Dad Has To Change Son’s Diaper In The Ladies’ Room And Gets Yelled At, Asks If He’s The Jerk
Few parenting stereotypes are as established as the father who can’t change his baby’s diaper. In fact, it has penetrated society so deeply that many don’t think men are even capable of pulling this off. But contrary to popular belief, babies poop no matter who is watching them.
Recently, when Reddit user RocksAndHardPlaces1 brought his son to a store, the little guy did his dirty business, so the dad went to the men’s restroom to take care of it, however, he found no facilities that would have allowed him to do so.
The man then learned from the staff that the women’s restroom had a changing table. It was either that or the floor, so the decision was a no-brainer.
Only, some female shoppers weren’t happy to see him there.
This dad had to go to the lady restroom to change his son’s diaper
Image credits: Helena Lopes (not the actual photo)
And he got into a very heated argument with a woman there
Image credits: @babychangenola (not the actual photo)
This story is an excellent reminder that fatherhood in America is changing.
Dads who live with their children are taking a more active role in caring for them and helping around the house, and the number of single fathers has grown significantly in recent decades too.
According to the Pew Research Center, the percentage of men who are stay-at-home dads rose from 4% in 1989 to 7% in 2016. As a result, dads made up 17% of all stay-at-home parents in 2016, up from 10% in 1989.
Among millennials (those aged 20 to 35 in 2016), 6% of dads were at home with their kids. For comparison, just 3% of Gen X dads were at home with their kids when they were the same age.
After the story blew up, the man provided more information in the comment section
Moreover, dads are just as likely as moms to say that parenting is extremely important to their identity—some 57% of fathers believed this to be true in 2015, compared with 58% of mothers.
Like moms, many dads also seem to appreciate the benefits of parenthood: 54% reported that raising a child is rewarding all of the time, as did 52% of moms. Meanwhile, 46% of fathers and 41% of mothers said they find parenting enjoyable all of the time.
Furthermore, a sizable minority of childless men (44% of those 18 to 49) hope to become fathers at some point in their lives (and another 35% are still unsure if they want to become parents).
Dads are stepping up for their kids and we should respect that. Not yell at them if they break some trivial customs along the way.
People thought he had every right to take care of his child
Why is nobody questioning the screaming lady? I mean, did she took of her pants before entering the restroom? Was she naked? Was he naked? What's the difference between a lady changing diapers or a men changing diapers? Why did she started screaming in stead of assessing the situation? Is she socially r******d? Is this America?
Surprising enough, it's actually mostly ladies that complain about other ladies breastfeeding their babies in public. This is from working at a restaurant back in school.
All your questions are valid. She probably panicked and started screaming without thinking, and later refused to change her tactic out of stubbornness.
A chap changing a baby's nappy is one of the least scary things in existence. I'd be more likely to go awwww...
@Auntriarch: you and me both :D
Not if it was a poopy diaper I think.
She was just a Karen. I also walked over men in public women' restroom changing their baby's diaper. I don't see the problem.
Ahem! lol This Karen has no problem with it either. 😁😆
:D
It's likely the US or Canada: he referred to the restroom, the men's room, and the bathroom.
If I was the "Wrong stall buddy" woman, I would have made a different choice here. Shop is ill equipped, guy is a parent with a baby. Ask him does he want me to perhaps stand by the door and let oncoming women know there's a dad changing a baby in there? It's about showing support person to person when it's a discriminatory or unfair/biased situation. Unisex toilets or changing tables in both: we aren't in the 1950s any more.
That's what was going through my mind. Doubt it crossed her mind, but it would have been super helpful.
I was thinking the same. Seriously, she could have taken just 5 minutes out of her day to help the guy out, and helped to avoid everything that followed.
Why is this woman expected to foresee some other stranger acting like a psychopath? Honestly, the fact that you're putting the burden of mitigating this situation in a woman who's not even involved in it, just shows how women are constantly expected to go out of their way to make everyone comfortable at all times.
Alex S: It's no different than men or women who help when a woman is being followed by a stranger. People helping people. The woman in question did nothing wrong by not helping, all I did was say I would have foreseen the problems ahead of the dad (I have worked in customer service, it's second nature to help people to me). Why are you so enraged by this?
She probably didn't expect it to be a problem for anyone else since it wasn't a problem for her - I definitely wouldn't expect anyone to scream at a dad changing diapers. She still could have stayed just in case, but that might have sent the message of "watch out, there's a man in there, and I have to warn you about it!" and that's kind of weird, too...
