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Man Helps Immigrant GF Get A Degree And Watches Her Succeed Just To Let His Ego Ruin Everything
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Man Helps Immigrant GF Get A Degree And Watches Her Succeed Just To Let His Ego Ruin Everything

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After being in a relationship for 7 years, one would think that you’d know your partner pretty well. But alas, that’s clearly not the case, as one woman was mortified to learn.

The Indonesian national fell in love with an American man and they’ve been living together for 6 years. Marriage had always been on the cards… Until it wasn’t.

The woman says she brought up the topic again recently. Imagine her shock when her boyfriend looked at her with disgust and told her he’s no “visa mule,” and would not be tying the knot until she secured her green card by herself. In a plot twist, it turns out the real issue had nothing at all to do with her immigrant status.

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    They’d always agreed they’d get married one day so she thought nothing of bringing up the topic

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    She was gobsmacked when he accused her of wanting to use him as a “visa mule”

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    “Immigrant status should not matter”: many people rallied around the woman

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    Want to legally live and work in the United States? Here are some options

    A Green Card is officially known as a Permanent Resident Card, and allows you to live and work permanently in the United States. Immediate relatives of U.S. citizens, including parents, siblings, children or spouses of a United States citizen can apply for a family-based green card. There’s no cap on the number of applicants who can be admitted each year.

    “Marriage is just one of the many pathways that one can follow to obtain an immigrant visa, pursue lawful permanent residence, and eventually seek naturalization,” explains the U.S. Law Center. “Other options include work-based visas, the visa lottery, and asylum or refugee visas, among others.”

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    One route you could take is to get an employment-based visa, of which there are different categories. Each has its own requirements. You might need sponsorship from a company, and as a Department of Labor certification.

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    The United States also has what’s known as a Physician National Interest Waiver. According to the official U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services site, you’d be eligible for this if you are “a physician who agrees to work full-time in clinical practice in a designated underserved area for a set period of time and also meets other eligibility requirements.”

    People who have relocated to America as refugees or who have been granted asylum status while living in the country are also eligible to apply for a green card if they meet certain criteria.

    And if you’ve invested, or are actively in the process of investing in America, you could be eligible for an investment-based visa. However, the Citizenship and Immigration Services site notes that you’d need to invest at least $1,050,000 (or $800,000 in a targeted employment area or infrastructure project), and that money would have to go to a “new commercial enterprise in the U.S. which will create full-time positions for at least 10 qualifying employees.”

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    Another option is the Lottery Visa. “Each year, the United States picks 50,000 applicants at random to receive immigrant visas into the country,” explains the U.S. Law Center site. “Applicants from countries who have been historically underrepresented in the immigration process are chosen from a pool of millions of applicants.”

    The woman gave an update a few years later and it was quite the plot twist

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    “Absolute moron”: many people felt the ex BF didn’t realize what a good thing he had going

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    Space Invader
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He didn't want to become a mule, so he made an a*s of himself instead.

    Ben Aziza
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Asses and Mules would be insulted to be described as this guy. Donkey are downright offended!

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    Zig Zag Wanderer
    Community Member
    3 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Absolutely bizarre. After 7 years, he thinks she's using him as a green card mule? Really? What planet is he on?

    Kkg
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He didn't care about visa. He didn't want to marry her because she earns too much. Mule things was just an excuse.

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    Dusty's mom
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    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ugh! I wish ex boyfriend would move away and you could stay in the U.S. We need more hard workers and fewer guys who are so fussy about their masculinity. But France will treat you better than Dump's g**n patrol. I'm so ashamed of the ICE bullying. I hope you find a great man who'll be a terrific husband and father.

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    Space Invader
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He didn't want to become a mule, so he made an a*s of himself instead.

    Ben Aziza
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Asses and Mules would be insulted to be described as this guy. Donkey are downright offended!

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    Zig Zag Wanderer
    Community Member
    3 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Absolutely bizarre. After 7 years, he thinks she's using him as a green card mule? Really? What planet is he on?

    Kkg
    Community Member
    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He didn't care about visa. He didn't want to marry her because she earns too much. Mule things was just an excuse.

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    Dusty's mom
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    3 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ugh! I wish ex boyfriend would move away and you could stay in the U.S. We need more hard workers and fewer guys who are so fussy about their masculinity. But France will treat you better than Dump's g**n patrol. I'm so ashamed of the ICE bullying. I hope you find a great man who'll be a terrific husband and father.

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