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Woman Shares A Controversial List Of Rules She Makes All Of Her Boyfriends Follow
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Woman Shares A Controversial List Of Rules She Makes All Of Her Boyfriends Follow

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Trust, respect, and open and honest communication form the bedrock of any happy and flourishing relationship. However, any romantic relationship also needs a good dose of healthy boundaries: partners shouldn’t aim to control each other and should respect each other’s privacy. They should want to be with each other without wanting to cheat and without one partner automatically distrusting the other. At the same time, it’s important to recognize that some people have genuine trust issues while others don’t plan on being faithful.

TikToker @thefreakshowcircus went viral after filming a couple of videos where she listed her 8 controversial rules that she makes all of her boyfriends follow when it comes to their behavior on Instagram. The initial video was viewed a whopping 3 million times, however, the responses weren’t all that supportive. A lot of people thought that the woman was being far too controlling and demanding in her relationships, leaving absolutely no room for trust. Meanwhile, others thought that her message was on-point and what she was asking for wasn’t unreasonable.

Scroll down to take a look at The Freak Circus’ rules and let us know what you think about them in the comments. Too controlling? Completely justified? You’ll be the judge of that, Pandas. Meanwhile, scroll down to find Bored Panda’s interview with dating expert Dan Bacon about the importance of mutual respect, healthy boundaries, and why one person shouldn’t have too much power in any relationship.

This TikToker went viral for sharing her 8 controversial rules that she makes all of her boyfriends follow

Image credits: thefreakshowcircus

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Here’s what she expects from her partners

Image credits: thefreakshowcircus

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The TikToker’s rules essentially boil down to her not wanting the person she’s dating to look at other women on social media. She also wants him to block any other person he’d been romantically involved with before (including anyone he’s so much as held hands with).

All of these rules suggest that the TikToker might have some trust issues. This can happen to anyone who’s had a partner they love cheat on them before. However, it might be unfair to label every guy ever as a potential cheater. And controlling someone’s interactions online seems like a very shaky foundation from which to start a relationship. It sets a precedent for one partner to have far too much power over the other. This leaves very little room for trust, only control.

However, at the same time, if one partner isn’t okay with what the other is doing or the rules they’re enforcing, they need to speak up. If they believe they’re not being respected, they can’t stay silent.

Here are the TikToker’s videos in full

@thefreakshowcircusIf you dated my man after me, YOURE WELCOME 🤗♬ original sound – The Freak Show 🎪

@thefreakshowcircus Reply to @yourhigherstate2 ♬ original sound – The Freak Show 🎪

Relationship expert Dan Bacon, the founder of The Modern Man, explained to Bored Panda that boundaries are important in dating.

“In relationships and life in general, too much power can corrupt a person’s behavior,” he told us. “A man or a woman who is normally a very nice, caring, loving and understanding person, can sometimes become quite selfish, mean and unloving if given too much power in a romantic relationship.”

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According to the expert, boundaries mean very little if they’re not enforced. For instance, if one of the partners doesn’t like that the other keeps snooping on them or doesn’t trust them even one bit, they have to communicate this clearly.

“Sometimes, a woman will be in a relationship with a man who says that he has boundaries, but then lets her defy those boundaries on a daily basis because he doesn’t know how to stand up to her in an assertive, loving and effective way,” Dan told Bored Panda that people are responsible for the boundaries they set.

“All he does is get upset, sulk and seek pity from her when she defies his boundaries, which she sees as weak, wimpy, and possibly even pathetic. This can then result in her losing respect for him, which can then make her feel as though his so-called ‘boundaries’ aren’t something that she needs to adhere to,” he explained what can happen if one of the partners doesn’t stand up for themselves.

“That kind of problematic outcome often happens when one person has way too much power in a relationship.”

In the dating expert’s opinion, if a guy wants to be respected by his girlfriend or wife, he should strive to ensure that the power dynamic isn’t skewed too far one way or the other. Meanwhile, demanding, pleading, or trying to reason with his partner won’t get her to respect his boundaries.

“Having boundaries respected is not about a man being overly domineering or bossy and making his girlfriend or wife feel like she has no power or say. That is not loving or effective and it will create many relationship problems and most likely cause the relationship to end in a breakup,” Dan said.

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“A man needs to approach the relationship in a way where his girlfriend or wife feels respected, but also feels the need to respect him in return,” he explained to us. “If respect is only one way in the relationship, problematic behavior will naturally emerge and boundaries may be defied or disrespected by an otherwise nice, loving and caring person.”

Some people came out in total support of the woman’s 8 rules. Here’s what they had to say about them

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Meanwhile, some time ago, relationship expert Alex Scot spoke to Bored Panda about the importance of transparency and how privacy is different from secrecy.

“If it can affect your partner or family, there absolutely should be transparency. Whenever in doubt, put yourself in the other person’s shoes and ask yourself what you would like if you were in their situation,” the explained to us during an earlier interview that partners should aim to be very transparent with each other in matters that, well, matter.

“If it wouldn’t impact them, then you have the option of keeping it to yourself. The difference between privacy and secrecy is that secrecy has a sense of shame, guilt, or knowing that your partner or family member wouldn’t be ok with whatever took place,” she pointed out that privacy isn’t the same as secrecy.

Alex stressed that, once broken, rebuilding trust is “always a challenge.” It’s not impossible to fix it, but it will be challenging.

“For smaller offenses, it will take less time, but for larger offenses, be prepared to be overly transparent for a time and hire a therapist or coach to walk you through the process. Trust takes consistency to rebuild and consistency equals effort over time.”

However, not everyone was as supportive. Some folks believe the rules were a bit over the top

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Nathaniel
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Red flags all over this. If this was a man laying down the rules to his girlfriend he would get hate for being controlling, and rightly so.

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Random Panda
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm with the guys on this one, she is a controlling psycho. Why tf should someone block previous romantic partners if they are still friends? I'm friends with two of my husband's exes and I've never had a reason to feel insecure in my relationship. If you can't trust your partner not to cheat on you, then you shouldn't be in a relationship with them.

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Brandon Collinsworth
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is insane, me and my wife have been together for over 20 years, my wife follows exactly as many men online as she wants to and I don't worry about it. If some shirtless guy online can lure my wife away from me then she was never really into me anyway.

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iblowsheep
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I bet she is also one of those "If you can't handle me at my worst... " whackos

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Christos Arvanitis
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"all of my boyfriends"... 'nuff said. She's super insecure and likely a nightmare to date. Scroll right past this one, mate.

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Suzi Q
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My thought exactly! If it worked so well, why does she keep needing new boyfriends.

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Novel Idesa
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why do people enter into relationships with partners they don't trust? If you think the only thing stopping him from cheating on you is a list of rules you've made, you shouldn't be with him. Period. And if you're that insecure that you you get jealous if he has a female friend, you aren't ready to be in a relationship. Work on yourself first.

