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Welcome to my humble abode! Please take off your shoes at the front door and wash your hands when you come inside. Relax, and make yourself at home. And don’t mind the massive pile of moldy dishes in the kitchen sink. I promise, I’ll get to it later today… 

You can learn a lot about a person by visiting their house. And sometimes, you realize that you don’t actually want to associate with them at all. Redditors have been discussing the biggest red flags that they’re on the lookout for when visiting a potential partner’s home, so we’ve gathered their thoughts down below. From disgusting living conditions to downright creepy decorations, be sure to upvote the things that would send you running for the hills too!

#1

Close-up of a red cap with embroidered text, illustrating home red flags that turn a first date into a last one. Anything MAGA related.

This-is-Life-Man , r.nial.bradshaw/flickr Report

Wild Cream
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4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Studies show people with far right-wing authoritarian views (aka MAGA) lack grey matter in some pretty significant areas of the brain related to things like empathy and social reasoning. It’s really interesting, here’s a pasted explanation and a link: Research indicates that right-wing authoritarianism (RWA) is associated with differences in brain structure and function, particularly in areas related to social cognition and empathy. Specifically, studies have found that individuals with higher RWA scores have less gray matter volume in the dorsomedial prefrontal cortex, an area crucial for understanding others' perspectives. Additionally, RWA is linked to cognitive errors and faulty reasoning, including difficulty with belief updating and making incorrect inferences. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/40250728/

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    #2

    Pouring cat litter into a clean litter box, illustrating home red flags that turn a first date into a last one. Mistreated/neglected animals i.e a dog constantly kept tied outside with no shelter, a cat with a super dirty litter box, or a fish with a disgusting tank.

    tisnik:

    The litter box is SO true. I don't even have a pet, but once I was visiting my sister and her roommate had cats. The litter box looked as if it wasn't cleaned for more than week. My other friend's cats wouldn't even go near that thing.

    itinnochi , Neakasa/unsplash Report

    Thee8thsense
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Pets give us so much, and I believe it should not only be our duty, but our joy to provide them with the best possible life.

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    #3

    “Just Gross To Me”: 50 People Share Red Flags That They Always Look Out For In People's Homes Anything hateful, or racist.

    oldestwomanaliveama , Blake Cheek/unsplash Report

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    #4

    Young man with freckles showing stress and discomfort, illustrating home red flags that turn a first date into a last one. Confederate flag.

    anon , Nathan Dumlao/unsplash Report

    Cathleen Cummings
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is right up- there with a swastika! (And should be higher on this list.)

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    #5

    Modern bathroom sink with chrome faucet highlighting home red flags that turn a first date into a last one There’s no hand soap in the bathroom.

    anon , Sanibell BV/unsplash Report

    PeepPeep the duck
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had a lot of bachelor friends like this 😂 no TP, no light in the bathroom either

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    #6

    Stained carpet near sofa showing a common home red flag that can ruin a first date impression. Pet feces/urine. I understand there are accidents (I've always had pets - s**t happens) but if you just are lazy or don't potty train then that is a total red flag.

    anon , Pyro_Of_Cairo/reddit Report

    Emilu
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ugh yes. I feel it should go without saying, but it won't clean itself up, no matter how long you wait.

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    #7

    “Just Gross To Me”: 50 People Share Red Flags That They Always Look Out For In People's Homes No books.

    llamaste , Josh Sorenson/unsplash Report

    Galita
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    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is a bit tricky. Some of us may be on the ‘less is more’ side of things, and may a vast e-library. In my case the few printed books are technical or reference (on writing, languages, “for dummies” too… no shame! )

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    #8

    “Just Gross To Me”: 50 People Share Red Flags That They Always Look Out For In People's Homes A big sw*stika flag in the living room.

    SchoonerOclock , Zan Lazarevic/unsplash Report

    G A
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "I hear you're a racist now, Father.....?"

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    #9

    Untidy bed with crumpled sheets and pillow in a bedroom showing home red flags that turn a first date into a last one The level of cleanliness. I understand that people have busy lives and im not expecting sterile hospital clean but if you a stay at home person and can’t be bothered to pick up the piles of stuff and let your pets use the floor as a bathroom im immediately walking back out.

