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Boyfriend’s 2AM Loyalty Test Backfires When Woman Kicks Him Out On The Spot
When you’re in a relationship, there are little things you naturally do out of love, like folding their laundry, packing a surprise lunch, or making their favorite dish after a long day. But when those acts of love turn into expectations or, worse, obligations, it stops feeling like a partnership and starts feeling like a job. That’s exactly what happened to one woman who shared her frustrating experience online.
She explained how her 31-year-old boyfriend, stressed from work, woke her up at 2AM demanding she cook him a fresh meal. Never mind the fact that there were perfectly good leftovers in the fridge, he said it was her “duty” as his girlfriend. Keep reading to see how one midnight meltdown turned into a serious reality check.
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Way back in the day, women were expected to cook, clean, and essentially manage grown men like they were helpless toddlers. Thankfully, times have changed. Today, many couples believe in splitting responsibilities and building real partnerships. It’s not about who cooks or cleans, but that both people pitch in. Modern love isn’t about outdated roles, it’s about respect. Because no one wants to be treated like their partner’s personal maid.
Sure, sometimes one person picks up the slack. It’s part of being in a relationship. Maybe you handle the laundry this week while they deal with the dishes. That’s perfectly okay when it’s mutual. But when someone starts assigning you “duties” like you’re in a 1950s sitcom? That’s when things take a nosedive. Love should feel balanced, not like a second job.
If your partner genuinely thinks that just because you’re a woman, you’re supposed to serve them, congrats, you’re dating a man-child. No, really. These are the guys who expect praise for putting a plate in the sink and act like folding socks is rocket science. Gender has nothing to do with contribution, and any grown-up should know that. If he’s confused, maybe it’s time for him to learn… on his own.
A “man-child” is a term for men who lack emotional maturity and act like overgrown kids. Often, they’ve been coddled so much that they never learn to deal with real-life consequences. Instead of accountability, they rely on others to clean up their mess. And when confronted, they throw tantrums instead of solutions. Sound familiar?
You’ll see it in how he lives. His place is a disaster zone, laundry mountain included. There’s takeout boxes from two weeks ago, empty shampoo bottles, and mystery smells. No effort to fix anything unless someone nags him into it. And even then, it’s done halfway and with a side of whining. It’s less adulting and more surviving. You start to feel like his mom instead of his partner.
Dating a man-child can be frustrating and emotionally exhausting
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He acts like he’s still in college, minus the coursework. Living off energy drinks and video games, he jokes about being “young at heart” but dodges basic adult responsibilities. He sees deadlines as “guidelines” and any serious talk as a buzzkill. Emotional growth? Not on the menu. His go-to response for anything hard? Ghosting the issue and hoping it disappears.
Excuses are his love language. If something isn’t done, there’s always a reason, never his fault, of course. He couldn’t pay the bill? The bank messed up. Forgot your anniversary? Work was too crazy. Didn’t clean the bathroom? It’s not even dirty, apparently. With him, every conversation feels like a rerun. You get exhausted before you even finish the argument.
Eight years in and still no clarity on where things are going? That’s a red flag waving with both hands. He’ll dodge commitment like it’s a dodgeball tournament. Says he “needs more time” or “doesn’t believe in labels” while enjoying all the perks of a relationship.
Money’s always tight and somehow, it’s never his fault. Can’t pay rent, but somehow always has the newest gaming gear. You help him out once, maybe twice, but it becomes a pattern. He can’t hold down a job, and when you bring it up, he calls you materialistic. Being broke isn’t the issue. Avoiding growth? That’s the real problem.
Any feedback you give him is taken as a personal attack. He sulks, shuts down, or flips it back on you. “Why are you always criticizing me?” he’ll ask, completely ignoring the mountain of unopened bills and the fact he’s worn the same hoodie for four days. Constructive conversations feel impossible. It’s like walking on Legos… blindfolded.
There are many more signs, but the point is clear: grown women deserve grown men. In this particular case, the woman did what many hesitate to do. She took a stand, drew a line, and refused to play the role of girlfriend-slash-chef-at-2AM. That’s not just self-respect, it’s emotional intelligence. What would you have done in her place? Let us know in the comments.
