Woman Wears A White Dress For Her Birthday, Enrages Future SIL Whose Wedding Is In Two Weeks

some one got hit way to hard with the crazy bat.

This is insane. "Even though you now decided to no longer attend my wedding because of the my ridiculousness, you still HAVE to show me what dress you were going to wear or your husband can no longer attend either." W.T.F. Not attending for both OP and her husband sounds like a godsend and they should bow out of that toxicity entirely. OP has no connection with either BIL nor FSIL so if OP's husband still wants to have a relationship I can do so alone (he also seems supportive of OP). OP should absolutely go no contact. Life is too short for their b******t.

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Nah. This marriage won't last long, so no point in attending. Husband should pass on wedding, but instead take his wife out for a romantic evening with her wearing the dress she bought for the wedding. They can have their photo taken and then share them with FSIL, who did, after all, insist on seeing pics of the dress

Read fsil as f*****g sister in law but after realising it stands for future sis in law - think my misinterpretation was right!

Im really curious - what is driving these trends? It feels like a wave - is there a wedding subculture or some wedding ‘guru’/‘influencer’ that are promoting these expectations?

Can’t cure stupid

I truly truly truly hope she, or a family member or a guest sees this and she reads all the comments about what a psychotic Bridezella she’s acting like and for her to know we’re all laughing at how pathetic she’s being, right before the wedding, it will hands down ruining the whole thing for her & how she’s the only one to blame that we’re laughing & calling her a psychotic b***h. I’ve never wished I had an email address so bad in my life.

Wait, so how was it resolved? Did the brother get disinvited? Did he attend, or just not go? Did I miss the ending somewhere?

I think op and her husband should go on a nice trip somewhere the same weekend the wedding is. It doesn't sound to me like the FSIL will back off on her demands to see the dress so op's husband may be uninvited anyways. Perhaps they should bring BIL with them on the trip? Or op's husband should, if he's re-invited to the wedding, go to the wedding wearing that black dress in whatever way he can sqeeze it on. The bride will be upset by this and he can say that if she'd only invited OP then SHE would have been wearing the dress and the drama would be less .... well, dramatic. It'd be a petty thing to do but also fun, imo. Also, I'm wondering why the BIL is not putting his foot down on this. I mean... he is letting himself be pushed about by his future wife who is about half his age? I suspect the marriage will end in a quick divorce. I give it 6-12 months. Lol.

Forget the dress, save your brother from this nutcase!

OP’s white dress is a kind of silvery white and bedazzled, and looks absolutely nothing like a wedding gown. SIL is insane.

Make sure to wear white to the divorce...

Everyone should attend this wedding! Except the groom, of course.

Someone needs to substitute this classic song for the wedding march! They are coming to take her away ha ha hee hee ho ho To the funny farm where life is beautiful all the time!

FSIL acting like a 12 year old brat. BIL needs to run while he can

What the actual F**k

I really don't understand this whole crazyness about marriage in the US. Yeah 'cause in Belgium, marriage is usually more tame. Some don't even pass through the Church and are settled before the bourgmestre (I suppose it's the equivalent of the mayor? Not sure....) followed by a reception with family 😊 correct me if I'm wrong but the "not wearing white" isn't even a thing as long as it's not a wedding dress.... And a bridezilla would quickly be scold and put down a notch or two. The wedding day is about the newly weds... Like they're in their own little bubble and the others don't ping their radars.

I'd warn the hubby first then send a picture of a clown costume. Then immediately send a second text apologizing for choosing the same thing she'd be wearing. If you're gonna go, you might as well go nuclear.

i would scrap the black dress idea and would show up in a dress closer to Marilyn Monroe's iconic pink one from Gentlemen Prefer Blondes and i would rock it

Jealous much?!

Can I just mention that BIL is marrying someone TWO DECADES YOUNGER THAN HIM???

Wait... so now OP's refusing to attend, but hubby is disinvited to his brother's wedding, unless FSIL gets to approve the dress OP would have worn but won't because she's not planning to attend. The drama is insane. I hope someone sends a link to BIL's ex so she can laugh her a*s off at the fuckery he's signed up for.

*Takes sip of tea. I'm waiting for the petty to ooze out of OP.

I can't even begin to explain everything that's wrong here. NTA! You and your husband are the only sane ones here!

I think some people have too few real worries in life, so their brains collapse due to boredom and lack of purposeful aims and they suddenly come up this kind of absolutely crazy demands. Also, the people around them is partly at fault, because they pay attention to them. "No" is a complete sentence. No need to argue, explain, beg or fight. Just "no". If they behave like spoilt children they should be treated like spoilt children. The more attention you pay to them, the more important they feel, and the bigger the entitlement.

The latest update on this I am afraid took this into the realms of fiction.

I always send a picture of my dress to the bride for approval.. Just to be sure. I would have sent one, just to be the bigger person. The white dress on your birthday is BS. It's your day!