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Tyson James
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1 year ago

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Anyone who ACTUALLY trusts another human is a fool. Period. Have any of you OPENED your eyes to this world, ever?

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N L
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The “Like, you should just know. Like, just read my mind.” is a red flag regarding communication on her end.

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John Montgomery
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I find it funny how many times "we all know" or "everyone knows" is mentioned as I didn't know any of them.

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René Studer
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Years ago, a female friend and I kissed once. We were romantically interested in each other for a short period of time but decided to stay friends. Today, she is the best friend I have. So, I'm already out at rule number one. There's no way I'm gonna give up years of friendship because some dumb b**ch I just met is insecure about herself.

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Aroace tiger (she/they/he)
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So if ur bi, pan ect and in a relationship u aren't allowed friends? Really controlling honestly

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Tyson James
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

LOL! Yeah, exactly. "No, you're not allowed to hang out or talk to people of your own sex".

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Randolph Croft
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you can't trust (from the beginning) your partner, chances are very high that your partner can't trust you, either. It's called 'projection'. My ex was super jealous of any female friend or employee I had. Ended up, she was the serial cheater and assumed I was the same as she was. I wasn't.

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Tamara Kroonen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, sometimes people have been cheated on multiple times in the past, by multiple partners. That does something to you. It causes you to mistrust people in the beginning. Even if you, yourself, are trustworthy.

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ggus44
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

“If you’re like 'oh my god, I could never', It’S oKaY, sOmEbOdY eLsE WiLl.” Really? Will someone?

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Bethany Heller
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She literally says to read her mind! Holy toxic dumpster fire!

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CLG
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I went into this thinking these would be rules like speaking to her respectfully, or splitting costs on things. But WOW. This is beyond crazy. Has she never had a platonic guy friend in her life?? Because it sure sounds like she wants her boyfriends to cut all ties with any female friends they have or may make. The support she's getting for this preposterous list is absolutely wild.

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Tyson James
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1 year ago

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Not really. People are pathetic morons. You've seen it here.

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GaeFrog
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No searching girls names?? What if he was searching like a woman scientist or politician of famous historical figure but nope! Rosa parks was a woman so he cant search her like huh??

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Alma Muminovic
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow these seem extreme. All I hear is I’m insecure and look at meeeee! If you can’t trust the person your with then you shouldn’t be with him/her. I give everyone the same level of trust once you break it I’m gone but I cant assume your going to do it just because my ex did. That’s just putting your c**p on someone else who had nothing to do with it. Yes Im sure your bf’s can follow these rules for a time, but eventually they will get sick of it cause it’s irrational and crazy in the end. The older you get the more you realize these things.

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Ally MacMann
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Given I've never used Twitter and rarely use social media at all, by itself this wouldn't necessarily bother me. That said, given how specific and strict these rules are, I would worry how jealous someone making them would be with other things

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Amelia Jacobs
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a woman, I've always worked on industries dominated by men. My husband has always worked in industries dominated by women. This means that my work friends are often male and his are often female. Sometimes we are invited to coworker's get togethers, sometimes we make lasting friendships at work, sometimes we go out for a drink after work with coworkers. This, in no way, threatens our marriage. We have been together almost 15 years and we had a frank discussion about this at the beginning of our relationship. Whenever one of us feels uncomfortable with the time/attention/behavior with a particular friend or coworker, we are comfortable discussing it like adults.

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JellifishQueen
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1 year ago

I'm saying this as a woman, God help the poor men who get into these kinds of relationships, the guy friends were absolutely right in saying she's a psycho!

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Mama Penguin
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I personally don't keep contact with my exes. I want a clean and final break. When I met my husband, he was still friends with one of his exes, a girl he dated for a few months. He ended the relationship because he felt they were better off being friends. I didn't have a problem with it as I had no reason to be jealous. However, things started to feel off when our relationship got more serious. He told me that she started giving off signals like she missed their relationship and longed for how they used to be. I never told him to end their friendship, but I told him that her behavior is making me very uncomfortable as his girlfriend. He decided to end the friendship because it was making him feel uneasy and didn't want it to hang over our relationship.

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MagNat
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh right, because if he follows a girl it must be because boobs, not that she can have interesting content... Internalised misogyny much?

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K Wit
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do all of these just bc I don't care about anything she listed as a rule. She just needs to find a like minded person bc she can't force or coerce or control someone into thinking like her.

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Nizumi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"So if you're like, "Oh my god I would never." It's OK someone else will." Excuse me? Thanks for telling someone right from the get go they're completely replaceable. nd why do you know what's on their search page? I have no clue what's on my guy's search page. I only get any idea that he's surfing for porn if I find the oil next to his computer. All I ever ask is, Don't disrupt the life I have with you. Treat me as you would have me treat you. But the day I find out you've laid lips on anyone else, one of us is finding a new place to live. End of.

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Ele V
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow. Seems like she has serious issues. Girl if you're with a guy that makes you feel that you have to set these rules,it means that your relationship is a joke

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Jonny Man
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Every. Single. One. Is. TOXIC! And huge red flags! Horrible, horrible, HORRIBLE person with horrible, horrible, HORRIBLE tendencies! You're in a relationship and now you can't have female friends?! No guy should date this girl as long as she's this possessive and controlling and manipulative. Worst part is her assurance that if one guy won't put up with her abuse someone else will - fellas, let's work together to change that. Doesn't matter if she's hot and you don't think you can do better, rest assured that yes you can! And needless to say, this goes for women and LGBTQIAP+ people too. Don't let ANYONE awful ruin your life like this!

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Yu Pan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't understand... Clicking on a "like" is the equivalent of cheating on you? I mean, the ppl I follow are miles away or in a different country... Will a LIKE instantly transport me to that person's place so we can shag? What's the big deal about a like???

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John Baker
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She can just take her happy a*s on down the road. I've got nothing for her.

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Zaza
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you're so insecure that you can't have your boyfriend look at another girls/womans social media and you feel like you need to control all his interactions like this, you're not ready to have a boyfriend and you should be going to therapy. I also wonder if she is sticking to these rules herself (genders reversed ofc). Only has girlfriends, doesn't look at any stories when posted by a guy etc. My bet is that she doesn't

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Ayisa
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

someone sounds insecure... like that commenter said, if you can't trust him to have female friends then that's a toxic relationship. Let people have friends, not everything has to be romantic.

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Tricia Georgetti
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh hell no!!!! This is toxic and straight up psycho. Most of my friends are guys not girls why bc girls are insane. My boyfriend is totally fine with this as I am totally fine that he's friends with other girls. I wouldn't be with someone who restricted who I spoke to. If there is a particular person and there was an issue with that one person I can understand but to cut all contact off with the opposite sex is just insane and unhealthy.