    Unlimited_Flavors , Krišjānis Kazaks/unsplash Report

    Barbara Wilcock
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    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Lots of people with depression and anxiety don't see the mess. It's not their fault

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    #10

    “Just Gross To Me”: 50 People Share Red Flags That They Always Look Out For In People's Homes A whole bunch of Jesus s**t, guns on the wall, confederate flags.

    dragon34 , Nick Castelli/unsplash Report

    Forrest Hobbs
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Be very polite, agree with everything they say, make a credible excuse, shake hands and leave with a smile, get in your car, drive away quite normally. And when you've got half a mile down the road, put your foot to the floor and get the héll out of there...

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    #11

    Decorative Live Love Laugh sign above a home door with blinds and indoor plants, highlighting home red flags concept. A Live, Laugh, Love sign.

    TheUnknown285:

    Unless it's the Rob Zombie parody: "Live through the ditches, Laugh through the witches, Love in the back of my Dracula."

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    #12

    “Just Gross To Me”: 50 People Share Red Flags That They Always Look Out For In People's Homes Gun owner one: Weapons lying out in the open. Not all guns need be in a pristine luxury safe, but weapons should be stored in a main place with the ammo nearby. Guns scattered around speaks to laxity in safety and maintenance. The sort of people who you'll see in r/idiotswithguns or r/morbidreality one day.

    762Rifleman , A. C./unsplash Report

    #13

    White home security camera mounted on ceiling corner monitoring stairs, highlighting common home red flags during first dates. Cameras in every room, especially more private spaces, such a bedrooms and bathrooms.

    benjaminchang1 , Jakub Żerdzicki/unsplash Report

    BookFanatic
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I used to think this way. Cameras can be lifesaving. My neighbors were advised to put up cameras in order to prove their teen was stealing booze. Ended catching up the teen threatening to end their parents and pulling a knife on their mom. Teen does not live with them any longer.

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    #14

    Dirty old sink with dark stains under a floral curtain, highlighting home red flags that turn a first date into a last one If the house is dirty. I don't care about kids toys all over the place. I care that the dog pooped at least a week ago and no one cleaned it up. That tells me I probably don't want to sit on any surface or eat anything. And my clothing needs to go straight into the wash when I get home.

    TheCheese616 , David Babayan/unsplash Report

    Jack Handy
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    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Do people actually not clean up if a dog poops I the house? I’m disgusted just seeing poop left in the sidewalk.

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    #15

    “Just Gross To Me”: 50 People Share Red Flags That They Always Look Out For In People's Homes If things are to clean I get concerned. Like if you don’t have a drawer in ur kitchen full of b******t something up. I went to someone’s house one time and it literally felt like a sterile environment, there was so much white and it just felt impossibly clean and almost uncomfortable. I didn’t want to touch a single thing. Nobody could live like that. I don’t like slobs but there’s something about super clean houses that says serial k**ler.

    anon , Jakob Owens/unsplash Report

    BrownEyedGrrl
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    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When it's so clean I don't want to sit down, I'm out.

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    #16

    Ceramic cups of dark coffee on a wooden table hinting at home red flags during a first date setting. Ok so I have a friend I will call him B. Well B and I went to school together and recently started hanging out. We always enjoyed each others company. He wanted to be in a relationship but I didn't feel the same. A few weeks ago, he asked if I wanted to come over and watch a movie. I said sure and he picked me up after he ran some errands. We get to his place and next to his recliner were two large cups filled with pee. I was instantly grossed out. As he hurried to clear the pee cups he said “You weren't supposed to see that.” I guess he falls asleep in his recliner and when he has to pee, he just goes is a cup instead of going to the bathroom. That was just gross to me.

    Albert's Mom , Anastasiia Mukhina/unsplash Report

    #17

    “Just Gross To Me”: 50 People Share Red Flags That They Always Look Out For In People's Homes The flag of the soviet union is a big red flag.

    Lord_Botond , Carson Masterson/unsplash Report

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    #18

    “Just Gross To Me”: 50 People Share Red Flags That They Always Look Out For In People's Homes That picture of the whole family with the K*K hoods is a slight turnoff.

    Frogger05 , Diana Polekhina/unsplash Report

    #19

    Broken white bowl and spilled powder on wooden surface, illustrating home red flags during a first date. Dirty.

    Not an unclean kitchen type dirty but when it's clear the snack wrappers have formed an alliance and are warring with the dirty clothes for dominance..

