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Hey Pandas, AITA For Wanting To Tell My Friend That She Causes Her Own Drama?
Sort of, you already said your piece/advice. You have to make the choice do you want this person in your life? Seems they are causing you more stress than being a friend. Yes we on the outside see things but if they cannot not much more you can do. Plus it is their life not yours. The bigger question, can you live with yourself just being friends right now no matter what this person does without anymore "advice"?Hey Pandas, AITA For Wanting To Tell My Friend That She Causes Her Own Drama?
Sort of, you already said your piece/advice. You have to make the choice do you want this person in your life? Seems they are causing you more stress than being a friend. Yes we on the outside see things but if they cannot not much more you can do. Plus it is their life not yours. The bigger question, can you live with yourself just being friends right now no matter what this person does without anymore "advice"?Hey Pandas, AITA For Wanting To Tell My Friend That She Causes Her Own Drama?
The most loving thing you can do for her IS to point it out, lovingly and gently. Maybe take her to get coffee and then go to a park or something, and start gently. Ahead of time, let her know there is something you want to talk to her about, so she isn’t blindsided. Once there, tell her you really care about her and maybe talk about some good times you’ve had together. Always keep your voice calm even if she gets upset, and prepare your heart for the possibility of her saying things she shouldn’t (and may regret later). It could be that hearing everything laid out for her to see will surprise her; even if she gets angry at first she may come around once she realizes your care for her by bringing it all up in the first place. I hope it goes well for you! And if she explodes and is hurtful to you, and later comes to apologize, be gracious and forgive. ♥️Hey Pandas, AITA For Wanting To Tell My Friend That She Causes Her Own Drama?
No. Not if you’ve tried to reach your friend and have pointed out multiple things and times he/she could have done differently and showed successful alternatives. Pandas love to confuse advice on helping people refuse to be victims with victim blaming though - so be prepared for some flak…Hey Pandas, AITA For Wanting To Tell My Friend That She Causes Her Own Drama?
After her not listening to you after she telling you all her problems and her not taking any of your advice. Tell her stop tell you about her problems because she will soon start telling you about her rv problems and extra. To be honest it sounds like she needs to get her life together. And start thinking more clearly. I currently have someone like this and we stop talking to her souch and extra because, point blank we don't know what to tell you. And it aways sound like she wants us to feel sorry for them extra or throw money at them. We are having a hard time too. We where just smarter on how we went about things because you really have to think about what your doing. You have think about the plus and negatives before you do stuff and they didn't. You can't help people that do that. You can't help people that spend there money on stupid stuff all the time then complain they have no money.Hey Pandas, AITA For Wanting To Tell My Friend That She Causes Her Own Drama?
I had a toxic friendship with a similar personality. He was always loud and obnoxious and way into drama. You should tell her. You're NTAHey Pandas, AITA For Wanting To Tell My Friend That She Causes Her Own Drama?
Havn't you warn her? Havn't you expose the facts to her? Now let her be, let her learn from the " school of hard knocs " it teaches even the most oblivious person, as for you losing a friend... Right now She's whats called an " emotional vampire " and they will drain you of your sanity and will to live ( believe me I KNOW ), and i would definitly tell her She is the One shooting herself in the foot.Show All 8 Upvotes
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Hey Pandas, AITA For Wanting To Tell My Friend That She Causes Her Own Drama?
Sort of, you already said your piece/advice. You have to make the choice do you want this person in your life? Seems they are causing you more stress than being a friend. Yes we on the outside see things but if they cannot not much more you can do. Plus it is their life not yours. The bigger question, can you live with yourself just being friends right now no matter what this person does without anymore "advice"?Hey Pandas, AITA For Wanting To Tell My Friend That She Causes Her Own Drama?
The most loving thing you can do for her IS to point it out, lovingly and gently. Maybe take her to get coffee and then go to a park or something, and start gently. Ahead of time, let her know there is something you want to talk to her about, so she isn’t blindsided. Once there, tell her you really care about her and maybe talk about some good times you’ve had together. Always keep your voice calm even if she gets upset, and prepare your heart for the possibility of her saying things she shouldn’t (and may regret later). It could be that hearing everything laid out for her to see will surprise her; even if she gets angry at first she may come around once she realizes your care for her by bringing it all up in the first place. I hope it goes well for you! And if she explodes and is hurtful to you, and later comes to apologize, be gracious and forgive. ♥️Hey Pandas, AITA For Wanting To Tell My Friend That She Causes Her Own Drama?
Havn't you warn her? Havn't you expose the facts to her? Now let her be, let her learn from the " school of hard knocs " it teaches even the most oblivious person, as for you losing a friend... Right now She's whats called an " emotional vampire " and they will drain you of your sanity and will to live ( believe me I KNOW ), and i would definitly tell her She is the One shooting herself in the foot.Hey Pandas, AITA For Wanting To Tell My Friend That She Causes Her Own Drama?
I had a toxic friendship with a similar personality. He was always loud and obnoxious and way into drama. You should tell her. You're NTAHey Pandas, AITA For Wanting To Tell My Friend That She Causes Her Own Drama?
No. Not if you’ve tried to reach your friend and have pointed out multiple things and times he/she could have done differently and showed successful alternatives. Pandas love to confuse advice on helping people refuse to be victims with victim blaming though - so be prepared for some flak…Hey Pandas, AITA For Wanting To Tell My Friend That She Causes Her Own Drama?
After her not listening to you after she telling you all her problems and her not taking any of your advice. Tell her stop tell you about her problems because she will soon start telling you about her rv problems and extra. To be honest it sounds like she needs to get her life together. And start thinking more clearly. I currently have someone like this and we stop talking to her souch and extra because, point blank we don't know what to tell you. And it aways sound like she wants us to feel sorry for them extra or throw money at them. We are having a hard time too. We where just smarter on how we went about things because you really have to think about what your doing. You have think about the plus and negatives before you do stuff and they didn't. You can't help people that do that. You can't help people that spend there money on stupid stuff all the time then complain they have no money.This Panda hasn't followed anyone yet
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