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Octavia Hansen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If she follows her own rules, there should be no problem. But if she does what she wants but he has to follow her rules . . . red flag.

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SilverSkyCloud
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

imagine the outrage if it was her boyfriend making similar sorts of demands to her

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Aballi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What if she dated someone who was bisexual? Would he have to stop following EVERYONE? This is controlling and insecure behavior. I can't in a million years imaging asking my partner to follow any of these rules. He has his own life, and one of the reasons I'm with him is because I trust him. Also, I follow almost all my ex boyfriends, chat with them occasionally, and most of them are married. I'm not particularly close to any of them, but we were important parts of each other's lives at one point, and I would be sad if their wives made them cease contact with me.

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Rens
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So I doubt she would date someone who is bisexual, because she couldn't handle the competition...

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Firefoxy3121
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So no female family members, friends, work mates, no liking cool pic of nature or pets or stuff women post, no females other than her allowed in guys life

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Joss
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the problem isn't really what she wants, it's that she has rules rather than finding a partner and discussing boundaries they both agree on. Every couple has different comfort levels with different things/different definitions of what constitutes cheating and it's fine for those to be more or less restrictive than typical relationships as long as they're things that couple agrees on rather than a lost of rules imposed by one of them.

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S Mack
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That’s what people are missing. She should have used something along the lines of boundaries rather than rules but there are absolutely MANY other people who feel the same as her. It’s not an issue, it’s not controlling, etc. unless the other person doesn’t feel the same. If two like minded people get together and establish these boundaries/guidelines then that’s them. People always have something to say about other people’a relationships. If it’s not for you then it’s not for you! Like she said someone else will and that’s a fact. It doesn’t necessarily lie in jealousy, insecurity, toxicity or whatever else it’s a comfort level of what will and will not be tolerated. Period. She has a right to how she feels/thinks/acts and people have a right to date her or pass her up. What’s the issue here? Pass her up if you don’t like it! Lol I just think it’s hilarious how people react to such things and the nonsense they spew. Especially in the world of fake happiness and blatant infidelity…pls

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Barbara Gibson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Would never work. A) my best friend of 26 years is my ex so, like, what? And B) I'm bisexual so this would mean i could never have friends. At all. My SO is friends with my best friend and knows all of my contacts. And I know all of his. Even the ladies.

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Mindy Haun
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Boundaries are a good thing, but this is way beyond normal boundaries to me. It reeks of insecurity and controlling behavior. I have known girls like that and they do it out of pure jealousy. The type who can't even handle it if he even so much as looks at another woman. Especially if she's dressed in a way they don't approve of, like halter tops and shorts, etc. Because even if it's a normal glance they think it's cheating. However they had no such rules for themselves.

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Jonathan West
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I guess I'm probably worse cause I don't intend to date anyone who uses insta anyway. I think the app is stupid and, in general, bad for you.

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Julia Winfield
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm a woman and I find this to be absolutely absurd and controlling. If you can't trust the person you are with, move on or be single. She's one step away from banning use of all social media. What's next? Can't have a phone that dials anything other than her number or 911? Yikes.

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lightbulb
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People are gonna check out and look at other people even when in a relationship, get over it. This girl is hella controlling and insecure.

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Craig Reynolds
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ridiculous. I bet he isn't allowed to watch any Fas & Furious movies because of how the girls at the races are dressed or he'd be told to FFwd past those scenes. I guess he is not allowed to go to the beach because, well, bikinis of course. It is possible to remain friends after a breakup so if he has EXs he's still friends with, why should he block and ghost them for your insecurity? Let's see, what else is affected by those over-the-top rules? No following female celebrities and musicians on social media, no watching female sports, I guess all James Bond movies are out. I guess he won't be buying you any gifts from Victoria's Secret because there are other women in there and he might accidentally look at one. No talking to or socializing with female coworkers on lunch break. Yeah, that girl is nuts. You don't want to step in front of that bullet.

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Liz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh my god…what a controlling B. I can’t believe people are defending and agreeing with her.

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UpQuarkDownQuark
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I listened to her talk for about ten seconds, and I can’t help but wonder why any guy would date her at all. She has a revolting personality.

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Michael Se
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All of this is abuse. #6 specifically... so you hold someone responsible for the output of a social media algorithm they have no control of? Abuse.

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Roin
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Me as female would NEVER agree to these rules! If he don't trust me that bit, then he's free to go. And i would NEVER ask him to do any of those either, if he wanna cheat he will find the way anyways and if he does that, it tells our relationship was what he needed.

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Matt Cordon
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So if this is the case, then it would have to go both ways, right? Does that mean that she won’t ever search for guys, add any guys after they started dating, never comment on a guy’s post who puts shirtless pics, etc? Why shouldn’t she make a point to say that she’ll do the same? That’s the only way I could even begin to rationalize any part of this kind of control, but I’m not seeing or hearing it…

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Tim
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I read this as "don't interact with women at all", which is BS. Also note that she requires "ALL" her boyfriends to follow these rules. I wonder how long they stick around...

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Ama-nee
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd say the entire list would fall apart along with the relationship because it's contradicting my only rule - I don't touch your phone, you don't touch mine.

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Heather Weather
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If she was not psycho, like she claims, it would be boyfriend not “boyfriendS”.

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John Dough
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Naw. This is insecurity not respect. Some people are friends with their ex. Only insecurity forces people to cut all contract. It's disturbing people can't tell the difference. Respect = someone not cheating even emotionally. Insecurity = demanding someone not even look at another girl.

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Dio
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't like those rules because it implies there is no trust and no man should ever be trusted ever and that's just so toxic. Also, do those rules apply to her in reverse? Does she block all ex's too? Does she block all men on her stories? If he's required to do that, then she should do the same or she's a huge hypocrite.

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Java Addict
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is just her rules for social media, imagine her offline rules. Probably one of those girls that flips out if the guy so much as glances in another girl's direction. If she were a man everybody would be ripping her apart for this.

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Andrei Stanescu
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

problem is the lady herself doesn't seem to worth it, taken at face value. and even bigger problem is her character seems dubious, so isn't just a way for her to hide her past/present/future?

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Nicole Kosanke
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She sounds like the kind of crazy who would flip out about her boyfriend texting female relatives.

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Bi-Polar Express
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The amount of insecurity is so sad. She says all of her boyfriends have followed it. All of them. She has had so many because relationships like this don't last long.

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DragonflyGreen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, as a woman, I agree with maybe two or three. At least two. The rest are horse s**t and controlling. The kind of woman who makes us women look bad.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Tell me you are controlling, possessive and jealous without telling me you're controlling, possessive and jealous. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 Edit, spelling Edit 2: and I have to say, I'm concerned with how many people think this is OK 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

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John Wilson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't have to think hard why she gets through lots of boyfriends.....