    Factal_Fractal , Getty Images/unsplash Report

    Dog Mom to Zoe
    Community Member
    4 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had an acquaintance that never cleaned her stove. The grime and rust around the burners was disgusting. I drove a co worker to her home and asked if I could use her bathroom. I walked in, held it until I was able to get home. The toilet bowl was BLACK. H.O.W.???

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    #20

    “Just Gross To Me”: 50 People Share Red Flags That They Always Look Out For In People's Homes Filth. Not disarray or clutter - caked on, grimy, black crusted filth on things that should be cleaned on a daily. And roaches.

    anon , kevin turcios/unsplash Report

    BookFanatic
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OMG, yes, roaches. I understand like a random roach. Bugs get everywhere. But I visited a friend whose house was Roach Central. Roach poop everywhere, roaches on the toothbrushes, roaches on the potty. Roaches in the fridge. I opted not to stay for supper.

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    #21

    Man adjusting camera on tripod indoors, illustrating home red flags that turn a first date into a last one. I once had a date with a guy I had encountered several times when I was out with my friends. He was kind of shy (which I like), attractive but not necessarily handsome, just an average guy (which I like).

    He asked me to dance every time we ran into each other and we had good conversations and laughs. I really liked him. He finally asked me out on a date. We went to dinner, had a great time, then he asked me if I’d like to come back to his place. Thinking I knew him well enough to say yes, we went to his house. He had 2 roommates who were also very nice and courteous. The roommates had a couple girls there which made a bit of a crowd. My date suggested we go into the den so we could listen to some music and talk for a while. I agreed.

    We walked into “the den” and there was a huge bed! THAT was not the worst of it. The bed was surrounded with every type of camera you could imagine, all of them pointing toward that bed. There were studio type lights also surrounding the bed. As I stood in the doorway with my mouth open, the two roommates entered and turned on the lights and got ready to man the cameras.

    Needless to say I exited that scene immediately. Every time I’d run into this guy he’d apologize and ask for another chance. Yeah, sure, idiot.

    Karyl Lawson , Getty Images/unsplash Report

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    #22

    Person fixing a yellow bike in a cluttered room showing home red flags that turn a first date into a last one. Are they hoarders.

    livinginafreefall:

    My mom was (& still is) a hoarder and no matter how many times people try to help her or get her help, it goes nowhere. It’s a mental thing and even throwing away so much as a dirty, used napkin can warrant a temper tantrum. She refused to let us have friends over bc of the state of the house & it took a toll on the social life of my siblings & I since other kids & their parents always ended up feeling used & couldn’t understand why they couldn’t come over bc it was embarrassing to explain & we were terrified of saying why bc then it would open us up to bullying at school

    Odd_Adhesiveness4804 , Getty Images/unsplash Report

    Emilu
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hoarding is a mental health issue, as the poster states. I can understand how it might put off prospective dates, but at the same time it's not the same as just being a pig for the sake of it. I personally would treat a hoarder with the same empathy as anyone else with other mental health issues. Maybe not move in with them, though. 😆

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    #23

    Person drying a glass in a kitchen, highlighting home red flags that turn a first date into a last one. How clean their kitchen is so I know if I'm safe to eat something they make or to avoid it now or in the future.

    HauntedPickleJar , Sandra Seitamaa/unsplash Report

    CP
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is my mental problem with work potlucks. I need to see all the kitchens these dishes came from.

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    #24

    Wall with visible home red flags such as damaged paint and a broken outlet in a dated interior setting. Punch or kick holes in walls or doors, or signs of recent repairs of same.

    Nice things, but in poor maintenance. Taking things for granted can mean an attitude that equals taking people for granted.

    Chuck Abernathy , chlobi1kenobi/reddit Report

    Leonard Henderson
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also indicates someone that can't control their temper. Red Flag!

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    #25

    “Just Gross To Me”: 50 People Share Red Flags That They Always Look Out For In People's Homes A surprising number of people don't have soap by the kitchen sink. Soap with any sink really....should not be missing.

    visitjacklake , Henry Kobutra/unsplash Report

    Emilu
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I (stupidly, obviously) assumed having some sort of soap by the sink was a given.

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    #26

    “Just Gross To Me”: 50 People Share Red Flags That They Always Look Out For In People's Homes He/Her still having photo frames of them with their exes/former partners.

    SaiyaChimpAK , Maico Pereira/unsplash Report

    Grape Walls of Ire
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ack, I need to fix that sentence. They still have framed photos of their exes. Whew, that's better.

