You’re free to live your life as you please, so long as you’re not harming anyone. I stand by that statement because I believe that autonomy, the freedom of choice, and the ability to decide for ourselves what’s truly best for us are what separates civilization from chaos. The grown-up thing to do is to respect each other’s rational choices, even if we might do things differently ourselves. So, for instance (and full disclosure): I come from a large family and I want to have a large family of my own, however, I know that having children isn’t the right choice for everyone. I’m fine with that. Some others? Not so much.

There are far more people choosing not to have kids in this day and age than you’d think. One of the main places online where they discuss topics related to their childfree lifestyle is the r/childfree subreddit, a huge community of over 1.4 million members. We’ve collected some of the best jokes and memes shared on the subreddit that might amuse you, Pandas. You’ll find them if you scroll down.

Keep in mind that there are a wide variety of issues that r/childfree touches upon in its day-to-day posts. They’ve collected the most important aspects about living childfree into a massive FAQ, curated for over a decade, which you can find right here. It’s a lengthy but in-depth read. Meanwhile, you’ll find Bored Panda’s previous article about the ‘Childfree’ community on Reddit right over here.

I reached out to the r/childfree moderator team and one of its members, redditor u/Raveynfyre, was kind enough to answer my questions about running the community that existed even earlier than Reddit was formed. As it turns out, moderating r/childfree is a far tougher job than you might imagine. The subreddit is beset by trolls daily and the moderators have to remove quite a few comments from public view due to the sensitive nature of the topics discussed there. Read on for Bored Panda's interview with u/Raveynfyre.

#1

Family Is What You Make

Family Is What You Make

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Nor
Community Member
9 months ago

This needs to stay on top! Stop forcing an issue to have kids, some people are just not meant to have and yet they do

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Bored Panda was interested in finding out how the moderators manage such a large community. The membership count alone is staggering. According to u/Raveynfyre, Reddit provides some very fine tools to moderators to help them get their job done. Without them, they said, the mods would have a nightmarish time keeping up with the comments that need to be removed. The members of the community help identify these problematic comments, too.

"Comments get identified for removal by user reports, so I have to give our community a shout-out as well. For many reasons they are why we're here," u/Raveynfyre told Bored Panda. "I'd say that daily we get upwards of 20-30 reports which tell us to go review a comment because it might be against the rules. Our community is great at reporting trolls and disrespectful parents to us with the 'Report' function in Reddit."

The mod stressed the fact that the r/childfree mods don't actually delete anyone's comments or content: they hide them from public view. This way, anyone on the subreddit's mod team, as well as any of the administrators working for Reddit can review the content and make a final verdict about whether it stays or goes.

"If I had to give a percentage, I'd say half of them remain removed," the mod said, adding that comments can also get removed by the report system if there's a sizeable volume of reports on them. In short, the system is very efficient at weeding out hate and vitriol.

#2

Child Fees Should Be A Thing And Dogs Should Be Free

Child Fees Should Be A Thing And Dogs Should Be Free

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MagicalUnicorn
Community Member
9 months ago

this needs to be higher

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#3

Saw This And Thought Of You Guys

Saw This And Thought Of You Guys

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Daphne
Community Member
9 months ago

Yes!

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Moderator u/Raveynfyre was very blunt about the fact that their team has to deal with trolls on a literal daily basis. "We deal with trolls daily. Just yesterday, I had a terrible one who, within the space of an hour, managed to post 44 trolling comments from various threads. Three of his comments had been reported by the community, so I went to his profile and took a deeper look. I'm glad I did because the problem was worse than the automated system was indicating to us," they opened up about one such instance.

The rules the subreddit has in place aren't just for show. They've been honed and polished to reflect the reality of the situation. "We have Rule 4 in place specifically for things like petty BS arguments that often devolve into name-calling and threats of bodily harm. We also have a rule about 'joking' or otherwise making light of harming a child. We don't discriminate in regards to this rule. We often ban active members of the subreddit, due to them not reading or caring about the community rules until it's too late," the mod explained that nobody gets special treatment if they misbehave.