People online were appalled by the man’s behavior and praised the woman for standing her ground
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LakotaWolf (she/her) 9 months ago
So he was under a ton of work stress... but he *was* apparently feeling in fine enough fettle to do a stupid "loyalty test" thing that him and his buddies saw on TikTok?! And he's in his THIRTIES?! If he was 18-19 or in his early 20s, I could at LEAST use the "prefrontal cortex not entirely developed yet" explanation, but an adult in their 30s doing this kind of thing is unhinged. Wonder if his buddies are all single or if any of them have actually dared try this "loyalty test" on their partners, if not? :p
Zoe Vokes 9 months ago
I wish she had knowledge about how the other girlfriends reacted for extra LOLs. I can’t believe that anybody (except the original people doing an obviously fake scenario) whole be okay with being awoken in the middle of the night because their partner wanted food and their partner was physically able to get their own food.
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Upstaged75 9 months ago
People who try these social media "loyalty tests" are absolute idiots. It ALWAYS backfires on them! I'm glad this guy did it early in the relationship so that she didn't waste any more time on him.
Kim Kermes 9 months ago
Wake me up in the middle of the night? If you didn't need the ER, you will.
A girl 9 months ago
Steal my blankets or hog my side, yes, i will wake up. You're hungry at 2am? You're on your own.
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G Bono 9 months ago
When my parents were first married - Dad was 30, Mom 20 - he woke her up to make him breakfast before he went to work. Mom didn’t work, but she had warned him she was not a morning person. He kept shaking her until she got up. Well, he went to the kitchen, sat at the table to wait. She came into the room and got milk from the fridge and cereal from the cabinet. She made him a bowl of cereal and then poured it over his head. He never asked her to make breakfast for him again. Oh, if anyone’s wondering, they remained married for 57 years and he was still going on about how much he loved her until the end.
Wang Zhuang 9 months ago
Loyalty test? Really? Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. She's better off without him
Mark Childers 9 months ago
Good for her! Stupid social media s**t. If it's on social media, it's probably best not to try it.
Vinny DaPooh 9 months ago
Like the dating version of the Tide pod challenge
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Megalodon Meg 9 months ago
I firmly believe unconditional love should never be a thing in a healthy relationship. That just leads to boundaries being broken and lines being crossed because "unconditional love"
FreeTheUnicorn 9 months ago
OP obviously did the right thing. The shaking is very concerning and the explanation that it's a loyalty test is even worse. Physical coerciona and emotional manipulation are exactly the red lines OP was right to hold. I wish more stories were like this one.
Enlee Jones 9 months ago
He didn’t want a girlfriend. He wanted a servant. Now he has nothing.
SheamusFanFrom1987 9 months ago (edited)
TikTok really ought to be renamed DingDong, because the absolute number of ding-dongs trying what they see on it is astounding in the worst possible way. Waking your girl up to make you dinner at 2am??? Bruv, are you begging to be dumped??? Nevermind, got our answer already. Kudos to OP for not putting up with this bullrot and cutting out the 2am Dinner Ding-Dong of her life before they got too serious... -_-"
JayWantsACat 9 months ago
I'm calling it off with anyone who puts me a through "tests", especially ones they've seen on social media or their friends tell them about. Everyone makes mistakes but it's such an asinine thing to put someone they supposedly care about through, that it's not worth dealing with, at least for me.
Paul C 9 months ago
If either of my sons did this to their girlfriend, I would be ashamed and embarrassed. It would mean I had failed as their father. What are the idiots who do these things watching? And why don't they have the upbringing that tells them instinctively that this is not the right way to behave?
A girl 9 months ago
A loyalty test is "I broke my shoulder and I can't get dressed after a shower". I asked for help. He helped. I didn't arrange a test. S#!+ just happened and he stepped up. He had surgery and it snowed a ton. I'm told it was hilarious watching me using the snowblower but I cleared the driveway. This Is Not A Test
bElLa sTairZz 9 months ago
the fact he wouldnt just, cook something himself is baffling me. it was nearly midnight, and shed been asleep for hours??
Erla Zwingle 9 months ago
I'm sorry, but "loyalty?" Is she being tested to join some kind of club or secret association? Loyalty to him because somebody is going to something something to take her away from him? Women have to pass tests to have a relationship? Is this a video game? People are losing track of what's real life and what's a stupid game. This is just one of millions of examples now every day. If she'd done it for him, would he have won points? A trip to Disneyland? A pony?
Vinny DaPooh 9 months ago
Thankfully social media really wasn't a thing before I got married but I feel like this should be a first date filter question these days. Have you ever done one of the trending loyalty tests? Oh. You have. Well I'm just gonna go settle the tab now. Best wishes for your future, feel free to finish your dinner but I'm headed out.
Ginger ninja 7 months ago
So he went to her workplace to force her to talk to him… yet another red flag to add to the pile.
Yu Pan 9 months ago
I made my sister some food at 2am once, but it was very different because: 1) we were both awake, 2) she's my baby sister, 3) she was pregnant. Anyone else pulling that stunt can go into the oven and roast themselves.
Kim Kermes 9 months ago
Pregnancy is an exception. If I were the only one available, I'd get up, shop if she could wait 2 hours for a trip to a 24 hour grocery, cook, serve it in bed, clean up, and tuck her back in bed.
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Tropical Tarot 9 months ago (edited)
As I read this I realize I just asked my wife to make me a PB&j at 2:30 a.m. To be fair she was home for lunch from her night shift job and she was already making herself one.
Robert Beveridge 9 months ago
Föökin'ell, man, I realized last night at like 1:30 I hadn't had dinner yet. You know what my first thought was? "I have chili in a Tupperware container in the fridge, I could go heat it up." You know what my first thought WASN'T? "I should ask my girlfriend to make me a full dinner from scratch at two in the bloody morning", even when she was awake and we were talking. Because I'm not an idiot. (and because let's be honest, is there anything better than chili at 2am,except maybe cold pizza?) Dude 100% deserved what he got
Susan Cooke 4 months ago
Who even keeps the ingredients for that dish and can produce it at 2am?
Robin Roper 9 months ago
What happened to the friend's relationship. Hope they all got toss out on their tush.
Devin Schmitt 9 months ago
Unless I was completely bedridden, I would never wake my wife at 2 AM and demand food. Would I cook for my wife at 2 AM? Yes. Would she ask me to cook for her at 2 AM. Not only no, but hell no.
Libstak 9 months ago
He is testing her against a married stay at home mom who has a many years relationship with a man who likely made many sacrifices and gestures reciprocally with her as part of the love built to do such things. 2 months together and he is chasing a house slave, that's not how it works.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 9 months ago
Plus, we don't even know if that video is "real" or if it was entirely 100% staged. For all we know, it was 5pm when it was filmed and they just captioned it "making my man food at 2am" XD
Load More Replies... LakotaWolf (she/her) 9 months ago
So he was under a ton of work stress... but he *was* apparently feeling in fine enough fettle to do a stupid "loyalty test" thing that him and his buddies saw on TikTok?! And he's in his THIRTIES?! If he was 18-19 or in his early 20s, I could at LEAST use the "prefrontal cortex not entirely developed yet" explanation, but an adult in their 30s doing this kind of thing is unhinged. Wonder if his buddies are all single or if any of them have actually dared try this "loyalty test" on their partners, if not? :p
Zoe Vokes 9 months ago
I wish she had knowledge about how the other girlfriends reacted for extra LOLs. I can’t believe that anybody (except the original people doing an obviously fake scenario) whole be okay with being awoken in the middle of the night because their partner wanted food and their partner was physically able to get their own food.
Load More Replies... Upstaged75 9 months ago
People who try these social media "loyalty tests" are absolute idiots. It ALWAYS backfires on them! I'm glad this guy did it early in the relationship so that she didn't waste any more time on him.
Kim Kermes 9 months ago
Wake me up in the middle of the night? If you didn't need the ER, you will.
A girl 9 months ago
Steal my blankets or hog my side, yes, i will wake up. You're hungry at 2am? You're on your own.
Load More Replies... G Bono 9 months ago
When my parents were first married - Dad was 30, Mom 20 - he woke her up to make him breakfast before he went to work. Mom didn’t work, but she had warned him she was not a morning person. He kept shaking her until she got up. Well, he went to the kitchen, sat at the table to wait. She came into the room and got milk from the fridge and cereal from the cabinet. She made him a bowl of cereal and then poured it over his head. He never asked her to make breakfast for him again. Oh, if anyone’s wondering, they remained married for 57 years and he was still going on about how much he loved her until the end.
Wang Zhuang 9 months ago
Loyalty test? Really? Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. She's better off without him
Mark Childers 9 months ago
Good for her! Stupid social media s**t. If it's on social media, it's probably best not to try it.
Vinny DaPooh 9 months ago
Like the dating version of the Tide pod challenge
Load More Replies... Megalodon Meg 9 months ago
I firmly believe unconditional love should never be a thing in a healthy relationship. That just leads to boundaries being broken and lines being crossed because "unconditional love"
FreeTheUnicorn 9 months ago
OP obviously did the right thing. The shaking is very concerning and the explanation that it's a loyalty test is even worse. Physical coerciona and emotional manipulation are exactly the red lines OP was right to hold. I wish more stories were like this one.
