It’s not the first time that bridezillas have made headlines for causing drama over their wedding gifts. Previously, we wrote about an entitled bride who believed this stranger owed her a custom order done for free, then we covered a story about a bride who asked guests for $1,500 each, and then… there’s this post on how bridezillas have left their guests speechless for various reasons.
This time, yet another entitled bride made it into the press when someone shared a screenshot of her post posted on the Brisbane Wedding Facebook group. Apparently, the bride felt so hurt and “slapped in the face” for getting 2 Kmart towels as a wedding gift for her “very exclusive wedding.”
“We don’t know how to deal with it…any suggestions?” the bride wrote, begging for some tips on how to survive this ‘horrendous situation.’ People were not buying it, of course, and below are some of the heated reactions.
This entitled bride who said a $10 wedding gift for her ‘very exclusive wedding’ was a slap in the face has left people online speechless
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To find out if there are any rules or boundaries when it comes to asking for wedding gifts, Bored Panda reached out to Elisabeth de Clerck of “Lucy Till French Weddings” who was happy to share her expertise.
“It is a hard thing to ask for a wedding gift and to find a way of asking this appropriately, Elisabeth said and continued: “Every couple is different, every wedding is different and so every wedding gift is different. Therefore I would not say there are any specific rules on how to ask for a wedding gift.”
Having said that, Elisabeth would recommend not making it too complicated since “your guests are already adapting themselves to you to come to your wedding. A gift registry is a cool way to give your guests an easy overview of what you like. Give some options in different price classes, so guests feel comfortable with the amount of money to spend on your wedding gift.”
Many were left speechless by the post
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“Some will be more than happy to pay you more, others cannot always afford the most expensive things, but that does not mean they care or love you less. So, make them feel comfortable by showing that the price they pay on your wedding gift does not matter.”
Elisabeth argues that whatever you decide, the wording around it is the most important. “Do not just put your wedding registry or bank account out there, this will make them feel that they are obligated to give you a gift. The most important is that your guests are looking forward to your wedding and present on the day, let them know this and that it is completely their decision whether they give you a gift or not,” she explained.
Most importantly, everyone should remember that “Asking for a wedding gift is not an excuse to get things for free,” Elisabeth added.
Others thought the bride kinda had a point
I think we really need more context. If the best friend is swimming in money and put no thought & effort into the gift because they don’t care, then I can understand the bride. If the friend is poor and wanted to buy SOMETHING at least, then that’s an entirely different situation.
Presentation can help. Years back, my boyfriend couldn't be bothered to buy gifts for his cousin's wedding, so I took care of it. The towels on their gift registry were too expensive for my wee budget, so I bought cheaper ones that were similar, along with candles in the same colour and a card with two cheetahs grooming each other. The cousin and wife wrote me that they lit the candles while having a bath together. Totally sweet and both keepers, married for life.
Same thought here..its not about the value of the gift- it's about the value of the friendhip. Gifts can be bought thoughtless ( no matter of costs) or they can be chosen by heart and lovely presented. I rather have a 1Dollar candle and a lovely letter than a 1000 Dollar painting bought in hurry
There definitely may be more to it, but the way OP presented it seemed pretty entitled.
Same thoughts here. I do find it unfitting to gift 10$ to a wedding. Sometimes people attend weddings to eat, party and drink expensive drinks and don't bother to gift because they're freeloaders. The context is missing here though.
makes no odds rich or not , you get what you get , expecting more because they have more is gross
You never know. They may look like they swim in money, but have loads of debts.
You're right. This is why one should never post such things on social media. The context is missing because you don't want to write a novelle and everbody's quick to judge without knowing the whole story.
If my best friend gave me two random $5 towels, I'd ask if they were OK?
Agreed. I'd be also grateful, b/c you can always use towels. A crystal vase, that breaks. Towels, those last!
Depends on the quality tough
True, but since I'm from poor folk, we use 'em till they're see-through. And all towels get there sooner or later.
You don't need to be poor for that. It's a healthy respect for recourses instead of the now common throwaway society.
Cheap towels don't last. They shrink and start to fray easily, and the pile is never as soft and absorbent as more expensive towels.
My IKEA towels have been in use for 15+ years of which ten as a family with kids and are still going strong :) Best part of this is, if anyone would gift me anything from IKEA at my wedding, it be a spot on success. Whahhaha
As a broke student, I once bought a garlic presser from the wedding register and decorated the package with a Darth Maul miniature that was actually a bottle of shower gel. As the couple were huge Star Wars nerds, they absolutely loved it.
Proving the adage that "it's the thought that counts."
I think we really need more context. If the best friend is swimming in money and put no thought & effort into the gift because they don’t care, then I can understand the bride. If the friend is poor and wanted to buy SOMETHING at least, then that’s an entirely different situation.
Presentation can help. Years back, my boyfriend couldn't be bothered to buy gifts for his cousin's wedding, so I took care of it. The towels on their gift registry were too expensive for my wee budget, so I bought cheaper ones that were similar, along with candles in the same colour and a card with two cheetahs grooming each other. The cousin and wife wrote me that they lit the candles while having a bath together. Totally sweet and both keepers, married for life.
Same thought here..its not about the value of the gift- it's about the value of the friendhip. Gifts can be bought thoughtless ( no matter of costs) or they can be chosen by heart and lovely presented. I rather have a 1Dollar candle and a lovely letter than a 1000 Dollar painting bought in hurry
There definitely may be more to it, but the way OP presented it seemed pretty entitled.
Same thoughts here. I do find it unfitting to gift 10$ to a wedding. Sometimes people attend weddings to eat, party and drink expensive drinks and don't bother to gift because they're freeloaders. The context is missing here though.
makes no odds rich or not , you get what you get , expecting more because they have more is gross
You never know. They may look like they swim in money, but have loads of debts.
You're right. This is why one should never post such things on social media. The context is missing because you don't want to write a novelle and everbody's quick to judge without knowing the whole story.
If my best friend gave me two random $5 towels, I'd ask if they were OK?
Agreed. I'd be also grateful, b/c you can always use towels. A crystal vase, that breaks. Towels, those last!
Depends on the quality tough
True, but since I'm from poor folk, we use 'em till they're see-through. And all towels get there sooner or later.
You don't need to be poor for that. It's a healthy respect for recourses instead of the now common throwaway society.
Cheap towels don't last. They shrink and start to fray easily, and the pile is never as soft and absorbent as more expensive towels.
My IKEA towels have been in use for 15+ years of which ten as a family with kids and are still going strong :) Best part of this is, if anyone would gift me anything from IKEA at my wedding, it be a spot on success. Whahhaha
As a broke student, I once bought a garlic presser from the wedding register and decorated the package with a Darth Maul miniature that was actually a bottle of shower gel. As the couple were huge Star Wars nerds, they absolutely loved it.
Proving the adage that "it's the thought that counts."