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James
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Was this how Jada and Will started? Definitely toxic...

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Jason Rowe
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wanna know if she imposes these rules on herself as well, or if she just forces them onto whomever she is seeing at the time?

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Ellie McGrath
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A great foundation for a Coercive and Controlling behaviour charge on your rap sheet. Do people like her not realise that in some countries this sort of behaviour is against the law? It is in my country and the UK as well as some European countries.

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Pamela Blue
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She obviously has trust issues, but she also has control issues. I hope, for her sake, she finds a Harry to lead around by the nose and control, but if not, she's going to spend a very lonely old age. Discussing these points with a man and agreeing together what is upsetting and/or acceptable is fine, but to simply demand these things from a guy is wrong. Think about it the other way. What if this was a guy demanding all these rules from his girlfriend? Everyone would be flipping out with rage at how controlling he was being, etc., etc.

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Camilla Koutsos
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But why? None of this makes sense. Being a neurotic, jealous, insecure, and controlling person is her problem, but she's making it his. Why would her boyfriend tolerate this?

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Purple Orchid
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This girl has obviously been burned very badly. There has to be trust, or you have no relationship. It is where the foundation is. And trust can only be built over time. People have pasts that come with all different kinds of baggage. You have to be willing to be vulnerable enough to each help the other unpack...you will NEVER find a perfect person. They don't exist. Humans are flawed. They make mistakes. And no set of arbitrary rules are going to prevent mistakes or potential problems in any relationship. Boundaries yes, RULES no....

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T-Rose G
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Red flags completely I love the earlier comment, if a man was doing this then it would be viewed as controlling and possessive, and people in comments would be saying get away from him. And we are saying it now, get away from her. These rules only prove two things, the men you date are scum and the woman you are is toxic and controlling. A guy follows any old ex, why are you threatened by that? A guy replies to a story you post, oh my god how terrible he cares enough to respond! He looked a girls name, oh I’m sorry I didn’t know it was bad to be safe, if I were dating someone I just met I would look them up cause I don’t have time to be dating a killer or a rapist or something along those lines. You liked a girls photo? Omg god forbid you liked it just because it was a cute picture! Yeah, some rules like you are dating me no flirting with other girls or looking up adult videos, yeah totally get that that’s a big no, but otherwise chill girl chill

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Lisa Valen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is BS. Are you his girlfriend or his mother? And is he like, 9? I think you must unfortunately, be very insecure. Do you not look at other guys? "Follow" them? Maybe you don't. But if your guy sincerely cares for you, and you KNOW it, you shouldn't care if he still has his ex as a contact, or if he looks at other women in bikinis. He's a guy, right? Let him be a guy. Do you want to be "controlled". Unlikely.

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E Hall
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Tik tok is literally the the septic tank of the internet. Her being on tik tok should have been the only red flag you needed.

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Luke Lefrancois
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One one hand, you can ask for anything, and if your partner agrees, than good for both of you. On the other hand, does she follow her own rules? And why is she so insecure? Sorry, I fall on the RED FLAG side of this argument

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Fernanda Abreu
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you think about it, the root of all rules here is social network. Why have any, really? This has always been my question. I used to use FB for work-related matters but now I see it's irrelevant for my field [teacher here], and I have Instagram because my phone created me a page there without my consent lol, now I'm stuck with them because I don't know how to delete them lol And I think the best move for a couple is just NOT having these. Everybody knows they're extremely time-consuming and source of cheating, even involuntarily [naked people all over], as well as these things are capable of making you TRULY UNHAPPY. Why have them, really? And, secondly, can anyone please help me delete this c**p? Lol

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Fernanda Abreu
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you think about it, the root of all rules here is social network. Why have any, really? This has always been my question. I used to use FB for work-related matters but now I see it's irrelevant for my field [teacher here], and I have Instagram because my phone automatically created me a page there without my consent lol, now I'm stuck with them because I don't know how to delete them lol And I think the best move for a couple is just NOT having these. Everybody knows they're extremely time-consuming and source of cheating, even involuntarily [naked people all over], as well as these things are capable of making you TRULY UNHAPPY. Why have them, really? And, secondly, can anyone please help me delete this c**p? Lol

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TheHiveGuardian
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

... honestly half of these things shouldnt even need to be said and any guy worth his salt would already be doing some of these. Ladies, watch out for guys in the comments freaking out about this and guys... Don't waste your time on girls who don't have standards that include respecting them 👏 be a King for your Queen

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Celeste Grant
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Toxic and neurotic! And couching it as only being respectful is abusive. I guess if you are both completely happy with this, and it's a two way thing with similar rules for her then it's their relationship and they get to set the boundaries but to me expecting this would be a massive red flag!

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Shelley McKinney
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My son is in a controlling relationship right now. I think it's toxic. He doesn't see it. If a woman makes these kinds of rules, she's insecure. For the others who say its a respect thing, if it truly is a respect thing then you wouldn't need rules. She sounds exhausting.

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Tara Raay
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is why I stay single. People are annoying and plain ol stupid! These are all stupid rules btw.

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Suzi Q
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So she never wants to learn how to trust? Or is she picking men who she suspects will cheat. I hope most guys would see that list and see the insecurity, controlling and obsessive behavior. She's got a lot to learn. What I don't understand is the people who thought these were reasonable requests.

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Mika N
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok 1. it is possible to have friends of the opposite gender and it's platonic. If my husband's friend posts a pic of a cool place she visited this weekend and he likes it, what's the big deal? 2. As far as liking and privately replying to intentionally "sexy" and revealing photos or following random women you don't know who constantly post bikini pics, if you have to spell that out for him then why are you dating? He's not ready, move along.

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Marco Conti
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Perfectly reasonable" my a*s. This is insecurity of galactic proportions. Sure, some of the behaviors listed would be insensitive and rude, but terminating contact with any and all past girlfriends and not making any new female friends? That's madness.

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Queenie-Poo
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yikes. The only "controversial" limit I set with my husband was that if I call, he answers. He was terrible about responding to anyone's phone calls (not just mine), so the deal is if I text, it's not urgent; answer or don't, whatever. But if I call, it's urgent and usually something to do with the kids; I need you to answer the phone.

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Sarah
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What is wrong with this woman? Has to be some major insecurity there, hiding behind inflated confidence.

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Jess-a-men
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So does the guy still get to exist on the same planet as other women or does she expect him to relocate to Mars? You don't get to demand that your significant other ignores almost 50% of humanity.

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Curry on...
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her rules are probably why she has an 's' at the end of boyfriend. None are staying around. I let the bird fly free and just make note of where he lands. I'd rather see his true self (and make a decision about the relationship) than one he fakes to pacify me.

