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Ex-MIL Gifts Woman Beautiful Bracelet For Her 30th B-day, Ex’s New Wife Creates A Fuss Over It
Interview With ExpertJealousy or insecurity – we have all experienced it as it’s an essential part of what makes us human. That may be true, but knowing when to not let these negative emotions consume you is actually what makes the difference between people.
For instance, the original poster’s (OP) ex’s new wife doesn’t know where to draw a line as she went ballistic when the poster received a gift from her ex’s mom. In fact, the new wife confronted her in public, which resulted in quite a drama!
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The poster received a gift from her ex-mother-in-law for her 30th birthday, as the woman wanted to honor her grandchildren’s mother
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The sweet gesture sparked drama as it enraged the ex’s new wife, who confronted the poster in Target and demanded the gift while cursing and yelling at her
Image credits: Known_Pirate2302
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The poster tried to ignore her and move away, but the new wife kept at it, so the poster told her to mind her own business and even cursed at her
Image credits: Known_Pirate2302
She received angry texts from her ex, asking her to apologize to his wife, but the poster refused as she knew the woman would ask for the gift from her
In today’s story, Reddit user Known_Pirate2302 tells us how a sweet gesture brought unwanted drama in her life all because of a woman’s jealousy and insecurity. The gesture in question was made by the poster’s ex-mother-in-law, who gifted her a charm bracelet for her 30th birthday as she wanted to honor the mother of her grandkids.
OP was touched by it, but little did she know what it would lead to. For starters, the ex’s new wife was less than okay with it – she confronted the poster and started cursing loudly, asking for the gift and demanding that she never accept anything from the mother-in-law again.
The woman also accused our protagonist of keeping her “claws” in the ex’s family and trying to push her out of it. While the poster tried to ignore her, the new wife was determined to make things worse and refused to back off, so OP decided that enough was enough.
She cursed at the woman, told her to mind her own business, and went away before she could start something again. Now, although OP was angry about this confrontation, she was ready to put it behind her, but the drama was not over yet as she started receiving angry texts from her ex, who demanded that she apologize to his new wife.
Of course, OP refused to do so because she was well aware that apologizing would not be enough as the woman would demand the gift bracelet. Wondering whether she was in the wrong, she sought advice online and as always, Redditors delivered.
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Many pointed out that the new wife was simply jealous and insecure about the ex and they wondered what kind of a relationship she had with the mother-in-law. To understand more about the new wife’s actions, Bored Panda got in touch with Eden Lobo, a counselor and psychology professor.
She said that a new spouse may perceive the gift as a threat, feeling that it undermines their position in the family or signals lingering ties between the ex and their family. As per our expert, the gesture might be interpreted as crossing boundaries, particularly if the new spouse feels excluded or overshadowed in their own relationship with the in-laws.
“The sentimental value of the gift could trigger fears of being compared unfavorably to the ex-spouse, particularly in blended family dynamics. The act of giving and receiving a heartfelt gift might be misunderstood as an attempt to maintain or rekindle emotional ties with the ex-partner or their family,” Prof. Lobo explained.
Well, this does throw light on why the new wife acted out, but despite everything, she had no right to harass the poster the way she did. Many people pointed out that the woman should have spoken to her husband and mother-in-law about it rather than pin the blame on OP. Some expressed their concerns that OP had to go through all this.
Even Prof. Lobo noted that being publicly confronted and then the ex demanding an apology must have definitely stressed the poster. She elaborated that a successful co-parenting relationship requires mutual respect, which may feel jeopardized when one parent dismisses the other’s perspective in favor of their current partner.
That surely rings true as even the poster spoke about the damaged co-parenting relationship. If you were in her shoes, what would you have done? Let us know in the comments below!
Folks were horrified by the new wife as they felt she was just jealous and insecure, and they said she didn’t have any right to tell the poster what to do
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Janelle Collard 10 months ago (edited)
I hope OP told ex-MIL about this incident. "New" wife sounds unhinged + ex-MIL should get a heads-up in case sonny-boy + his new wife decide to tell MIL *their* version of events. (wonder if Target gave OP a copy of the video?)
Stacy Bender 10 months ago
I'm guessing that the ex traded for a newer model that was straight out of highschool. #2 is certainly unhinged/immature. Hope the kids are safe.
