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Kids’ Mom Is Angry After Their Aunt Invites Everyone To Disney World Except Her And Husband
Imagine your sister-in-law getting along with your kids so well, she takes them on trips and enjoys spending time together. That sounds like help no young parent would refuse.
But this story from a childfree married couple shared on the AITA subreddit shows how not everyone feels grateful in such a situation. “My brother and his wife had kids young and have always been broke,” the author wrote. Turns out, it’s been a hard year for them and her SIL was talking about how badly they needed a break.
For this reason, the author, her husband, and their 8-year-old niece planned a trip to Disney World over the fall break. To help them have a bit of a break, the author offered to take their SIL’s two kids as well. Turns out, the SIL was far from impressed with the idea and felt completely left out.
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A child-free woman decided to take her SIL’s kids to Disney World but did not invite their parents, which sparked a conflict
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Many people expressed their support for the author and said that being a ‘fun aunt’ is a great gift to children
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Gavin Johnson 3 years ago
If my in-laws offered to take our three children (1 of mine and 2 of my partners) away for a trip ANYWHERE I’d be eternally grateful! They get a great holiday (that we couldn’t afford) and we get a few days to just be a couple with no children, it’s a win win. They have fun, we have fun, we all get together after the break and enjoy sharing our stories.
The Mom 3 years ago
Amen brother! I definitely would have allowed my mine or my husbands siblings take my 3 children on a vacation without us even if I had never been to the destination.
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Michelle C 3 years ago
I used to do that with my little cousin. She was an only child and so is my daughter so I'd tell my aunt when I'm going to Disney or Universal and to just have her ready. She never complained and my cousin had great times.
Linda Santiago 3 years ago
My mother tried this s**t when I went to Disneyland with my son and husband. She tried to guilt trip me into taking her and my sister. I would have taken my sister but she wouldn't allow her to go unless she tagged along. Needless to say I went with my family and they stayed home. Absolutely ridiculous to expect her to pay for everyone. Not ok .
Rachel Ann 3 years ago
Right. I've never been to Disney World, either, but I'd never deny a child from going. Disney is expensive and it's a generous offer. I could understand if there was a lack of trust and SIL had concerns, but that doesn't seem to be the case here.
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The Starsong Princess 3 years ago
It’s like your siblings and in laws consider themselves children for you to look after. Help with cleaning and yard work regularly, not just if someone is sick or has a new baby? And your BIL was so unable to look after his own child that you had to step in to it for him. And now your sil wants a vacation paid by you. I think they all need to be more independent. Make it clear that your invitation is for the kids only and it’s her decision to decline on their behalf.
Beth L 3 years ago
OP should counter with an offer of a less glamorous all-family vacation, or even just a day trip. "Well I can't afford to take all four of you to WDW, but we could all go on an overnight to [nearby big city with a fun zoo] some weekend this summer." That would tell if SIL really thinks there should be a family getaway (which I can certainly understand) or if she just wanted Disney on someone else's dime.
Beth L 3 years ago
To me it isn't clear that SIL "needs a break" from the kids, or that the whole family "needs a break" from the house they've been stuck in all pandemic, with that toilet that won't stop running and the broken armchair that you have to sit on just right or the leg falls off and this carpet we've been meaning to replace for the last 5 years, but the money keeps going to fix the car/braces for the kids/soccer uniforms, etc. My charitable side wonders if SIL was thinking the latter.
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deanna woods 3 years ago
The SIL is the a-hole here. She said she needed a break and that is what the OP is giving her. She could use the time that the kids are gone to have some couple time and just enjoy some alone time. Instead she wants a free vacation and won't let her children go unless she gets to go too. I would tell the brother that the is for the children only and if the wife doesn't want their kids go then that's their decision. However, the OP needs to let the kids know that she wanted to take them, but their mother wouldn't allow it.
Raumpfleger 3 years ago
I would refuse to join the trip, even if invited, just to get some alone time with my wife!
Delilah Evil 3 years ago
NTA, SIL is being entitled. Disney is expensive af. Not wanting to add to it is reasonable. Not letting the kids go? She is selfish. As for a cheaper "big family " vacation as some have suggested: it's Disney. The kids want to go to Disney. Further, op gets to spend her money her way.
Munnin 3 years ago
OP isn't required to take any of her family on vacation, or offer to fund a cheaper one for those who can't afford Disney. Some of the comments saying she should infuriate me. No one should fund any vacation for you so your feelings aren't hurt.
