Woman Is Shocked By Nephew’s Drawings, Demands He Be Punished
Interview With ExpertArtistic expression is an interesting thing. Especially when the artist is a teenager. Who’s to say what’s appropriate to draw at that age and what’s frowned upon? Is it okay for teens to draw life, especially when the figures they’re depicting are naked?
That was the discussion that this family’s disagreement raised online. A father recently asked people whether he was wrong not to punish his teenage son for his anatomy drawings. The aunt, his sister, said those kinds of drawings were inappropriate for a teenager to do, and she demanded he be punished. The dad, however, stood his ground, but he still wondered whether his stance was right.
Bored Panda reached out to Dr. Melanie McNally, a licensed clinical psychologist and brain coach, to tell us more about teenagers and their artistic expression. She’s an expert in teen mental health and the author of The Emotionally Intelligent Teen and Helping Your Unmotivated Teen. Read her insights below!
A teenager got in trouble with his aunt for sketching the human figure
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She claimed drawing human anatomy was inappropriate for a teenager, but his dad backed the young artist
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When it comes to children and teens drawing naked bodies, it’s more about the ‘why’ than the age of the artist
Teen mental health expert Dr. Melanie McNally tells Bored Panda that curiosity is innate to children and young people, and it can often include the human body. When kids are younger, they might start asking uncomfortable questions. When they become teens, the naked body might become an interest for the artistically inclined.
“They also might draw things from personal experience, and if they’re exposed to naked bodies, they might be more likely to draw them,” she explains. “So rather than focus on the age of the individual, it’s more important to consider the underlying reason why in order to determine if it’s appropriate or not.”
“Is the individual doing it because they recently started changing for gym class at school? Are they taking an art class and the teacher is encouraging them to draw the human form?” McNally says that adults who seek to understand why their kids start drawing human anatomy can ask open-ended questions so that the teen doesn’t feel judged or shamed.
McNally also has some advice for teens on how to broach this subject with adults who think such drawings are inappropriate. “When trying to discuss more challenging topics with adults, it’s always helpful if the young person first chooses a time [when] everyone is calm, undistracted, and receptive to a conversation.”
“I also recommend that the young person explain their underlying reason for doing these kinds of drawings, whether it’s for a class, because it’s challenging, or perhaps it was suggested to them by a more advanced artist,” McNally says.
“If the young person finds that the adult isn’t able to have a healthy conversation about the topic and this is a person who they need to understand their perspective, they might want to enlist the help and support of another trusted adult,” the psychologist adds.
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Life drawing can help teenagers have more grounded ideas of what “real” bodies look like
For aspiring artists and even people who like to draw as a hobby, life drawing can be an excellent practice. It can help hone one’s hand-eye coordination and observational skills, and it can even be a way to relax and meditate.
But for teenagers, it can have another surprisingly positive effect. The lead tutor at London Drawing, Anne Noble-Partridge, believes that life drawing classes for teens can have an immensely positive effect on their self-body image and their perception of what a “real,” healthy body looks like.
“Nudity has become very sexualised in our society, yet if you are drawing, it’s a safe space, and there is respect,” she explained. “Through life drawing, teens get a more rounded view of bodies; they see older, younger, heavier and thinner people and there’s no judgment. It’s a neutral setting.”
One study found that people indeed believe that life-drawing classes for adolescents can help them develop more grounded ideas of what “real” bodies look like and challenge the representation of perfect bodies in the media.
What people often get wrong (as the aunt in this story probably did) is thinking that nude sketches or drawings are inherently sexual. As writer Marinella Mezzanotte explains, “A life model’s nudity isn’t about sex, it is about attention.” Particularly, it’s about the fact that all types of bodies deserve this kind of attention and deserve to be drawn.
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Many people pointed out that this is what artists do and the dad was right to refuse to punish his son
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Your sister is ignorant, a prude, rude, lacks boundaries and needs to control her children. I would reassure your son, commiserate with him for having such crummy relatives, give him a door lock to pointedly use the next time they're round. And every time your sister/father goes on about the sketches, make a BIG point of enquiring how the punishment and training for the brats is progressing.
Some of these questions are secondhand frustrating to read. Why are YOU the AH? Your sister's kids SNOOPED in your house and found drawings your son did in his own house. Why isn't she embarrassed at her own kids? Naked drawings or not, no one has the right to snoop through another person's private possessions when they're merely a guest in the house. Teach your kids manners! The pictures don't matter. A teenager has the right to draw whatever he feels as long as he's not harming himself, anyone else - or being harmed.
Load More Replies...As an artist it is always always creepy when someone thinks (general classical) nude art is porṉ or inappropriate
Don’t let other people’s weird body hangups hold him back. Sounds like he is well motivated to self teach and that’ll take him far. Soon he will be drawing from live models, it is a normal part of the process.