"Rule 5 is an instant ban offense, no exceptions. We take this rule very, very seriously. This rule helps set us apart from other subreddits and demonstrates through our actions, that we do not want children to be hurt. Anyone who posts here is subject to that rule. We refuse to let this community be ruined by the lowest common denominators."

#4

What Could Be More Important Than Creating Life?

What Could Be More Important Than Creating Life?

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Natasha
Community Member
9 months ago

Giving birth is not the only job a woman has and it's totally upto her if she wants to do it or not .

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#5

I Don’t Know If This A Repost But I Think It’s Correct!

I Don’t Know If This A Repost But I Think It’s Correct!

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H Edwards
Community Member
9 months ago

Nobody's damn business but her own, poor woman.

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#6

How Is This Still A Thing, Anyway?

How Is This Still A Thing, Anyway?

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James016
Community Member
9 months ago

Sadly this one comes up a lot. There was an article in the UK press a few years ago about a young lady who wanted her tubes tied with the full support of her boyfriend. All the doctors said that he should have a vasectomy instead. She got the whole "you may change your mind" spiel. Someone who wants their tubes tied is not going to change their mind about having children.

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The moderator, u/Raveynfyre, highlighted the fact that the 'Childfree' community is older than many think. "This community has been around for a very long time, even before Reddit existed. We weren't heard of or focused on previously, but we were around," they said that Reddit has given them a platform for talking about their lifestyle.

I was also interested to learn a bit more about the subreddit's massive FAQ. According to the mod, it's best viewed via desktop because the official Reddit app loads up an old version of the sidebar. "The information in the FAQ has been gathered and curated for well over a decade now," they said. "We add information to it when it's pertinent, and we actively maintain both a domestic and international CF Friendly Doctor lists, all of which have performed at least 1 sterilization on a member of this community."

However, despite the mass of information, not everyone takes the time to read through it and some run into difficulties even finding it. "New members have a difficult time finding our resources due to the redesign Reddit undertook awhile back, as well as the official app linking to old material that has been updated. It's a rare thing for our readers to even read the rules of the sub, much less the various resources."

#7

Just One Simple Trick To Save Money

Just One Simple Trick To Save Money

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Buren
Community Member
9 months ago

Change the dollar to micro rubber ducky and use them to pelt on next nosy people

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#8

I Have Never Related To A Tweet More. Here’s To A Child Free Halloween!

I Have Never Related To A Tweet More. Here’s To A Child Free Halloween!

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WilvanderHeijden
Community Member
9 months ago

Valid reply: " You're at the age that a lot of people already have died. Shouldn't you start your preparations? The clock is ticking...."

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#9

I Think Someone Working In This Store Is Childfree

I Think Someone Working In This Store Is Childfree

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Becklass
Community Member
9 months ago

And the activities partaken when using one of these products is (hopefully) a lot more fun than using the other. And cheaper.

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The r/childfree community draws a line between two definitions that you might see crop up in the online group quite often: childfree and childless. According to them, childfree people don’t have kids because they don’t want them.

Meanwhile, childless people haven’t gotten around to having kids yet or cannot have them due to various circumstances in their lives, such as financial pressures or infertility. In short, being childfree is very much a measured choice. The reasons, of course, differ from person to person. They might be financial, ecological, emotional, anything in-between, or something different and very personal entirely.

#10

For The Childfree Motorist

For The Childfree Motorist

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Julia Atkinson
Community Member
9 months ago

Has ANYONE driven more carefully because of the car in front's "baby on board" sticker?

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#11

True

True

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Caro Caro
Community Member
9 months ago

Haaahaha, this one made me laugh so hard. Brilliant.

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#12

Hm

Hm

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Julia Atkinson
Community Member
9 months ago

This should be MUCH higher

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The subreddit’s FAQ also deals with pertinent questions like the reasons for backlash against those living childfree, the drive to have children, considering one’s life purpose and possible future regrets (whatever they might be), figuring out whether someone wants to be a parent, and many others. In short, the subreddit provides easy access to a whole bunch of research and opinions that might interest someone who is considering not to have kids in the future or is simply unsure of what they truly want and why.