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Leodavinci
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Any guy who is okay with such a list and would enter into a relationship with one deserves what he gets. So I think men need to have woman putting up lists like this. They would save a lot of time by showing who to avoid.

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Disha Nath-Sepoy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh please, this is toxic as f*uck. You've got to have REALLLLLYYYYY low self-esteem/respect if you agree to these to date a person. This woman is crazy and insecure as hell 🚩

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Isabelle Nadeau
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow! This is a very toxic behavior. This girl shouldn't even be in a relationship if she's THAT insecure.

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S Mack
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She should have used something along the lines of boundaries rather than rules but there are absolutely MANY other people who feel the same as her. It’s not an issue, it’s not controlling, etc. unless the other person doesn’t feel the same. If two like minded people get together and establish these boundaries/guidelines then that’s them. People always have something to say about other people’a relationships. If it’s not for you then it’s not for you! Like she said someone else will and that’s a fact. It doesn’t necessarily lie in jealousy, insecurity, toxicity or whatever else it’s a comfort level of what will and will not be tolerated. Period. She has a right to how she feels/thinks/acts and people have a right to date her or pass her up. What’s the issue here? Pass her up if you don’t like it! Lol I just think it’s hilarious how people react to such things and the nonsense they spew. Especially in the world of fake happiness and blatant infidelity…pls

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Am here to say a big thank you to this man who help me with his powerful spell to bring back my ex who left me for someone else , thank you my ex is back to me , if you want his help you can email him: greatmutaba@ gmail. com

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Miller Smith
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When we converse, I tell a woman if I am in the dating pool. That means she is not my boo. If I claimed such a thing on women who dated me, you would know me for the chauvinistic turd that I would be. The ladies rule make sense if and only if she AND the man decide MUTUALLY that they are exclusive. Otherwise, she is controlling and she will not be a suitable partner for anyone. Just switch the sexes and the macrofemisnists will sing a different song.

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MagNat
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It has nothing to do with any kind of feminisim. It's just controlling c**p.

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Hugo Raible
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Get a second phone, enjoy it while it lasts, but expect a dramatic at any time soon. But probably it's not even worth it.

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ERIKA H.
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think she is playing it up a bit for Tiktok for views, but I agree with partners just being respectful of one another. If my husband was liking another random women's bikini photos I'd mention to him it was inappropriate

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This Woman isn't even close to attractive enough to be making these rules.

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i think every decent guy should do this without his gf demanding it. i do follow a lot of tattoo sites on IG and my gf was first worried bc sometimes some artists show some very large tattoos on women that wear a bikini or even less with just the hand covering the delicate parts. i explained it to her, that i like the work of the artist and couldn't give a sh*t if the girl is attractive or not and she gets it.

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ljbeanfield
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Surprise! You're not allowed to have any friends because you're my partner and I don't want you to+

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Nathaniel
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Red flags all over this. If this was a man laying down the rules to his girlfriend he would get hate for being controlling, and rightly so.

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Random Panda
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm with the guys on this one, she is a controlling psycho. Why tf should someone block previous romantic partners if they are still friends? I'm friends with two of my husband's exes and I've never had a reason to feel insecure in my relationship. If you can't trust your partner not to cheat on you, then you shouldn't be in a relationship with them.

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Brandon Collinsworth
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is insane, me and my wife have been together for over 20 years, my wife follows exactly as many men online as she wants to and I don't worry about it. If some shirtless guy online can lure my wife away from me then she was never really into me anyway.

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iblowsheep
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I bet she is also one of those "If you can't handle me at my worst... " whackos

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Christos Arvanitis
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"all of my boyfriends"... 'nuff said. She's super insecure and likely a nightmare to date. Scroll right past this one, mate.

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Suzi Q
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My thought exactly! If it worked so well, why does she keep needing new boyfriends.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why do people enter into relationships with partners they don't trust? If you think the only thing stopping him from cheating on you is a list of rules you've made, you shouldn't be with him. Period. And if you're that insecure that you you get jealous if he has a female friend, you aren't ready to be in a relationship. Work on yourself first.

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Anyone who ACTUALLY trusts another human is a fool. Period. Have any of you OPENED your eyes to this world, ever?

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N L
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The “Like, you should just know. Like, just read my mind.” is a red flag regarding communication on her end.

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John Montgomery
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I find it funny how many times "we all know" or "everyone knows" is mentioned as I didn't know any of them.

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René Studer
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Years ago, a female friend and I kissed once. We were romantically interested in each other for a short period of time but decided to stay friends. Today, she is the best friend I have. So, I'm already out at rule number one. There's no way I'm gonna give up years of friendship because some dumb b**ch I just met is insecure about herself.

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Aroace tiger (she/they/he)
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So if ur bi, pan ect and in a relationship u aren't allowed friends? Really controlling honestly

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Tyson James
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

LOL! Yeah, exactly. "No, you're not allowed to hang out or talk to people of your own sex".

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Randolph Croft
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you can't trust (from the beginning) your partner, chances are very high that your partner can't trust you, either. It's called 'projection'. My ex was super jealous of any female friend or employee I had. Ended up, she was the serial cheater and assumed I was the same as she was. I wasn't.

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Tamara Kroonen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, sometimes people have been cheated on multiple times in the past, by multiple partners. That does something to you. It causes you to mistrust people in the beginning. Even if you, yourself, are trustworthy.

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ggus44
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

“If you’re like 'oh my god, I could never', It’S oKaY, sOmEbOdY eLsE WiLl.” Really? Will someone?

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Bethany Heller
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She literally says to read her mind! Holy toxic dumpster fire!

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CLG
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I went into this thinking these would be rules like speaking to her respectfully, or splitting costs on things. But WOW. This is beyond crazy. Has she never had a platonic guy friend in her life?? Because it sure sounds like she wants her boyfriends to cut all ties with any female friends they have or may make. The support she's getting for this preposterous list is absolutely wild.

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Not really. People are pathetic morons. You've seen it here.

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GaeFrog
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No searching girls names?? What if he was searching like a woman scientist or politician of famous historical figure but nope! Rosa parks was a woman so he cant search her like huh??

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Alma Muminovic
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow these seem extreme. All I hear is I’m insecure and look at meeeee! If you can’t trust the person your with then you shouldn’t be with him/her. I give everyone the same level of trust once you break it I’m gone but I cant assume your going to do it just because my ex did. That’s just putting your c**p on someone else who had nothing to do with it. Yes Im sure your bf’s can follow these rules for a time, but eventually they will get sick of it cause it’s irrational and crazy in the end. The older you get the more you realize these things.