Sign up the lad for art classes at the local college. Drawing nudes is an important skill for artists to learn. Offer to sit for him. You don't have to be nude. :) He could practise by drawing your hands, feet, shoulders etc. What ever happens, let him know he has your support, and you will not stand any nonsense from his prudish aunt.
Why are some people so scared of nudity? Pornography?? What a joke, these are the people that would rage over nude art like Michelangelos David.
Many North Americans are prudishly "scared of"(greatly offended by) nudity, even for the purpose of education/artistic development. Source: I'm a north American artist. (Gals don't get as much flak for studying nudes as guys do though.)
Load More Replies...It's called life drawing and every serious artist has to do it at some point. The kids should not be snooping through rooms. I would lock all the doors or keep them in the living room with the adults. That they are allowed to touch other people's stuff, is far more worrying than a young lad studying art.
Especially in medical school. "Aaaasaah! My oncologist wants to look at my pancreas!!! Harvard Medical School is a hotbed of pervs staring at internal organs!!!!"
Load More Replies...So what if it was straight up porn? He's 15, he can find anything he wants to see within seconds on his phone or computer. At least by drawing it he gets to practice at the same time. XD
Plus life drawing class is pretty tame compared to actual porn. I remember a teenager who was totally bored within 2 years: "When you've been drawing models as long as I have..." He sounded like the most world-weary 18-year-old ever.
Load More Replies...Ask your sister what she was wearing when she was born. Then ask her what her kids were wearing when they were born. And if breastfeeding is pornographic.
OMG! This woman is awful and she's actively harming the mental health of all the kids around her. A naked human is NOT pornography, naked bodies are NOT something to be shamed, and her nephew is actually quite intelligent, seemingly, to be taking such a mature and proactive stance in growing his art.
Your sister is ignorant, a prude, rude, lacks boundaries and needs to control her children. I would reassure your son, commiserate with him for having such crummy relatives, give him a door lock to pointedly use the next time they're round. And every time your sister/father goes on about the sketches, make a BIG point of enquiring how the punishment and training for the brats is progressing.
Some of these questions are secondhand frustrating to read. Why are YOU the AH? Your sister's kids SNOOPED in your house and found drawings your son did in his own house. Why isn't she embarrassed at her own kids? Naked drawings or not, no one has the right to snoop through another person's private possessions when they're merely a guest in the house. Teach your kids manners! The pictures don't matter. A teenager has the right to draw whatever he feels as long as he's not harming himself, anyone else - or being harmed.
Load More Replies...As an artist it is always always creepy when someone thinks (general classical) nude art is porṉ or inappropriate
Don’t let other people’s weird body hangups hold him back. Sounds like he is well motivated to self teach and that’ll take him far. Soon he will be drawing from live models, it is a normal part of the process.
Sign up the lad for art classes at the local college. Drawing nudes is an important skill for artists to learn. Offer to sit for him. You don't have to be nude. :) He could practise by drawing your hands, feet, shoulders etc. What ever happens, let him know he has your support, and you will not stand any nonsense from his prudish aunt.
Why are some people so scared of nudity? Pornography?? What a joke, these are the people that would rage over nude art like Michelangelos David.
Many North Americans are prudishly "scared of"(greatly offended by) nudity, even for the purpose of education/artistic development. Source: I'm a north American artist. (Gals don't get as much flak for studying nudes as guys do though.)
Load More Replies...It's called life drawing and every serious artist has to do it at some point. The kids should not be snooping through rooms. I would lock all the doors or keep them in the living room with the adults. That they are allowed to touch other people's stuff, is far more worrying than a young lad studying art.
Especially in medical school. "Aaaasaah! My oncologist wants to look at my pancreas!!! Harvard Medical School is a hotbed of pervs staring at internal organs!!!!"
Load More Replies...So what if it was straight up porn? He's 15, he can find anything he wants to see within seconds on his phone or computer. At least by drawing it he gets to practice at the same time. XD
Plus life drawing class is pretty tame compared to actual porn. I remember a teenager who was totally bored within 2 years: "When you've been drawing models as long as I have..." He sounded like the most world-weary 18-year-old ever.
Load More Replies...Ask your sister what she was wearing when she was born. Then ask her what her kids were wearing when they were born. And if breastfeeding is pornographic.
OMG! This woman is awful and she's actively harming the mental health of all the kids around her. A naked human is NOT pornography, naked bodies are NOT something to be shamed, and her nephew is actually quite intelligent, seemingly, to be taking such a mature and proactive stance in growing his art.







































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