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Ed Bonner 3 years ago
NTA! Regarding being able to manage it (stretching scrimping etc ) and your concerns about being equitable. You should never feel obligated and justifying your charity. It's unfortunate that capital SIL is acting like such a spoiled child that she would actually deprive her children of this opportunity. Don't allow this to sour your experience of being a charitable person and fun aunt you are.
Gavin Johnson 3 years ago
If my in-laws offered to take our three children (1 of mine and 2 of my partners) away for a trip ANYWHERE I’d be eternally grateful! They get a great holiday (that we couldn’t afford) and we get a few days to just be a couple with no children, it’s a win win. They have fun, we have fun, we all get together after the break and enjoy sharing our stories.
The Mom 3 years ago
Amen brother! I definitely would have allowed my mine or my husbands siblings take my 3 children on a vacation without us even if I had never been to the destination.
Load More Replies... Michelle C 3 years ago
I used to do that with my little cousin. She was an only child and so is my daughter so I'd tell my aunt when I'm going to Disney or Universal and to just have her ready. She never complained and my cousin had great times.
Linda Santiago 3 years ago
My mother tried this s**t when I went to Disneyland with my son and husband. She tried to guilt trip me into taking her and my sister. I would have taken my sister but she wouldn't allow her to go unless she tagged along. Needless to say I went with my family and they stayed home. Absolutely ridiculous to expect her to pay for everyone. Not ok .
Rachel Ann 3 years ago
Right. I've never been to Disney World, either, but I'd never deny a child from going. Disney is expensive and it's a generous offer. I could understand if there was a lack of trust and SIL had concerns, but that doesn't seem to be the case here.
Load More Replies... The Starsong Princess 3 years ago
It’s like your siblings and in laws consider themselves children for you to look after. Help with cleaning and yard work regularly, not just if someone is sick or has a new baby? And your BIL was so unable to look after his own child that you had to step in to it for him. And now your sil wants a vacation paid by you. I think they all need to be more independent. Make it clear that your invitation is for the kids only and it’s her decision to decline on their behalf.
Beth L 3 years ago
OP should counter with an offer of a less glamorous all-family vacation, or even just a day trip. "Well I can't afford to take all four of you to WDW, but we could all go on an overnight to [nearby big city with a fun zoo] some weekend this summer." That would tell if SIL really thinks there should be a family getaway (which I can certainly understand) or if she just wanted Disney on someone else's dime.
Beth L 3 years ago
To me it isn't clear that SIL "needs a break" from the kids, or that the whole family "needs a break" from the house they've been stuck in all pandemic, with that toilet that won't stop running and the broken armchair that you have to sit on just right or the leg falls off and this carpet we've been meaning to replace for the last 5 years, but the money keeps going to fix the car/braces for the kids/soccer uniforms, etc. My charitable side wonders if SIL was thinking the latter.
Load More Replies... deanna woods 3 years ago
The SIL is the a-hole here. She said she needed a break and that is what the OP is giving her. She could use the time that the kids are gone to have some couple time and just enjoy some alone time. Instead she wants a free vacation and won't let her children go unless she gets to go too. I would tell the brother that the is for the children only and if the wife doesn't want their kids go then that's their decision. However, the OP needs to let the kids know that she wanted to take them, but their mother wouldn't allow it.
Raumpfleger 3 years ago
I would refuse to join the trip, even if invited, just to get some alone time with my wife!
Delilah Evil 3 years ago
NTA, SIL is being entitled. Disney is expensive af. Not wanting to add to it is reasonable. Not letting the kids go? She is selfish. As for a cheaper "big family " vacation as some have suggested: it's Disney. The kids want to go to Disney. Further, op gets to spend her money her way.
Munnin 3 years ago
OP isn't required to take any of her family on vacation, or offer to fund a cheaper one for those who can't afford Disney. Some of the comments saying she should infuriate me. No one should fund any vacation for you so your feelings aren't hurt.
Load More Replies... Ed Bonner 3 years ago
NTA! Regarding being able to manage it (stretching scrimping etc ) and your concerns about being equitable. You should never feel obligated and justifying your charity. It's unfortunate that capital SIL is acting like such a spoiled child that she would actually deprive her children of this opportunity. Don't allow this to sour your experience of being a charitable person and fun aunt you are.
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