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Ally MacMann
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Given I've never used Twitter and rarely use social media at all, by itself this wouldn't necessarily bother me. That said, given how specific and strict these rules are, I would worry how jealous someone making them would be with other things

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Amelia Jacobs
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a woman, I've always worked on industries dominated by men. My husband has always worked in industries dominated by women. This means that my work friends are often male and his are often female. Sometimes we are invited to coworker's get togethers, sometimes we make lasting friendships at work, sometimes we go out for a drink after work with coworkers. This, in no way, threatens our marriage. We have been together almost 15 years and we had a frank discussion about this at the beginning of our relationship. Whenever one of us feels uncomfortable with the time/attention/behavior with a particular friend or coworker, we are comfortable discussing it like adults.

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JellifishQueen
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1 year ago

I'm saying this as a woman, God help the poor men who get into these kinds of relationships, the guy friends were absolutely right in saying she's a psycho!

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Mama Penguin
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I personally don't keep contact with my exes. I want a clean and final break. When I met my husband, he was still friends with one of his exes, a girl he dated for a few months. He ended the relationship because he felt they were better off being friends. I didn't have a problem with it as I had no reason to be jealous. However, things started to feel off when our relationship got more serious. He told me that she started giving off signals like she missed their relationship and longed for how they used to be. I never told him to end their friendship, but I told him that her behavior is making me very uncomfortable as his girlfriend. He decided to end the friendship because it was making him feel uneasy and didn't want it to hang over our relationship.

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MagNat
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh right, because if he follows a girl it must be because boobs, not that she can have interesting content... Internalised misogyny much?

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K Wit
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do all of these just bc I don't care about anything she listed as a rule. She just needs to find a like minded person bc she can't force or coerce or control someone into thinking like her.

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Nizumi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"So if you're like, "Oh my god I would never." It's OK someone else will." Excuse me? Thanks for telling someone right from the get go they're completely replaceable. nd why do you know what's on their search page? I have no clue what's on my guy's search page. I only get any idea that he's surfing for porn if I find the oil next to his computer. All I ever ask is, Don't disrupt the life I have with you. Treat me as you would have me treat you. But the day I find out you've laid lips on anyone else, one of us is finding a new place to live. End of.

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Ele V
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow. Seems like she has serious issues. Girl if you're with a guy that makes you feel that you have to set these rules,it means that your relationship is a joke

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Jonny Man
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Every. Single. One. Is. TOXIC! And huge red flags! Horrible, horrible, HORRIBLE person with horrible, horrible, HORRIBLE tendencies! You're in a relationship and now you can't have female friends?! No guy should date this girl as long as she's this possessive and controlling and manipulative. Worst part is her assurance that if one guy won't put up with her abuse someone else will - fellas, let's work together to change that. Doesn't matter if she's hot and you don't think you can do better, rest assured that yes you can! And needless to say, this goes for women and LGBTQIAP+ people too. Don't let ANYONE awful ruin your life like this!

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Yu Pan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't understand... Clicking on a "like" is the equivalent of cheating on you? I mean, the ppl I follow are miles away or in a different country... Will a LIKE instantly transport me to that person's place so we can shag? What's the big deal about a like???

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John Baker
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She can just take her happy a*s on down the road. I've got nothing for her.

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Zaza
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you're so insecure that you can't have your boyfriend look at another girls/womans social media and you feel like you need to control all his interactions like this, you're not ready to have a boyfriend and you should be going to therapy. I also wonder if she is sticking to these rules herself (genders reversed ofc). Only has girlfriends, doesn't look at any stories when posted by a guy etc. My bet is that she doesn't

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Ayisa
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

someone sounds insecure... like that commenter said, if you can't trust him to have female friends then that's a toxic relationship. Let people have friends, not everything has to be romantic.

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Tricia Georgetti
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh hell no!!!! This is toxic and straight up psycho. Most of my friends are guys not girls why bc girls are insane. My boyfriend is totally fine with this as I am totally fine that he's friends with other girls. I wouldn't be with someone who restricted who I spoke to. If there is a particular person and there was an issue with that one person I can understand but to cut all contact off with the opposite sex is just insane and unhealthy.

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Octavia Hansen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If she follows her own rules, there should be no problem. But if she does what she wants but he has to follow her rules . . . red flag.

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SilverSkyCloud
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

imagine the outrage if it was her boyfriend making similar sorts of demands to her

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Aballi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What if she dated someone who was bisexual? Would he have to stop following EVERYONE? This is controlling and insecure behavior. I can't in a million years imaging asking my partner to follow any of these rules. He has his own life, and one of the reasons I'm with him is because I trust him. Also, I follow almost all my ex boyfriends, chat with them occasionally, and most of them are married. I'm not particularly close to any of them, but we were important parts of each other's lives at one point, and I would be sad if their wives made them cease contact with me.

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Rens
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So I doubt she would date someone who is bisexual, because she couldn't handle the competition...

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Firefoxy3121
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So no female family members, friends, work mates, no liking cool pic of nature or pets or stuff women post, no females other than her allowed in guys life

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Joss
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the problem isn't really what she wants, it's that she has rules rather than finding a partner and discussing boundaries they both agree on. Every couple has different comfort levels with different things/different definitions of what constitutes cheating and it's fine for those to be more or less restrictive than typical relationships as long as they're things that couple agrees on rather than a lost of rules imposed by one of them.

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S Mack
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That’s what people are missing. She should have used something along the lines of boundaries rather than rules but there are absolutely MANY other people who feel the same as her. It’s not an issue, it’s not controlling, etc. unless the other person doesn’t feel the same. If two like minded people get together and establish these boundaries/guidelines then that’s them. People always have something to say about other people’a relationships. If it’s not for you then it’s not for you! Like she said someone else will and that’s a fact. It doesn’t necessarily lie in jealousy, insecurity, toxicity or whatever else it’s a comfort level of what will and will not be tolerated. Period. She has a right to how she feels/thinks/acts and people have a right to date her or pass her up. What’s the issue here? Pass her up if you don’t like it! Lol I just think it’s hilarious how people react to such things and the nonsense they spew. Especially in the world of fake happiness and blatant infidelity…pls

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Barbara Gibson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Would never work. A) my best friend of 26 years is my ex so, like, what? And B) I'm bisexual so this would mean i could never have friends. At all. My SO is friends with my best friend and knows all of my contacts. And I know all of his. Even the ladies.

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Mindy Haun
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Boundaries are a good thing, but this is way beyond normal boundaries to me. It reeks of insecurity and controlling behavior. I have known girls like that and they do it out of pure jealousy. The type who can't even handle it if he even so much as looks at another woman. Especially if she's dressed in a way they don't approve of, like halter tops and shorts, etc. Because even if it's a normal glance they think it's cheating. However they had no such rules for themselves.

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Jonathan West
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I guess I'm probably worse cause I don't intend to date anyone who uses insta anyway. I think the app is stupid and, in general, bad for you.