I wouldn't mind that he uses the changing table, but I also know the society I live in. And I'd ask in a way where there is no pressure, like more of a 'you want a hand with the incoming women, or u got this?'. Also i wouldnt tell other women to "watch out" as hes doing nothing wrong. I do understand what you are saying though, it could come across the wrong way. It's so hard to know what to do
What is it with that obession with bathrooms in the US?? I doubt that story would have happened that way in Germany
The gov't here has been infiltrated w/ religious whack jobs, frightened racists, & an assortment of untreated nationalist mental cases who can't miss an opportunity to b***h & feel victimised when somebody else needs help. I'm SURE this wouldn't have happened in the EU
As a woman I was walking over men in public women' restroom who were using the changing table with their babies, here in Germany. I don't see the problem with, as the women using the restroom in the same time, also didn't mind him being there. Never heard anybody made a scene out of this, nor IRL or in social media.
I was raised in the UK. Been here for 30+ yrs. The last 5 yrs I've really thought about moving back. I do live in a more liberal state, but these people are scary.
People here are I N S A N E. Save us :(
Why is nobody questioning the screaming lady? I mean, did she took of her pants before entering the restroom? Was she naked? Was he naked? What's the difference between a lady changing diapers or a men changing diapers? Why did she started screaming in stead of assessing the situation? Is she socially r******d? Is this America?
Surprising enough, it's actually mostly ladies that complain about other ladies breastfeeding their babies in public. This is from working at a restaurant back in school.
All your questions are valid. She probably panicked and started screaming without thinking, and later refused to change her tactic out of stubbornness.
A chap changing a baby's nappy is one of the least scary things in existence. I'd be more likely to go awwww...
@Auntriarch: you and me both :D
Not if it was a poopy diaper I think.
She was just a Karen. I also walked over men in public women' restroom changing their baby's diaper. I don't see the problem.
Ahem! lol This Karen has no problem with it either. 😁😆
:D
It's likely the US or Canada: he referred to the restroom, the men's room, and the bathroom.
If I was the "Wrong stall buddy" woman, I would have made a different choice here. Shop is ill equipped, guy is a parent with a baby. Ask him does he want me to perhaps stand by the door and let oncoming women know there's a dad changing a baby in there? It's about showing support person to person when it's a discriminatory or unfair/biased situation. Unisex toilets or changing tables in both: we aren't in the 1950s any more.
That's what was going through my mind. Doubt it crossed her mind, but it would have been super helpful.
I was thinking the same. Seriously, she could have taken just 5 minutes out of her day to help the guy out, and helped to avoid everything that followed.
Why is this woman expected to foresee some other stranger acting like a psychopath? Honestly, the fact that you're putting the burden of mitigating this situation in a woman who's not even involved in it, just shows how women are constantly expected to go out of their way to make everyone comfortable at all times.
Alex S: It's no different than men or women who help when a woman is being followed by a stranger. People helping people. The woman in question did nothing wrong by not helping, all I did was say I would have foreseen the problems ahead of the dad (I have worked in customer service, it's second nature to help people to me). Why are you so enraged by this?
She probably didn't expect it to be a problem for anyone else since it wasn't a problem for her - I definitely wouldn't expect anyone to scream at a dad changing diapers. She still could have stayed just in case, but that might have sent the message of "watch out, there's a man in there, and I have to warn you about it!" and that's kind of weird, too...
I wouldn't mind that he uses the changing table, but I also know the society I live in. And I'd ask in a way where there is no pressure, like more of a 'you want a hand with the incoming women, or u got this?'. Also i wouldnt tell other women to "watch out" as hes doing nothing wrong. I do understand what you are saying though, it could come across the wrong way. It's so hard to know what to do
What is it with that obession with bathrooms in the US?? I doubt that story would have happened that way in Germany
The gov't here has been infiltrated w/ religious whack jobs, frightened racists, & an assortment of untreated nationalist mental cases who can't miss an opportunity to b***h & feel victimised when somebody else needs help. I'm SURE this wouldn't have happened in the EU
As a woman I was walking over men in public women' restroom who were using the changing table with their babies, here in Germany. I don't see the problem with, as the women using the restroom in the same time, also didn't mind him being there. Never heard anybody made a scene out of this, nor IRL or in social media.
I was raised in the UK. Been here for 30+ yrs. The last 5 yrs I've really thought about moving back. I do live in a more liberal state, but these people are scary.
People here are I N S A N E. Save us :(