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“Would 1000000% Be The End For Me”: Guy Flies Home Without GF, Makes Her Doubt Their Relationship
Interview With Expert
Traveling with your significant other can be an amazing bonding experience. The two of you get to explore new places, enjoy a relaxed week off without any work or obligations and create memories that you’ll cherish for the rest of your lives.
But traveling can also be quite stressful, especially if you’re running to catch a train or arguing about whose fault it was that you missed your flight. One woman recently posted on Reddit seeking advice after her boyfriend abandoned her at the airport and flew home alone. Below, you’ll find the full story, as well as a conversation with Nia Williams, Relationship Therapist and Life Coach from Miss Date Doctor.
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This woman was furious when she realized that her boyfriend abandoned her at the airport and flew home alone
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She even shared the conversation they had over text right after the gate closed
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“Travel often involves unexpected situations that can test a couple’s ability to adapt and work as a team”
One of the worst aspects of going on vacation is what you have to go through to actually make it to your destination. If you’re on a road trip, sitting in the car for 8 hours at a time might feel like a drag. And if you’re flying, there’s a good chance you’ll have to wake up extremely early, sit in the airport for hours and arrive at your hotel groggy, cranky and uninterested in sightseeing.
Unfortunately, the airport is also the place where travel plans often go awry. According to USA Today, between 2% and 8% of passengers miss their flights every single day.
Travel Pocket Guide notes that this can happy for many reasons, including issues with transportation or getting stuck in traffic, underestimating how long it takes to get to the airport, failing to check update flight information, miscommunications between airline staff and passengers, oversleeping and getting stuck at security.
In this story, however, the woman blamed her boyfriend for making them late to the airport. To find out why traveling with a significant other is so stressful, we reached out to Relationship Therapist and Life Coach from Miss Date Doctor, Nia Williams. She was kind enough to have a chat with Bored Panda and shine some light on this situation.
“Fatigue from long travel days, navigation challenges, and unfamiliar environments can lead to decreased patience and increased irritability,” Nia says. “The disruption of normal routines and the need to make constant decisions together can also strain communication and problem-solving abilities. Additionally, travel often involves unexpected situations that can test a couple’s ability to adapt and work as a team.”
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“How partners treat each other during challenging times often reveals the true nature of their relationship”
We also asked the relationship expert what kind of message this man conveyed to his partner by flying home alone.
“By boarding the flight without his girlfriend, this man sent a clear message that his own needs and desires took precedence over their relationship and her well-being,” Nia noted. “This action demonstrates a lack of empathy, consideration, and basic care for his partner. It’s particularly painful because it leaves her feeling abandoned, unimportant, and potentially unsafe in a vulnerable situation.”
So how can he make it up to his girlfriend? To apologize effectively, Nia says the man should “admit to what he did wrong specifically; acknowledge the hurt and impact his actions caused; express genuine remorse, not just saying ‘I apologize’ but ‘I’m so sorry for…; empathize with his girlfriend’s feelings and demonstrate understanding of how his actions affected her; and offer to make amends and ask what he can do to rebuild trust.”
The relationship expert says that making up for this severe breach of trust will take time and consistent effort. “He should be prepared to listen to her feelings without becoming defensive, give her space if needed, and demonstrate through his actions that he prioritizes her and the relationship moving forward,” Nia shared.
Finally, she noted that this situation highlights the importance of effective communication, mutual respect, and prioritizing your partner’s well-being in a relationship. “Couples planning to travel together should discuss expectations and strategies for handling stress beforehand,” Nia suggests. “It’s also crucial to remember that how partners treat each other during challenging times often reveals the true nature of their relationship.”
We would love to hear your thoughts on this situation in the comments below, pandas. How would you have responded if you were in this woman’s shoes? Then, you can find another Bored Panda article discussing similar relationship issues right here.
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Later, the woman responded to several comments and provided more information about her situation
Many readers assured the woman that she was not overreacting and called out her boyfriend for leaving her all alone
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R Dennis 9 months ago (edited)
I have parked at a hotel and taken the shuttle because it's cheaper, BUT... there is no way we are arriving by the skin of our teeth. I have had stuff happen that screwed us by an hour and we still made our flight. I would rather sit at the airport for two hours than stress about missing a flight. All that unnecessary filler to say: I would have been waiting on the other side of security. We both make it, or we both don't make it.
Royal Stray 9 months ago
Right, you always make sure to be at the airport at least 3h before your flight. You have no idea how long the ques will be or if your cab or whatever on the way will hit every red light in the city. The cheaper option would have been fine had they just booked it earlier. I wonder if this is their first time flying or something. I mean the BF is selfish either way, and OP should rethink the relationship, but how are both of them this bad at time management
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Boo 9 months ago
Not only is the boyfriend an àrse, but he's also a cheap àrse! Pay for the damn taxi to the airport!! Check in times are not optional.....it usually states to be 2-3 hours early for your flight so this doesn't happen! I would leave him so quick, especially if he didn't say anything when she landed. He's the one to cause her to miss the flight and was only looking out for himself! I mean, how selfish can you get?
ThisIsMe 9 months ago
Heck, I've treated co-workers better than that! Ran to gate and physically stood in the doorway telling the agents that they were minutes away. To be fair, my co-workers told me I could leave without them if necessary. But I kept that agent talking until they got there and we were the last 3 people on board. It just isn't that hard. Dump the guy.
