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Daughter Who Helps Out the Most Gets Left Behind As Mom Pays For Everyone Else’s Vacation
It never feels good to experience a parent’s favoritism towards your siblings. Not only does it make you feel less loved, but it may also make you question the authenticity of their actions.
This woman went through this irksome episode with her mother, who was planning a vacation. She later discovered that her mom fully paid for the trip for her siblings and their friends while she was asked to shoulder her own expenses.
She refused to let the issue slide, which caused a rift within the family. Read the entire story below.
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A woman recently got into a feud with her mother because of parental favoritism
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According to the author, the mom offered to pay for the vacation of her siblings and their friends but wouldn’t do the same for her
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She confronted her mother about it, only to be ignored
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Parental favoritism may have a long-lasting effect on sibling relationships
The author didn’t clarify her relationship with her siblings. However, that dynamic may become problematic if their mom favors her brother and sister more.
According to statistics from the Institute of Family Studies, 42% of Americans expressed dissatisfaction with their sibling relationships as adults upon learning that their parents played favorites.
Studies have noted that parental favoritism hurts the child’s self-esteem, as they may feel less loved. According to holistic health practitioner Dr. Partha Nandi, MD, mothers who withhold affection in any form may affect their child’s emotional and psychological development.
Dr. Nandi adds that women who grow up feeling unloved by their mothers may find it difficult to trust others and rely on themselves excessively. They may also sabotage their relationships through emotional detachment or adopt a perfectionist and controlling approach.
“These behaviors serve as both protective mechanisms and barriers to fulfilling relationships and personal growth,” Dr. Nandi wrote in an article for his website.
A parent’s unfair treatment must be communicated to them
According to psychologist Dr. Carl Pickhardt, it is not a parent’s intention to play favorites. Mostly, they are likely unaware that they are showing biases.
In such cases, the affected child must voice their concerns. However, there is a proper way to do it and ensure their sentiments are heard.
According to clinical psychologist Dr. Laurie Kramer, checking in with the parent before expressing your grievance is necessary to clearly explain why you’re raising the issue at hand.
In her interview with Well and Good, she suggested saying something like, “I want to talk about something that’s difficult for me, and I want you to listen before you talk.”
The author did exactly that when she confronted her mother about the unfairness she felt. The situation may have been tense, but she got her message across, which is the important thing.
The woman answered some commenter questions
Most readers sided with her
UPDATE
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After a few more heated moments, the family eventually found a compromise
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KatSaidWhat 8 months ago
Honestly, child, get away from your toxic mother who is using and abusing you. It won't be easy but given the comments, you need to actually take on your own life and stop doing things for her because she clearly doesn't actually appreciate it.
Thanos'Fingers 8 months ago
I like how someone directly asked "what help do you give your mother" and she still refuses to respond. "Oh you know just XYZ". No, we don't know, that's why someone asked. Helping mom spend the extra cash laying around her house is different than helping mom rotate her tires.
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*raspberry sound 8 months ago
I have a very large, very close-knit family. I am the blackest of the sheep, being adopted, and they go on vacation without me almost every year, knowing I can't afford it, they ask me to watch their dogs and s**t. It crushes me every time.
Ai 8 months ago
WT hell... You are not a black sheep for being adopted. Looking at this situation, you are actually a diamond among pigs. If you need someone to talk some sense to you, let me know because this situation is unacceptable and you think you are obliged to do anything for them just crashes my soul.
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🇺🇦 🇵🇸 TribbleThinking 8 months ago
Tell your mother that money shortage is an issue and that you're starting a side hustle and won't be available to pick up, etc any longer. Then actually use the time for a second job or side hustle.
Ruth Watry 8 months ago
Your mom is only paying half of of your room, but everything for your sister's friend? Mom still sounds pretty toxic
Vicky Stewart 8 months ago
This all seems a bit weird to me. Not sure a holiday is Spain is worth all the hassle that the OP went through. Also not sure why the OP wants to go on a holiday where it seems that they weren't really wanted. Like someone else commented. Save up a bit more and find a decent package deal and a toxicfamily free break?
KatSaidWhat 8 months ago
Honestly, child, get away from your toxic mother who is using and abusing you. It won't be easy but given the comments, you need to actually take on your own life and stop doing things for her because she clearly doesn't actually appreciate it.
Thanos'Fingers 8 months ago
I like how someone directly asked "what help do you give your mother" and she still refuses to respond. "Oh you know just XYZ". No, we don't know, that's why someone asked. Helping mom spend the extra cash laying around her house is different than helping mom rotate her tires.
Load More Replies... *raspberry sound 8 months ago
I have a very large, very close-knit family. I am the blackest of the sheep, being adopted, and they go on vacation without me almost every year, knowing I can't afford it, they ask me to watch their dogs and s**t. It crushes me every time.
Ai 8 months ago
WT hell... You are not a black sheep for being adopted. Looking at this situation, you are actually a diamond among pigs. If you need someone to talk some sense to you, let me know because this situation is unacceptable and you think you are obliged to do anything for them just crashes my soul.
Load More Replies... 🇺🇦 🇵🇸 TribbleThinking 8 months ago
Tell your mother that money shortage is an issue and that you're starting a side hustle and won't be available to pick up, etc any longer. Then actually use the time for a second job or side hustle.
Ruth Watry 8 months ago
Your mom is only paying half of of your room, but everything for your sister's friend? Mom still sounds pretty toxic
Vicky Stewart 8 months ago
This all seems a bit weird to me. Not sure a holiday is Spain is worth all the hassle that the OP went through. Also not sure why the OP wants to go on a holiday where it seems that they weren't really wanted. Like someone else commented. Save up a bit more and find a decent package deal and a toxicfamily free break?
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