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Guy Wants To Open Relationship After Meeting His Online Friend, Loses It When His GF Says No Way
I know a couple who are in an open relationship, and things are going pretty well for them. But it’s not really everyone’s cup of tea, and nobody should be forced into it. And there are some people who use it as an excuse to cheat.
Speaking of open relationships, one woman shared her suspicions when her boyfriend suddenly wanted to try it after meeting his new online friend. But when she refused, he went ballistic and had the nerve to call her “insecure.” Read on to uncover what happened when she learned his true intentions!
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Open relationships should never be forced on anyone
But this woman’s boyfriend tried to force her to be in one after meeting his new online friend, and lost it when she refused
He ignored her after their fight while she tried to learn the truth and an update revealed that he was doing it to be with his female friend, who rejected him, and his girlfriend also dumped him
A majority of Americans find monogamy outdated
Open relationships are much more popular than you would think. In fact, according to a 2025 survey, the majority of men (64%) and women (57%) in the US say monogamy is outdated, unrealistic, or downright impossible. Meanwhile, 61% of Americans are open to non-monogamous relationships. However, it’s a personal choice, and it only works when both partners consent.
In the author’s case, she didn’t consent, but it made her see her boyfriend’s true colors. When Bored Panda reached out for an update, she told us she hadn’t really spoken to him after kicking him out and blocking him everywhere. So she had no clue whether he was still in touch with the gamer woman.
When talking about the most challenging part of the whole thing, she said it was accepting that her ex wasn’t as good a person as she always thought. “You date someone for years and have this specific image of them, so when it gets shattered, you try to find an excuse or explanation,” she continued.
“Or in my case, I needed strangers on the internet to tell me what I already knew, but I just needed that extra push to accept it. I always was an overthinker. Whenever something happens, my first instinct is, ‘Oh, you’re overreacting again. It’s not that bad,’ but in this case it was.”
She also added that this immediately made her question everything that was ever said or done in the relationship, and whether he had talked to other women. Not losing her trust in other people was definitely another one of the most challenging parts for her. She also found it pretty difficult not to blame herself.
Knowing when to walk away from a toxic partner is important
When we asked the author what motivated her to share her story on Reddit, she replied that she just wanted to vent. However, she didn’t expect so many responses from netizens. She was glad that some people on Reddit actually care about others and don’t just troll for the sake of it.
She also shared some kind words for people who might be struggling with something similar: “Just let your partner go. If they refuse to accept your boundary and keep trying to make you feel bad for standing your ground, just leave. Or if you think you can mend things and want to save the relationship, give yourself and your partner space before trying to have a calmer conversation.”
“In my case, the answer was pretty obvious: he wanted to be with that other woman, while keeping the safety of his current relationship with me. So in case it backfired with that girl, he still had me as a backup option. I know it hurts in the beginning, but sometimes you have to leave,” she summed up.
Even therapist Kate O’Brien emphasizes the importance of knowing when to walk away from someone who doesn’t respect boundaries. She stresses that deciding to cut someone out of your life can be truly challenging. Sometimes it’s heartbreaking; sometimes it’s the right decision, even when it is hard, but only you can make that decision for yourself, she adds.
Well, at least the poster did it, no matter how challenging it was for her, and netizens said that she dodged a bullet. What would you do in such a situation? Drop your thoughts in the comments. Also, feel free to check out another open relationship story that we covered earlier.
Netizens sided with the poster and told her that she dodged a bullet by ditching him
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