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Julia Winfield
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm a woman and I find this to be absolutely absurd and controlling. If you can't trust the person you are with, move on or be single. She's one step away from banning use of all social media. What's next? Can't have a phone that dials anything other than her number or 911? Yikes.

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lightbulb
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People are gonna check out and look at other people even when in a relationship, get over it. This girl is hella controlling and insecure.

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Craig Reynolds
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ridiculous. I bet he isn't allowed to watch any Fas & Furious movies because of how the girls at the races are dressed or he'd be told to FFwd past those scenes. I guess he is not allowed to go to the beach because, well, bikinis of course. It is possible to remain friends after a breakup so if he has EXs he's still friends with, why should he block and ghost them for your insecurity? Let's see, what else is affected by those over-the-top rules? No following female celebrities and musicians on social media, no watching female sports, I guess all James Bond movies are out. I guess he won't be buying you any gifts from Victoria's Secret because there are other women in there and he might accidentally look at one. No talking to or socializing with female coworkers on lunch break. Yeah, that girl is nuts. You don't want to step in front of that bullet.

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Liz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh my god…what a controlling B. I can’t believe people are defending and agreeing with her.

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UpQuarkDownQuark
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I listened to her talk for about ten seconds, and I can’t help but wonder why any guy would date her at all. She has a revolting personality.

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Michael Se
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All of this is abuse. #6 specifically... so you hold someone responsible for the output of a social media algorithm they have no control of? Abuse.

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Roin
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Me as female would NEVER agree to these rules! If he don't trust me that bit, then he's free to go. And i would NEVER ask him to do any of those either, if he wanna cheat he will find the way anyways and if he does that, it tells our relationship was what he needed.

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Matt Cordon
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So if this is the case, then it would have to go both ways, right? Does that mean that she won’t ever search for guys, add any guys after they started dating, never comment on a guy’s post who puts shirtless pics, etc? Why shouldn’t she make a point to say that she’ll do the same? That’s the only way I could even begin to rationalize any part of this kind of control, but I’m not seeing or hearing it…

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Tim
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I read this as "don't interact with women at all", which is BS. Also note that she requires "ALL" her boyfriends to follow these rules. I wonder how long they stick around...

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Ama-nee
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd say the entire list would fall apart along with the relationship because it's contradicting my only rule - I don't touch your phone, you don't touch mine.

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Heather Weather
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If she was not psycho, like she claims, it would be boyfriend not “boyfriendS”.

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John Dough
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Naw. This is insecurity not respect. Some people are friends with their ex. Only insecurity forces people to cut all contract. It's disturbing people can't tell the difference. Respect = someone not cheating even emotionally. Insecurity = demanding someone not even look at another girl.

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Dio
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't like those rules because it implies there is no trust and no man should ever be trusted ever and that's just so toxic. Also, do those rules apply to her in reverse? Does she block all ex's too? Does she block all men on her stories? If he's required to do that, then she should do the same or she's a huge hypocrite.

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Java Addict
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is just her rules for social media, imagine her offline rules. Probably one of those girls that flips out if the guy so much as glances in another girl's direction. If she were a man everybody would be ripping her apart for this.

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Andrei Stanescu
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

problem is the lady herself doesn't seem to worth it, taken at face value. and even bigger problem is her character seems dubious, so isn't just a way for her to hide her past/present/future?

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Nicole Kosanke
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She sounds like the kind of crazy who would flip out about her boyfriend texting female relatives.

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Bi-Polar Express
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The amount of insecurity is so sad. She says all of her boyfriends have followed it. All of them. She has had so many because relationships like this don't last long.

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DragonflyGreen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, as a woman, I agree with maybe two or three. At least two. The rest are horse s**t and controlling. The kind of woman who makes us women look bad.

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SCP-3998
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Tell me you are controlling, possessive and jealous without telling me you're controlling, possessive and jealous. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 Edit, spelling Edit 2: and I have to say, I'm concerned with how many people think this is OK 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

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John Wilson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't have to think hard why she gets through lots of boyfriends.....

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James
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Was this how Jada and Will started? Definitely toxic...

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Jason Rowe
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wanna know if she imposes these rules on herself as well, or if she just forces them onto whomever she is seeing at the time?

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Ellie McGrath
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A great foundation for a Coercive and Controlling behaviour charge on your rap sheet. Do people like her not realise that in some countries this sort of behaviour is against the law? It is in my country and the UK as well as some European countries.

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Pamela Blue
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She obviously has trust issues, but she also has control issues. I hope, for her sake, she finds a Harry to lead around by the nose and control, but if not, she's going to spend a very lonely old age. Discussing these points with a man and agreeing together what is upsetting and/or acceptable is fine, but to simply demand these things from a guy is wrong. Think about it the other way. What if this was a guy demanding all these rules from his girlfriend? Everyone would be flipping out with rage at how controlling he was being, etc., etc.

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Camilla Koutsos
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But why? None of this makes sense. Being a neurotic, jealous, insecure, and controlling person is her problem, but she's making it his. Why would her boyfriend tolerate this?

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Purple Orchid
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This girl has obviously been burned very badly. There has to be trust, or you have no relationship. It is where the foundation is. And trust can only be built over time. People have pasts that come with all different kinds of baggage. You have to be willing to be vulnerable enough to each help the other unpack...you will NEVER find a perfect person. They don't exist. Humans are flawed. They make mistakes. And no set of arbitrary rules are going to prevent mistakes or potential problems in any relationship. Boundaries yes, RULES no....

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T-Rose G
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Red flags completely I love the earlier comment, if a man was doing this then it would be viewed as controlling and possessive, and people in comments would be saying get away from him. And we are saying it now, get away from her. These rules only prove two things, the men you date are scum and the woman you are is toxic and controlling. A guy follows any old ex, why are you threatened by that? A guy replies to a story you post, oh my god how terrible he cares enough to respond! He looked a girls name, oh I’m sorry I didn’t know it was bad to be safe, if I were dating someone I just met I would look them up cause I don’t have time to be dating a killer or a rapist or something along those lines. You liked a girls photo? Omg god forbid you liked it just because it was a cute picture! Yeah, some rules like you are dating me no flirting with other girls or looking up adult videos, yeah totally get that that’s a big no, but otherwise chill girl chill

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Lisa Valen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is BS. Are you his girlfriend or his mother? And is he like, 9? I think you must unfortunately, be very insecure. Do you not look at other guys? "Follow" them? Maybe you don't. But if your guy sincerely cares for you, and you KNOW it, you shouldn't care if he still has his ex as a contact, or if he looks at other women in bikinis. He's a guy, right? Let him be a guy. Do you want to be "controlled". Unlikely.

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E Hall
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Tik tok is literally the the septic tank of the internet. Her being on tik tok should have been the only red flag you needed.