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    #27

    Bathroom sink with toiletries and grooming products highlighting common home red flags on a first date setting. The bathroom. I personally think the state of the bathroom talks a lot about the personally of the owner.

    fwowst , Getty Images/unsplash Report

    BrownEyedGrrl
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Years ago, I read an article about cleaning your house when you're expecting company. "The nastiest thing on earth is someone else's dirty bathroom."

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    #28

    “Just Gross To Me”: 50 People Share Red Flags That They Always Look Out For In People's Homes Too clean

    Constant cleaning even when guests are present

    Visibly upset if something is even slighty moved

    Too dirty

    Cat litter box full of feces and urine

    Fresh and old urine spots from a dog

    House smells like dirty or wet dogs or urine and feces

    Too thin pets

    Dirty mirrors

    Dead house plants

    Broken doors or cabinet doors

    Deanna Muse , Oleg Ivanov/unsplash Report

    Emilu
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Too clean... too dirty... this isn't Goldilocks, mate.

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    #29

    Person selecting a book from a shelf, illustrating home red flags that can turn a first date into a last one. I analyze the books on their shelf.

    theycallmecliff:

    See, this is tough, because I have some books that I've bought specifically for the purposes of exploring philosophies contradictory to my own. I keep them in a box in storage because I don't want people to think that they're what I subscribe to.
    But I think it's important to understand, for example, modern f*****t thinkers as a socialist because I want to know what they're appealing to and how to communicate with people that don't know as much about these things in general and how they might be tempted by strands of those ideas.

    Fluffy_Sky_865 , Sonja Punz/unsplash Report

    Emilu
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I like to know what people like to read, what their interests are and also what they're interested in learning. Just because you own a book about Hitler doesn't mean you're quietly aspiring to be like him. Frankly, I'd rather see a bit of everything on someone's bookshelves then everything dedicated to the same thing.

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    #30

    “Just Gross To Me”: 50 People Share Red Flags That They Always Look Out For In People's Homes Pictures of the Pope all over the house but no pictures of the actual family.

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    #31

    Any deceased relatives sitting in chairs or locked in display cabinets like taxidermy pieces.

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    #32

    Years ago had a grindr date with a guy it all seemed kosher and when I showed up I had a bad feeling, couldn't place it. He tried to get handsy but I had to listen to that little internal voice so I decided I wanted to leave, let him know and went to use the bathroom before I went home. Wall to wall was covered in s**t, like it was spread everywhere, on white tiles and it smelt rancid. I still wonder if I was subtly picking up the smell on my bad nose but either case I legged it out of there. I still don't understand why or how and what signs I missed because we had talked for ages before meeting.


    # That is now the red flag I look for. S**t on the walls.

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    Emilu
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm sorry your standards need to be that low, poster. Have my condolences.

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    #33

    Firstly does it smell like cat p**s? Is anything rotting?

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    G A
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    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Especially if it's the cat that's rotting....

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    #34

    Old glass jar with rusty lid hanging in a home showing red flags of poor cleanliness and upkeep. Pee jars.

    LobsterFar9876:

    A guy at work we all hate told my bf that he’s to lazy to go downstairs to the bathroom at night so he pees in dr.pepper bottles and sh**s in a bucket and the pee bottles are all over his room because he wants to see how many he can fill.

    TinkleTwinkleToes:

    My former roommate was gross AF. My husband found the source of one of the smells were 3 fermenting pi*s bottles on the top shelf of his closet. He had his daughter stay over in his filth.
    The bathroom was literally on the other side of his wall. Like, you open his door and the bathroom is literally 3 feet from his.

    Gumby_no2 , Erik Mclean/unsplash Report

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    #35

    Green Herbalife shaker bottle on a kitchen counter with supplements, highlighting home red flags on a first date. Any MLM products.

    Gaselgate , LALO VAZQUEZ/flickr Report

    René Sauer
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    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As in, they just bought some, or actively selling them?

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    #36

    If CNN or Fox News is playing on the TV.

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    GalPalAl
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    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have a friend whose husband is obsessed with news. The tv is always on with loud volume even when no one is in the room. I HATE news with a passion and they never turn it off even when guests come to visit. No bueno

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    #37

    No toilet paper.

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    Emilu
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    4 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    See, I don’t get this one (as in not having it, not it being a dealbreaker). What happens if you get caught on the fly? Do you use your hand or something? My toilet generally has towers of toilet paper because I’m paranoid about this.

