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Guy Is Sure His GF Is Starving As That’s What His Obese Family Said, She Finally Has Enough Of Him
Few would argue that time is perhaps the most important resource that each of us has, so it’s an incredible waste to spend it on those who don’t deserve our attention or, even more so, who try to impose an alien way of thinking and behavior patterns on us.
So the author of our story today, the user u/Direct-Caterpillar77, spent almost a year of her life on a guy who tried to control her (completely healthy, by the way) eating habits in a rather harsh manner, following the strange advice of his relatives – and it didn’t end well for him. However, let’s take everything in order.
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The author of the post is a 24-year-old woman in good physical shape – but her now-ex-boyfriend actually didn’t think so
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The man considered her nearly starving for some reason and tried to feed her by hook or by crook
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This controlling behavior made the author uneasy, so she really considered parting ways with the guy
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The last straw was his demand to send him the picture of her food after one of their quarrels
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The woman told the guy they needed a break in their relationship over his behavior
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By the way, he told her one day that his family (obese by the way) convinced him she’s nearly starving
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But it was too late, and the woman simply went no contact with him
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The man tried to mend fences with the author, but she was adamant in her decision
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The woman was however, in two minds whether she did the right thing and took this online, seeking people’s advice
The Original poster (OP) told us that she is 24 years old, and for the last 8 months, she has been dating a guy a year older than her, who at one point began to literally police her eating habits. No, our heroine is around 128-135 lbs with a height of 5’4”, but for some reason, the boyfriend decided that she was trying to almost starve herself to death.
During any lunch or dinner together, he literally forced her to order more (despite the fact that they usually split the bill), didn’t respond to her attempts to explain that she felt fine with such portions of food, and got really offended when his nagging wasn’t responded to. The result was constant quarrels, and the author clearly didn’t feel comfortable.
After another quarrel, they had a big fight, and the OP went home. The guy ended up texting and calling her twelve times about her eating, and when she asked him to simply give her some peace and say that she was just eating, he literally demanded a picture of her food from her! This was the last straw, and our heroine decided to take a break from their relationship.
By the way, after some time, they did meet again, and the man told where the roots of his behavior actually were. So, according to him, his mother and sister (both are obese as the author notes) convinced him that the girlfriend suffered from an eating disorder, and that he absolutely had to control her diet, “so as not to let her harm herself.” Well, this was pretty much enough for our heroine to finally part ways with him…
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Perhaps it is superfluous to remind that each person’s eating habits are a completely unique feature. If a person is healthy and happy with their appearance and physical shape, then this is quite enough to simply be happy for them, nothing more. So, most likely, a peculiar eating disorder was inherent in the author’s ex-boyfriend.
“Eating can release pleasure hormones in your brain (serotonin and dopamine), which might encourage addictive tendencies. Eating can also be a way of escaping or numbing uncomfortable feelings or compensating for unmet needs,” this dedicated article on the Cleveland Clinic website claims. It’s quite possible that stress in his own family caused this man to develop such behavioral patterns.
In any case, trying to control another person’s behavior is completely unacceptable, and people wrote about it in the comments. According to netizens, the author’s entire family, including himself, actually had an eating disorder. He just apparently had a healthier metabolism, which let him (for a while) stay in good shape. But this is absolutely no reason to find fault with others.
So the responders are absolutely sure that the author did the right thing by breaking up with this guy. “Why on earth would you ever listen to obese family members on dieting habits?” someone wrote quite wittily. “That’s like a chicken asking Colonel Sanders for life advice.” “Sometimes, the happy ending is that the relationship is over,” another one added. So do you, our dear readers, agree with this as well?
Most commenters said that the author did everything right and that she probably dodged a bullet with this guy
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Ace 4 months ago
Whether she's exaggerating the BF's food intake or not I don't know, but if not then it's clear to me that one of these people does indeed have an eating disorder, and it's not her.
Ms.GB 4 months ago (edited)
For sure. She's definitely eating enough. I'm 5'7 160 so not skinny but not obese and I'm on a calorie defecit rn so I'm tracking everything that goes in my mouth religiously atm. I can tell just by reading what she ate she's getting a healthy amount of calories. At least 1500 to 1800 calories. He on the other hand is probably eating enough calories at breakfast to last him the entire day.
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Emilu 4 months ago
I was reading this thinking that he was overweight and trying to make himself feel more equal by making her eat more and eventually gain weight. The poster doesn't say if he is or not, I don't think, but I reckon I was pretty close.
Rika 4 months ago
I thought kinda the same: he knows he's eating too much, so he wants her to eat just as much to feel better about himself. It's like some alcoholics who make their friends drink because it allows them to think, "They're doing it too, I'm normal and I don't have a problem."
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Sarah Matsoukis 4 months ago
I remember an insecure dude who didn't want his gf to work out because he didn't
Dusty's mom 4 months ago (edited)
His metabolism may be dealing with his intake for now, but as he ages it won't go away so easily. He's a heart attack in the making.
AD Sully 4 months ago
I've struggled with food bullies my whole life. I'm not picky about food but I absolutely hate feeling stuffed full of food so I take small portions and rarely have seconds, and lemme tell ya, a LOT of people seem to take that personally. I mean, what does it matter what someone else eats, if you have enough and are happy? But I get comments, stares and sometimes people just plop more food on my plate, unasked and unwanted. If I react, it starts an argument. Why are people so WEIRD about food?
Margaret Wartime 4 months ago (edited)
Her meals aren’t even that tiny! She had a piece of French toast, fruit, and a couple sausages for breakfast because she knew she was going out for a big lunch? I would have only had a piece of toast and maybe small bit of fruit lmao (I’m less active than OP sounds). BF is delusional and honestly extremely annoying. I HATE it when people tell me to “eat more.” It makes me instantly lose my appetite. As someone who has dealt with eating issues before, OP sounds fine and healthy and her bf sounds annoying as heck.