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Luke Lefrancois
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One one hand, you can ask for anything, and if your partner agrees, than good for both of you. On the other hand, does she follow her own rules? And why is she so insecure? Sorry, I fall on the RED FLAG side of this argument

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Fernanda Abreu
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you think about it, the root of all rules here is social network. Why have any, really? This has always been my question. I used to use FB for work-related matters but now I see it's irrelevant for my field [teacher here], and I have Instagram because my phone created me a page there without my consent lol, now I'm stuck with them because I don't know how to delete them lol And I think the best move for a couple is just NOT having these. Everybody knows they're extremely time-consuming and source of cheating, even involuntarily [naked people all over], as well as these things are capable of making you TRULY UNHAPPY. Why have them, really? And, secondly, can anyone please help me delete this c**p? Lol

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Fernanda Abreu
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you think about it, the root of all rules here is social network. Why have any, really? This has always been my question. I used to use FB for work-related matters but now I see it's irrelevant for my field [teacher here], and I have Instagram because my phone automatically created me a page there without my consent lol, now I'm stuck with them because I don't know how to delete them lol And I think the best move for a couple is just NOT having these. Everybody knows they're extremely time-consuming and source of cheating, even involuntarily [naked people all over], as well as these things are capable of making you TRULY UNHAPPY. Why have them, really? And, secondly, can anyone please help me delete this c**p? Lol

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TheHiveGuardian
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

... honestly half of these things shouldnt even need to be said and any guy worth his salt would already be doing some of these. Ladies, watch out for guys in the comments freaking out about this and guys... Don't waste your time on girls who don't have standards that include respecting them 👏 be a King for your Queen

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Celeste Grant
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Toxic and neurotic! And couching it as only being respectful is abusive. I guess if you are both completely happy with this, and it's a two way thing with similar rules for her then it's their relationship and they get to set the boundaries but to me expecting this would be a massive red flag!

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Shelley McKinney
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My son is in a controlling relationship right now. I think it's toxic. He doesn't see it. If a woman makes these kinds of rules, she's insecure. For the others who say its a respect thing, if it truly is a respect thing then you wouldn't need rules. She sounds exhausting.

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Tara Raay
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is why I stay single. People are annoying and plain ol stupid! These are all stupid rules btw.

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Suzi Q
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So she never wants to learn how to trust? Or is she picking men who she suspects will cheat. I hope most guys would see that list and see the insecurity, controlling and obsessive behavior. She's got a lot to learn. What I don't understand is the people who thought these were reasonable requests.

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Mika N
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok 1. it is possible to have friends of the opposite gender and it's platonic. If my husband's friend posts a pic of a cool place she visited this weekend and he likes it, what's the big deal? 2. As far as liking and privately replying to intentionally "sexy" and revealing photos or following random women you don't know who constantly post bikini pics, if you have to spell that out for him then why are you dating? He's not ready, move along.

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Marco Conti
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Perfectly reasonable" my a*s. This is insecurity of galactic proportions. Sure, some of the behaviors listed would be insensitive and rude, but terminating contact with any and all past girlfriends and not making any new female friends? That's madness.

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Queenie-Poo
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yikes. The only "controversial" limit I set with my husband was that if I call, he answers. He was terrible about responding to anyone's phone calls (not just mine), so the deal is if I text, it's not urgent; answer or don't, whatever. But if I call, it's urgent and usually something to do with the kids; I need you to answer the phone.

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Sarah
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What is wrong with this woman? Has to be some major insecurity there, hiding behind inflated confidence.

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Jess-a-men
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So does the guy still get to exist on the same planet as other women or does she expect him to relocate to Mars? You don't get to demand that your significant other ignores almost 50% of humanity.

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Curry on...
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her rules are probably why she has an 's' at the end of boyfriend. None are staying around. I let the bird fly free and just make note of where he lands. I'd rather see his true self (and make a decision about the relationship) than one he fakes to pacify me.

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Leodavinci
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Any guy who is okay with such a list and would enter into a relationship with one deserves what he gets. So I think men need to have woman putting up lists like this. They would save a lot of time by showing who to avoid.

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Disha Nath-Sepoy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh please, this is toxic as f*uck. You've got to have REALLLLLYYYYY low self-esteem/respect if you agree to these to date a person. This woman is crazy and insecure as hell 🚩

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Isabelle Nadeau
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow! This is a very toxic behavior. This girl shouldn't even be in a relationship if she's THAT insecure.

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S Mack
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She should have used something along the lines of boundaries rather than rules but there are absolutely MANY other people who feel the same as her. It’s not an issue, it’s not controlling, etc. unless the other person doesn’t feel the same. If two like minded people get together and establish these boundaries/guidelines then that’s them. People always have something to say about other people’a relationships. If it’s not for you then it’s not for you! Like she said someone else will and that’s a fact. It doesn’t necessarily lie in jealousy, insecurity, toxicity or whatever else it’s a comfort level of what will and will not be tolerated. Period. She has a right to how she feels/thinks/acts and people have a right to date her or pass her up. What’s the issue here? Pass her up if you don’t like it! Lol I just think it’s hilarious how people react to such things and the nonsense they spew. Especially in the world of fake happiness and blatant infidelity…pls

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Doreen Anna
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

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Doreen Anna
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Am here to say a big thank you to this man who help me with his powerful spell to bring back my ex who left me for someone else , thank you my ex is back to me , if you want his help you can email him: greatmutaba@ gmail. com

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Miller Smith
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When we converse, I tell a woman if I am in the dating pool. That means she is not my boo. If I claimed such a thing on women who dated me, you would know me for the chauvinistic turd that I would be. The ladies rule make sense if and only if she AND the man decide MUTUALLY that they are exclusive. Otherwise, she is controlling and she will not be a suitable partner for anyone. Just switch the sexes and the macrofemisnists will sing a different song.

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MagNat
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It has nothing to do with any kind of feminisim. It's just controlling c**p.

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Hugo Raible
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Get a second phone, enjoy it while it lasts, but expect a dramatic at any time soon. But probably it's not even worth it.

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ERIKA H.
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think she is playing it up a bit for Tiktok for views, but I agree with partners just being respectful of one another. If my husband was liking another random women's bikini photos I'd mention to him it was inappropriate

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Tyson James
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This Woman isn't even close to attractive enough to be making these rules.

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i think every decent guy should do this without his gf demanding it. i do follow a lot of tattoo sites on IG and my gf was first worried bc sometimes some artists show some very large tattoos on women that wear a bikini or even less with just the hand covering the delicate parts. i explained it to her, that i like the work of the artist and couldn't give a sh*t if the girl is attractive or not and she gets it.

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ljbeanfield
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Surprise! You're not allowed to have any friends because you're my partner and I don't want you to+

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