What’s more, the subreddit’s community members have put together a list of the terminology often used by childfree redditors. You’ll find the full list of terms right here.

#13

Saw This Meme And Thought You Guys Would Enjoy It, Too

Saw This Meme And Thought You Guys Would Enjoy It, Too

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XSpooky_Mint
Community Member
9 months ago

True art

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#14

Imagine That. Maybe One Day

Imagine That. Maybe One Day

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Ranax
Community Member
9 months ago

I do wonder what the ratio Hoping for positive/Hoping for negative is. The second might be the largest market.

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#15

Top Notch Product Review

Top Notch Product Review

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Julia Atkinson
Community Member
9 months ago

"It also prevented me causing a major disaster when the gender reveal party got out of hand!"

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According to the mods of r/childfree, every single submission on the subreddit has to be related to the childfree lifestyle. That means that low-effort, low-quality posts that have no connection to the core questions and topics of the community are likely to get removed by the moderators themselves.

The community is open to everyone for discussion, as long as they behave in a civil manner. What’s more, there’s absolutely no room for jokes about harming kids.

The idea of people living childfree can result in a lot of hate from those who don’t agree with this lifestyle. Those choosing not to have children can be criticized for their choices or warned that they might regret this later in life. Childfree dramas can touch upon a wide variety of events and can even impact weddings.

#16

How Can You Not Want Them

How Can You Not Want Them

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May
Community Member
9 months ago

I've never wanted kids - I think it's an instinct you either have or you don't. In a modern society there are no rational arguments for having kids - it's all emotional. Some people can't comprehend that not everyone has the exact same instincts and emotions as them.

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#17

My Kinda Joint

My Kinda Joint

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Samantha Lomb
Community Member
9 months ago

YEESSS!

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#18

No Kids And Always Tired!

No Kids And Always Tired!

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Libstak
Community Member
9 months ago

Being a carer to elderly parents is tiring, but so is everything that expends energy. Nobody has a monopoly on exhaustion, it's available to one and all and a part of life and living. Some things we do by choice, others cos we have to to survive and thrive.

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For instance, a while back, I spoke to Anna and Sarah from The Wedding Society about the etiquette for bringing children to weddings. They explained that it’s important to follow the wishes of the happy couple. So, if the couple asks its guests to leave their kids at home, the polite thing to do would be to adhere to their wishes.

“For guests, the standard (and best) etiquette these days is definitely to respect the wishes of the marrying couple when it comes to children at weddings, whether it be that kids of a certain age are welcome, only specific children of a few family and friends, or no kids at all,” the wedding experts told Bored Panda.

#19

This Speaks To Me

This Speaks To Me

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MagicalUnicorn
Community Member
9 months ago

sleeping in is the best activity ever

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#20

One Could Also Choose The "God Will Provide" Route As We All Know That Free Money Is A Thing In This World

One Could Also Choose The "God Will Provide" Route As We All Know That Free Money Is A Thing In This World

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WilvanderHeijden
Community Member
9 months ago

But you can't apply for animal support, yet you can apply for child support.

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#21

It’s Almost Summer!

It’s Almost Summer!

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Samantha Lomb
Community Member
9 months ago

Sadly there is no spray for loud, screeching unsupervised kids.

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“Please don’t take the inclusion or exclusion of your little ones personally (especially if the couple don’t have kids of their own to fully understand your situation) and remember—as nice as it is to bring your babies along to the celebration, it’s also an awesome opportunity for a fun night off if you’re asked to leave them with a sitter!” the experts said.

“For marrying couples, the etiquette can be trickier. Newborns really need to be with their parents so please don’t ask for any babies under a few months to be left at home. It’s perfectly reasonable to ask for parents of older children to take the night off and leave them with a sitter, but the fairest way to do this is to make a blanket rule for everyone rather than picking and choosing which kids can come and who can’t.”

#22

Cheers!

Cheers!

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rspanther
Community Member
9 months ago

The look on his face is great.

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#23

Asking The Right Questions

Asking The Right Questions

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Deborah B
Community Member
9 months ago

Do kids want to be at the wedding? Because as a child, I went to several, and they were mostly boring.

