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Man Screams At Wife After She Realizes His Secret Led To Their Kid’s Sociopathic Actions
Man Screams At Wife After She Realizes His Secret Led To Their Kid’s Sociopathic Actions
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Man Screams At Wife After She Realizes His Secret Led To Their Kid’s Sociopathic Actions

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Secrets have a tendency to get out, creating a distance between people that even time can’t rectify.

When father and Reddit user Kramuz and his wife learned that their son was exhibiting antisocial behavior, the couple were deeply disturbed. Especially the mother.

However, as the man explained in his post on r/AITAH, he wasn’t very surprised — his family has a long history of mental illness and he himself has a troubled past.

Kramuz had kept both of these facts from his partner, but after their child started having problems at school, he chose to disclose them to her.

But even though the woman got more context on what was happening, she still felt betrayed by the years of secrecy.

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    This man confessed to the internet that he had kept his family’s mental illness history a secret from his wife

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    But he didn’t see anything wrong with it, even though their child was kicked out of kindergarten for antisocial behavior

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    As his story gained popularity, the man made a new post, providing more context on his situation

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    And finally, he released a second update, claiming he was scared of his wife leaving him

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    It’s hard to imagine a couple being able to tackle such problems efficiently when there’s been a huge breach of trust

    The terms ‘psychopath’ and ‘sociopath’ are often used interchangeably in common speech to describe a person who is pathologically prone to criminal or violent behavior and lacks any regard for the feelings or interests of others as well as any feelings of remorse or guilt for their crimes.

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    But sociopaths are normally less emotionally stable and highly impulsive – their behavior tends to be more erratic than that of psychopaths. When committing crimes – either violent or non-violent – sociopaths act more impulsively and lack detailed planning.

    However, it’s worth pointing out that neither sociopathy nor psychopathy represents an official diagnosis. They both fall under the larger umbrella of antisocial personality disorder (ASPD).

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    Sociopathic traits in children include:

    • lack of remorse;
    • impulsivity;
    • manipulating others;
    • violence or aggression;
    • frequent lying;
    • cruelty toward animals;
    • stealing.

    A 2018 study did find multiple genes associated with a risk of lower cognitive abilities, academic difficulties, truancy, lower self-control, and criminal offending. But we cannot know what caused the Redditor’s son to act like he has.  “More research is necessary to fully understand what influences the development of sociopathic traits in children,” said Brooke Schwartz, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) in private practice in Los Angeles, CA.

    “However, it is believed that these behaviors are caused by a number of interactive factors including a child’s environment, genetics, and brain development.”

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    Whatever the answer might be, the fact that Kramuz breached his wife’s trust makes it much more difficult for the couple to deal with it.

    Virtually everyone who read his story wished the woman would actually do it

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    And people really felt for his son

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    Rokas Laurinavičius

    Rokas Laurinavičius

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    Rokas Laurinavičius

    Rokas Laurinavičius

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    Rokas is a writer at Bored Panda with a BA in Communication. After working for a sculptor, he fell in love with visual storytelling and enjoys covering everything from TV shows (any Sopranos fans out there?) to photography. Throughout his years in Bored Panda, over 300 million people have read the posts he's written, which is probably more than he could count to.

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    Endcensorship
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It might just be me, but the way OP's post is written seems really unsettling

    kissmychakram
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not just you. I got chills round about when he wondered how to "resume control" of his marriage.

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    arthbach
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    From what was written, it is clear he thinks he is normal, and does not recognise al the the signs of sociopathy. His updates are all about control. He mentions how he was 'being honest', and wonders why he isn't getting brownie points for that. Being honest is the base level - you get no brownie points for being honest. he is accepting no responsibility for his lies, and fails to understand lies of omission are just as much lies as saying you went to an Ivy League university when you didn't. And, yes, sociopathy can be inherited.

    Scott Rackley
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It read just as exactly as a sociopath would think. I kept hearing "flag!" in my head as a kept reading.

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    JayWantsACat
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "She is an unfit parent" gave me shivers.

    Jenny Mason
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He gives no examples of that though, just his claim that he can't allow her to leave with the boy.

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    Endcensorship
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It might just be me, but the way OP's post is written seems really unsettling

    kissmychakram
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not just you. I got chills round about when he wondered how to "resume control" of his marriage.

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    arthbach
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    From what was written, it is clear he thinks he is normal, and does not recognise al the the signs of sociopathy. His updates are all about control. He mentions how he was 'being honest', and wonders why he isn't getting brownie points for that. Being honest is the base level - you get no brownie points for being honest. he is accepting no responsibility for his lies, and fails to understand lies of omission are just as much lies as saying you went to an Ivy League university when you didn't. And, yes, sociopathy can be inherited.

    Scott Rackley
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It read just as exactly as a sociopath would think. I kept hearing "flag!" in my head as a kept reading.

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    JayWantsACat
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "She is an unfit parent" gave me shivers.

    Jenny Mason
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He gives no examples of that though, just his claim that he can't allow her to leave with the boy.

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