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Dad Catches 13 Y.O. Daughter Lying After She Fails To Introduce Her Date, Tells Her To Text Him And Call It Off
Parenting isn’t easy, period. However, it’s particularly tricky when you’re the only one responsible for your offspring.
First and foremost, you can never be fully prepared to care for another person. You won’t wake up in the middle of the night and suddenly realize that you’ve already experienced all life has to offer and will be a natural at raising children – frankly speaking, it’s a journey that everyone just wings.
There will be some things that you won’t know how to do, and it’s likely that you’ll also spend a significant deal of time wondering if you’re doing a decent job as a parent – but let’s face it, you’re not the first one, and you most certainly won’t be the last.
Living with a teenager under your roof is a job and a half, but it’s in your best interest to remember that bickering is unavoidable and, in fact, absolutely normal.
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“AITA for making my daughter cancel her date?” – this web user turned to one of Reddit’s most judgmental communities, asking its members whether he’s indeed a jerk for telling his 13-year-old to cancel her date after she refused to let him meet her potential boyfriend. The post managed to garner nearly 10K upvotes as well as 2.8K comments discussing the situation.
Single dad ponders if he’s indeed a jerk for asking teen to introduce her date before going out and then demanding her to cancel it when she refused
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The man began his post by revealing that he’s been a single dad for nearly a decade; his beloved daughter is 13 years old, and she’s the apple of his eye.
Recently, she said that a boy in her class asked her out on a pizza date on the weekend, and since they don’t really do anything for Thanksgiving, the author of the post didn’t mind it. Now, the man did tell her that he wanted to meet the boy – however, his daughter got visibly annoyed and began asking why.
The post’s creator reassured his offspring that it wouldn’t be some kind of “dad interrogates boyfriend and acts all scary” type of thing and that he just wanted to meet him and say hi. The daughter finally agreed and they moved on.
When the author’s daughter revealed to him that she’d been asked on a pizza date, he told her that he wanted to meet the boy
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The day of the date came around and the man saw his daughter heading towards the door, so he stopped her and asked where the youngster was. She said that he was waiting outside, adding that they’d be riding their bikes to the pizza place. Of course, the author of the post pondered why her date wasn’t coming inside, to which the child began making up excuses.
Initially, she said that he was just frightened and unsure of what to say to him, but she quickly changed her story and said that she didn’t see why he had to meet him. The father explained why, once again, and asked her to go get him.
The 13-year-old then broke down and told the author that she’d lied to him. Turns out, she never mentioned it to her date because she believed that it was “stupid” that her father wanted to know what kind of boy his child was planning on hanging out with.
At first, she agreed – however, when the day of the date came around, she started to make up excuses
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The man instructed her to call off the date, and after a brief attempt at an argument, the girl stormed off to her room. When the author reached out to his sister to explain what had happened, she thought he was in the wrong and should have just allowed his kid to go on the date.
She eventually admitted that she had never told her date because she thought it was “stupid,” so the author told her to text him that the date was off
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Nothing in life compares to an understanding and supportive parent-child relationship. However, this journey is among one of the hardest ones, meaning that getting away from occasional bumps in the road is a mission impossible – let alone when you’re a single parent!
What do you think about this situation? What would you have done differently if you were in the author’s shoes?
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MiriPanda 3 years ago
Well, sometimes "13 year old" boyfriends of 13 year old girls turn out to be 30 year old incels, so...
F C 3 years ago
Yes that was my first thought, unfortunately. He could have walked out and met him though
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Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago (edited)
One of my brothers had an experience like this. My niece was only 14, and would lie that she was out with her group of girl friends when she was actually meeting her “boyfriend”. One day, thinking my brother wasn’t home, “boyfriend” showed up outside the house to pick her up for a date. In his CAR! He was 18! My brother went right out to see who he was, and when he found out, he read him the riot act and threatened to have him arrested and put on the pedophile register since he was an adult and she was still a child. So yeah, Dad has every right to cancel the date if he can’t meet the guy taking his ONLY daughter out. Same would apply if he had a son and couldn’t meet the girl, who could also be way too old, going out for pizza with his son. Remember, 18 year olds can also ride bikes to the pizza parlor. Dad was only listening to his Spidey sense here, and could’ve been right to be concerned. When it comes to children, it’s always better to err on the side of caution, because the alternative is too horrible to think about.
Daffydillz' Cold Contagious 3 years ago
You're absolutely right. I worked as a counselor in a lockdown treatment facility for girls 13-18 years old when my daughters came of age to date. So I think it made my senses feel more heightened by the knowledge of my work experience, but I tried very hard to not let it cloud my perception of my daughters behavior and I think I did well. My eyes were definitely open to the possibilities that could befall them though. Fortunately their boyfriends didn't drive and I did most of the transportation for them to go out on dates and visit each others homes, but they didn't "date" until they were 15 and this was almost 15 years ago now. We definitely had to know who they were going to be out with. They also went out with friend groups earlier, to which we delivered and picked up. After my childhood also I just had to keep a bit closer eye on my children.