Enlee Jones 9 months ago
He didn’t want a girlfriend. He wanted a servant. Now he has nothing.
SheamusFanFrom1987 9 months ago (edited)
TikTok really ought to be renamed DingDong, because the absolute number of ding-dongs trying what they see on it is astounding in the worst possible way. Waking your girl up to make you dinner at 2am??? Bruv, are you begging to be dumped??? Nevermind, got our answer already. Kudos to OP for not putting up with this bullrot and cutting out the 2am Dinner Ding-Dong of her life before they got too serious... -_-"
JayWantsACat 9 months ago
I'm calling it off with anyone who puts me a through "tests", especially ones they've seen on social media or their friends tell them about. Everyone makes mistakes but it's such an asinine thing to put someone they supposedly care about through, that it's not worth dealing with, at least for me.
Paul C 9 months ago
If either of my sons did this to their girlfriend, I would be ashamed and embarrassed. It would mean I had failed as their father. What are the idiots who do these things watching? And why don't they have the upbringing that tells them instinctively that this is not the right way to behave?
A girl 9 months ago
A loyalty test is "I broke my shoulder and I can't get dressed after a shower". I asked for help. He helped. I didn't arrange a test. S#!+ just happened and he stepped up. He had surgery and it snowed a ton. I'm told it was hilarious watching me using the snowblower but I cleared the driveway. This Is Not A Test
bElLa sTairZz 9 months ago
the fact he wouldnt just, cook something himself is baffling me. it was nearly midnight, and shed been asleep for hours??
Erla Zwingle 9 months ago
I'm sorry, but "loyalty?" Is she being tested to join some kind of club or secret association? Loyalty to him because somebody is going to something something to take her away from him? Women have to pass tests to have a relationship? Is this a video game? People are losing track of what's real life and what's a stupid game. This is just one of millions of examples now every day. If she'd done it for him, would he have won points? A trip to Disneyland? A pony?
Vinny DaPooh 9 months ago
Thankfully social media really wasn't a thing before I got married but I feel like this should be a first date filter question these days. Have you ever done one of the trending loyalty tests? Oh. You have. Well I'm just gonna go settle the tab now. Best wishes for your future, feel free to finish your dinner but I'm headed out.
Ginger ninja 7 months ago
So he went to her workplace to force her to talk to him… yet another red flag to add to the pile.
Yu Pan 9 months ago
I made my sister some food at 2am once, but it was very different because: 1) we were both awake, 2) she's my baby sister, 3) she was pregnant. Anyone else pulling that stunt can go into the oven and roast themselves.
Kim Kermes 9 months ago
Pregnancy is an exception. If I were the only one available, I'd get up, shop if she could wait 2 hours for a trip to a 24 hour grocery, cook, serve it in bed, clean up, and tuck her back in bed.
Load More Replies... Tropical Tarot 9 months ago (edited)
As I read this I realize I just asked my wife to make me a PB&j at 2:30 a.m. To be fair she was home for lunch from her night shift job and she was already making herself one.
Robert Beveridge 9 months ago
Föökin'ell, man, I realized last night at like 1:30 I hadn't had dinner yet. You know what my first thought was? "I have chili in a Tupperware container in the fridge, I could go heat it up." You know what my first thought WASN'T? "I should ask my girlfriend to make me a full dinner from scratch at two in the bloody morning", even when she was awake and we were talking. Because I'm not an idiot. (and because let's be honest, is there anything better than chili at 2am,except maybe cold pizza?) Dude 100% deserved what he got
Susan Cooke 4 months ago
Who even keeps the ingredients for that dish and can produce it at 2am?
Robin Roper 9 months ago
What happened to the friend's relationship. Hope they all got toss out on their tush.
Devin Schmitt 9 months ago
Unless I was completely bedridden, I would never wake my wife at 2 AM and demand food. Would I cook for my wife at 2 AM? Yes. Would she ask me to cook for her at 2 AM. Not only no, but hell no.
Libstak 9 months ago
He is testing her against a married stay at home mom who has a many years relationship with a man who likely made many sacrifices and gestures reciprocally with her as part of the love built to do such things. 2 months together and he is chasing a house slave, that's not how it works.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 9 months ago
Plus, we don't even know if that video is "real" or if it was entirely 100% staged. For all we know, it was 5pm when it was filmed and they just captioned it "making my man food at 2am" XD
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