Sarah Kathrin Matsoukis 9 months ago
So he saved 30 bucks but she had to book another flight, I'd take that money from him before I dump him
roddy 9 months ago
I can't imagine not allowing plenty of time to get to the airport. I am always anxious about something delaying me and would much rather kill time at the airport than stress about making it on time. Some people like to gamble. Avoid them. Anybody who would risk losing a flight over $30 is an idiot.
Apatheist Account2 9 months ago
Why were they in separate lines? That doesn't make sense. Why would one not stand next to one's partner? Anyway, this is why they say to check in an hour before - so add another hour and you'll have a margin of error. The only time I've ever had to run for a flight was when a sudden strike was announced and I was told at the check in to run to catch the earlier flight, since there was likely to be several hours of delay. Fortunately only hand baggage, and made it :)
KatSaidWhat 9 months ago
I'm spending a night in Gatwick airport in a couple of weeks because Sunday transport options suck and there are no hotels that will let me check out at 3am for under £50... I am that person who is generally in the airport about 2.5 hours before departure because of margins for error. And yes - why the separate lines?
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AMaureen Dance 9 months ago
So, he ubered to a hotel that you weren't even registered at, to take a shuttle, which I can only assume you weren't entitled to take so he could save a few bucks? Then left you alone waiting 7 hours to pay for another flight, rather than waiting for you? Where else has he been cheaping out on you?
JayWantsACat 9 months ago
I could MAYBE forgive my s/o getting on the plane thinking I could make it but picking me up the next day without saying a word would be the deal breaker. If I were him, I'd have breakfast and coffee and a promise about how I'd make it up to her. Not even bringing it up is crazy.
Earonn - 9 months ago
Wait, he wrote that "the person" (I guess a flight attendant) told him to board and that OP could make it? I mean, I would trust their experience, too. Did I miss anything?
DC and S 9 months ago (edited)
I don't think I would be mad he got on the plane, I would have believed them too so it makes logical sense to me; I would think she would make it on since they said so. But, I would be nuclear about getting to the airport so late. THAT is grounds for dumping him; I don't need that kind of stress in my life.
Load More Replies... R Dennis 9 months ago (edited)
I have parked at a hotel and taken the shuttle because it's cheaper, BUT... there is no way we are arriving by the skin of our teeth. I have had stuff happen that screwed us by an hour and we still made our flight. I would rather sit at the airport for two hours than stress about missing a flight. All that unnecessary filler to say: I would have been waiting on the other side of security. We both make it, or we both don't make it.
Royal Stray 9 months ago
Right, you always make sure to be at the airport at least 3h before your flight. You have no idea how long the ques will be or if your cab or whatever on the way will hit every red light in the city. The cheaper option would have been fine had they just booked it earlier. I wonder if this is their first time flying or something. I mean the BF is selfish either way, and OP should rethink the relationship, but how are both of them this bad at time management
Load More Replies... Boo 9 months ago
Not only is the boyfriend an àrse, but he's also a cheap àrse! Pay for the damn taxi to the airport!! Check in times are not optional.....it usually states to be 2-3 hours early for your flight so this doesn't happen! I would leave him so quick, especially if he didn't say anything when she landed. He's the one to cause her to miss the flight and was only looking out for himself! I mean, how selfish can you get?
ThisIsMe 9 months ago
Heck, I've treated co-workers better than that! Ran to gate and physically stood in the doorway telling the agents that they were minutes away. To be fair, my co-workers told me I could leave without them if necessary. But I kept that agent talking until they got there and we were the last 3 people on board. It just isn't that hard. Dump the guy.
Sarah Kathrin Matsoukis 9 months ago
So he saved 30 bucks but she had to book another flight, I'd take that money from him before I dump him
roddy 9 months ago
I can't imagine not allowing plenty of time to get to the airport. I am always anxious about something delaying me and would much rather kill time at the airport than stress about making it on time. Some people like to gamble. Avoid them. Anybody who would risk losing a flight over $30 is an idiot.
Apatheist Account2 9 months ago
Why were they in separate lines? That doesn't make sense. Why would one not stand next to one's partner? Anyway, this is why they say to check in an hour before - so add another hour and you'll have a margin of error. The only time I've ever had to run for a flight was when a sudden strike was announced and I was told at the check in to run to catch the earlier flight, since there was likely to be several hours of delay. Fortunately only hand baggage, and made it :)
KatSaidWhat 9 months ago
I'm spending a night in Gatwick airport in a couple of weeks because Sunday transport options suck and there are no hotels that will let me check out at 3am for under £50... I am that person who is generally in the airport about 2.5 hours before departure because of margins for error. And yes - why the separate lines?
Load More Replies... AMaureen Dance 9 months ago
So, he ubered to a hotel that you weren't even registered at, to take a shuttle, which I can only assume you weren't entitled to take so he could save a few bucks? Then left you alone waiting 7 hours to pay for another flight, rather than waiting for you? Where else has he been cheaping out on you?
JayWantsACat 9 months ago
I could MAYBE forgive my s/o getting on the plane thinking I could make it but picking me up the next day without saying a word would be the deal breaker. If I were him, I'd have breakfast and coffee and a promise about how I'd make it up to her. Not even bringing it up is crazy.
Earonn - 9 months ago
Wait, he wrote that "the person" (I guess a flight attendant) told him to board and that OP could make it? I mean, I would trust their experience, too. Did I miss anything?
DC and S 9 months ago (edited)
I don't think I would be mad he got on the plane, I would have believed them too so it makes logical sense to me; I would think she would make it on since they said so. But, I would be nuclear about getting to the airport so late. THAT is grounds for dumping him; I don't need that kind of stress in my life.
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