Birth Mom Claims DNA Equals ATM Access, Adoptee Horrified By Sudden Cash Grab

“You don’t have to give birth to someone to have a family. We’re all family – an extended family,” were the words once said by Sandra Bullock, an adoptive mom herself, who actually got her Oscar for the role of another adoptive mom. So, it’s not always the person who brought you into this world who is your closest person ever.

The user u/microwaveablepasta, the narrator of our story today, wasn’t lucky because her biological mom gave her away for adoption as a baby. Still, she was truly lucky to have great adoptive parents who gave her a home and love and did their best to raise her as a decent person. And then her birth mom suddenly appeared…

More info: Reddit

Thousands of kids enter the foster care system every year, and let’s be honest, only a few of them are lucky enough to find a really loving adoptive family

Thoughtful woman sitting on a couch, reflecting on issues related to birth mom claims and DNA access concerns.

Image credits: The Yuri Arcurs Collection / Freepik (not the actual photo)

The author of the post is one of 3 adoptive kids in her family, and she sincerely believes her adoptive mom is her true mother

Screenshot of text from an adoptee describing no relationship with birth family and sharing feelings on closed adoption.

Text discussing an adoptee's experience with birth mom claiming DNA access linked to sudden cash demands.

Adoptee shocked by birth mom’s claim that DNA equals ATM access in sudden cash grab situation.

Middle-aged woman looking concerned while holding a phone, reflecting stress about DNA and sudden cash grab issues.

Image credits: karlyukav / Freepik (not the actual photo)

The author knows that the reason her birth mom gave her away was the fact that she was an “affair child,” and her two half-siblings still live with their bio mother

Alt text: Text excerpt revealing a birth mom’s indifference about paternity amid concerns over DNA and adoptee cash conflict.

Text excerpt showing a birth mom using DNA as leverage to ask adoptee for money, causing shock and conflict.

Text on a white background reading a conversation about birth mom claims involving DNA and family, causing adoptee distress over a cash grab.

Two women on a couch, one upset and holding her head, depicting adoptee horrified by sudden cash grab and DNA claims.

Image credits: pacoocimage / Freepik (not the actual photo)

Recently, the birth mom found her phone number and got in touch with the daughter, only to ask for money

Text excerpt about birth mom and adoptee discussing DNA and cash, highlighting conflict over financial expectations.

Alt text: Text showing a shocked reaction to a birth mom’s claim that DNA equals ATM access in a sudden cash grab situation.

Birth mom claims DNA equals ATM access, while adoptee reacts with horror to sudden cash grab.

Image credits: microwaveablepasta

The author, however, flatly refused and brushed off all attempts to play the “we’re all family” card

So, the Original poster (OP) is now 21 years old and grew up in a foster home. She has two siblings, also adopted, and her younger stepsister has always been curious about her biological parents. As for our heroine, she knows who her birth mother is, but has never expressed any particular desire to meet or communicate with her.

The thing is, the author was one of three kids born to her mother, and the other two half-siblings still live with her. Apparently, it was because the original poster was an “affair child.” Just agree, it’s incredibly painful and unpleasant to feel unwanted. However, the OP had her adoptive mother, whom she always considered her true mom.

And then, recently, our heroine’s younger stepsis gave her contact information to her biological mom, despite her obvious reluctance. She got in touch with the author and, after a bunch of beautiful but unnecessary words, discovered the true motive for this meeting. Money. Of course, money. This lady asked for money from her daughter, whom she had given away two decades ago.

Needless to say, the author flatly refused. The mother tried to play the “we’re one family” card, but to no avail. According to our heroine, her real mother is the woman who sang her lullabies, took her to school, and kissed her goodnight every given evening. And she doesn’t need another mom at all. Especially since, apparently, she only wanted money and nothing more.

Hands holding a fan of US hundred-dollar bills illustrating birth mom claims DNA equals ATM access and cash grab concerns.

Image credits: oleksandrakebal / Freepik (not the actual photo)

Statistics show that the number of children entering the foster care system has remained virtually unchanged over the past ten years in the USA, although there is a slight downward trend (possibly related to the overall decline in the birth rate). Nevertheless, sooner or later, many children, after becoming adults, are interested in meeting their biological parents.

The authors of this study, published on the Adoption & Birth Mothers website, argue that it was previously believed that the main motive for adoptees to search for their birth mothers was dissatisfaction with their adoptive parents. However, subsequent studies have refuted this assumption. Two models of such motives are now being identified: search as an adventure, and search as therapy.

As for the main motives for birth mothers seeking contact with their adult biological children, researchers highlight, first and foremost, the desire to ensure that the child is well after adoption. They also identify an attempt to “make up for lost time” or to atone for their guilt in one way or another. Interestingly, none of the researchers mentions asking the adult child for money among the motives.

Most people in the comments agreed that our heroine acted absolutely correctly and even urged her to block her hapless bio mom and to call out her stepsister for giving out her phone number behind her back. In any case, according to the responders, the OP was lucky enough to have a decent true mom, and that’s enough. So do you, our dear readers, also agree with this?

Most commenters gave our heroine their fullest support and urged her to go no contact with that toxic lady pretending to be her mom

Screenshot of a Reddit conversation about birth mom DNA equating to ATM access and an adoptee’s shocked reaction to a cash demand.

Reddit conversation showing adoptee upset over birth mom using DNA for sudden cash grab accusations.

Reddit conversation discussing adoptee feelings and birth mom claims about DNA and ATM access causing a cash grab shock.

Reddit comment discussing birth mom and stepmother roles, highlighting adoptee's perspective on DNA and cash claims.

Reddit conversation showing adoptee and birth mom discussing DNA linked to sudden cash grab and financial demands.

Reddit comment thread discussing emotional attachment and a birth mom’s DNA claim linked to ATM access frustration.

Text conversation showing an adoptee confronting birth mom about money and child support in a sudden cash grab debate.

Screenshot of an online discussion where a birth mom and adoptee debate DNA and sudden cash grab issues.

Screenshot of a Reddit conversation about birth mom claims DNA equals ATM access and adoptee's reaction to sudden cash grab.

Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing!

Follow Bored Panda on Google News!

Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda!