Husband Accepts Dream Job That Could End Wife’s High-Earning Career, She Considers Divorce Over It

Pretty much everyone you know has an idea of what their dream job would be. The unfortunate part is that most people might not get a chance to work in that specific career, either due to life circumstances or a lack of trying.

In this story, though, a man managed to get the job of his dreams, but his wife wanted him to turn it down because it was with her company’s direct competitor. This obviously caused trouble, but it also made them question whether their careers were more important than their relationship.

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When external factors begin impacting a marriage, it’s important to figure out whether your spouse is more important than what’s being argued about

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The poster shared that she was the breadwinner of the household and that she was earning over $200k working in a very niche industry

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Her unemployed husband landed an interview at a company that would allow him to do his dream job, but his wife was concerned, as it was her company’s direct competitor

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If her husband got the job, it would put her career at risk and cause her company’s clients to mistrust her, so she asked him not to do the interview

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Her husband was extremely angry and called her selfish for being an obstacle to his career, so he went ahead and did the interview, which led to a job offer

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The woman gave him an ultimatum—accepting the job and getting a divorce, or declining the offer and letting her keep taking care of the household

The poster explained that she was earning an incredibly high salary due to the specialized niche career that she was working in. Due to that, and the fact that her husband hadn’t found a job yet, she was managing their household. It’s only when he got an opportunity to interview with a particular company that she realized it could be a problem.

The man really wanted to work with that organization because it would be his dream job. Unfortunately, since it was a direct competitor of his wife’s company, she felt that it would cause a lot of problems and essentially blackball her in the entire industry.

According to HR specialists, companies have to make it clear to individuals right at the start about their confidentiality policies. Some organizations even have rules about spouses not working in adversarial roles, as this can cause a lot of problems with regard to top-secret information.

To understand this more in-depth, Bored Panda also reached out to Peter Ďuriš, who is the CEO and Co-founder of Kickresume. He mentioned that “if your spouse is already working in their dream job, asking them to give it up is a big sacrifice—they might have worked for years to get this job before they even met you.”

“On the other hand, if your partner has been offered their dream job, or is about to apply for it, there might be valid reasons to discuss it as a couple before they go ahead. If their new role would mean you both having to move, or even them living away from home part of the time, there’s no question that it would change things and that’s worth talking about.”

“Asking your partner to give up something that’s as important to them as the job they’ve always wanted could definitely have an impact on your relationship. You can see how it could cause resentment, or make someone feel like their partner is standing in the way of their career,” he added.

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The woman wasn’t going to compromise her career for her husband. She reasoned that since he had a general education, he could apply to many fields, but since she had a specialized education, she only had this niche career to fall back on. That’s why she took such a strong stand against his desire to interview.

This angered the man, and he decided to go for the interview anyway. He even ended up getting an offer from the company. That’s when the woman decided that she had to inform her organization, and then give her husband an important ultimatum.

Peter Duris explained that “some companies might require you to disclose whether your partner works at a competitor or any other potential conflicts of interest, but this would usually apply if your role is very high-level and you have access to important information. In these cases, you’d usually have to sign an NDA anyway, meaning that your employers’ secrets are safe!”

He also shared that “if you do work at competing companies with your partner, and your employers are fine with this, there are plenty of ways to work around it. Just make sure you don’t talk about anything confidential, and it might be best to stay in separate rooms when you’re working from home—remember to shut the door if you’re on a call, as voices carry!”

In this situation, the man had been out of work for a while, so to have an opportunity to get back to it, and that too, in his dream role, was too great an opportunity to pass up. Whereas, the woman felt that she had laid such strong roots in her company that jeopardizing it for her husband’s job didn’t make sense.

Who do you think should back down in this situation? Let us know what you think.

Most folks sided with the woman, but they felt that she and her husband should have discussed such possibilities much earlier

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