Pregnant Woman Refuses To Agree With Her Mom’s Baby Name Idea, She Nearly Throws A Tantrum In Return

When I was born, almost every adult in my family had their own ideas about what name I should have. Naming me after a distant relative, a celebrity… My father insisted on calling me “Ivan” after his late dad, but my mom beat him to it and registered me under the name I still bear to this day.

And you know what? Ever since then, I’ve had a keen interest in various naming dramas. For example, this one from the user u/FatouStefanache, which we invite you to read today. It’s a story about a grandma who decided that if her granddaughter wasn’t named after her, then why did she even need a granddaughter?

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Sometimes, picking a name for a newborn baby causes real family drama, and this story is actually of the same kind

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The author and her husband will have their first baby soon, and they have already picked a beautiful name for her

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However, the author’s mom demanded they name the baby after herself only – otherwise calling it “disrespectful”

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The mom-to-be refused, so the grandma said she wouldn’t not acknowledge the baby under another name

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The author and her husband were just blindsided by this harsh revelation, and the author decided to seek support online

So, the Original Poster (OP) is 30 years old, she’s pregnant with her first child, a girl, and she and her husband had long ago decided on a name for the baby. Something like “Emma Rose” – the former in honor of the husband’s late grandma, who played a significant role in their lives, and the latter simply because they like it. After all, it’s the parents who choose the baby’s name, right?

Oh, no! At least, according to the author’s mom, the child should only be named “Patricia” – in her honor. This is precisely what the grandma-to-be told the couple during a video call when she was informed that the baby would be named “Emma Rose.” However, the author immediately refused – neither she nor her husband intended to name their daughter “Patricia.”

The grandma’s face changed. She sternly declared that in that case, she wouldn’t acknowledge the baby – and said that, in her view, a child who doesn’t bear their grandmother’s name looks like outright disrespect to her. Our heroine and her spouse were shocked by this revelation, and the call ended with a huge fight. However, it didn’t change the parents’ minds about the name.

Since then, the OP’s mom has started bombarding her daughter with numerous texts, suggesting various name options – but they all always include “Patricia.” The original poster is even considering blocking her now. The author’s dad (he and her mother have been divorced for a long time) simply advised her to just ignore her mom since “she’ll get over it eventually.” So, the OP just decided to ask people online for advice as well.

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“It’s one thing if a family truly has a tradition of naming newborn children after members of older generations – but even then, parents are perfectly within their rights to break that tradition anyway,” says Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and certified NLP specialist, whom Bored Panda asked for a comment here. “But it’s quite another thing when it’s simply a whim on the grandmother’s part.”

According to the expert, in this situation, it looks like the grandmother was simply trying to emotionally blackmail the child’s future parents to get her way – a fairly typical case that simply looks like a blatant manifestation of narcissism.

“In such cases, having been denied what they desire, people begin to resort to various moral ploys and outright threats – just in order to achieve the goal they see. It’s quite typical ‘tunnel vision,’ when a person notices practically nothing on the way to their goal, sometimes neglecting basic humanity,” Irina Matveeva summarizes.

People in the comments also noted that the original poster did the right thing, and that it’s up to the mom and dad to decide what name their child will actually bear. If the grandmother continues her inappropriate attempts, commenters urged the OP to simply go no-contact. So do you, our dear readers, agree with this? Please feel free to share your thoughts in the comments below the post.

Most commenters sided with the mom-to-be and simply urged her to go no-contact with her mother for such offensive words

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