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SilverSkyCloud 3 years ago
is his sister a moron? she expects dad to let the daughter go on a date with a guy that he's never met, heard of or even seen before? is she in cloud coo-coo land where pedos dont exist or something?
Pug Pug 3 years ago
You would think as a woman, the sister would be warry about 13 year old boys. I mean come on,... Everyone at this point knows how gross 13 year old boys are.
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Potterhead 0-0 3 years ago
Yea I agree. It’s one thing to like someone at that age but going out? It also seems weird because you can’t drive so most of the time your parents have to take you..
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Sarah Kathrin Matsoukis 3 years ago
My first thought is that date is a lot older than 13 and rightfully afraid to meet dad
debrina blackmoon 3 years ago (edited)
Same, and/or trouble in (an)other way(s). Most likely I'd guess.
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Jasam Nitko 3 years ago
The fact that she didn't text the date and have him come to the door says a lot IMO. That's not how you behave when you have nothing to hide and have a parent that won't raise hell over anything.
Diane Knight 3 years ago
Recipe for things to go sideways. You have no info to tell the police and they can't help you. So many things that could go wrong and when it does, you have that stupid comment of "hindsight is 20/20"--how about not being so blind now. There's that unknown scary stuff that crops up that reduces the blunders after the fact. There are 'kids' /teenagers that are involved in bad accidents and are unrecognized and at 13 have no ids either. The long hours to find them. I've known 2 cases where girls were hit by a car while walking along the road. The heartache when the police don't know who/how to get the news to the folks. So even if the dad were to contact the authorities, does he have the facts to locate her in a timely manner? She lies about 1 fact, what about the other 4 that dad relied on being right ? Was she going to that pizza joint with a 13 y.o. boy on a bike and be home at 7, then to be faced with a 18 y.o. with a car going out to a place 3-7 miles out and home at 8:15.
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Felix Grace 3 years ago
I could understand the daughter being uncomfortable with introducing her friend if OP was just an all around asshat (I hid a relationship for 7 months before telling my family, as I wasn't sure it was safe to tell them). But OP's tone seem really chill, honestly. He didn't seem pushy or snoopy or anything. Even if it isn't a "real date", she's a middle schooler. He has every right to know who she's with and why and all that. She isn't in a situation that warrants secrecy, though. It's uncomfortable, yes. But it beats all the other dangerous scenarios.
P Webb 3 years ago
Sure. He was PERFECTLY CHILL... in his RETELLING of the story. But then again, he rushed right over to Reddit to post (humble-brag) about how he punished his wayward daughter and ruined her first date. And then received all the applause and validation he wanted. So how chill could he REALLY have been with the idea of his 13yr old daughter dating boys?
Load More Replies... Hypoxia Smurf 3 years ago
Introducing a date to parents is only polite and considerate. Sez an old fart. ;)
Squirrelly Panda 3 years ago
At 13 I would expect to meet all friends of my child before letting them ride off to get pizza or whatever. I'd also want to meet the parents if my child was going to spend substantial time at the other child's home. But then, I'd oppose real dating at 13. Grabbing a slice of pizza, ok. Going mini golf, ok. But not a real date. Depending on maturity, somewhere around 16 I wouldn't be so strict about a casual grab a slice of pizza thing and let the child choose when I should meet friends and SO's. I would also encourage my child to invite them to dinner and leave them to watch a movie or whatever with minimal interruptions, just enough that both are aware they can be walked in on, but private enough that they can relax and enjoy each other's company without worrying about being spied upon.
Ray Arani 3 years ago
I agree with most of what you said, however I'm confused what differentiates mini golf or grabbing a bite together from a real date? Those sound like real dates to me. I'm 36 and I would totally consider mini golf a real date. Same for a bike ride and some pizza. Actually, those sound like great dates.
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MiriPanda 3 years ago
Well, sometimes "13 year old" boyfriends of 13 year old girls turn out to be 30 year old incels, so...
F C 3 years ago
Yes that was my first thought, unfortunately. He could have walked out and met him though
Load More Replies... Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago (edited)
One of my brothers had an experience like this. My niece was only 14, and would lie that she was out with her group of girl friends when she was actually meeting her “boyfriend”. One day, thinking my brother wasn’t home, “boyfriend” showed up outside the house to pick her up for a date. In his CAR! He was 18! My brother went right out to see who he was, and when he found out, he read him the riot act and threatened to have him arrested and put on the pedophile register since he was an adult and she was still a child. So yeah, Dad has every right to cancel the date if he can’t meet the guy taking his ONLY daughter out. Same would apply if he had a son and couldn’t meet the girl, who could also be way too old, going out for pizza with his son. Remember, 18 year olds can also ride bikes to the pizza parlor. Dad was only listening to his Spidey sense here, and could’ve been right to be concerned. When it comes to children, it’s always better to err on the side of caution, because the alternative is too horrible to think about.