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    #38

    “Just Gross To Me”: 50 People Share Red Flags That They Always Look Out For In People's Homes I stopped eating @ my boyfriends bc their kitchen is ALWAYS dirty. Like, food on the floor dirty. I once used a cutting board for my lovely melon and it tasted LIKE ONION. They said oh yea its 'the vegetable cutting board'. I love to walk barefood, one time i stepped ON A PIECE OF MEAT. They are lovely people, the rest of the house is absolutely licked clean most of the time, but the kitchen just makes me wanna throw up. So thats a Red flag for me kinda
    Also, if the house looks like no one lives in it. Like no personal items, no decoration, no nothing. Everything really sterile and stuff.

    _night_mare_queen_ , Blake Cheek/unsplash Report

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    #39

    Close-up of a person's face with eyes tightly closed, expressing discomfort or disgust related to home red flags on a first date. You should be able to smell your answer immediately.

    AvailableDeparture , Curated Lifestyle/unsplash Report

    #40

    Clean and reasonably tidy. Ideally no naked women displayed on the wall. That's really all I'm looking for.

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    #41

    A lock on the basement door.

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    #42

    “Just Gross To Me”: 50 People Share Red Flags That They Always Look Out For In People's Homes Having pin-up girls on his wall is a huge turnoff. Yes, there absolutely are men who still have these. Once you get out of college, you really need to switch your decor to something more tasteful and classy. Bare walls are not the best either, but they're far better than pin-up girls.

    SharMarali , AmbergrisAntiques/reddit Report

    Grape Walls of Ire
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    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is that still a thing? No, it can't be. The OP must have just arrived from 1978.

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    #43

    My former roommate had a sign that said “don’t give the whores d***s” so maybe something along those lines.

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    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Was this a statement of principle or a memory jogger?

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    #44

    “Just Gross To Me”: 50 People Share Red Flags That They Always Look Out For In People's Homes Roaches.

    anon , MJ NE/unsplash Report

    Emilu
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To be fair, these aren't always the person's fault. If you're unlucky for them to pick your place to nest, then... well, you'll have roaches. It doesn't have to be because of cleanliness (or lack thereof).

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    #45

    Locks on the outside of interior bedroom doors.

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    marianne eliza
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    4 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    With one exception. If a pet, usually a cat, has figured out how to open doors, then the lock on the outside of the door is the only safe way to secure a forbidden room. Have one on my pantry door, and brother has one on his wine cellar door and pantry door. Some cats are too smart. Even my orange one. He's bogarting the brain cell.

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    #46

    Skid marks in the toilet.

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    Day Andie
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    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh, come on. If the toilet is flushed, and the bathroom is otherwise clean, can't you forgive a little skiddy? It's going to soak off and disappear with the next flush. Who among us hasn't left a skid upon occasion and then forgot to go back for a second flush before answering the door for unexpected company?

    #47

    Literal trash just sitting around. My first bfs house had pop cans just sitting around on a desk and on their kitchen island and then their entire kitchen stove was so gross I didn’t even want to eat off anything they made. Then one time I found cat poop just hanging out in their living room 🤢 that relationship didn’t last long.

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    #48

    I went on a date recently with this girl. Went on a few. On the last one we got to her place and lo and behold - Mein Kampf by Adolf Hitler was on her shelves. No no, not just one. A full f*****g bookshelf. I couldn't get myself to f**k her. "Giving this woman any pleasure would be a crime to humanity" is what I thought in the moment. I was in there for like 10 more mins after noticing it and then adressed the issue. She was a full on n**i. Too bad cuzz she was hot as f**k.

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    Mreoww
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I mean, I’d read it just because I like reading and simply would like that perspective, but an entire bookshelf with multiple copies? That’s very concerning.

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    #49

    Porcelain Dolls.

    I know I'm not getting out alive.

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    G A
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Mother filled my ex bedroom with these monsters. When I came home for Xmas, I threw blankets over their evil dead eyed faces.

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    #50

    Hobbies may be underrated when it comes to a partner but I have found it informational. People who have hobbies, interests of their own tells you they don't spend all of their time trying to go out and get attention from the opposite s*x. They don't have the time or energy if they have hobbies and or interests. So look around for artsy stuff, maybe collections or things they've made or places they've been. What matters to them outside if dating.