Lailu 10 months ago
Oh hell no. Get big-boy ex to talk to his mother instead of trying to blame your ex-wife. After all, MIL gave the gift. All OP did was accept it.
Surly Scot 10 months ago
WTF? All she needs is the footage from Target submitted with a request for a restraining order and the hearing officer will grant it. She should've immediately reported it to the Target manager and security, notifying them she'll need a copy of the video. Drive straight to police station and file a report for harassment. Then text grandma and the kids dad, tell them everything that happened, if he responded with anything other than "i'm sorry, i'll make sure she doesn't do anything like this again", then i'd inform him that her deranged and physical behavior means my kids are no longer safe with her, and we'll have to go back to court to discuss custody of the kids and visitation, with a copy of the security footage being sent to the hearing officer. That would've sorted this whole situation in 10mins.
K Barnes 10 months ago
The lack of understanding that people have about how restraining orders works simply blows my mind. You don't get a restraining order granted because someone came up to you in a store ONE TIME and grabbed your cart and was annoying to you. It would be a HUGE disservice to people who ACTUALLY need restraining orders if they granted them for petty single time c**p like that. Thank goodness they don't.
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Sarah Léon 10 months ago
I suppose the new wife is like this all the time, so I have the feeling ex-MIL doesn't like her new DIL and deeply regrets OP...
Joanne Earle 10 months ago
She is allowed to be upset, but she shouldn't take it out on OP. If she has an issue with it, take it up w/ her MIL. OP's former inlaws are still the grandparents of the children and it's prudent to maintain a good relationship w/ OP so that the kids know their maternal grandparents. Unlike my husband's ex who badmouthed him and his family at every opportunity so that my inlaws barely had any relationship w/ their kids. I bet that new wife bad mouths the OP in front of the kids too. Disgusting behavior. It's sad she feels so threatened.
Janelle Collard 10 months ago (edited)
I hope OP told ex-MIL about this incident. "New" wife sounds unhinged + ex-MIL should get a heads-up in case sonny-boy + his new wife decide to tell MIL *their* version of events. (wonder if Target gave OP a copy of the video?)
Stacy Bender 10 months ago
I'm guessing that the ex traded for a newer model that was straight out of highschool. #2 is certainly unhinged/immature. Hope the kids are safe.
Lailu 10 months ago
Oh hell no. Get big-boy ex to talk to his mother instead of trying to blame your ex-wife. After all, MIL gave the gift. All OP did was accept it.
Surly Scot 10 months ago
WTF? All she needs is the footage from Target submitted with a request for a restraining order and the hearing officer will grant it. She should've immediately reported it to the Target manager and security, notifying them she'll need a copy of the video. Drive straight to police station and file a report for harassment. Then text grandma and the kids dad, tell them everything that happened, if he responded with anything other than "i'm sorry, i'll make sure she doesn't do anything like this again", then i'd inform him that her deranged and physical behavior means my kids are no longer safe with her, and we'll have to go back to court to discuss custody of the kids and visitation, with a copy of the security footage being sent to the hearing officer. That would've sorted this whole situation in 10mins.
K Barnes 10 months ago
The lack of understanding that people have about how restraining orders works simply blows my mind. You don't get a restraining order granted because someone came up to you in a store ONE TIME and grabbed your cart and was annoying to you. It would be a HUGE disservice to people who ACTUALLY need restraining orders if they granted them for petty single time c**p like that. Thank goodness they don't.
Load More Replies... Sarah Léon 10 months ago
I suppose the new wife is like this all the time, so I have the feeling ex-MIL doesn't like her new DIL and deeply regrets OP...
Joanne Earle 10 months ago
She is allowed to be upset, but she shouldn't take it out on OP. If she has an issue with it, take it up w/ her MIL. OP's former inlaws are still the grandparents of the children and it's prudent to maintain a good relationship w/ OP so that the kids know their maternal grandparents. Unlike my husband's ex who badmouthed him and his family at every opportunity so that my inlaws barely had any relationship w/ their kids. I bet that new wife bad mouths the OP in front of the kids too. Disgusting behavior. It's sad she feels so threatened.
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