Daffydillz' Cold Contagious 3 years ago
You're absolutely right. I worked as a counselor in a lockdown treatment facility for girls 13-18 years old when my daughters came of age to date. So I think it made my senses feel more heightened by the knowledge of my work experience, but I tried very hard to not let it cloud my perception of my daughters behavior and I think I did well. My eyes were definitely open to the possibilities that could befall them though. Fortunately their boyfriends didn't drive and I did most of the transportation for them to go out on dates and visit each others homes, but they didn't "date" until they were 15 and this was almost 15 years ago now. We definitely had to know who they were going to be out with. They also went out with friend groups earlier, to which we delivered and picked up. After my childhood also I just had to keep a bit closer eye on my children.
Load More Replies... SilverSkyCloud 3 years ago
is his sister a moron? she expects dad to let the daughter go on a date with a guy that he's never met, heard of or even seen before? is she in cloud coo-coo land where pedos dont exist or something?
Pug Pug 3 years ago
You would think as a woman, the sister would be warry about 13 year old boys. I mean come on,... Everyone at this point knows how gross 13 year old boys are.
Load More Replies... Potterhead 0-0 3 years ago
Yea I agree. It’s one thing to like someone at that age but going out? It also seems weird because you can’t drive so most of the time your parents have to take you..
Load More Replies... Sarah Kathrin Matsoukis 3 years ago
My first thought is that date is a lot older than 13 and rightfully afraid to meet dad
debrina blackmoon 3 years ago (edited)
Same, and/or trouble in (an)other way(s). Most likely I'd guess.
Load More Replies... Jasam Nitko 3 years ago
The fact that she didn't text the date and have him come to the door says a lot IMO. That's not how you behave when you have nothing to hide and have a parent that won't raise hell over anything.
Diane Knight 3 years ago
Recipe for things to go sideways. You have no info to tell the police and they can't help you. So many things that could go wrong and when it does, you have that stupid comment of "hindsight is 20/20"--how about not being so blind now. There's that unknown scary stuff that crops up that reduces the blunders after the fact. There are 'kids' /teenagers that are involved in bad accidents and are unrecognized and at 13 have no ids either. The long hours to find them. I've known 2 cases where girls were hit by a car while walking along the road. The heartache when the police don't know who/how to get the news to the folks. So even if the dad were to contact the authorities, does he have the facts to locate her in a timely manner? She lies about 1 fact, what about the other 4 that dad relied on being right ? Was she going to that pizza joint with a 13 y.o. boy on a bike and be home at 7, then to be faced with a 18 y.o. with a car going out to a place 3-7 miles out and home at 8:15.
Load More Replies... Felix Grace 3 years ago
I could understand the daughter being uncomfortable with introducing her friend if OP was just an all around asshat (I hid a relationship for 7 months before telling my family, as I wasn't sure it was safe to tell them). But OP's tone seem really chill, honestly. He didn't seem pushy or snoopy or anything. Even if it isn't a "real date", she's a middle schooler. He has every right to know who she's with and why and all that. She isn't in a situation that warrants secrecy, though. It's uncomfortable, yes. But it beats all the other dangerous scenarios.
P Webb 3 years ago
Sure. He was PERFECTLY CHILL... in his RETELLING of the story. But then again, he rushed right over to Reddit to post (humble-brag) about how he punished his wayward daughter and ruined her first date. And then received all the applause and validation he wanted. So how chill could he REALLY have been with the idea of his 13yr old daughter dating boys?
Load More Replies... Hypoxia Smurf 3 years ago
Introducing a date to parents is only polite and considerate. Sez an old fart. ;)
Squirrelly Panda 3 years ago
At 13 I would expect to meet all friends of my child before letting them ride off to get pizza or whatever. I'd also want to meet the parents if my child was going to spend substantial time at the other child's home. But then, I'd oppose real dating at 13. Grabbing a slice of pizza, ok. Going mini golf, ok. But not a real date. Depending on maturity, somewhere around 16 I wouldn't be so strict about a casual grab a slice of pizza thing and let the child choose when I should meet friends and SO's. I would also encourage my child to invite them to dinner and leave them to watch a movie or whatever with minimal interruptions, just enough that both are aware they can be walked in on, but private enough that they can relax and enjoy each other's company without worrying about being spied upon.
Ray Arani 3 years ago
I agree with most of what you said, however I'm confused what differentiates mini golf or grabbing a bite together from a real date? Those sound like real dates to me. I'm 36 and I would totally consider mini golf a real date. Same for a bike ride and some pizza. Actually, those sound like great dates.
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