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Guy Tries To Embarrass Woman In Front Of His Friend, She Shuts Him Down Without Saying A Thing
A guy sees woman limping at a bar and mimics her, holding a beer bottle and gesturing with his finger.

Guy Tries To Embarrass Woman In Front Of His Friend, She Shuts Him Down Without Saying A Thing

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We’re often told to be kind because we don’t know what the other person is going through. And making snap judgments about someone whose life story you don’t know can blow up in your face. 

A man learned this lesson in the most embarrassing way, and it would likely haunt him for life. It happened after deciding to pester a woman at a bar because of how she walked. 

You will find the story below, along with similar experiences shared by readers. 

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    As she explains, her prosthetic leg has sometimes made her struggle to walk properly

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    Upon seeing her, the man in question decided to give her a hard time

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    Her response, however, was swift and brutal, without even saying a word

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    A person may judge another by how they perceive their competence level

    One likely reason is that people tend to cast judgment based on competence. As social psychology professor Tony Evans explains, it is one of three overarching character dimensions people often scrutinize. 

    “Morality (whether someone is trustworthy and honest), competence (whether someone is intelligent and skilled), and sociability (whether someone is friendly and warm),” Evans wrote. 

    The guy at the bar likely mistook the woman’s way of walking for a weakness and decided to give her a hard time for it. What he obviously didn’t know was that it was because of something serious. 

    Neurology and psychology professor Anjan Chatterjee calls this the “anomalies-are-bad” stereotype, where one person judges another person for having facial anomalies.  

    “The judgments occur quickly before reason enters our thinking and bias our behavior,” Chatterjee said, describing it as a “reflexive response.”  

    The woman’s response was commendable here. She handled the situation without causing a scene or retaliating with something as mean-spirited. She was assertive enough to stand up for herself without a single insult. 

    “By being assertive, you can address problems with the goal of resolving them,” psychologist Amy Lee tells the Cleveland Clinic. “(It’s) a way to protect oneself, and it’s a very honest, truthful way to approach problems.”

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    Miguel Ordoñez
    Miguel Ordoñez

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    Struggling writer by day. Frustrated jazz drummer by night. Space Cowboy 24/7.

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    Struggling writer by day. Frustrated jazz drummer by night. Space Cowboy 24/7.

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    Hi! Here at Panda's I'm responsible for Photo Editing and all of the things surrounding it. I love finding great, moody or even dramatic photos to fit the story. Besides that, I'm a proud owner of 2 cats with the silliest names and a bazillion plants<3You can find me at a makeup counter with headphones swatching all of the sparkly eyeshadows

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    Rūta Zumbrickaitė
    Rūta Zumbrickaitė

    Author, BoredPanda staff

    Hi! Here at Panda's I'm responsible for Photo Editing and all of the things surrounding it. I love finding great, moody or even dramatic photos to fit the story. Besides that, I'm a proud owner of 2 cats with the silliest names and a bazillion plants<3You can find me at a makeup counter with headphones swatching all of the sparkly eyeshadows

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    Antoinette the Red
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    8 hours ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Reminds me of the video of the cop who stopped a woman who he claims he saw texting with her right hand. Link in next post

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    8 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don’t understand why people insult strangers. Over the course of my life, people I don’t know, have never spoken to, have pointed out that I'm ugly and fat.

    Rick Murray
    Community Member
    4 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a neurodivergent... "You're cute" : Zero times in fifty years (except when used in the ironic sense of "cute"); "You're weird" : So many times I long stopped caring by the time I reached puberty, and while children have no filter......neither do an awful lot of so-called adults.

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    Antoinette the Red
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    8 hours ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Reminds me of the video of the cop who stopped a woman who he claims he saw texting with her right hand. Link in next post

    Community Member
    8 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don’t understand why people insult strangers. Over the course of my life, people I don’t know, have never spoken to, have pointed out that I'm ugly and fat.

    Rick Murray
    Community Member
    4 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a neurodivergent... "You're cute" : Zero times in fifty years (except when used in the ironic sense of "cute"); "You're weird" : So many times I long stopped caring by the time I reached puberty, and while children have no filter......neither do an awful lot of so-called adults.

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