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#24

The Look Of Horror On Every Passenger’s Face As Children Board The Plane

The Look Of Horror On Every Passenger’s Face As Children Board The Plane

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Monday
Community Member
9 months ago

I don't mind this one as much. Parents and kids have to travel too and babies are going to cry....what pisses me off is when it's older kids with no manners who kick seats, jump on seats and scream for no reason.

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Previously, my colleague Liucija spoke to Amy Blackstone, author of ‘Childfree by Choice’ and a professor of sociology at the University of Maine. Amy told Bored Panda that more people are aware that living childfree is a viable option than ever before.

“That is largely thanks to the willingness of childfree people to speak out about their choice and of course to the decades-long work of reproductive justice advocates. Whether more people than in the past will ultimately remain childfree for their lifetimes remains to be seen,” the professor explained.

#25

I Swear

I Swear

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Caro Caro
Community Member
9 months ago

Family want's you to be an incubator. My mum asked me (loooong time ago) if I would want children. I said Nope! Mum said "hmmm I get that, you do what you want sweetheart". Bless her.

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#26

My Friend Sent This To Me

My Friend Sent This To Me

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Vicky Z
Community Member
9 months ago

A little salt behind your back will make it disappear

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#27

Clever Girl

Clever Girl

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John Carr
Community Member
9 months ago

Well, GSDs are pretty smart

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“Certainly more millennials are currently childfree than were previous generations at their age, but there hasn't been a dramatic increase in lifetime childlessness,” Amy noted. She added that, in time, it’ll become clear if today’s millennials are opting out of parenthood altogether or simply delaying starting a family.

“We know from all kinds of social science research that having kids is not required for living a complete, happy, and fulfilling life,” the professor told Bored Panda. “We now know that parenthood is simply one of many paths available to us,” she said that it’s due to more childfree people speaking out about their lifestyle.

#28

This About Sums It Up

This About Sums It Up

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WilvanderHeijden
Community Member
9 months ago

Or "before" and "after" photos of the stylish interior of their house.

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#29

Truth Hurts

Truth Hurts

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Anyone-for-tea?
Community Member
9 months ago

Ha ha, yes!

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#30

Long Term Planning

Long Term Planning

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J. F.
Community Member
9 months ago

Apocalypse movies taught me one thing: 90% of the preventable deaths are caused because a kid does something stupid

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#31

Hallelujah

Hallelujah

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Julia Atkinson
Community Member
9 months ago

And think of all the landfill I don't fill

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#32

Ryan Reynolds Gets It!

Ryan Reynolds Gets It!

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James016
Community Member
9 months ago

Taken 8 months apart

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#33

Haha Not In This Economy!

Haha Not In This Economy!

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Ozacoter
Community Member
9 months ago

A shout to all the childfree broke people. You arent alone!

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#34

This Guy Gets It

This Guy Gets It

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MyOpinionHasBeenServed
Community Member
9 months ago

I'm now hearing under 25 to be too young. Strange it was thought of as an issue for you.

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#35

When You Become A Mother

When You Become A Mother

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Helen Haley
Community Member
9 months ago

Agreed. Bleak.

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#36

Great View From Here

Great View From Here

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Id row
Community Member
9 months ago

Add some shades and pop-corn and yup.

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#37

Lazy Saturdays Are My Kinda Thing!

Lazy Saturdays Are My Kinda Thing!

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GlitterQueen541
Community Member
9 months ago

I do love sleeping in.

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#38

The Correct Response

The Correct Response

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Julia Atkinson
Community Member
9 months ago

Then set it on fire and blow the ashes in the idiot's face

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#39

Gatekeeping Being Tired Is For The Birds

Gatekeeping Being Tired Is For The Birds

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May
Community Member
9 months ago

Well, one of those is self inflicted..

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#40

It Do Be Like That

It Do Be Like That

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May
Community Member
9 months ago

People finally stopped asking, once I hit 40. Until then it was - "Just wait - that biological clock is going to start ticking any minute now." Yeah, I don't think I have one of those.

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