking care of myself but I'm still stuck there in my brain. My therapist has worked with me for years trying to help me love myself more. I struggled with eating disorders at a younger age up until even now. My therapist says your weight doesn't have anything to do with your worth and what people say and think, it's their problem not yours. Somebody's weight is also no one else's business. What her Dad said to her was hurtful and cruel.. enough to feel worthless. You know what it's like being an adult with no self worth? It also sucks obsessing over weight constantly... non stop...forever.
Mark Childers 7 months ago
Father of the year, here. Wow. He may have just cost his relationship with his daughter.
Bamamom2boys 7 months ago
I'm 52 years old and I still remember every time my father or grandmother said something about my weight as a teenager. For the record, I was never fat as a teenager.
Earonn - 7 months ago
Ah, another piece of s**t who uses people's weight - and here even his own daughter's - to bully them to feel better about his own, useless self. I hope next time they eat together, OP reproaches him for whatever he eats and reminds him that this type of food makes his impotence worse.
JuniorCJ82 7 months ago
This is 2 years old. Please tell me she divorced this absolute shitbag.
nicholas nolan 7 months ago
Good Lord, just put her on a fast track to an eating disorder, why don't you? NOTE: Yes, I know that this isn't a certainty she'll develope an eating disorder from this, but it certainly won't help!
weatherwitch 7 months ago
One very likely hormonal from puberty. Two. Bloody disgraceful attitude from him 🤬
Nils Skirnir 7 months ago
Compared to the father who made a mistake about a bear sighting and a leukemic daughter, and was brutally attacked, this guy is plain evil.
nicholas nolan 7 months ago
My dude, if you think shaming a fat person is healpful, I don't know what to tell you. Stay away from children.
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