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    #51

    I was once invited to a guy’s house that scared the c**p out of me. It was actually a stunning mansion. He said he had lived there for almost a year but it was nearly empty — and he shared custody of his 5 year old son! The son’s room was only slightly less austere than the rest of the house.

    He took me on a full tour which was odd because it was so huge yet so empty, so he basically showed me a bunch of empty rooms. He even opened his closet which was fairly full, but only three colors - black white and beige - arranged by color. He opened the pantry which was also fairly full, and I swear it was arranged by color too.

    His son’s room rose the austerity to a creepy level.

    But … the house was clean. It was super clean. And clean is always excellent. Creepy is not so good though.

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    Annabelle
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    4 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Interesting. I find creepy and clean to be a much bigger red flag than creepy and unclean.

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    #52

    As a person with ADHD, if your house is messy, same bro. Only God can judge. The only red flag is a jumping dog. Like a big, giant dog jumping on you with giant claws. Freaks me out.

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    #53

    Nasty sink/bathroom/toilet.

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    #54

    Alcohol… alcohol bottles in every room !!

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    #55

    A red flag would be to find female clothing in a closet when he said he lived alone.

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    Emilu
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    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A red flag unless it actually fits him (IMO. I know cross-dressing isn't for everyone).

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    #56

    Things covered in dust.

    Now of course I'm not saying your normal layer that most clean.

    I'm talking hasn't been touched in months, not even a fingerprint on the surface.

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    Lady Eowyn
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    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I don't disturb the dust, it won't disturb me. Kidding, I've got allergies so I dust a lot but boy do things get dusty here fast!

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    #57

    Comforting- good bedding, several pillows, nice sheets, bedside table available for my s**t, clean bathroom
    Red flags- old mattress, dirty toilet, roll not on the roll, s****y pillows.

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    Emilu
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Shìtty pillows? (in the figurative sense, hopefully…) Like the ones you get from the two dollar shop as decoration and then chuck on the floor every night you make your bed? 😆

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    #58

    Underware hanging from the curtain rod in the front window.

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    Emilu
    Community Member
    4 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm not normally a spelling pedant on the net, but spelling 'underwear' like that would personally be a red flag. I'm sorry.

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    #59

    The pictures they have displayed. Pictures with ex’s? Huge amount of pictures of them partying/beer and liquor bottles displayed? Large amount of pictures with family/mom (possible indicator that their mom’s views will always take precedent over yours).

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    Auntriarch
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    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've got a rather big collage of pictures of our first dog. Mr Auntriarch and I are in some of them

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    #60

    Lack of personal touches, like no photos of family or friends. Otherwise, your partner could be crashing in someone else's home and passing it off as theirs. Surprisingly common in the Airbnb age.

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    #61

    I like if he’s made his bed. If it’s unmade I feel like I’m dealing with a college kid and that’s tough. There are always allowances and I don’t make my bed every day either, but mostly it’s a turn off.

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    Emilu
    Community Member
    4 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love the soft squishiness of an unmade bed. I also love the crisp sheets of a freshly-changed bed. But I can cope with either.

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    #62

    I don’t look for red flags, I try not to judge or anything. But i suppose a “red flag” for me would be the difference in cleanliness of the doors around the door handle and the countertops.

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    #63

    Very Messy home at every visit, other women's clothes.

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    #64

    An entire wall of professionall shot and framed photos of their family. Bonus points if you spot a crusifix and a 'live, laugh, love' sign in the mix.

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    LooseSeal's $10 Banana
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe I'm misunderstanding, but having well done photos of your family on the wall seems like a green flag. Or at least neutral.

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    #65

    How rigid is the style of their decor and furnishings, and does it seem compatible with yours? Do they have a hodgepodge of dishes, or is everything in the house blue & white China? The latter isn't a red flag if you're the same way, but in a LTR they might be challenging when it comes to cohabitation or compromising on esthetics.

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    Mreoww
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah I don’t know, this isn’t a really a red flag for me. Is is that serious if they’ve got a specific taste?

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    #66

    Great question! I personally am instantly repelled when I walk into a dudes place and see “Terrible Towel” curtains. Actually, any Steelers gear is a show stopper for me, my experience with these items and their owners just left an imprint on me and so…no.

    A schnauzer. Any untrained dog. Anything that indicates his favorite place to eat is QDoba. Signage that says “no smoking” as if the occupant of the home is one of those super Intolerant types who exaggeratedly coughs and chokes if they see a person smoking in public. No paper towels. No curtains on windows.