Emilu 4 months ago
I agree; that meal is pretty big for me as well, but it sounds like she works out a lot and would burn the calories/utilise the extra energy. Him, on the other hand...
Load More Replies... Beth Wheeler 4 months ago
His fat stupid, crazy and jealous family wanted her to be fat like them instead of her being healthy. She stayed with him longer than I would have. SMH. SMH SMH
Big Chungus 4 months ago
Her weight is perfect for her height, this sounds almost like a weird f****h and he's trying to "fatten" her up
DrBronxx 4 months ago
If you eat 5 slices of brioche French toast for breakfast, as well as sausage an egg, and it's not out of the ordinary, you do not get to even try to give advice to *anyone*, let alone guilt trip them and try to force them to eat in a way that suits them. Her meals seem perfectly reasonable for a person her size. Sometimes I marvel at the small portions my wife eats, but then I remember that I am very overweight and she isn't.
Shelley Colleen 4 months ago (edited)
I am first-wave GenX. Our clothes were the same size as women's clothes in the 1950s. We had a popular clothing chain called "5,7,9" that only sold clothes in sizes 5, 7, and 9. (Which were quite a bit smaller than those sizes are today, due to "vanity sizing.") I'm not here to bag on anyone's choices, but in the 1980s, a girl 5'4" was expected to weight about 105-110lbs. Honestly, a woman 5'4" weighing a muscular 130 makes me quite happy! But it also freaks my distorted brain right the fŭkk out. I dunno how society decided that disordered eating has somehow been eradicated but it's still here, hale and healthy, in our "United" States. OP's boyf's family is simply terrified of having a healthily-shaped woman in their midst to make them feel "fat and gross."
Ace 4 months ago
Whether she's exaggerating the BF's food intake or not I don't know, but if not then it's clear to me that one of these people does indeed have an eating disorder, and it's not her.
Ms.GB 4 months ago (edited)
For sure. She's definitely eating enough. I'm 5'7 160 so not skinny but not obese and I'm on a calorie defecit rn so I'm tracking everything that goes in my mouth religiously atm. I can tell just by reading what she ate she's getting a healthy amount of calories. At least 1500 to 1800 calories. He on the other hand is probably eating enough calories at breakfast to last him the entire day.
Load More Replies... Emilu 4 months ago
I was reading this thinking that he was overweight and trying to make himself feel more equal by making her eat more and eventually gain weight. The poster doesn't say if he is or not, I don't think, but I reckon I was pretty close.
Rika 4 months ago
I thought kinda the same: he knows he's eating too much, so he wants her to eat just as much to feel better about himself. It's like some alcoholics who make their friends drink because it allows them to think, "They're doing it too, I'm normal and I don't have a problem."
Load More Replies... Sarah Matsoukis 4 months ago
I remember an insecure dude who didn't want his gf to work out because he didn't
Dusty's mom 4 months ago (edited)
His metabolism may be dealing with his intake for now, but as he ages it won't go away so easily. He's a heart attack in the making.
AD Sully 4 months ago
I've struggled with food bullies my whole life. I'm not picky about food but I absolutely hate feeling stuffed full of food so I take small portions and rarely have seconds, and lemme tell ya, a LOT of people seem to take that personally. I mean, what does it matter what someone else eats, if you have enough and are happy? But I get comments, stares and sometimes people just plop more food on my plate, unasked and unwanted. If I react, it starts an argument. Why are people so WEIRD about food?
Margaret Wartime 4 months ago (edited)
Her meals aren’t even that tiny! She had a piece of French toast, fruit, and a couple sausages for breakfast because she knew she was going out for a big lunch? I would have only had a piece of toast and maybe small bit of fruit lmao (I’m less active than OP sounds). BF is delusional and honestly extremely annoying. I HATE it when people tell me to “eat more.” It makes me instantly lose my appetite. As someone who has dealt with eating issues before, OP sounds fine and healthy and her bf sounds annoying as heck.
Emilu 4 months ago
I agree; that meal is pretty big for me as well, but it sounds like she works out a lot and would burn the calories/utilise the extra energy. Him, on the other hand...
Load More Replies... Beth Wheeler 4 months ago
His fat stupid, crazy and jealous family wanted her to be fat like them instead of her being healthy. She stayed with him longer than I would have. SMH. SMH SMH
Big Chungus 4 months ago
Her weight is perfect for her height, this sounds almost like a weird f****h and he's trying to "fatten" her up
DrBronxx 4 months ago
If you eat 5 slices of brioche French toast for breakfast, as well as sausage an egg, and it's not out of the ordinary, you do not get to even try to give advice to *anyone*, let alone guilt trip them and try to force them to eat in a way that suits them. Her meals seem perfectly reasonable for a person her size. Sometimes I marvel at the small portions my wife eats, but then I remember that I am very overweight and she isn't.
Shelley Colleen 4 months ago (edited)
I am first-wave GenX. Our clothes were the same size as women's clothes in the 1950s. We had a popular clothing chain called "5,7,9" that only sold clothes in sizes 5, 7, and 9. (Which were quite a bit smaller than those sizes are today, due to "vanity sizing.") I'm not here to bag on anyone's choices, but in the 1980s, a girl 5'4" was expected to weight about 105-110lbs. Honestly, a woman 5'4" weighing a muscular 130 makes me quite happy! But it also freaks my distorted brain right the fŭkk out. I dunno how society decided that disordered eating has somehow been eradicated but it's still here, hale and healthy, in our "United" States. OP's boyf's family is simply terrified of having a healthily-shaped woman in their midst to make them feel "fat and gross."
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