    Oh! But this actually happened to me once. Went to a guys house. Being a late night person I went over at like 4 am and we were hanging out and at 6 am sharp all electrical functions in his apt switched completely off. Turned out that he had rerouted the apartment bldg outside lighting’s wiring to supply electricity to a couple power strips hanging out of holes in the wall by the front door. He hadn't paid his power bill in a year, and the outside lighting was…you guessed it…solar deactivated and turned off by the rising sun. Turned out he was, unsurprisingly, also a seasoned m*th coinesseur who liked to watch p**n in front of females he wanted to woo. No f**king thanks man.

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    XenoMurph
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You went to a m**h head's house at 4am?

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    #67

    Stinky, not clean smell.

    Nothing in the fridge but beer and condiments.

    No plants.

    Evidence of a ladies’ influence or presence.

    Someone over the age of 30 that looks like their place is still decorated in the style of I-just-moved-out-of-my-parents-house.

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    Barbara Wilcock
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Good lord. Get a life. I love plants,but im not going batshit crazy if they don't have them

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    #68

    No decorations or pictures.

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    #69

    Toilets that don’t flush. Cops will cut the water before a raid so you can’t flush your stash.

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    Matt from Canada
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Red flag: People who know the cops will cut the water before a raid so you can't flush your stash

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    #70

    I like to see a tidy room with things generally organized, the bathroom cleaned and the fridge with more than condiments. Bonus points for good neutral not overbearing purposeful smell in the room. I remember going to my now husbands apartment and noting not much in the fridge and the bathroom not exceptionally clean...nothing gross just not well attended to. I gave him the benefit of the doubt...guess who does not cook or clean...this remains a huge inequity in my relationship. Cooking and cleaning are essential life tasks; do it for yourself, when you have a sleepover and when you have a partner.

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    WalterWhiteSavannah
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How does it take until marriage to realize he doesn't cook or clean? Like you had to know that before getting to the marriage point, unless he used to and just stopped, but it doesn't sound like that was the case.

    #71

    Cats in the kitchen. I like cats, I just won’t eat anything you’ve made.

    Clutter and disarray - like no space on the sofa because it’s got laundry and debris on it. I won’t want to sit down.

    General dirt - you can tell a house which is cleaned regularly, it could look like a complete mess with toys all over the place but there’s a difference in a place which is a mess because of lives lived, and somewhere which is NEVER tidied or cleaned.

    I grew up with a chaotic family environment which was never cleaned enough and that’s had an effect on how I live my life now, and dirt and mess really makes me feel extremely uncomfortable. I would never spend any time with someone who lived life like that.

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    Barbara Wilcock
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And this is why you don't have friends. Nobody wants you in their house

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    #72

    What direction they face their toilet paper roll.

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    G A
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Front facing only. The other is unacceptable.

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    #73

    Animals, state of cleanliness, furniture, and how their fridge is filled or not.

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    #74

    Wearing your shoes indoors 🚩.

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    #75

    1. Slovenliness - Dirty bathroom, closet on the floor, crusty towels, lack of ownership of common household necessities like sheets. Do yourself a favor and only date housebroken people.
    2. Signs of a partner that is not you - beauty/bath products, pictures on the fridge, decorations that seem to reflect someone other than the partner (Usually goes hand-in-hand with "your" partner being unavailable for odd stretches of time). Um, yeah. Run.
    3. Signs of terminal singlehood - A 72 inch TV, one recliner and a table with lotion on it, p**n/ s*x toys within view in the living room/bathroom, etc. Chances are this person will not be good at navigating partner issues.
    4. Signs of substance abuse - 5 cases of Busch Light, 4 vodka bottles, 3 m**h pipes, two dirty bongs? Not a partner in a pair tree.
    5. Signs of massive expenditures/misplaced priorities - A person with a $20k collection of toys, electronics, clothing who only owns 1 pan and eats off paper plates. You don't want to join forces with someone who will buy a life-sized Darth Vader or $800 pair of shoes before they pay the rent.

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    Matt from Canada
    Community Member
    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Red flag: someone with this many specific red flags. Dating this lady would be a misplaced priority. Full stop.

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    #76

    Butcher knives outside of the kitchen. An exception can be made for this time of. Year because it might be a gift that just hasn't been put away, but a mid-summer butcher knife in the bathroom is a red flag. Especially if it's.. red.

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